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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2021 21:02:25 GMT -6
I will take any and all tea recommendations. I subscribe to a monthly tea box, Sipsby. I think if you just go to the site, they list a ton of the teas they partner with I've tried some really good ones through it. Hi, everyone. I will probably be a weekday-free participant, but very light on the weekends, if at all. Maybe a Saturday evening beer or Sunday morning mimosa. Like many, I have found myself increasing my drinking with the pandemic and stress, etc. I have gained some weight (definitely through shitty eating habits as well) so backing off the alcohol should help too. I think everyone in here is awesome. It's hard to take a look at yourself and think, "maybe I need a break?" Whether you're just starting out sober or old hat giving support and resources, it's very cool Thanks for a nice spot to take some inventory on myself. I do sips by as well! I like them
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Post by beatch on Jan 4, 2021 21:05:23 GMT -6
I will take any and all tea recommendations. Celestial Seasonings Tension Tamer is my favorite evening tea.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 4, 2021 21:16:40 GMT -6
I will take any and all tea recommendations. Celestial Seasonings Tension Tamer is my favorite evening tea. It's the catnip that you like, isn't it?
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Post by beatch on Jan 4, 2021 21:34:57 GMT -6
Celestial Seasonings Tension Tamer is my favorite evening tea. It's the catnip that you like, isn't it? Probably! It's delicious.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 4, 2021 21:49:51 GMT -6
It's the catnip that you like, isn't it? Probably! It's delicious. I always tell my coworkers that if I'm being all nimbly bimbly, it's just my tea. It will wear off.
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Post by blablabirdie on Jan 5, 2021 0:42:41 GMT -6
Can I join? I’ve been trying this since Jan 1st and so far so good. I usually have a glass of wine in the evenings after everyone is in bed a couple nights a weekto wind down, but during the pandemic it has been growing to more nights and 2-3 glasses. I usually drink more in the summer on vacation and do a September detox to reset things which has worked well. So I thought I would reset now in January and see how it goes. Not sure if I will have a glass on the weekends or not but so far feeling good. I am not sleeping as well, so that is a bit tough.
For teas I have a stash of Pukka and Yogi teas I enjoy in the late evening. I make a big pot of Masala tea in the late afternoons that even the kids like because it is sweet — and delicious but quite high calorie.
ETA: there is a lot of addiction in my family so I’m a bit over analytical about how much and too much so also a bit of anxiety there
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Post by fikafairy on Jan 5, 2021 7:21:12 GMT -6
had something else typed out, but then the internet crapped out for a second. Anyway day 2 here and hanging in there! I did sleep somewhat better last night although the evening last night was stressful between a failed attempt at dinner (tried something different, either the chicken was no good or the seasoning packet sucked) and H coming home late from work, but I powered through with my black cherry vanilla seltzer despite wanting to open the wine.
I think I've decided to do dry January except select weekends/specific dates, particularly these next two weekends since my brother is still here from overseas and we have one final weekend planned with him of various takeout foods and video game evenings before he flies back. Then I will also toast inauguration day as well! The fall/holidays were such a mess between adjusting to being back at work after leave, moving, and then the general stress of periodically WAH with one or both kids by myself, that I need this break to "dry out". I'm pretty sure between Halloween through just before NYE, there were only a handful of nights that I didn't have a beverage of some kind, and more often than not it was more than one.
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Post by shitsngiggles on Jan 5, 2021 7:37:57 GMT -6
4 days down. So far it hasn't been too bad for me but I'm sure by this weekend it will be hard.
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 8:37:47 GMT -6
Holly Whitaker who wrote Quit Like A Woman was in Good Morning America this morning. Her book was thrust into the spotlight recently when Chrissy Teigen showed it in her IG stories and talked about being sober for 1 month. Holly is a gem and I recommend everything she has produced (her book, Home podcast with Laura McKowen, her IG, her blog). http://instagram.com/p/CJqev3qH3LO
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Post by iruntodrink on Jan 5, 2021 9:20:13 GMT -6
Probably! It's delicious. I always tell my coworkers that if I'm being all nimbly bimbly, it's just my tea. It will wear off. Nimbly bimbly jumping from tree to tree?? 🤣🤣
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Post by kittyriot on Jan 5, 2021 9:22:19 GMT -6
I decided to buy a few audible credits, and I used them to buy the Annie Grace book and the Holly Whittaker book. Thanks for the recs jaygee, I'm four days in and really happy. I am very curious to see how I feel once I hit the 10 day mark.
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Post by iruntodrink on Jan 5, 2021 9:23:11 GMT -6
I'm in. H is joining, so that will help. 2 days down, and I will probably make an exception for 1/20.
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Post by FlightView on Jan 5, 2021 9:25:26 GMT -6
Day 5, H left for the slope for 9 days. My sleep is noticeably improved and I’m reading books at night instead of imbibing. I used to read a book a week...(before kids but I don’t feel like it’s too far out of reach at this point.)
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Post by tj on Jan 5, 2021 9:51:07 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips?
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 10:01:20 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips? I would keep it light. Try not to over think it. Come up with a phrase that feels right for you. “Today I choose to celebrate with wine”. Something like that that expresses the active choice you are making but doesn’t commit you to anything else or involve bad or inadequate feelings. And then, the next day, reflect on how you feel. I think a common occurrence is that the “forbidden fruit” is not all we build it up to be. So you might come away thinking - that wasn’t really worth it. Or you might feel like “wow. That was just the perfect amount and that’s how I want to interact with alcohol going forward - as a special occasion treat. However you feel just be open to it and use it as a learning experience. For me, that’s what these little challenges do best - a dry month, a whole 30, a no spend month. Just shakes up our norms and teaches us something new about our experiences.
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 10:05:21 GMT -6
We had a couple friends in town who just moved (they had to pick up some remaining items) and we didn't feel comfortable having them over, but we decided to dine outdoors in 30 degree temps...which was really not all that fun. As much as having a drink probably would have warmed me up, I opted for a Hot Toddy minus the booze...so in essence hot water, lemon and honey. It was very satisfying and I didn't even miss the alcohol. We stopped at the liquor store though and I got some No Alcohol alternative called Seedlip. It's a distilled botanical drink that you can use as a mixer. I want to come up with something that will appease my cravings. It's kind of pricy ($35), so I'll see if I like it enough. I really would like to go past the 30 days on this, but my first goal is a full 30 days. I just tried seedlip for the first time after finding it at my local market. I got the garden one, which has a cucumberish taste. I like it so far and it does scratch the itch to make that fancy cocktail. We also got this kind called 3 spirits from Europe. It’s very pricey but we really liked it. MH works with a lady in the UK that went booze free and she told him about that kind. It seems like they have a lot of NA options like that there. So just consider it being European fancy. (Or I guess with Brexit, it’s just British fancy now).
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Post by tookie on Jan 5, 2021 10:26:04 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips? I’m not going To try to sway you either way but I would examine - why do you want the wine? You’re already anxious in anticipation, about only having two glasses? What about it makes you anxious?
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Post by tj on Jan 5, 2021 10:38:59 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips? I’m not going To try to sway you either way but I would examine - why do you want the wine? You’re already anxious in anticipation, about only having two glasses? What about it makes you anxious? Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 5, 2021 11:18:07 GMT -6
I’m not going To try to sway you either way but I would examine - why do you want the wine? You’re already anxious in anticipation, about only having two glasses? What about it makes you anxious? Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking. Something I found helpful was delaying the first drink until the entree. Then ordering coffee with dessert. Coffee paired better with dessert and I rarely went through more than one glass during the entree.
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Post by tj on Jan 5, 2021 11:21:49 GMT -6
Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking. Something I found helpful was delaying the first drink until the entree. Then ordering coffee with dessert. Coffee paired better with dessert and I rarely went through more than one glass during the entree. That is a great idea! Thank you!
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Post by AmyG on Jan 5, 2021 11:27:32 GMT -6
I’m not going To try to sway you either way but I would examine - why do you want the wine? You’re already anxious in anticipation, about only having two glasses? What about it makes you anxious? Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking. Then dont plan on 2. Plan on a sparkly non alcoholic with appetizers. Then a water or ice tea to cleanse your palate. A glass that pairs with your dinner. Then water or ice tea to cleanse your plate. And something with dessert, coffee often goes well. When i have water in between to cleanse the palate, it hydrates. Sometimes the wish for a 2nd drink is taste or how the buzz makes you feel. But sometimes its your body seeing liquid and wanting to drink more water to be hydrated. But you interpret it as wanting to drink another drink. Most people walk around slightly dehydrated not drinking enough water. Esp in winter where its not hot, but the heat makes the air dry inside. And drinking a glass of water in there fills you up, less room for anothee glass.
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Post by sarah on Jan 5, 2021 12:31:25 GMT -6
tj I would say don't do it. You will still enjoy your meal and save on the bill. There will be glasses of wine in the future. Will you wake up the next day and think oh I really wish I had those 2 glasses of wine? I think more likely you would be proud of yourself for abstaining. *Just my 2 cents obviously I'm not gonna judge if you decide to try moderation
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Post by cabbagecabbage on Jan 5, 2021 13:03:37 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips? For me, I have trouble stopping at 2. After 2 I definitely want a 3rd (maybe 4th) and I’m all loosely goosey and quick to abandon my goals, “It’s fine! It’s just one more!” So I’d probably have my wine late in the evening/before bed. Maybe but a half bottle or split a bottle and don’t have extra. That’s how I’d plan it out. Plus you’ll have the luxury of some time off to be able to see how two feels, how you feel the next day, etc. No morals or judgement required. It can be an experiment. My birthday is late January and I’m not sure what I’m going to do yet. I totally understand it being a thing.
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 14:02:01 GMT -6
I just tried seedlip for the first time after finding it at my local market. I got the garden one, which has a cucumberish taste. I like it so far and it does scratch the itch to make that fancy cocktail. We also got this kind called 3 spirits from Europe. It’s very pricey but we really liked it. MH works with a lady in the UK that went booze free and she told him about that kind. It seems like they have a lot of NA options like that there. So just consider it being European fancy. (Or I guess with Brexit, it’s just British fancy now). I wanted Grove, but all they had was Spice and Garden, so I grabbed Spice. Smells pretty good. Happy to hear that it does help with the cravings. My friend is going through IVF soon and we are working together on coming up with fun fauxcocktails for now and later. I've been doing a ton of research and I did notice that there is a huge selection in the UK that you cannot get here. I'm envious. Welp. My heart just grew three sizes that you are doing that with your friend. That’s so thoughtful of you to support her through IVF like that. ❤️ Tell me how you like the spice one. My other friend didn’t care for it, but I tend to like spice flavor profiles in my drinks.
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 14:04:47 GMT -6
I’m not going To try to sway you either way but I would examine - why do you want the wine? You’re already anxious in anticipation, about only having two glasses? What about it makes you anxious? Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking. Have you checked the menu to see if they have mocktails? Or if they have a full bar, I would ask them to make something. I’ve had really good luck with that. We have a date night Indian restaurant here (fancy place) that has the most amazing mocktails on their menu.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 5, 2021 15:05:51 GMT -6
I’ve plugged this place before- El Guapo bitters. Non alcoholic bitters, mixers and syrups and their website has TONS of zero proof cocktails. I highly recommend them. Women owned too!
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Post by jaygee on Jan 5, 2021 15:07:02 GMT -6
Dry January combined with Chrissy Teigen sharing her sobriety means that Sober IG is lit right now. I’m loving it.
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Post by addymac on Jan 5, 2021 15:07:14 GMT -6
We had a couple friends in town who just moved (they had to pick up some remaining items) and we didn't feel comfortable having them over, but we decided to dine outdoors in 30 degree temps...which was really not all that fun. As much as having a drink probably would have warmed me up, I opted for a Hot Toddy minus the booze...so in essence hot water, lemon and honey. It was very satisfying and I didn't even miss the alcohol. We stopped at the liquor store though and I got some No Alcohol alternative called Seedlip. It's a distilled botanical drink that you can use as a mixer. I want to come up with something that will appease my cravings. It's kind of pricy ($35), so I'll see if I like it enough. I really would like to go past the 30 days on this, but my first goal is a full 30 days. Off topic but did you guys do an igloo or greenhouse outdoor eating or just patio heater seating eating?
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Post by addymac on Jan 5, 2021 15:14:05 GMT -6
Good point. We are going to a fancy restaurant. And I really appreciate the way the food pairs with the wine. I want to be able to enjoy the flavors and the pairings. But I’m worried that if I have 2 glasses, I will be uninhibited enough to decide to have 4 glasses. Which is the whole reason I’m doing a dry January. I struggle with self control once I start drinking. Have you checked the menu to see if they have mocktails? Or if they have a full bar, I would ask them to make something. I’ve had really good luck with that. We have a date night Indian restaurant here (fancy place) that has the most amazing mocktails on their menu. tj yes, this. For a celebration dinner we went to a super fancy place that does like 10 courses and drink pairings. I was pregnant so the waiter just did mocktails for me so that I could still enjoy a fun drink with the food. The best one was some weird ass drink with ONION in it. I was like is this gonna be so gross but it was delicious. My issue with giving up drinking is that I like to drink wine and beer for the taste. I miss the taste. Similar to @icedtea. I’ve also decided I can’t make too many changes at once. I’m starting 30 day yoga and a core exercise program aimed for helping the mommy pouch and Diastasis Recti so I think I will focus on that instead. Also if I’m busy doing that at night by default I don’t drink so it’s a multiple win approach.
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Post by beatch on Jan 5, 2021 15:38:26 GMT -6
My first 4 days were nice and easy. I am having a harder time falling asleep. But sleeping much better once I finally do. Planning on 2 glasses of wine for our anniversary dinner this Saturday, and very anxious about how that will go. Any tips? As I previously mentioned, I will be breaking dry January to celebrate the inauguration and I'm fine with that. I like some of the other tips mentioned (like not ordering a drink until your entree) but I'd also announce your intention ahead of time. Not sure if your H is joining you? Either way I'd say, "I'm going to have one glass of wine for dinner," and ask for help in sticking to it if necessary. I don't think you can make a wrong choice here either way (whether to abstain or imbibe) but I wouldn't be shy in asking for help in sticking to your limit.
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