McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 14:42:24 GMT -6
I am so sorry, McBenny. I can’t imagine. every time I look at him I cry after I go in my room. He is so small and thin now. He is the baby brother and looks like an old paw paw.
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zoeylucy
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Post by zoeylucy on Apr 12, 2021 14:46:16 GMT -6
I’m so sorry McBenny. That is so much.
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Dr. Cox
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Post by Dr. Cox on Apr 12, 2021 14:47:48 GMT -6
I am so sorry, McBenny. I can’t imagine. every time I look at him I cry after I go in my room. He is so small and thin now. He is the baby brother and looks like an old paw paw. Friend, I want to give you a big hug, and help you rest. It takes such a toll on you. Mentally, physically, emotionally, all sides. I am here for eviction services if needed for the friend. It’s a short 4+ hr drive, I can be there today.
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Post by Nonniedee on Apr 12, 2021 14:51:45 GMT -6
every time I look at him I cry after I go in my room. He is so small and thin now. He is the baby brother and looks like an old paw paw. Friend, I want to give you a big hug, and help you rest. It takes such a toll on you. Mentally, physically, emotionally, all sides. I am here for eviction services if needed for the friend. It’s a short 4+ hr drive, I can be there today. Heads up, she’s a big’un. Go for the knees, tall people are usually weak at the knees. If all else fails kick her in the coochie bone and run.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 14:52:13 GMT -6
Anyone know how to get feces out of carpet? Sorry. It's is picked up but there is a stain.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 14:52:42 GMT -6
Friend, I want to give you a big hug, and help you rest. It takes such a toll on you. Mentally, physically, emotionally, all sides. I am here for eviction services if needed for the friend. It’s a short 4+ hr drive, I can be there today. Heads up, she’s a big’un. Go for the knees, tall people are usually weak at the knees. If all else fails kick her in the coochie bone and run. one knee is bone on bone. The right one
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2021 14:53:27 GMT -6
Will he need clothes if he moves out of your home?
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Post by greykitty on Apr 12, 2021 14:55:37 GMT -6
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lizblue
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Post by lizblue on Apr 12, 2021 14:56:20 GMT -6
Sending so much love McBenny. I have a lot of empathy: for him, for you, your H. You are giving him a kind and compassionate transition to end of life, and that is everything. Hang in there and lean on us if it helps.
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Post by babybean on Apr 12, 2021 14:59:15 GMT -6
When I go to purchase it only is allowing me to select addresses I have on my own account. Does anyone know how to fix this?
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sullivan
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Post by sullivan on Apr 12, 2021 15:00:50 GMT -6
McBenny 2 parts warm water to 1 part hydrogen peroxide (test for discoloration in a hidden spot just to be safe.) soak, and cover with a towel - continue until it’s all out.
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Apr 12, 2021 15:06:25 GMT -6
well I would tell her that her time is up right now cause now you have a dying person who needs her room yesterday. and ask for your keys back omg looks like she got approved but the unit she wants won't be ready until July. The one that is ready she said is smaller. I just said your deadline is May 31st. I would go into her room and tell her you changed your mind, you need her out within the week If it's just her I don't care how small the apartment is
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 15:07:11 GMT -6
Will he need clothes if he moves out of your home? I would assume he would be on some kind of facility so no. Maybe i should add pajamas on there.
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Kida
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Post by Kida on Apr 12, 2021 15:07:21 GMT -6
Does amazon show senders address when sent from the list?
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vino
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Post by vino on Apr 12, 2021 15:08:02 GMT -6
When I go to purchase it only is allowing me to select addresses I have on my own account. Does anyone know how to fix this? You have to be signed into amazon.com (not.ca) and go right to purchase items after you put things in your cart, there should be your address then another one with a name and city/state, choose that one. Hope that helps!
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AmyG
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Post by AmyG on Apr 12, 2021 15:09:06 GMT -6
McBenny, My brother in law was an alcoholic for many years, and in the end was on dialysis and multi system failure. He was the older brother, always like 250lbs+ It was very very hard to see him waste away into a not even 100lb old man Give yourself permission to cry, and even to cry with him if he seems up to it. Like he may be trying to put on a brave face himself, if you know what I mean? I don't know if you belong to a church, but sometimes when you can't get the help of hospice right away, the help from church, where the pastor at least knows all the calming words and resources around can help
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richard
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Post by richard on Apr 12, 2021 15:12:30 GMT -6
When I go to purchase it only is allowing me to select addresses I have on my own account. Does anyone know how to fix this? Same here. I do have one option for a gift registry address for x. Do you have that too? (I could've set that up for something else on my end though? I have the worst memory.) ETA: ok, winomite answered my question above so I edited.
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Post by greykitty on Apr 12, 2021 15:16:56 GMT -6
I used the Richard/Ricky (BIL list) - that one was totally new in my lists, and I don't know any Richard's IRL. But what I ordered hasn't updated on needs/has part yet? Address was confidential but is going to TX?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2021 15:19:30 GMT -6
Will he need clothes if he moves out of your home? I would assume he would be on some kind of facility so no. Maybe i should add pajamas on there. Even if he's in a facility he will need to bring his own clothes Just letting you know
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Post by babybean on Apr 12, 2021 15:22:08 GMT -6
When I go to purchase it only is allowing me to select addresses I have on my own account. Does anyone know how to fix this? You have to be signed into amazon.com (not.ca) and go right to purchase items after you put things in your cart, there should be your address then another one with a name and city/state, choose that one. Hope that helps! Thank you! It wasn’t working until I went to checkout another way. Most items weren’t available for me to select either because it was assuming I wanted them shipped to Canada.
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beepers
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Post by beepers on Apr 12, 2021 15:23:09 GMT -6
McBenny I’ve been praying for your family, for BIL and for you too. Thank you for setting up the Amazon list so we can help. When MIL went to a nursing home they asked for cozy clothes and blankets etc specifically to use there.
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Post by summerbabe on Apr 12, 2021 16:11:55 GMT -6
Thanks for posting the wishlist, and I'm bumping this that it's on page 6 if anyone has an Amazon account and feels like doing some (helpful) nighttime shopping.
You're a great SIL and I hope that your friend moves out this week.
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addymac
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Post by addymac on Apr 12, 2021 16:41:22 GMT -6
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addymac
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Post by addymac on Apr 12, 2021 16:46:25 GMT -6
You’re a good one, McBenny. Fuck your roommate. She needs to GTFO yesterday. ETA: oh and duh, I’m so, so sorry for all of this. For him, for you, for your H, the kids.
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Post by Pumpkinwest on Apr 12, 2021 18:13:18 GMT -6
Late to this, but I’m so incredibly sorry. You’re such a good person McBenny and I hope you’re somehow finding a way to take care of yourself as well, especially after everything your other house “guest” has put you through. As for the being cold, I find putting the heated blanket underneath another blanket or a duvet really locks the heat in well. So much love to you and your H ♥️
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byjove
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Post by byjove on Apr 12, 2021 18:36:36 GMT -6
Thinking of you all and sending support vibes ❤️❤️
I just purchased the hats... but it didn’t update- just a heads up to anyone else looking.
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Post by filingjointly on Apr 12, 2021 18:45:41 GMT -6
I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. I’ve been in the same place with my late MIL and it is so emotionally draining. I don’t have any advice beyond what everyone else has said but you are a very good person for doing this and for having so much care and compassion. ❤️
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 19:19:11 GMT -6
Today was a better day for me mentally and emotionally. My BIL always worked and took care of himself. I'm pissed cause he came with one bag. Where are all his belongings?!
I don't think about it too long cause I'll get pissed and go to Louisiana and kick someone's ass.
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overboard
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Post by overboard on Apr 12, 2021 19:58:53 GMT -6
McBenny I don’t know what size you need for the thermals. Is adult small okay? ETA: welp, I’ve tried every which way to add this to my cart and I can only see the addresses I’ve mailed stuff to. Hopefully someone else can get the thermals. 😕
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Apr 12, 2021 20:01:07 GMT -6
McBenny I don’t know what size you need for the thermals. Is adult small okay? yes small or extra small if they have
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