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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 6, 2019 8:10:07 GMT -6
Poor guy pixiepink24. Any chance he has a stuffy nose and is having a hard time breathing trying to eat? That would be a bummer if it's still reflux, but at least that would give you an answer. I hope things turn around today and you can avoid the ER. No, he's is having these issues with a clear nose. When he gets super upset and gags really bad, then that causes some congestion(just like when he was a newborn with silent reflux), but he has the issue before the congestion. In good news, he woke up from morning nap and actually had a full nursing session without any problems!!!! I gave him Zantac before his nap. He hasn't had a real nursing session in over 24 hours so this is great. But now he has the dreaded hiccups. Lol! ETA: the doctor looked at his throat, ears, nose and no issues too
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Post by Dramaphile on Mar 6, 2019 8:16:56 GMT -6
Ugh, DS2 is destroying my nips all of a sudden. The way he's chewing on things I'm wondering if he's messing with his latch because his gums hurt, but it's killing me. Not to mention he has a fantastic habit of turning to look at something without unlatching first. Last night he pulled back to rub his eyes because he was tired and pulled back so far without letting go. I'm going to start using nipple butter again so see if that helps soothe them, but ugh they hurt. I am right there with you. C's latch has been so crappy the past week or so and I am hurting. He's a little boogery so I don't know if it's that, or him being distracted, or teething or what.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 8:45:42 GMT -6
Poor guy pixiepink24 . Any chance he has a stuffy nose and is having a hard time breathing trying to eat? That would be a bummer if it's still reflux, but at least that would give you an answer. I hope things turn around today and you can avoid the ER. No, he's is having these issues with a clear nose. When he gets super upset and gags really bad, then that causes some congestion(just like when he was a newborn with silent reflux), but he has the issue before the congestion. In good news, he woke up from morning nap and actually had a full nursing session without any problems!!!! I gave him Zantac before his nap. He hasn't had a real nursing session in over 24 hours so this is great. But now he has the dreaded hiccups. Lol! ETA: the doctor looked at his throat, ears, nose and no issues too Yay for a good session!! I hope that means things have turned a corner and he'll be all set from here. Boo hiccups. Adorable but so annoying to baby.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 8:49:47 GMT -6
Ugh, DS2 is destroying my nips all of a sudden. The way he's chewing on things I'm wondering if he's messing with his latch because his gums hurt, but it's killing me. Not to mention he has a fantastic habit of turning to look at something without unlatching first. Last night he pulled back to rub his eyes because he was tired and pulled back so far without letting go. I'm going to start using nipple butter again so see if that helps soothe them, but ugh they hurt. I am right there with you. C's latch has been so crappy the past week or so and I am hurting. He's a little boogery so I don't know if it's that, or him being distracted, or teething or what. I'm sorry you're in pain too, but I'm glad I'm not alone. I was starting to wonder if I needed to be worrying about thrush or something even though it's not that common and I have no reason to suspect it other than the pain.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 8:51:19 GMT -6
pixiepink24 I'm sorry for the worry with your DS. I'm glad that he nursed and I hope that whatever was going on is passed now 🙂 Nymeria and Dramaphile sorry for your poor nips!
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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 6, 2019 8:56:31 GMT -6
I really wonder if his reflux is more severe. Like GERD or something. It just doesn't seem the same as other people describe their baby's reflux. 🤷♀️
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 9:05:25 GMT -6
I really wonder if his reflux is more severe. Like GERD or something. It just doesn't seem the same as other people describe their baby's reflux. 🤷♀️ I hope not, but if your mom-tuition tells you it may be, I'd think it would be worth looking into.
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 9:23:32 GMT -6
I just officially gave notice that I'm not going back to work next school year 😬 I'm so glad I'm able to stay home but I'm also worried about going crazy at home and what this will do for my prospects of finding a job when I eventually go back.
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 9:25:00 GMT -6
pixiepink24 sorry your ds is having issues! Hopefully you'll figure out what is going on soon. Nymeria Dramaphile a few weeks ago my nips were killing me too. DD likes to pull off really hard and I feel like her latch has been crappy too.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 9:58:58 GMT -6
I just officially gave notice that I'm not going back to work next school year 😬 I'm so glad I'm able to stay home but I'm also worried about going crazy at home and what this will do for my prospects of finding a job when I eventually go back. Congrats! Finding some activities that force you to get out of the house could help keep you from going crazy!
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 11:53:02 GMT -6
I just officially gave notice that I'm not going back to work next school year 😬 I'm so glad I'm able to stay home but I'm also worried about going crazy at home and what this will do for my prospects of finding a job when I eventually go back. Congrats! Finding some activities that force you to get out of the house could help keep you from going crazy! oh ya, we will be doing the library, parks, etc. We just need the weather to not be so freezing cold!
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 13:31:51 GMT -6
Congratulations brenna! I didn't know you were thinking about staying home more long term. That's exciting! I feel you on the trying-not-to-go-crazy part though... I'm currently going crazy.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 13:33:05 GMT -6
Congrats! Finding some activities that force you to get out of the house could help keep you from going crazy! oh ya, we will be doing the library, parks, etc. We just need the weather to not be so freezing cold! This. For the love of whatever, I am ready for spring.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 13:52:50 GMT -6
I am quite pissed at MH right now. Today, for the second time fairly recently he's "reprimanded" me for saying a bad word in front of or snapping at the kids. It makes me soooo angry. He knows that it upsets me and he NEVER apologizes. I feel like I can react the right way 1,000 times when I'm alone with the kids all day, but then that one time I react unfavorably and he scolds me for it! Wtf?! I am with the kids 24-7. I basically never get away. My primary adult interaction and conversation is with him and when he treats me like a child I just want to pull away from him and then I have no one and feel even more alone. There are times that he's with ONE of the kids for only a couple hours and he's loosing his cool, so I don't even want to fucking hear it when I'm with them all the time. Plus, I was sick with dizziness, nausea and a headache all day yesterday (I am 1000% not pg. Just to clear that up!) alone with both kids and then got shit for sleep last night when I really needed it because DD woke up every 2-3 hours. How about being more supportive instead of cutting me down when I'm already having a hard time H??
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 14:06:10 GMT -6
tbirdlove I'm sorry your DH is treating you that way. DH will get frustrated with dd1 after just being home for an hour and I want to say "see! My job is hard too! And I have to deal with it 24/7!" ETA: when you mentioned being dizzy and having nausea I was like OMG she's pregnant! Haha
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 14:20:39 GMT -6
Congratulations brenna! I didn't know you were thinking about staying home more long term. That's exciting! I feel you on the trying-not-to-go-crazy part though... I'm currently going crazy. are you going to continue to stay home? I feel like once the kids are old enough for school it's going to be so hard to get back into work and I'm not even sure I'll go back to teaching. Even though DH and I have planned for me to stay home longer term it's kinda freaking me out today since its official now and my job is gone 😳
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 15:15:23 GMT -6
tbirdlove - I'd be pissed. MH and I both try to be good in front of the kids but the occasional bad word slips - I'd be so mad if he scolded me for it.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 15:16:57 GMT -6
Congratulations brenna! I didn't know you were thinking about staying home more long term. That's exciting! I feel you on the trying-not-to-go-crazy part though... I'm currently going crazy. are you going to continue to stay home? I feel like once the kids are old enough for school it's going to be so hard to get back into work and I'm not even sure I'll go back to teaching. Even though DH and I have planned for me to stay home longer term it's kinda freaking me out today since its official now and my job is gone 😳 Yes, I'll continue to stay at home. We'll probably re-evaluate when the kids are both in school. But I didn't really have much of a "career" job anyways, so I'll just end up in something random if/when I go back to work. The idea of going to some meaningless, unfulfilling job everyday really bums me out though 😔 After being at home doing the hard work when they're so little, I hope I can enjoy some of the school age years that are a little less chaotic at home too. We will see what happens. MH has been contemplating a career change for some time, so if that happens maybe it will more likely of an option for me to stay at home.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 15:19:53 GMT -6
brenna and Nymeria thanks for the validation of the incident with MH. He's now just going on about his day brushing it under the rug that he pissed me off and that I went crying upstairs by myself 😒
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 21:04:43 GMT -6
After more or less ignoring each other the rest of the evening, I blew up at MH after I got the kids down. The conversation did not go well. He didn't seem to care that I was upset. I don't feel any better. In fact I may feel worse because it's like the conversation really just showed how empty our relationship is right now.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 6, 2019 21:07:05 GMT -6
I'm sorry tbirdlove. He is 100% in the wrong here and I'm sad for you he doesn't realize that.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 6, 2019 21:25:29 GMT -6
Nymeria thanks. I'm not perfect in our relationship for sure. He says I yell at him all the time for things too, which I suppose is true. But I feel like it's more for things like when DS is doing something that he shouldn't be doing (like standing on the furniture, getting too rambunctious in the house, playing and making a mess with his food, etc) and MH does nothing about it. I don't know. I guess I have to pay more attention to what I'm yelling at him about and make sure that I'm not living in a glass house....
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Post by brenna on Mar 6, 2019 22:43:43 GMT -6
I'm sorry tbirdlove. I hope your DH will apologize and realize why you are so upset. Hopefully tomorrow (or soon) you guys can have another conversation to hash it out more.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 7, 2019 6:59:23 GMT -6
tbirdlove - Observing yourself is never a bad idea but if you're really only saying something to him when it's a kid safety issue like you described that does not at all balance out with him yelling at you for a word or reaction. I really hope he starts to get it at some point.
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 7, 2019 7:01:24 GMT -6
I have a tracking sheet that I send with DS2 on days my mom or MIL watches him so I can see how his day goes. I won't say anything to her because she's basically taking too good care of him, but my MIL had DS2 from about 8am-5pm yesterday. She changed his diaper 8 times. 8!!! That's almost every hour. He is not peeing enough to actually need to be changed every hour. No wonder diapers seem like they're disappearing so quickly some days.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 7, 2019 7:41:00 GMT -6
tbirdloveI'm so sorry that your H did that. It would bother me too. I hope you guys are able to talk about it and work through it. Either way, scolding you like a child is uncalled for. I hope today is a better day.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 7, 2019 13:52:10 GMT -6
I have a tracking sheet that I send with DS2 on days my mom or MIL watches him so I can see how his day goes. I won't say anything to her because she's basically taking too good care of him, but my MIL had DS2 from about 8am-5pm yesterday. She changed his diaper 8 times. 8!!! That's almost every hour. He is not peeing enough to actually need to be changed every hour. No wonder diapers seem like they're disappearing so quickly some days. 8 times is a bit much! 😄 But, way to be on top of things MIL!
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Post by brenna on Mar 7, 2019 21:33:38 GMT -6
tbirdlove I've been thinking about you today and hope you are feeling better about everything with your DH! Hopefully he has come to his senses and apologized for reprimanding you and then making it not a big deal.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 8, 2019 6:57:43 GMT -6
Thanks brenna 🙂 It wasn't a great day yesterday, but hopefully it will all blow over. He gave his usual BS "apology" and said he wouldn't do it again, so that's about as good as I'll get from him.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 8, 2019 7:07:46 GMT -6
Last night was crap. I keep getting a headache that I cannot get rid of ever since Tuesday when I was dizzy. I tried to go to bed early which for some reason ALWAYS leads to a guaranteed bad night. Like, how dare I try to be responsible and get more rest when I really need it??? DD's sleep is already in a bad phase right now. And then, because why not, DS was up crying three times last night and is now up for the day almost an hour early. Send coffeeeeeee 😭☕ (< ---- That's me crying in said coffee!)
This is just a phase.....
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