Terrible Thursday

[tgrimes]

Feb 6, 2020 10:11:01 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Feb 6, 2020 10:01:29 GMT -6 vino said:

I'm sorry about the fights with your sister flamingo , it's probably best to hang up and give space before you say something you'd regret.

It's good you have a surgery date, how are you feeling about it?

Thanks. I’m mostly just nervous bc it’s my eye; she assured me that usually with this surgery you can’t even tell afterwards, but there’s always a chance. Just want it to heal smoothly.

I’m sorry, I feel like I’ve been a bundle of complaints and stress lately. I normally think I’m a pretty upbeat person but darn, the last month or so has not been fun 🤪

That's what we're here for flamingo!  Besides, I don't feel like you've been complaining.  

[inthekitty]

SSDD here. Work is relentless. I've been really good about being productive but my inbox never gets lower.






So I'm listening to Boyz II Men and just plugging away at the neverending pile.


Last night Maddie was a little badass at sparring. She has a talent. I dominated an 18 yo 4th degree blackbelt so that felt nice. My old ass can keep up with the youngins'.

[nam2013]

Feb 6, 2020 7:34:26 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

My house has been hit by the stomach bug. Send lyson and Gatorade....

Oh nooooo! Hope you all feel better soon!

[lahdeedah]

I’m sorry. flamingo The last time you spoke about this, I had a thought that maybe she is starting to feel some pressure (?) about you moving back. Not exactly pressure, but she knows that she will have to share your parent’s time with you and the kids. It won’t all be about her and your nephew anymore. I didn’t mention it before because I was hoping I am wrong, but do you think it could be it? Either way, I hope she finds a way to deal with and release whatever it is that is clouding her head space.

ETA: vent away. It’s what we are here for. You have a lot happening this year’s day we want to be able to support from afar!

[nam2013]

flamingo I’m sorry about the fight... I can’t remember if I said anything yesterday, but I’m also sorry about the inconclusive results from yesterday 😕.

lfig that sounds horrible, 12 minutes is so long! Poor girl and poor you. Big hugs.

[flamingo]

Feb 6, 2020 10:31:32 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I’m sorry. flamingo The last time you spoke about this, I had a thought that maybe she is starting to feel some pressure (?) about you moving back. Not exactly pressure, but she knows that she will have to share your parent’s time with you and the kids. It won’t all be about her and your nephew anymore. I didn’t mention it before because I was hoping I am wrong, but do you think it could be it? Either way, I hope she finds a way to deal with and release whatever it is that is clouding her head space.

I really don’t know. Maybe? I know the stuff she is dealing with personally is weighing heavily, so I try to give her the benefit of the doubt. My parents have described it as ‘emotions running very close to the surface’ when they’ve been around her lately (and they see her a good bit). So I don’t *think* it’s just me. I have asked both my parents for their thoughts...they assured me they don’t think it’s that and she is really excited to have us back. They agree that her blow-up last night was particularly over-the-top but I also think they don’t want to take sides directly, or get on her case (in light of what all she has going on). Clear as mud, right?

We have always had a really good relationship—I consider her my best friend. So I feel like I’m at odds with *2* people, and I hate it.

ETA: I’m sitting here literally in tears at how kind y’all are to care and let me vent. Thank you, all.

[mwhip]

Feb 6, 2020 9:53:42 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Yikes! mwhip That does not sound like anything I would want to volunteer for. Did you see the police chase? I saw on the news that there was a chase on the parade route. I’m glad no one was hurt.

We weren't close to it, but they showed it on the big screens that were up, so it did cause a bit of anxiety, not knowing where it was in relation to us. We were off the SW corner of union station and the police stopped the car on the SE end of it.

Very thankful no one was hurt, there were so many people there, it could have been devastating.

[cagoldi]

Sorry for the fight, flamingo. How old is your nephew? Maybe she’s having a problem with PPD? In any case, it’s distressing to have a disagreement with your sister when you’re so close, and you could really use the support from her right now. Hopefully you can work things out before long.

lfig that’s a long time. Poor girl.😢

[mwhip]

flamingo Sorry to hear about the fight with your sister. It's always so hard when it's someone your close to and you cant be on the same page. I agree with taking some time away, you need and deserve it, with everything you have going on. I hope it all clears over and things are back to normal in no time.

[cagoldi]

Dude’s BFF is home with me today. He’s sick and his parents had to work. I have a standing invitation with a couple local moms to drop off their sick kids since I WAH, so they took me up on it. Looks like we’re going to watch everything on Disney+ today.

Sparky is back at school. We’re having a really hard time now. She screams bloody murder if I am not holding her. It’s not just because she’s sick, it’s been this way forever but I feel like I’m at my wits end. I love that she is so attached and snuggly, but it feels impossible to give the boys what they need, too.

[inthekitty]

cagoldi, you are a sweetheart for watching a little sickie. That's a tough phase with Sparky. I remember going through that with Cass. She was a Stage IV Cling-on. She's still a cuddle-bomber now, but thankfully in a healthier way where I can have some space. Sometimes she gently moves my hair back behind my ear and I'm trying to train myself not to shudder because I'm always afraid I'm going to get jabbed in the eye or my hair pulled.

[lahdeedah]

Feb 6, 2020 10:49:12 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Feb 6, 2020 10:31:32 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I’m sorry. flamingo The last time you spoke about this, I had a thought that maybe she is starting to feel some pressure (?) about you moving back. Not exactly pressure, but she knows that she will have to share your parent’s time with you and the kids. It won’t all be about her and your nephew anymore. I didn’t mention it before because I was hoping I am wrong, but do you think it could be it? Either way, I hope she finds a way to deal with and release whatever it is that is clouding her head space.

I really don’t know. Maybe? I know the stuff she is dealing with personally is weighing heavily, so I try to give her the benefit of the doubt. My parents have described it as ‘emotions running very close to the surface’ when they’ve been around her lately (and they see her a good bit). So I don’t *think* it’s just me. I have asked both my parents for their thoughts...they assured me they don’t think it’s that and she is really excited to have us back. They agree that her blow-up last night was particularly over-the-top but I also think they don’t want to take sides directly, or get on her case (in light of what all she has going on). Clear as mud, right?

We have always had a really good relationship—I consider her my best friend. So I feel like I’m at odds with *2* people, and I hate it.

ETA: I’m sitting here literally in tears at how kind y’all are to care and let me vent. Thank you, all.

Ok I’m glad to hear this. I know how close y’all are and would hate for it to be a sort of sibling rivalry thing. I do hope she can take a breather soon. And vent away, really. 🤗

[vino]

We're here for you flamingo , we can't physically be there but we're all ears. Reach out if you need anything, we love you.

[lahdeedah]

Feb 6, 2020 11:05:07 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Dude’s BFF is home with me today. He’s sick and his parents had to work. I have a standing invitation with a couple local moms to drop off their sick kids since I WAH, so they took me up on it. Looks like we’re going to watch everything on Disney+ today.

Sparky is back at school. We’re having a really hard time now. She screams bloody murder if I am not holding her. It’s not just because she’s sick, it’s been this way forever but I feel like I’m at my wits end. I love that she is so attached and snuggly, but it feels impossible to give the boys what they need, too.

You are really the best.

Sorry P has been extra clingy. Hope she feels better soon.

[lahdeedah]

lfig Sorry about the long seizure this morning. Do they affect her day in any way? I think you said she becomes more tired after them, IIRC?

[cagoldi]

Feb 6, 2020 11:11:41 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

cagoldi, you are a sweetheart for watching a little sickie. That's a tough phase with Sparky. I remember going through that with Cass. She was a Stage IV Cling-on. She's still a cuddle-bomber now, but thankfully in a healthier way where I can have some space. Sometimes she gently moves my hair back behind my ear and I'm trying to train myself not to shudder because I'm always afraid I'm going to get jabbed in the eye or my hair pulled.

Thank you, I know it will change and I’ll miss it someday.

*poof*

[joelies]

I'm sorry cagoldi. I can't imagine how tough a spot you're in. You're such an amazing Mom - I'm sure hearing that doesn't solve anything but it should still be said.

[vino]

I'm sorry cagoldi that is tough all around, we're here for your to vent. Love you

[lfig]

Feb 6, 2020 11:21:52 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

lfig Sorry about the long seizure this morning. Do they affect her day in any way? I think you said she becomes more tired after them, IIRC?

Usually just tired after...sometimes super emotional. Today was super emotional. But I haven’t heard from school so I’m guessing/hoping she’s doing ok.

[lahdeedah]

Not sure if I updated on the daycare situation.

The next day, Friday, I talked to a girl I work with who has kids there, too. Her oldest loves her teacher and we both think that as long as we see some changes, we would be staying because uprooting now is not ideal. Kind of a wait and see approach.

They sent home a letter Friday saying they will be requiring that the top half of doors remain open at all times, they will not sign off on accident reports before reviewing camera footage, and they are researching programs that will allow parents access to the classroom camera.

Yesterday as I was signing M out, I noticed how empty the sign in sheet is. He had already moved up on the page a few slots since last week, but it’s so many empty lines that I think it will go from 10 pages of names, to maybe three. I get it, but man that’s a lot and it makes me nervous. I wanted to speak with M2’s teacher this morning to find out a few things, but she was absent. I’m hoping she’s just out with a sick kid today. I don’t think she would leave us, but I guess with everything happening, I can’t say for sure.

[lfig]

flamingo I’m sorry for the fight. My sister and I are super close....but we don’t fight. There are lots of times I’m annoyed with something she says or does, but I bite my tongue, and roll my eyes through the phone. Mainly because I hate conflict. We had 1 sort of tiff many years ago, and I remember being so upset over it and I don’t even remember now what it was over. Lol. But I understand how your feeling. Lots of hugs to you.

cagoldi you are killing it at the mom of 3 thing! I’m sorry you are feeling like that. But you truly are awesome! I mean, through all this you are even taking on an extra kiddo who is sick to help out.

[tgrimes]

cagoldi You're dealing with a lot right now and you're kicking ass at it. I'm sorry P has been extra clingy lately.

[lahdeedah]

Feb 6, 2020 12:00:48 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

cagoldi You're dealing with a lot right now and you're kicking ass at it. I'm sorry P has been extra clingy lately.

This.

[guster]

I’m sorry, cagoldi. That sounds very difficult. You are a wonderful mom, and I think it’s so sweet that you offered your house up for the sickies.
flamingo, vent away. That’s what we’re here for. And I don’t think you’ve been overly negative lately. It’s just the ups and downs of life. I am sorry that you’re taking the brunt of your sister’s emotions. It sounds like you did the right thing by ending the call so you both could figure out how to have a productive conversation later.
Tapa is being weird again so I’m only seeing the responses to lfig. It sounds like S had a pretty long seizure. I hope she’s okay now. And I bet it was very challenging to watch. Hugs to you both!

[guster]

Afternoon all! I threaded out our bookshelves this morning and have a nice donation to bring to the thrift store tomorrow. Charlie and I ran to Aldi and I’m excited to try one of their Valentine’s Day cheeses tonight.
I’ve been toying with the idea of joining a gym. I could easily get there three days during the week without Charlie, and I could bring him to the child watch program on Tuesdays and Thursdays while I get an hour or so in. It would be really good for me but of course I have hesitations. I wouldn’t think twice to spend the money on MH or one of the kids, but the gym is something that would take away both time and money so I have to really be sure that I want it.

[tgrimes]

guster If you can afford to do it, I think you should. It gives you an outlet to get out of the house, it will be good for your body and would probably be good for your mind, too.

Also, how are you feeling?  Can you breathe any better?

[guster]

Feb 6, 2020 13:28:46 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

guster If you can afford to do it, I think you should. It gives you an outlet to get out of the house, it will be good for your body and would probably be good for your mind, too.

Also, how are you feeling?  Can you breathe any better?

I know. Thank you for the push. I really love working out. I’ve been good about doing it here using YouTube videos so I feel like this is just a step up. It’s not super pricey, and it’s only 10 minutes from the house.
And yes, a little extra sleep and some saline did the trick.

[jewels]

Hi Ladies! I was busy this morning and finally got a chance to check in now... Let's see if I can remember all my thoughts

peachsmama nooooo!! I hope you recover quickly and that no one else gets it. I also hope A is helping a lot since you are sick too

lfig that's tough, I'm glad she's ok now.

cagoldi - man you are nicer than me. I would be too terrified to bring all those germs into my house. Also, your feelings about P make perfect sense.

flamingo - glad you have an action plan and I'm sure it will all go smoothly. That's great that your mom is going to come help. Sorry about your sister, I hope whatever she's going through subsides and things improve.

[cagoldi]

jewels Dude was just with him at aftercare all week, so he’s already been exposed and X and P are getting over the flu and sinus infections, so I think we’re good.

I’m still going to disinfect like mad once everybody is out of the house.

I picked up X and Dude from school early because I figured they’d be jealous Shane was home with me all day. Man, they are so adorable when I surprise them like that. All three of the boys picked me flowers on our short walk home. Such sweethearts.

[peachsmama]

Feb 6, 2020 13:40:39 GMT -6 jewels said:

Hi Ladies! I was busy this morning and finally got a chance to check in now... Let's see if I can remember all my thoughts

peachsmama nooooo!! I hope you recover quickly and that no one else gets it. I also hope A is helping a lot since you are sick too

lfig that's tough, I'm glad she's ok now.

cagoldi - man you are nicer than me. I would be too terrified to bring all those germs into my house. Also, your feelings about P make perfect sense.

flamingo - glad you have an action plan and I'm sure it will all go smoothly. That's great that your mom is going to come help. Sorry about your sister, I hope whatever she's going through subsides and things improve.

I'm pretty much always on the verge of being dehydrated because I suck at drinking water and nursing. So after vomiting for a few hours, my body just gave out. I passed out on the bathroom floor at 10pm. I guess as I was going down I told A to call my mom. She came down and I was unresponsive. They got me awake and up within a few minutes. But Alex has told me at least a dozen times that I scared him and he was ready to call 911. My mom stayed the night because MJ only wanted him and she helped me. And then at 2 am Matthew came out of his room vomiting. A went to work at 4 am like normal but just to get his crew working and get through some meetings. He came home at 10. I had to do payroll so he ran my deposits and my mom stayed with me and Matthew. He took the other 2. Now he's getting it.. this thing is no joke. I'm past the bathroom part of it but I'm just drained. I can't walk far without seeing spots.