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Post by nam2013 on Sept 24, 2019 1:25:49 GMT -6
cagoldi first things first; you are absolutely not failing as a mom, are you insane!?! You’re doing an amazing job. As for mealtimes... i would guess it hard work for parents with ‘normal’ eaters at this age, let alone for people with kids that have issues with food. It is freaking hard work, Dh and I often feel like circus NAM, trying to get the kids focussed on the one hand, but also don’t emphasise the food to much for ds, all whilst trying to get a healthy relationship with food for dd. In all honesty, it is freaking hard. Do not beat yourself up. For us it sometimes helps to put some little blocks (or something equivalent) on the table and let build a little tower, or sort them in to colour, size whatever. Making a pasta necklace also helps, you can count the pasta, add/subtract etc. We sometimes even put the portable record player on the table and play ep’s... ETA I also follow this nutritionist on instagram, I gave me some good insight into how to talk during dinner/about food; elementnutrition.kids
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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 24, 2019 4:49:32 GMT -6
Rough night. Miss P is a snotty, teething mess and refuses to be put down at all. This gets X on edge and makes him cry and want to be carried. Dude was a trooper but I felt badly that he had to try to do homework in the midst of such a noisy, chaotic scene. Am I completely failing as a parent, or is my expectation/hope that everyone sits still for five minutes during a meal just unreasonable at this point? I would say it’s kid dependent. Could C sit for 5mins at Xs age? Nope. Sometimes he can’t now. Throw a toddler in the mix and who knows. Try to be kind to yourself. You are a great mom. Maybe loosen expectations a little bit when you can just to take the pressure off of yourself. Meals are one of my mom guilt things that I’m really trying to let go of. While I would love for a nice family meal, it just isn’t in the cards for us right now. And honestly, the good memories I have from childhood don’t include meals. Except when the dog stole the roast from the table. That was pretty funny! Lol! All of this. Meals are chaotic here. Typically the kids eat while I'm prepping lunches, dinners, emptying the dishwasher, whatever and then MH and I eat later. A sits and loves to eat. The other two do well often for breakfast and lunch but dinner is just... a disaster to be honest. You're doing great, don't beat yourself up! |
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Post by wineallthetime on Sept 24, 2019 4:51:01 GMT -6
Also, cagoldi, did I miss it? How was your trip? Or is it this weekend? |
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 24, 2019 9:19:22 GMT -6
Also, cagoldi, did I miss it? How was your trip? Or is it this weekend? We’re leaving Thursday night and I am so excited. I’ve never flown with any of the kids so it will be an adventure. And it’s really adorable how Tim is an old bachelor rushing around trying to babyproof and asking me how to set up a playpen and what groceries he needs to buy to get the house ready for a toddler. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 24, 2019 10:58:39 GMT -6
tgrimes every week I feel like both the shirts and shorts are getting shorter. I get that it's hip hop, but they are too young imo. That seems super inappropriate. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Sept 24, 2019 11:03:17 GMT -6
mwhip and klong11 I’m sorry the girls are struggling with friendships at school. I’m sure they will have lots of friends soon. cagoldi dinner is the worst. Sorry your kids were being insane last night.
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Post by mwhip on Sept 24, 2019 11:51:59 GMT -6
It's weird, I just assumed all kids this age were saying they didn't really have friends. Now I kind of want to email her teacher and ask about it, but that's pretty helicopterish, right? I should just let her figure it out on her own...
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Post by klong11 on Sept 24, 2019 12:01:45 GMT -6
It's weird, I just assumed all kids this age were saying they didn't really have friends. Now I kind of want to email her teacher and ask about it, but that's pretty helicopterish, right? I should just let her figure it out on her own... I'm giving it some time. We have parent conferences coming up soon, so I'm ok with waiting. I'm being an active listener when she talks about it and trying to help her find solutions. |
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Post by wedding on Sept 24, 2019 16:47:15 GMT -6
It's weird, I just assumed all kids this age were saying they didn't really have friends. Now I kind of want to email her teacher and ask about it, but that's pretty helicopterish, right? I should just let her figure it out on her own... I don’t see any harm in asking how she is doing socially. C had always been very outgoing and despite saying a few times that he has no friends, he is always with friends I think it’s good for parents to check in at the beginning. It helps the teacher learn about the kid and also may bring their attention to any potential issues. Helicopter parents would check in daily and/or make strong suggestions on how things should be handled. Our K teacher sends us updates through the school app. Sometimes too many! I have messaged with her a couple of times about various things. Open communication is important. |
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Post by tallb on Sept 24, 2019 17:39:56 GMT -6
It's weird, I just assumed all kids this age were saying they didn't really have friends. Now I kind of want to email her teacher and ask about it, but that's pretty helicopterish, right? I should just let her figure it out on her own... I'd email if conferences aren't coming up soon. She may not know she's lonely and may be able to help foster some friendships. |
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Post by flamingo on Sept 24, 2019 19:25:32 GMT -6
Agree with a quick email if conferences aren't soon, I'm sure a teacher would want to know if a child is sad or lonely. And she may be able to reassure you that the child does have friends, or is more social than what's being reported at home.
Dang, I'm now wondering if I should be more 'in touch' with B's teacher, lol. I do not want to seem disinterested nor helicopter-ish! We've only been in school since Labor Day, though.
Admittedly, I tend to be pretty hands-off...assuming my children seem happy, I figure the teachers will let me know if there's an issue. Today there was a lull behind me when I got C and her teacher was telling me how well she's doing. It was very nice! I feel like at preschool pick-up in particular--and it's been this way at every school we've attended--there are always a couple moms who seem to monopolize the teachers at pick-up with a lot of very specific questions, etc. That's not me and I usually just want to get my kid and beat the traffic out of the parking lot, lol.
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