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Post by Sundae on Mar 3, 2021 11:30:22 GMT -6
And all three kids are doing baseball/softball starting in April. They managed to cobble together a season last year that started in July/August. They require masks except for while spaced out on the field (though most kids just wear them all the time), and the littles don't go to the dugout when they're batting, but back to the parents watching. For the older kids they spread out in the bleachers around the dug out so they're far apart and masked. I was very comfortable with the arrangements, so we're doing it again this spring when the season would have normally happened.
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Post by cp3 on Mar 3, 2021 11:36:50 GMT -6
jaygee I'm so sorry. My nephew just turned 9 in December and his emotions have definitely calmed down a bit from when he was 8. Your son is also a perfectionist right? How is he in school? Does he get really bored but knows the material well? My nephew's 3rd grade teacher brought it up to my sister recently about getting him tested for gifted and a lot of the emotions and issues he's been struggling with seem to tie into it. Just something I thought I would mention.
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Post by jaygee on Mar 3, 2021 11:37:04 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. I’m feeling better. I think the menses is near and everything just feels like a lot right now. I need to get out of this gosh darn house.
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Post by Minerva on Mar 3, 2021 11:39:03 GMT -6
jaygee , I wonder if it's the age? My DD1 is 7.5/2nd grade (I think the same as your DS?) and general consensus from everyone I know with this age is that things are really tough right now. Hugs <3 I've had days like that myself lately. I think it might be. DS has so much more attitude and defiance this year. A lot of it seems like it’s him trying to establish his independence and seeking more control over his life. Unfortunately for him, he still has to do school and help around the house even if he’s soooooo over it. 🙄
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Post by overboard on Mar 3, 2021 11:39:28 GMT -6
Somebody tell me to stop buying plants. In the last few weeks I've bought sunflower seeds, milkweed, some native honeysuckles, salvia, blueberry bushes, black eyed Susans....I could go on. This is on top of the seeds I started for bee balm alongside my veggie seedlings. And I'm eyeing mountain laurel next. I might have a problem. Not me. I can’t stop either. I kill everything, but the pandemic/stay at home has convinced me I’m a gardener.
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Post by jaygee on Mar 3, 2021 11:40:00 GMT -6
jaygee I'm so sorry. My nephew just turned 9 in December and his emotions have definitely calmed down a bit from when he was 8. Your son is also a perfectionist right? How is he in school? Does he get really bored but knows the material well? My nephew's 3rd grade teacher brought it up to my sister recently about getting him tested for gifted and a lot of the emotions and issues he's been struggling with seem to tie into it. Just something I thought I would mention. Thanks for bringing that up. My sister actually struggled with that. And yes he shows signs of it. In fact, last week we got in a blow up about cleaning up a certain toy and he was like “I’m trying to make it perfect. You said to do it perfect”. And I’m like “no, I never said the p word”. I have his parent teacher conference in two weeks so I’ll ask the teacher what she thinks. He just won’t do certain stuff. Like flat out won’t. He can but he won’t. Again this morning I saw him just sitting through his morning journal assignment. No journal in sight.
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Post by starbuck on Mar 3, 2021 11:40:06 GMT -6
Somebody tell me to stop buying plants. In the last few weeks I've bought sunflower seeds, milkweed, some native honeysuckles, salvia, blueberry bushes, black eyed Susans....I could go on. This is on top of the seeds I started for bee balm alongside my veggie seedlings. And I'm eyeing mountain laurel next. I might have a problem. Not me. I can’t stop either. I kill everything, but the pandemic/stay at home has convinced me I’m a gardener. What are you buying lately?
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 11:40:39 GMT -6
jaygee , I wonder if it's the age? My DD1 is 7.5/2nd grade (I think the same as your DS?) and general consensus from everyone I know with this age is that things are really tough right now. Hugs <3 I've had days like that myself lately. It could be. Yes, same exact age. It’s like they are trying on this big kid persona but it doesn’t fit yet. And I keep questioning if I need to have him evaluated for ADHD or anxiety. When he was in school we had the data point that the problems we have at home do not persist in other settings so we just kept on keeping on. But now that he’s home all the time it all feels so much more overwhelming. But I also have no frame of reference because I only have one kid and I don’t know a lot of kids his age enough to know what behavior is in range and what may need help or be out of his control. I just feel isolated. H is very much - this is typical behavior and he’s just got our number so we have to outlast him and I am not as sure. I identify a lot with this as well. It's tough to know what is normal re-attention span when school has been virtual for an entire year and she gets so bored with school and is not able to self direct very well and it's hard for a grown up to sit in front of a computer and focus all day. Also, most of the time she doesn't care and doesn't try. But pandemic? What will be like when she's back in class with other kids and a teacher?
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Post by cp3 on Mar 3, 2021 11:41:32 GMT -6
lizblue no we don't know anyone else that does swim. Our swim facility never shut down but were doing more private lessons and the cost was just too much. They are taking a lot of precautions so I'm sure it would be safe. Now that things are calming down case wise and we are opening up more I'll check and see if they are opening up classes a little bit more and decreased the price.
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 11:42:33 GMT -6
jaygee I'm so sorry. My nephew just turned 9 in December and his emotions have definitely calmed down a bit from when he was 8. Your son is also a perfectionist right? How is he in school? Does he get really bored but knows the material well? My nephew's 3rd grade teacher brought it up to my sister recently about getting him tested for gifted and a lot of the emotions and issues he's been struggling with seem to tie into it. Just something I thought I would mention. I have his parent teacher conference in two weeks so I’ll ask the teacher what she thinks. He just won’t do certain stuff. Like flat out won’t. He can but he won’t. Again this morning I saw him just sitting through his morning journal assignment. No journal in sight. Oh, I didn't know you were in my house this morning. My DD can have perfectionist tendencies as well- where she won't try if she can't do it exactly the way she wants. Her 2 teachers over zoom picked this up within a week of online school last fall.
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Post by cp3 on Mar 3, 2021 11:46:09 GMT -6
jaygee I'm so sorry. My nephew just turned 9 in December and his emotions have definitely calmed down a bit from when he was 8. Your son is also a perfectionist right? How is he in school? Does he get really bored but knows the material well? My nephew's 3rd grade teacher brought it up to my sister recently about getting him tested for gifted and a lot of the emotions and issues he's been struggling with seem to tie into it. Just something I thought I would mention. Thanks for bringing that up. My sister actually struggled with that. And yes he shows signs of it. In fact, last week we got in a blow up about cleaning up a certain toy and he was like “I’m trying to make it perfect. You said to do it perfect”. And I’m like “no, I never said the p word”. I have his parent teacher conference in two weeks so I’ll ask the teacher what she thinks. He just won’t do certain stuff. Like flat out won’t. He can but he won’t. Again this morning I saw him just sitting through his morning journal assignment. No journal in sight. Yup that is my nephew too. Virtual school was so hard for him but even being back in person school he just doesn't like going. What grade is he in? One of his older teachers had brought it up with my sister but said they don't usually test for it until 3rd grade. It's hard and he has a lot of big emotions and takes things personal like if I would get the tiny bit upset with him it would turn into a big thing that we all hate him and nobody likes him and it's very hard and frustrating. I'm sorry. I hope you guys are able to find something that helps.
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Post by overboard on Mar 3, 2021 11:50:16 GMT -6
Not me. I can’t stop either. I kill everything, but the pandemic/stay at home has convinced me I’m a gardener. What are you buying lately? Milkweed. Carrots. Mustard greens. Broccoli. Kale. Starting sweet potatoes for slips.
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Post by Minerva on Mar 3, 2021 11:55:22 GMT -6
byjove, did you see this? It’s really cool that she chose this small business!
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 11:57:10 GMT -6
byjove , did you see this? It’s really cool that she chose this small business! I hadn't seen that, but I heard something special was happening there this week! That's my LYS and I know the owner well- in the mint green heels (our DDs went to preschool together). I'll have to find out the deets!
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Post by Peekaru on Mar 3, 2021 12:04:02 GMT -6
How do you guys feel about kids’ sports right now? H wants our kids to do soccer since they haven’t done it since the fall of 2019. I am very hesitant due to the pandemic. For reference this would be for 5-6 year olds in one league and 7-8 year olds in the other. I can already guarantee no masks on the kids while playing. I'm so torn on this. Before March of last year, my 6 yo was in weekly swimming lessons and she had made so much progress and it was so good for her gross motor. She hasn't been since the last week of February 2020 and I really want to put her back in but I'm just so nervous about making the commitment. I think I would be more comfortable with outside sports like soccer or softball than indoors and am strongly considering signing up my almost 3 yo for something in the Spring. I hate making these decisions. Just an FYI, there haven't been any cases tied to swimming. It's been my saving grace.
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Post by ktg on Mar 3, 2021 12:09:23 GMT -6
byjove, did you see this? It’s really cool that she chose this small business! This was my favorite yarn store when I lived there! I worked a couple of blocks away and would swing in on my lunch break all the time. Ah, memories.
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 12:11:31 GMT -6
ktg, how long ago did you live here? I don't think I knew (or maybe forgot) you lived here. Wondering if I ever bumped into you there?
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Post by jaygee on Mar 3, 2021 12:12:44 GMT -6
Oh my goodness cp3 that was chilling how similar it is to our experience. He’s in 2nd grade. The “hate” thing just started maybe a month ago and it is killing me. I’m super sensitive so I hate hearing him say that. You look at him sideways and he’s like “I guess no one wants me here and I should just leave” and I’m like WHAT?? I’m worried about his self esteem and what conversations are in his head because my goodness it doesn’t seem good.
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Post by ktg on Mar 3, 2021 12:18:34 GMT -6
ktg, how long ago did you live here? I don't think I knew (or maybe forgot) you lived here. Wondering if I ever bumped into you there? Ha! Maybe. I moved in 2012. I loooooved living in the DC area though and I miss it. I mean, New Mexico has its charms and I love it here, too, but I am a city girl at heart.
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Post by starbuck on Mar 3, 2021 12:20:43 GMT -6
What are you buying lately? Milkweed. Carrots. Mustard greens. Broccoli. Kale. Starting sweet potatoes for slips. I looooooove that so many on this board are growing milkweed.
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 12:22:29 GMT -6
ktg , how long ago did you live here? I don't think I knew (or maybe forgot) you lived here. Wondering if I ever bumped into you there? Ha! Maybe. I moved in 2012. I loooooved living in the DC area though and I miss it. I mean, New Mexico has its charms and I love it here, too, but I am a city girl at heart. I didn't start knitting until 2016, but I was here
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Post by ktg on Mar 3, 2021 12:23:19 GMT -6
Ha! Maybe. I moved in 2012. I loooooved living in the DC area though and I miss it. I mean, New Mexico has its charms and I love it here, too, but I am a city girl at heart. I didn't start knitting until 2016, but I was here If you were ever in Del Rey and saw a lady walking two Boston Terriers and a Doberman, that was me. 😆
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Post by byjove on Mar 3, 2021 12:24:48 GMT -6
I didn't start knitting until 2016, but I was here If you were ever in Del Rey and saw a lady walking two Boston Terriers and a Doberman, that was me. 😆 I am going to PM you
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Post by cp3 on Mar 3, 2021 12:41:39 GMT -6
Oh my goodness cp3 that was chilling how similar it is to our experience. He’s in 2nd grade. The “hate” thing just started maybe a month ago and it is killing me. I’m super sensitive so I hate hearing him say that. You look at him sideways and he’s like “I guess no one wants me here and I should just leave” and I’m like WHAT?? I’m worried about his self esteem and what conversations are in his head because my goodness it doesn’t seem good. Yes it is hard because he will be acting out but then if we would get upset at him he would take it so personal instead of just looking it as the action he did is what I was upset at and not him as a person. He is very sensitive and once he started back in person he was getting in trouble because he was trying so hard to fit in and was doing things he shouldn't be doing so his friends would like him. It's tough. He also struggles with finding his own place with things. Like his dad has very different beliefs about things and my nephew has asked my sister how to know who to listen to because his Dad tells him that appearance and what people think of you is very important but my sister tells him differently and he doesn't know what to believe. I did read that gifted children can struggle with that and finding their identity and how they fit in with the world. This might not relate but I just thought it was interesting how everything ties together and explains a lot of what he struggles with but it's hard dealing with those big emotions and feelings in the mmoment.
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Post by tallb on Mar 3, 2021 12:57:54 GMT -6
Actually I just looked again and there is an outdoor ballet and a virtual ballet! My DD just started zoom ballet (she's 4) and they do outdoor in the spring, but I don't think we can swing the times..def options in the DMV! (Feel free to PM but I think we are in different parts of DMV - this one is in takoma park)
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Post by lemondrop on Mar 3, 2021 12:59:27 GMT -6
Somebody tell me to stop buying plants. In the last few weeks I've bought sunflower seeds, milkweed, some native honeysuckles, salvia, blueberry bushes, black eyed Susans....I could go on. This is on top of the seeds I started for bee balm alongside my veggie seedlings. And I'm eyeing mountain laurel next. I might have a problem. My H is obsessed with mountain laurel. He had some at his house growing up in NH and everytime I bring up our flower beds, he jumps at the chance to remind me that we need to add some lol
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Post by jaygee on Mar 3, 2021 13:38:36 GMT -6
Thank you cp3. A lot of that resonates. With DS it’s like he knows exactly what is going to make us mad and he does it to get the reaction. He seems to enjoy the negative attention. It’s all sort of bizarre to me because I’m a classic rule follower and never had any of those tendencies. In my worst worrying moments I fear he’s going to grow up and be an annoying jerk who just pushes peoples buttons. But the reality is he is completely pleasant and well loved by all who meet him outside our home. He’s just got demonic tendencies with us. I KNOW that’s normal kid stuff but living in it 24/7 is taking it’s toll. Today’s blow up was all about him repeatedly touching me (and aggressively at some points) and me asking him nicely to stop. He just won’t listen.
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Post by cp3 on Mar 3, 2021 13:49:31 GMT -6
Im sorry jaygee. That all sounds like a lot and I sympathize because I've definitely hit my breaking point when we were really struggling with DD1 and it's so hard when you can't get a break from each other. Hopefully once baseball starts up that will help him get out some of that energy and some interaction and he will be better at home.
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Post by beaf12 on Mar 3, 2021 13:54:10 GMT -6
beaf12, any favorite plants and/or unusual plants in your garden? Not sure if it’s unusual, but I love my Joe Pye weed and Ligularia.
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Post by jkjacq on Mar 3, 2021 14:01:38 GMT -6
Oh my goodness cp3 that was chilling how similar it is to our experience. He’s in 2nd grade. The “hate” thing just started maybe a month ago and it is killing me. I’m super sensitive so I hate hearing him say that. You look at him sideways and he’s like “I guess no one wants me here and I should just leave” and I’m like WHAT?? I’m worried about his self esteem and what conversations are in his head because my goodness it doesn’t seem good. Oh hai from a now 4th grader who at that age started vocalizing the same, thus began our counseling journey, well hers, I'd already been down the road with her brother.
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