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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 20:16:36 GMT -6
So much of the things that happened that night, even down to the exchange student seeing a couple fighting, I had to chalk it up to a college setting late at night. Because so much of it doesn’t make sense to me today, with a frontal lobe. But college Cher made a lot of stupid decisions and overlooked a lot of red flags, particularly between the hours of 11pm and 4am. For sure. I just can't imagine how she must feel. It's all terrible. on her episode she didn't sound too upset Also the guy, after initial interviews, he lawyered up and has refused to talk as well.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Apr 13, 2021 20:19:09 GMT -6
I honestly don't know how I'm still alive today. So much stupidity as a teen/early 20 something. This haunts me. I can recall being about 13 years old. I was staying with a friend for the week and we went to the mall. We hopped in the car with some random guys for a ride home. This happened more than once. I wonder how I am alive.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 13, 2021 20:25:37 GMT -6
Some thoughts: if I'm already flawed in that I could kill a human with my hands, (as I assume) then I would never tell on myself.
I'm often surprised y'all think someone just is going to lie down and tell in themselves or "do what's right for the family." he probably never saw her as a person but as a problem to hide.
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Post by CestLaVie on Apr 13, 2021 21:36:42 GMT -6
Some thoughts: if I'm already flawed in that I could kill a human with my hands, (as I assume) then I would never tell on myself. I'm often surprised y'all think someone just is going to lie down and tell in themselves or "do what's right for the family." he probably never saw her as a person but as a problem to hide. I mean there are tons of murderers who are in jail forever and could admit stuff and it would make no difference and they still don't because they just don't care
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Post by auburn on Apr 13, 2021 22:35:35 GMT -6
I also wonder about the other woman who was walking with them and sent Kristin and Paul off together. She said she felt he was creepy too so why leave your friend alone with him? Of course it is no one's fault but Paul's but man she must be feeling a way. So much of the things that happened that night, even down to the exchange student seeing a couple fighting, I had to chalk it up to a college setting late at night. Because so much of it doesn’t make sense to me today, with a frontal lobe. But college Cher made a lot of stupid decisions and overlooked a lot of red flags, particularly between the hours of 11pm and 4am. That frontal lobe is a game changer for sure. In terms of women being nice when creeped out by a dude, I will never forget a conversation I had with one of the best students I’ve ever had. She said,”I shouldn’t have to be nice to a boy so that he doesn’t kill me. I shouldn’t have to pretend. Why are girls taught to be nice in situations where they are uncomfortable or scared?” She’s right. We, as a society, teach girls not to rock the boat. Be polite. Don’t upset others. She was my teacher that day. She also got me into true crime podcasts so she is awesome for all sorts of reasons.
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Post by microworm on Apr 14, 2021 6:32:52 GMT -6
I honestly don't know how I'm still alive today. So much stupidity as a teen/early 20 something. This haunts me. Same. And I was in Chicago acting a fool in a big city.
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Post by microworm on Apr 14, 2021 6:34:03 GMT -6
Not that bad shit can't happen anywhere. But in a place like Chicago there are so very many opportunities for the demise of a young drunk gal with a baby frontal lobe.
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 14, 2021 6:40:24 GMT -6
So much of the things that happened that night, even down to the exchange student seeing a couple fighting, I had to chalk it up to a college setting late at night. Because so much of it doesn’t make sense to me today, with a frontal lobe. But college Cher made a lot of stupid decisions and overlooked a lot of red flags, particularly between the hours of 11pm and 4am. That frontal lobe is a game changer for sure. In terms of women being nice when creeped out by a dude, I will never forget a conversation I had with one of the best students I’ve ever had. She said,”I shouldn’t have to be nice to a boy so that he doesn’t kill me. I shouldn’t have to pretend. Why are girls taught to be nice in situations where they are uncomfortable or scared?” She’s right. We, as a society, teach girls not to rock the boat. Be polite. Don’t upset others. She was my teacher that day. She also got me into true crime podcasts so she is awesome for all sorts of reasons. She was a baby muderino, preaching fuck politeness
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 14, 2021 7:06:20 GMT -6
Arraignment for both is 8am tomorrow 4/15. They used to be televised so we may be able to watch. Eta Should be on the slo courthouse website
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Post by ldubhawksfan on Apr 14, 2021 7:16:40 GMT -6
100%. So many bad decisions made as a freshman. Leaving my friend at a party and walking home alone...hindsight is 20/20 for sure. I honestly don't know how I'm still alive today. So much stupidity as a teen/early 20 something. I say this often, thinking back to stupid college and early 20s in a party city me. I honestly don’t know how I wasn’t assaulted or killed.
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Post by STP on Apr 14, 2021 7:31:29 GMT -6
Same. And I was in Chicago acting a fool in a big city. I used to put my discman (omg) on and walk alone at night. For fun? Idk. Oof.
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Post by Hotcoconuts82 on Apr 14, 2021 7:31:46 GMT -6
I honestly don't know how I'm still alive today. So much stupidity as a teen/early 20 something. I say this often, thinking back to stupid college and early 20s in a party city me. I honestly don’t know how I wasn’t assaulted or killed. I think this is why this case hits home to me. This could have been me. This could have been my roommate. This could have been any of us. I was assaulted on a night when was was actually making all the RIGHT choices.
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Post by STP on Apr 14, 2021 7:33:36 GMT -6
Some thoughts: if I'm already flawed in that I could kill a human with my hands, (as I assume) then I would never tell on myself. I'm often surprised y'all think someone just is going to lie down and tell in themselves or "do what's right for the family." he probably never saw her as a person but as a problem to hide. Some of them do, some of them don’t. Just depends on the personality at play.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 7:34:57 GMT -6
Some thoughts: if I'm already flawed in that I could kill a human with my hands, (as I assume) then I would never tell on myself. I'm often surprised y'all think someone just is going to lie down and tell in themselves or "do what's right for the family." he probably never saw her as a person but as a problem to hide. Some of them do, some of them don’t. Just depends on the personality at play. I mean if they choose to tell on themselves then that's great. I don't expect it and it doesn't surprise me that a psychopath or sociopath would not.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 7:39:29 GMT -6
So much of the things that happened that night, even down to the exchange student seeing a couple fighting, I had to chalk it up to a college setting late at night. Because so much of it doesn’t make sense to me today, with a frontal lobe. But college Cher made a lot of stupid decisions and overlooked a lot of red flags, particularly between the hours of 11pm and 4am. That frontal lobe is a game changer for sure. In terms of women being nice when creeped out by a dude, I will never forget a conversation I had with one of the best students I’ve ever had. She said,”I shouldn’t have to be nice to a boy so that he doesn’t kill me. I shouldn’t have to pretend. Why are girls taught to be nice in situations where they are uncomfortable or scared?” She’s right. We, as a society, teach girls not to rock the boat. Be polite. Don’t upset others. She was my teacher that day. She also got me into true crime podcasts so she is awesome for all sorts of reasons. To be honest, I only hear this message here. So I just read y'all experiences. I was never taught the not to rock the boat vibes. Societal norms were never big or focused on. I received a more society doesn't give a fuck about you and won't give a fuck about you type vibe. (I'm just talking here not arguing)
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 7:45:04 GMT -6
I'm just saying if I decided 25 years ago to hide a murder, I'm committed. I will not tell on myself.
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 14, 2021 7:56:33 GMT -6
I'm just saying if I decided 25 years ago to hide a murder, I'm committed. I will not tell on myself. I think they will never ever ever tell. Ever
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 7:58:32 GMT -6
I. Don't plan on ever being a murderer. I'm just talking. info
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Post by apk4 on Apr 14, 2021 7:59:30 GMT -6
I suck at secrets. I would tell someone.
But I also wouldn't murder anyone, so
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 14, 2021 8:09:06 GMT -6
Maybe Paul is hanging onto the location of the body to use as a bargaining tool for a plea deal?
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Post by jaygee on Apr 14, 2021 8:16:39 GMT -6
Man, seeing the pic of Paul and he’s only a year older than MH - murder is not good for one’s aging. He looks at least ten years older.
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Post by smilesp on Apr 14, 2021 8:25:18 GMT -6
I think there would be some relief with telling a secret that you’ve staunchly kept for 25 years. It has to eat at you. Can you ever really feel happy and relaxed? Not that they’re going to be happy or relaxed now but I feel it could be freeing in a way.
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Post by sheilathetank on Apr 14, 2021 8:26:36 GMT -6
I'm just saying if I decided 25 years ago to hide a murder, I'm committed. I will not tell on myself. My mom and I were talking about this last night and agreed that if we were in that situation we would take that secret to our grave. Maybe it shows how arrogant they got? I dunno. After all that time and trouble you get caught cause you can't keep your damn mouth shut seems crazy to me.
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Post by ldubhawksfan on Apr 14, 2021 8:33:37 GMT -6
I say this often, thinking back to stupid college and early 20s in a party city me. I honestly don’t know how I wasn’t assaulted or killed. I think this is why this case hits home to me. This could have been me. This could have been my roommate. This could have been any of us. I was assaulted on a night when was was actually making all the RIGHT choices. LT is a hug. I’m so sorry. I agree it does hit home just knowing it could have been any of us.
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Post by blurnette989 on Apr 14, 2021 8:48:53 GMT -6
I think there would be some relief with telling a secret that you’ve staunchly kept for 25 years. It has to eat at you. Can you ever really feel happy and relaxed? Not that they’re going to be happy or relaxed now but I feel it could be freeing in a way. Yeah but you are thinking like a person who hasn't committed murder. Maybe it eats at him, maybe it doesn't. I lean towards it doesn't.
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Post by agm04 on Apr 14, 2021 9:01:06 GMT -6
also they have each other to talk to (and probably susan, too). it's not like they did this horrible thing alone and can never speak to it the rest of their lives.
i'd be completely shocked if they admitted to shit.
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Post by cnf on Apr 14, 2021 9:03:49 GMT -6
I think there would be some relief with telling a secret that you’ve staunchly kept for 25 years. It has to eat at you. Can you ever really feel happy and relaxed? Not that they’re going to be happy or relaxed now but I feel it could be freeing in a way. You'd need a conscious to have it eat away at you. I suspect it does not eat away at them in guilt as much as it does self preservation in not getting caught. There's clearly no remorse.
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Post by Tlex on Apr 14, 2021 9:16:50 GMT -6
The person I most want to hear from in the Flores family is the sister. What did she know, what didn’t she know, when did she know whatever she knows.
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Post by imapenguin on Apr 14, 2021 9:25:07 GMT -6
I don’t believe I could murder someone, but I could definitely keep a secret forever. Already got a few in my brain I don’t ever plan on releasing, there’s room for a few more.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 14, 2021 9:26:07 GMT -6
I'm just saying if I decided 25 years ago to hide a murder, I'm committed. I will not tell on myself. My mom and I were talking about this last night and agreed that if we were in that situation we would take that secret to our grave. Maybe it shows how arrogant they got? I dunno. After all that time and trouble you get caught cause you can't keep your damn mouth shut seems crazy to me. yeah me too. Or just lazy. Talk in person. JFC. Get burner phones. Lazy ass criminals.
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