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Post by tgrimes on Apr 4, 2019 9:26:56 GMT -6
It's only been in recent years that potty training has been pushed back though. The norm used to be that as soon as the child turned 2 you potty trained them. In H's case, he's been using the potty regularly since before he turned 2 so I don't really have an excuse. He'll do anything for treats. I was just enjoying being lazy. My MIL wanted to make him a shirt that said: Will perform for food. lol. It just seems to cause a lot of stress for everyone involved. Or maybe I'm just projecting because neither of my kids have shown any interest in potty training at 2 years old. IDK. I don't really care what other people do. I don't think you're projecting. I think waiting till 3 is more of the norm these days. It's just that the preschools aren't catching on to that trend yet. Our preschool will is for sure behind the times on most things. I still have to pay my tuition by check...
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Apr 4, 2019 9:35:08 GMT -6
It just seems to cause a lot of stress for everyone involved. Or maybe I'm just projecting because neither of my kids have shown any interest in potty training at 2 years old. IDK. I don't really care what other people do. I don't think you're projecting. I think waiting till 3 is more of the norm these days. It's just that the preschools aren't catching on to that trend yet. Our preschool will is for sure behind the times on most things. I still have to pay my tuition by check... MH still pays everything by check, so he'd fit right in with your preschool!
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Apr 4, 2019 9:37:50 GMT -6
I was actually just recently shamed into getting venmo. I've still been giving people either cash or writing them a check when I go out and split dinners and whatnot with friends. Finally at brunch everyone was like "dude, you're not that old. Get venmo, it takes 2 minutes to setup". Rude. But I did it, and now I love it.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 4, 2019 9:48:59 GMT -6
I was actually just recently shamed into getting venmo. I've still been giving people either cash or writing them a check when I go out and split dinners and whatnot with friends. Finally at brunch everyone was like "dude, you're not that old. Get venmo, it takes 2 minutes to setup". Rude. But I did it, and now I love it. I don't venmo but I got paypal last year.
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Post by waitwhat on Apr 4, 2019 9:54:51 GMT -6
It just seems to cause a lot of stress for everyone involved. Or maybe I'm just projecting because neither of my kids have shown any interest in potty training at 2 years old. IDK. I don't really care what other people do. I don't think you're projecting. I think waiting till 3 is more of the norm these days. It's just that the preschools aren't catching on to that trend yet. Our preschool will is for sure behind the times on most things. I still have to pay my tuition by check... EVERY single preschool (except the developmental ones) in my area requires kids to be potty trained. Trust me. I looked everywhere. So I have a fire lit under my ass to get J potty trained so he can start preschool in the fall before he even turns 3. ETA I realize you are talking about a daycare / preschool.
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Post by starbuck on Apr 4, 2019 9:59:29 GMT -6
I was actually just recently shamed into getting venmo. I've still been giving people either cash or writing them a check when I go out and split dinners and whatnot with friends. Finally at brunch everyone was like "dude, you're not that old. Get venmo, it takes 2 minutes to setup". Rude. But I did it, and now I love it. My bro has had to pay me back a few times and is always like "what's your Venmo?" I tell him to bring me cash or write a damn check. I'm never changing.
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Post by sarahwithanh on Apr 4, 2019 11:06:43 GMT -6
Do apparently venmo and PayPal are the old thing and I should have cash app. I'm turning into an old lady cuz I'm like fuck this new technology. In regards to the potty training to move up in rooms this is actually a huge problem in the disability world. A lot of drop in care also requires potty training. This ends up excluding our kids because some don't get it for a loonng time. I want to join our local gym and they have two rooms for kids the infant room and the big kid room. Most kids move to the big kid room at 2. M isn't allowed to move until he is walking if we join. He would be bored at shit. Plus tjanca22 and some of our other friends go there and if we wanted to go together M would be in the baby room and they would be in the big kid room. They say it's because of safety and they don't want him knocked over or stepped on but it makes me sad. It is making me reluctant to join too.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 4, 2019 15:30:05 GMT -6
sarahwithanh I have cash app! I got it a couple of years ago. ::flips hair:: (My coworker owed me money and that's how she'd send her son money in college. So I can't take actual credit for being in the know so early.)
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Post by Cheshie6 on Apr 4, 2019 15:30:12 GMT -6
This was what my friend who is counselor and art psychologist posted on her wall! She had her little one in Jan'17 I'm sure it's making it's rounds, but I thought of you all when I read it!
This 'Diary of a 2-Year-Old' Should Be Required Reading for All Parents By Lauren Levy
There's no sugarcoating those toddler years: They can be seriously rough. As these little people start pushing limits, asserting their independence, and developing individual personalities (more like attitudes), parents are left trying not to lose their sanity. But when you stop to think about it, life can also be damn difficult for those going through the terrible twos as they constantly make you mad and you pretty much only hear no. In a poignant post that's going viral across social media, an unknown author is making parents pause by putting things in a toddler's perspective. The meaningful piece was written as if it's an entry in the diary of a 2-year-old and starts off at the beginning of his day. "Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told 'No, we don't have time, let me do it.' This made me sad," the diary says. "I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told 'No, you're too messy, let me do it for you.' This made me feel frustrated." Next, the toddler simply tried to get in the car by himself but was told, "No, we need to get going, we don't have time. Let me do it." That made him cry, but he still tried to get out of the car by himself when they arrived at daycare. However, again he was told "No, we don't have time, let me do it," and made to feel like he wanted to run away. Later, he tried to play with the blocks but other kids said no and wanted to do their way. That ruined blocks for him, so instead, he tried to play with a doll that someone else had. "I took it, I was told 'no, don't do that, you have to share.' I'm not sure what I did, but it made me sad," the diary entry says. "So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told 'no, you're fine, go play.'" Then "pick-up time" comes, but this little guy isn't exactly sure what the adults want him to do. "I am waiting for someone to show me … 'What are you doing, why are you just standing there, pick up your toys … Now,'" he wrote. "I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up." Feeling overwhelmed about where to start, where things go, and just what to do, this 2-year-old can't help but start crying. "When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told 'no, you're too little, let me do it.' This made me feel small," the diary says. "I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying 'here, try this, eat this…' and putting things in my face. I didn't want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry." At this point, the little one is feeling tired, hungry, scared, frustrated, and sad -- yet the adults don't realize it or understand why:
"I am 2. No one will let me dress myself, no one will let me move my own body where it needs to go, no one will let me attend to my own needs. However, I am expected to know how to share, 'listen' or 'wait a minute.' I am expected to know what to say and how to act or handle my emotions. I am expected to sit still or know that if I throw something it might break …. But, I do NOT know these things. I am not allowed to practice my skills of walking, pushing, pulling, zipping, buttoning, pouring, serving, climbing, running, throwing or doing things that I know I can do. Things that interest me and make me curious, these are the things I am NOT allowed to do. I am 2. I am not terrible … I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug."
So the next time you get frustrated with your toddlers' tears or confused about why they're melting down, please remember this anonymous author and his or her words: You aren't the only one having a hard day.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 4, 2019 15:32:09 GMT -6
I have a friend living in Mexico City and she's due this month. They moved their for her H's job a couple years ago. He's an engineer with an oil company and she doesn't work. She just told me they're hiring a full time nanny and for the first 3-4 months they're getting a night nanny, too.
I'm not jealous at all...
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Post by Cheshie6 on Apr 4, 2019 16:17:15 GMT -6
I caught up. Potty training is giving me anxiety as Liam is not interested. It would make the cruise this fall so much more relaxing if he is potty trained but I don't want that to be the reason we do it!
This weekend is going to be crazy. Tomorrow night, Girls' Night with the pool ladies. Saturday, I have a women's conference at church where I'm doing sound and slides/music. DH leaves Sunday for Houston for a few days (get's home Wednesday) and just the fact that I'd be doing potty training 50% alone is just overwhelming. We don't have 3 solid days in a row where we can just do it unless Bill is home. I was told because of his speech delay, potty training would be more complicated. I'm not sure if this is true but I worry he is also behind in his interests that other kids his age are interested in. He's stuck on trains. He likes some animals but everything is about trains.
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Post by danib on Apr 4, 2019 16:52:26 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I saw the original post about the diary entry. It really made me stop and think. Needed the reminder though, thanks.
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Post by waitwhat on Apr 4, 2019 17:11:36 GMT -6
I have a friend living in Mexico City and she's due this month. They moved their for her H's job a couple years ago. He's an engineer with an oil company and she doesn't work. She just told me they're hiring a full time nanny and for the first 3-4 months they're getting a night nanny, too. I'm not jealous at all... omg. I’m totes jelly.
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Post by starbuck on Apr 4, 2019 17:20:48 GMT -6
I have a friend living in Mexico City and she's due this month. They moved their for her H's job a couple years ago. He's an engineer with an oil company and she doesn't work. She just told me they're hiring a full time nanny and for the first 3-4 months they're getting a night nanny, too. I'm not jealous at all... I kind of hate her. Just a little.
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Post by starbuck on Apr 4, 2019 17:23:50 GMT -6
I had a dream last night I was 32w with another set of twins and barely showing. So I go to my doc like "don't you think I should be a giant by now?"
And she takes some measurements and literally while she's working little hands and feet start pushing out my stomach. Like stretching the skin so much you can see individual fingers and toes. It didn't hurt and dream me thought it was the best thing ever.
And she keeps measuring and puts some info into a computer and tells me one of them is 16.9 lbs.
Thank God I woke up before I gave birth or something.
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Post by goldenlove on Apr 4, 2019 18:12:46 GMT -6
Oh my starbuck. Sounds more like a nightmare!
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Post by sarahwithanh on Apr 4, 2019 19:01:37 GMT -6
Cheshie6 try not to worry to much about the interests things. Kids in general are all different. As for potty training and speech will it make training more complicated? Yes and no. There are so many kids who are nonverbal and potty train just as quickly and some quicker. The tricky part is that you have to have a way for him to signal to you that he needs to go. That could be walking to the bathroom, pointing to a picture, or using sign. Have you heard about PECs at all? That is probably my favorite method for nonverbal kiddos because it's easy to use from one adult or another without them having any background. The sign for potty is also easy. You can even check if your library has baby signing time and potty time. We just bought the potty time one and it teaches all the signs associated with the process and encouraged kids as well. Additionally there is a free app that allows u to call Rachel (the face of signing time) she reinforces and encourages potty training with a "phone call". Long story short being nonverbal or having a speech delay does not mean you can't potty train at a "typical" time.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Apr 4, 2019 19:05:42 GMT -6
sarahwithanh, I have the signing time potty time and L doesn’t pay attention to it at all! His only interest in the potty is watching us go!?! Lol 😂 DH because of his appendage, me because I’m missing it!
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Post by sarahwithanh on Apr 4, 2019 21:57:11 GMT -6
sarahwithanh, I have the signing time potty time and L doesn’t pay attention to it at all! His only interest in the potty is watching us go!?! Lol 😂 DH because of his appendage, me because I’m missing it! Lol Do you have a little potty in there? M likes to go with us. That and at bath time. It's early though. Seriously. I think it's easy to jump to the conclusion that there will be other delays when your child has delays. Things can change quickly and I've learned to not discount his abilities before he even has a chance to grow. I think it's fear and us trying to protect ourselves from disappointment.
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Post by goldenlove on Apr 5, 2019 7:49:45 GMT -6
Omg I just won the lottery for Hamilton tickets!!! $10 each. I'm so excited!!
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 5, 2019 7:56:53 GMT -6
Omg I just won the lottery for Hamilton tickets!!! $10 each. I'm so excited!! SHUT UP! THAT'S AWESOME!
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Post by starbuck on Apr 5, 2019 8:58:26 GMT -6
I think to myself hey, I'm working from home, things are slow, H is still home sick (he's working), I should get out of the house and head to Target and grab some lunch today, get in a little me time! And I start to close my browsers and then my boss invites me to a conference call at 11am. I hope it's a quick one.
Oh, and we won some contract work with Maryland and someone (we suspect a competitor) filed a FOIA request to see our proposal. So I get to spend half the day redacting our IP out of the document so they can release the rest of it.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 5, 2019 9:35:14 GMT -6
I'm hard at work today....reading recaps of GoT.
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Post by danib on Apr 5, 2019 9:44:40 GMT -6
I'm just trying to find a babysitter for this weekend so I can go to work. Babysitter still isn't able since her accident, MIL has a cough so doesn't feel up to it, SIL/BsIL have plans, mom is gonna do Saturday but has tickets to my Neice's skating competition on Sunday (whcih takes my sisters out of the equation as well), and my cousin who helps me out on occasion just got a new job and has to work. This is always such a pain. Thank goodness DH comes home Monday.
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Post by goldenlove on Apr 5, 2019 9:57:46 GMT -6
I'm hard at work today....reading recaps of GoT. You have 10 days!! How far are you?
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Post by goldenlove on Apr 5, 2019 9:59:58 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 5, 2019 10:17:47 GMT -6
I'm hard at work today....reading recaps of GoT. You have 10 days!! How far are you? Middle of season 3. Don't you fret, I WILL BE CAUGHT UP! It's funny reading the recaps because I can visually see all the scenes in my head.
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Post by waitwhat on Apr 5, 2019 10:20:38 GMT -6
starbuck, I don't know what any of that means but have fun! I'm sorry you didn't get any me time.
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Post by starbuck on Apr 5, 2019 10:28:20 GMT -6
starbuck , I don't know what any of that means but have fun! I'm sorry you didn't get any me time. This meeting seems almost done and then I'm going to go. The FOIA is a freedom of information act request. We think it could be a competitor, they want to see our proposal and figure out why we won, how we work, etc. so that they can try to use this information in the future. Or, it could be a reporter (we've had similar FOIAs done by a reporter on some of our CDC work on concussions [he writes stories on the NFL]). Or, sometimes people want to protest awards because they don't like the work being done. My money is on competitor, tho.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Apr 5, 2019 10:53:28 GMT -6
sarahwithanh, I have the signing time potty time and L doesn’t pay attention to it at all! His only interest in the potty is watching us go!?! Lol 😂 DH because of his appendage, me because I’m missing it! Lol Do you have a little potty in there? M likes to go with us. That and at bath time. It's early though. Seriously. I think it's easy to jump to the conclusion that there will be other delays when your child has delays. Things can change quickly and I've learned to not discount his abilities before he even has a chance to grow. I think it's fear and us trying to protect ourselves from disappointment. No not yet, the Y has one and he showed no interest there. We’re planning on getting one. Just haven’t pulled the trigger! I agree with protecting ourselves from disappointment. But I also wworry that I may push him too hard, and do more damage than good!
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