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Post by orangehibiscus on Apr 4, 2019 2:34:14 GMT -6
bex15 Where is the pink spot on your belly? Has it gotten worse over the last week? Any other symptoms like vomiting or fevers? Do you feel sick or blah?
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Post by bex15 on Apr 4, 2019 6:25:15 GMT -6
bex15 Where is the pink spot on your belly? Has it gotten worse over the last week? Any other symptoms like vomiting or fevers? Do you feel sick or blah? It’s next to my belly button, it has not gotten worse (but is not getting better either), no other symptoms and feeling normal otherwise.
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Post by Eames on Apr 4, 2019 7:53:12 GMT -6
Thanks, guys. pambee, your comment about getting on the same page hit home. We used to be really good about that, and with this transition to having twins I think I've gotten more permissive with her and H has less patience (lack of sleep doesn't help either). Typically we do a few books (depending on long they are), then lights out and we song a song. Stay for 5 minutes then we're gone. If she sleepily asks for something like twinkle twinkle little star, I'll do it quick on my way out of the door. I'll say, "this is the last one, do you agree and understand?" before I do it. So I'll talk to my H. I think it makes sense (sometimes) to do something short and then get out of dodge. But I don't want her thinking she can take advantage either.
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Post by snickerdoodle on Apr 4, 2019 17:25:50 GMT -6
bex15 Where is the pink spot on your belly? Has it gotten worse over the last week? Any other symptoms like vomiting or fevers? Do you feel sick or blah? It’s next to my belly button, it has not gotten worse (but is not getting better either), no other symptoms and feeling normal otherwise. Could it be a hernia? My OB said you can get small ones near belly button but they usually heal on their own.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2019 6:18:01 GMT -6
Today is my last day in the office before maternity leave, and my doctor finally fixed my paperwork to have my leave begin Monday. WHEW. This is a relief.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 5, 2019 7:01:45 GMT -6
I saw one of the midwives yesterday. Little (huge) guy is measuring 8.9lbs at 37w4d 😭 94th%
If I don’t go into labor by next week, they want me to come in on Thursday for a check in and to discuss induction. I thought they were going to give me a date yesterday but I guess they want to check my cervix once more before they give official options?
At this point, I don’t care how they get him out. I’m in so much pain, I can’t sleep - the period like cramping is SO severe. His stretching literally brings tears to my eyes. I’m about to shove a flashlight between my legs and beg him to head towards it.
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Post by jacks on Apr 5, 2019 7:20:21 GMT -6
Today is my last day in the office before maternity leave, and my doctor finally fixed my paperwork to have my leave begin Monday. WHEW. This is a relief. Last day here too!! My boss went on a rant yesterday and I couldn’t be happier to skip out the door (too bad not literally) this afternoon! See ya in 4 months!
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Post by jacks on Apr 5, 2019 7:23:32 GMT -6
lemondrop Sorry you’re so uncomfortable. The last weeks of pregnancy are just sooo long. Hopefully the cramping is your body gearing up for labor.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2019 7:24:25 GMT -6
Ugh I'm sorry lemondrop, I hope baby decides to make an appearance very soon!!
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Post by bex15 on Apr 5, 2019 7:25:42 GMT -6
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 5, 2019 7:47:09 GMT -6
Thanks y’all ( bex15 @ges jacks) I feel like a real a-hole complaining when we tried so hard for so long for this baby. And it could be so much worse. I KNOW this is the very end and I’ve basically got an end in sight. I just want him to come out.
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Post by jacks on Apr 5, 2019 8:41:33 GMT -6
lemondrop Definitely not an a-hole! We put sooo much into trying to get pregnant, but I just want the baby, not the pregnancy part! Not everyone enjoys being pregnant and that’s ok. I do think our fertility doctor was a bit miffed at me not being more excited, but I was also throwing up all day, so yeah, I wasn’t super enthused at the moment!
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Post by orangehibiscus on Apr 5, 2019 11:51:26 GMT -6
How is the redness and tenderness bex15? Sorry for all the pain lemondrop! It’s ok to not enjoy all (or any) parts of pregnancy, even when you worked so long and hard to get pregnant. Come on out baby Lemondrop!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2019 11:55:20 GMT -6
+3 to the above - totally okay to not enjoy pregnancy! Pregnancy is hard. It does not mean you're any less happy and/or excited about the baby!
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Post by jacks on Apr 5, 2019 12:48:40 GMT -6
My boss just asked if I was looking forward to my vacation, if anyone had doubts about whether I was over this day or not. 🙄 Yes, such a fun vacation ahead of me! Nothing like a little abdominal surgery vacation!
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Post by tapdancer on Apr 5, 2019 13:14:23 GMT -6
My boss just asked if I was looking forward to my vacation, if anyone had doubts about whether I was over this day or not. 🙄 Yes, such a fun vacation ahead of me! Nothing like a little abdominal surgery vacation! Oh yes. Because it's so fun to have major surgery and get very little sleep taking care of a small child. Great vacation plans.
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Post by nmom on Apr 5, 2019 14:31:37 GMT -6
Echoing others lemondrop I’m sorry your in so much pain:( With my first I was the worst I was so negative I (FFFC) likely even told her I didn’t like her 😬 I’m not a great pregnant person it’s just not for me. I felt terrible afterward. Then this time it took us longer to TTC I had 3 MC I thought I would be better, more “grateful”. I’ve owned it now. It’s not my thing.
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Post by bex15 on Apr 5, 2019 14:52:37 GMT -6
How is the redness and tenderness bex15? Thanks for asking, it might be slightly better so I’m gonna give it until next week before deciding if I need to go see the dr or not. Crossing my fingers it will go away.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 5, 2019 16:17:53 GMT -6
Thanks everyone - truly, I haven’t minded being pregnant that much. Even when I puked daily for 20 weeks, it was a constant reminder that I was pregnant and anything that reminded me was a positive when I was so terrified of miscarrying. It’s really just been the last couple of weeks when he’s gotten SO big, and I can’t just take to my bed with a housekeeper/ personal chef/ dog walker/ laundry doer. My H is a saint and does his best, but I really need to win the lottery next time. Or have a smaller baby. Or gain some length in my torso.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Apr 5, 2019 16:20:28 GMT -6
Major eye roll at your boss jacks. Glad you’re feeling a little better bex15!
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Post by haleyscott on Apr 5, 2019 17:13:46 GMT -6
lemondrop if it helps I think how you are feeling (so done) is how everyone feels in the last few weeks! At least according to my midwives. You’re in the home stretch ❤️
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Post by haleyscott on Apr 5, 2019 17:16:45 GMT -6
I kind of feel like I’m drowning in everything right now. I haven’t posted too much because I feel bad venting. I feel like I’m constantly breastfeeding or getting snacks for my older two. My house is sooooo bad right now. So. Bad. I try and do what I can when I can, but it’s not much and I haven’t felt comfortable carrying the laundry baskets since I’m still sore on the one side a little. So I have to rely on mh and he doesn’t stay on top of it like I would.
I’m just so ready to feel completely normal and be able to do everything I used to do AND have three happy kids. That’s not asking too much, is it?
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Post by Eames on Apr 5, 2019 18:43:13 GMT -6
haleyscott, I totally understand. Hang in there. You can always vent here although I understand not having time. ❤
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Post by Eames on Apr 5, 2019 18:44:26 GMT -6
jacks, comments like that are why I think parental leave is so important.. so that men can stay home too. Does your boss have kids?? Going to work would be way easier than healing while also caring for newborns. Gah.
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Apr 5, 2019 19:05:58 GMT -6
lemondrop i think it ok to hate late pregnancy. mine have all been on the uncomplicated, and easy side but i have never been more done feeling than i was on wednesday. my other 2 were 6.5 lbs at birth this one was 8. i think that made a huge difference in how done i felt and how long i felt that way since she was a lot bigger.
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Post by tapdancer on Apr 5, 2019 19:18:37 GMT -6
I kind of feel like I’m drowning in everything right now. I haven’t posted too much because I feel bad venting. I feel like I’m constantly breastfeeding or getting snacks for my older two. My house is sooooo bad right now. So. Bad. I try and do what I can when I can, but it’s not much and I haven’t felt comfortable carrying the laundry baskets since I’m still sore on the one side a little. So I have to rely on mh and he doesn’t stay on top of it like I would. I’m just so ready to feel completely normal and be able to do everything I used to do AND have three happy kids. That’s not asking too much, is it? I could have written this only I have one older kid and not two. I know it's just getting used to the new normal and the feeding/sleeping stuff will get better but I know I don't do change well. I need to see my therapist but trying to schedule one more thing right now just feels impossible.
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Post by grover on Apr 6, 2019 1:24:25 GMT -6
So flipping tireeed. The boys must be going through a growth spurt.
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Post by haleyscott on Apr 6, 2019 6:28:35 GMT -6
Thanks Eames. I appreciate that ❤️❤️ tapdancer yes! I know I need to schedule with my therapist but I just don’t know when to fit it in right now. grover I hope you were able to get some sleep last night. If not I hope you can nap today.
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Post by jacks on Apr 6, 2019 7:39:13 GMT -6
jacks, comments like that are why I think parental leave is so important.. so that men can stay home too. Does your boss have kids?? Going to work would be way easier than healing while also caring for newborns. Gah. He has 2 kids, so you would think he understands the whole postpartum thing, but nah. Our company even has a fairly progressive parental leave policy. I think dads get 4 weeks paid now. I would LOVE for MH to get any paid time off. I think he’s bitter because with my first I had proposed several maternity leave plans such as a longer, unpaid time or starting back part time before ramping up to full time and he denied them all. Then I discovered my state allows a longer maternity leave and I took it. Suck it, boss.
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 6, 2019 23:24:35 GMT -6
Eames my 3.5 year old would dick around until 11pm with bedtime shenanigans if I let her. I have to be a hardass, but my h is also a hardass because he knows her fuckery. We will take away fun parts of bedtime if she is difficult during teeth or hair brushing (clamping her mouth closed, etc.)
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