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Post by lemondrop on Mar 17, 2019 10:42:44 GMT -6
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 17, 2019 11:33:11 GMT -6
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Post by Wicket on Mar 17, 2019 12:21:42 GMT -6
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Post by pambee on Mar 17, 2019 12:25:13 GMT -6
So I am “Co-hosting” a bridal shower in May for my H’s cousin. I put that in quotes because it’s with my MIL and 2 SILs who all love close together and they basically do all the work and tell me what my share of the cost is. Assuming I don’t deliver early, I will be 6 weeks out from c-section. Would you drive 4.5 hours to the shower? I’d also probably have to bring the baby to the shower because I’m planning on breastfeeding and wouldn’t have a pump stash by then. So lots of relatives that potentially might want to hold baby. It’s Memorial Day weekend so H and D1 would definitely come because she love, loves spending time with all her cousins. Since your H would be going too, I would say yes I would go. Are you doing the trip in one day or would you stay a night? If you had the option I'd probably prefer to stay a night and not drive 9 hours in one day with two kids, because you'll want to stop and get out a few times to feed and stretch. Is your car big enough you could sit in the back with the kids in case baby got too fussy? That would probably be helpful too if you could just in case. Really though I think I would play it by year and decide as it got closer and you knew better what his temperament is/how he does in the car/how you feel physically (and emotionally!), Etc.
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Post by pambee on Mar 17, 2019 12:25:33 GMT -6
Well, we go in this evening for induction. I’m super excited, but I’m getting more nervous as time gets closer. We’re relaxing at home, finishing up some laundry, and just trying to enjoy our last day as just the two of us. H says he’s more excited than nervous. I can’t wait to see him hold our daughter! He’s going to be such an amazing daddy. Eep so exciting! Good luck tonight 😀
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Post by snickerdoodle on Mar 17, 2019 12:41:29 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2019 13:12:30 GMT -6
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Post by haleyscott on Mar 17, 2019 13:28:50 GMT -6
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 17, 2019 13:29:57 GMT -6
Thanks y’all!!
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Post by Yogurt on Mar 17, 2019 13:43:12 GMT -6
orangehibiscus thinking of you today!!! Hoping for a smooth and easy delivery. ❤
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Post by loorin on Mar 17, 2019 13:53:49 GMT -6
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Post by bex15 on Mar 17, 2019 15:19:20 GMT -6
So excited for you orangehibiscus!! Best of luck, can’t wait for an update!
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Mar 17, 2019 16:34:10 GMT -6
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Mar 17, 2019 16:39:09 GMT -6
jacks we went on a 4 hour one way trip to visit my family 3 times on my last maternity leave. Once when DS was 3 weeks, then 5 weeks and 7 weeks. My husband drove and i sat with the kids. We stopped if ds was fussy. we of course spent the night because it was for my brothers wedding, SIL bachelorette party and cousins wedding. All that to say I would do go to the shower but spend the night.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 17, 2019 17:32:57 GMT -6
Thanks everyone! Contractions are a bit painful now, and they’re coming about every minute and 45 seconds. Doula says this is early labor!
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Post by grover on Mar 17, 2019 18:50:49 GMT -6
orangehibiscus, Can't wait to hear that your baby girl is here! Baby cuddles are the absolute best! (Also, super super awesome to see my H interact with the boys- he was/is fantastic with DD, but has been all grumble grumble grumble the entire pregnancy about how he didn't want three kids, and how the twins means there's 33% too much kid. Except, he absolutely melted everytime we visited the boys in NICU and when he came to the room tonight and they were in my room. I love it <3 )
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 17, 2019 23:54:03 GMT -6
Thanks grover! That’s adorable how cute your H is with the twins!
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 17, 2019 23:56:42 GMT -6
I got checked when I got to the hospital for my induction. I am 4cm dilated, 70% effaced, and baby is at a -1 station. I’m so happy to be making progress on my own. I’m tired, but I don’t want to sleep and potentially slow down the progress.
H and I have been walking, and I’m bouncing on the ball right now watching TV. My OB will probably be back in a few hours to check me again.
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Post by bex15 on Mar 19, 2019 12:07:36 GMT -6
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Post by Eames on Mar 19, 2019 13:49:02 GMT -6
orangehibiscus, thinking of you! My ILs are here and my H went back to work yesterday. I really miss the time we had at home just our little family. My ILs are great but they are staying here for 2 weeks and our house is just not that big. I keep feeling like I have to go upstairs to nurse for privacy. Then if I take a shower or anything I'll come downstairs and they will be feeding them bottles. I'm trying hard to put them to breast during the day, because we are already doing bottles at night. Again they mean well and they have been so sweet, but I have trouble speaking up so it's definitely my issue. Oh and my MIL scolded me for carrying a basket of laundry. I mean I feel fine? I'm going to ask today at the OB if I have any restrictions. But then she did our laundry and then folded my gross post partum underwear without me asking/knowing. Yikes. I think I am just a private person, especially after birth. MIL also keeps commenting on how she doesn't know how I will "survive" being home just myself with the twins. Like hinting they could stay longer if needed? Which, I need to figure out how to manage all this, honestly, but we'll be fine. I'm actually looking forward to getting into a routine with them. They are also commenting on EVERY SINGLE THING each baby does, like, Oh! He has hiccups! Oh! He didn't finish his bottle! Etc. etc. I feel much more breezy this time around, like yes babies get hiccups and will let you know when they aren't hungry anymore, besides I just nursed them? So just relax! Haha. Ok thanks for letting me rant a bit!
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Post by pambee on Mar 19, 2019 13:59:10 GMT -6
Oh my Eames, that is a lot! I would go crazy. But I'm sure the extra hands are helpful...for now. I'm like you though and pretty #breezy, and am always ready to just get into my own routine.
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Post by Eames on Mar 19, 2019 14:07:26 GMT -6
Oh my Eames, that is a lot! I would go crazy. But I'm sure the extra hands are helpful...for now. I'm like you though and pretty #breezy, and am always ready to just get into my own routine. It's definitely been great to have them here to help make dinner, load the dishwasher, give DD breakfast, etc. But hands off my gross undies!! 😭
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Post by lemondrop on Mar 19, 2019 15:06:57 GMT -6
Eames, I broke up with the guy I dated before my H because his mom folded my thongs so... I understand, lol. It's so appreciated that they want to be helpful, but it feels like a violation of privacy. I'd 100% be pissed at the "how will you survive" comments, too, but try to let it roll off your back. If they keep hinting, remind them that you grew them for 9 months and birthed them, you'll manage just fine. They don't need to be putting little seeds of doubt in your mind. If they persist, get your H involved to tell them to STFU. Like, imagine if you had PPD - those kinds of comments could literally send you into a tailspin of doom. Now I'm angry for you, lol.
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Post by grover on Mar 19, 2019 16:49:57 GMT -6
Eames, I'm so sorry about your inlaws. That would drive me nuts! That said, MIL closed her BnB last week and this week for weekdays and said she was going to come help us the last few days of pregnancy and first few days of babies. And then pulled the offer five minutes later. Then came down the day of csection, left next morning, and is now back as of yesterday. BUT, she made up for it- she cleaned main level yesterday (including baseboards!), did dishes, etc, cleaned and sanitized fridge, bought sushi dinner last night. Today she brought breakfast turnovers, Starbucks, bought us a new mop and mopped the main level, helped me while H took a nap, paying for dinner that H is running out for now, and is currently giving the toddler a bath. It also helps that she keeps telling me how awesome I am for carrying these boys to 37+5, how I'm an awesome mom, and she hopes to keep our Christmas gift housecleaner as long as she can coming to our house. Plus, she took it on herself to get a hotel for nights. And is leaving Thursday morning. But she also did yell at me for carrying a light basket down the stairs. So I guess ours are similar in a way LOL.
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Post by bex15 on Mar 19, 2019 17:20:51 GMT -6
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Post by loorin on Mar 19, 2019 17:41:18 GMT -6
Eames I can sympathize entirely - this baby is still in right now but your post just made me flashback to my daughter’s birth and my in laws and it was intense. I regret not speaking up at the time because i still have a lot of feelings about everything. I know you shouldn’t have to feel like you need to go upstairs or to your room for nursing privacy but at least that can give you some breathing room. My MIL sat right next to me, trying to peek down the nursing cover, commenting on how much noise my kid was making while she was nursing. 😬 Thankfully she stayed away from my underwear, I think I would’ve died of embarrassment. Not sure what she’ll try this go around. Hope things get easier for you and the help they provide will ultimately outweigh the uncomfortable moments.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 19, 2019 19:23:06 GMT -6
Thanks for thinking of me! I had my baby girl yesterday. She is perfect! Ugh Eames. That sounds terrible. Your ILs need to respect your wishes! Can your H talk to them?
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Post by grover on Mar 19, 2019 19:31:54 GMT -6
It wasn't always..... she was very helicopter when H was in college. Things got way better after we went from half hour apart to 3 hours apart.
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Post by snickerdoodle on Mar 19, 2019 19:39:34 GMT -6
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Post by orangehibiscus on Mar 19, 2019 19:45:02 GMT -6
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