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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 13, 2019 12:52:54 GMT -6
I think we saw nearly every hour after 2:00am with DD. We're in Leap 4, so who knows if it's because of that or maybe the four month sleep regression coming on (she'll be four months on the 21st), or maybe just an off night. Regardless, it was unpleasant. MH took DS for an outing today so I am enjoying dilly dallying at home just me and DD. It's so much easier with only one kid to tend to....
I've got the bug to purge and organize my house. Has anyone been watching Tidying Up on Netflix?!
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 13, 2019 13:37:10 GMT -6
Annnnnd just as I'm saying that I'm actually enjoying a part of my day.....everything goes to hell. I'm trying to eat my lunch and DD takes a big poo. Naturally she shits all up her back, as usual. You guys - I had her in a size 3 diaper because I am so fed up with poop everywhere. It's not even just a little poop leaking up her back, it's a lot every time. Not even the bigger diaper helped. So I have to sit my lunch aside while I change her, during which time she starts screaming and crying because now she's ready for a nap. So I continue to leave my lunch, staring longingly at it as I have to walk away, and take DD upstairs to put her down. When I come back downstairs the fucking dog had pulled my paper dish off the table and ate my fucking lunch. To say that I am pissed would be a vast understatement. I feel like I can't catch a break lately. I am so fed up with everything lately.
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 13, 2019 14:14:49 GMT -6
Now DD just rolled from back to belly in her crib. She did this one other time a couple of nights ago. She gets herself spun around with her feet towards the front railings, then she pushes off of the crib rails and rolls over. I don't really think she's doing it intentionally. She doesn't know how to roll back! I don't care for this development. I don't want her to try to sleep on her belly when she doesn't know how to roll belly to back yet.
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 13, 2019 17:49:45 GMT -6
Ugh I'm sorry for the terrible night and day tbirdlove. For the poop issues, have you tried different brands as well as sizing up? I can't remember. Seems crazy every poop is up out the back. |
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 13, 2019 19:07:15 GMT -6
Ugh I'm sorry for the terrible night and day tbirdlove. For the poop issues, have you tried different brands as well as sizing up? I can't remember. Seems crazy every poop is up out the back. I've only tried two brands. Thought I'd try to size up before trying a third. I really thought the bigger size would work. I thought the general rule was when they start pooping out of every diaper, it's time to size up. |
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Post by akwild on Jan 13, 2019 22:07:18 GMT -6
My goodness tbirdlove that sounds like a super frustrating day. I hope things calm down. I got up with P today at 6. On school days I have to wake her, but weekends she just gets up.... I went to school and put a small dent in my classroom. It’s frustrating because I was so ahead preparing for leave, now I feel like I’m struggling to get next week done. It’s like the beginning of the school year in January. My mom came over watched the girls so the H and I could go grocery shopping, we made dinner and prepped some stuff for lunch. I’m finally sitting back down at 7. I’m exhausted. I’m just waiting for P to wake back up her nap so I can go to bed. She’s had some congestion since starting daycare and has taken some LONG naps this weekend. |
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 13, 2019 22:30:23 GMT -6
akwild I hope you get settled in at school soon!
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Post by pixiepink24 on Jan 14, 2019 9:23:38 GMT -6
I miss my pregnancy skin. I had zero breakouts during pregnancy and it was amazing. Now I'm dealing with lovely blemishes again. 😞
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 14, 2019 10:23:08 GMT -6
I miss my pregnancy skin. I had zero breakouts during pregnancy and it was amazing. Now I'm dealing with lovely blemishes again. 😞 I miss pregnancy no hair shedding. Peak hair loss for me with DS1 was 4-6 months and I've definitely hit that now. It makes me feel so gross in the shower. |
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 14, 2019 10:32:49 GMT -6
I miss not having squishy love handles because my big pregnant belly pulled everything taught 😂
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 14, 2019 10:39:31 GMT -6
Today when I tried to put DD down for her morning nap, she just kept clumsily rolling onto her belly and getting angry! She still seems to be using the crib rails to push herself over, so I don't think she can do it unassisted yet. But apparently this is going to be a thing now! She finally settled for being on her side and fell asleep.
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Post by brenna on Jan 14, 2019 11:33:55 GMT -6
I miss my pregnancy skin. I had zero breakouts during pregnancy and it was amazing. Now I'm dealing with lovely blemishes again. 😞 I miss pregnancy no hair shedding. Peak hair loss for me with DS1 was 4-6 months and I've definitely hit that now. It makes me feel so gross in the shower. I'm getting hair by the handfuls in the shower. It's so gross! |
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Post by brenna on Jan 14, 2019 11:34:48 GMT -6
DH and I are struggling right now. Lots of miscommunication and frustrations with each other. I hope it gets better soon 😥
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 14, 2019 11:45:14 GMT -6
DH and I are struggling right now. Lots of miscommunication and frustrations with each other. I hope it gets better soon 😥 I'm sorry, that's tough. MH and I struggled a lot the first year with DS. We're not struggling per se this time, but we are very disconnected. I hope maybe you guys can find some time soon to talk through some of your frustrations. |
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 14, 2019 12:08:11 GMT -6
DH and I are struggling right now. Lots of miscommunication and frustrations with each other. I hope it gets better soon 😥 I'm sorry, that's tough. MH and I struggled a lot the first year with DS. We're not struggling per se this time, but we are very disconnected. I hope maybe you guys can find some time soon to talk through some of your frustrations. Disconnected - this is us right now too. I know more sexy time would help but it's hard to fit in with the 2 kids and plus my already non-existent sex drive is not exactly helped by breastfeeding, being exhausted all the time, and not feeling great about my body so even when we do have time unless MH initiates it doesn't happen. I know it will get easier once DS2 sleeps better at night or we can manage any regular overlapping of naps, but for now things in our house feel off too. I think it's a very common problem when there's a new baby. |
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 14, 2019 16:25:13 GMT -6
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Post by brenna on Jan 14, 2019 19:15:38 GMT -6
We are disconnected for sure. I feel like the second he walks in the door I'm handing off the kids because all hell breaks loose around 4/4:30 every single day and I'm stressed and exhausted when he gets home at 6/6:30. Then after bed time we both want to take a little time by ourselves and then I go to bed and it starts all over.
Does anyone else's toddler just start getting into everything, making messed, etc. Around 4pm?
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 14, 2019 20:34:26 GMT -6
Nymeria it's going a lot better than it was. It's still not ideal, but it's better. His bedtime is annoying late now to make sure that he's tired enough to fall asleep quickly (which still apparently isn't happening tonight). I feel like bedtime with him takes a damn hour or more now. Plus her bedtime in there now as well and I'm just over bedtime!!! He still wakes up crying at least once or twice a night, sometime three or four times, but it's not as crazy and he's going back down easily most times. I need to start waking him earlier in the morning so that we can start to move bedtime back earlier, but I just can't function for shit in the morning these days so I can't bring myself to set an alarm and get up early. I'm not a morning person. Thanks for asking 
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 14, 2019 20:54:33 GMT -6
brenna my DS is always making a 'mess' all day, but only really with his own toys and books and stuff. He doesn't have access to anything that I'd really consider to be truly messy. I absolutely hear you about waiting to pass off the kids. I hate admitting this, but I honestly have been spending a good part of every single day being pissed off and irritated and wanting time away from my kids. I feel bad that I'm feeling that way, and I'm sure a lot of it is because I am in such desperate need of time to myself. But that very rarely happens. And then of course I feel guilty when I hand off the kids when MH gets home! Whenever I try to do anything for myself and I hear him getting frustrated with them it just intensifies the guilt and I feel like I need to go and help him.
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Post by brenna on Jan 14, 2019 21:35:12 GMT -6
brenna my DS is always making a 'mess' all day, but only really with his own toys and books and stuff. He doesn't have access to anything that I'd really consider to be truly messy. I absolutely hear you about waiting to pass off the kids. I hate admitting this, but I honestly have been spending a good part of every single day being pissed off and irritated and wanting time away from my kids. I feel bad that I'm feeling that way, and I'm sure a lot of it is because I am in such desperate need of time to myself. But that very rarely happens. And then of course I feel guilty when I hand off the kids when MH gets home! Whenever I try to do anything for myself and I hear him getting frustrated with them it just intensifies the guilt and I feel like I need to go and help him. I hear you on all of that! Last night when DH and I were talking about everything that's been going on between us he said he wanted me to take a break 3 times a week and get out of the house and away from the girls. I asked him when and how I would do that and he said we'd find people to watch the girls or I could go after bedtime. Uh finding people three times a week will be more stressful than just staying here and after bedtime I just want to go to bed myself. It will get easier someday right?! |
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Post by pixiepink24 on Jan 15, 2019 11:55:20 GMT -6
I'm struggling most right now with my 3.5 yr old. I've noticed that I'm very angry about a lot of things and I feel like I'm displacing my anger towards DD. This age is just so hard especially since we've basically cut all naps. I feel like we used to be so close and now I'm just annoyed by her 75% of the time. I feel like I'm sucking at being her mom right now.
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 15, 2019 11:58:06 GMT -6
tbirdlove - Better is a good start! I hope it keeps up that way then you can start moving his bed time back to a more normal time!
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Post by pixiepink24 on Jan 15, 2019 11:58:59 GMT -6
I'm sorry so many of you feel disconnected from your husbands. I'm sorry I have no advice on that.
I wish I could hand off the kids at times but I can't. I really could use just a moment to breathe or a moment to myself.
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Post by brenna on Jan 15, 2019 12:04:33 GMT -6
I'm struggling most right now with my 3.5 yr old. I've noticed that I'm very angry about a lot of things and I feel like I'm displacing my anger towards DD. This age is just so hard especially since we've basically cut all naps. I feel like we used to be so close and now I'm just annoyed by her 75% of the time. I feel like I'm sucking at being her mom right now. I feel the same. I get so frustrated at things that used to be no big deal. Going from one to two kids had been much harder than I expected. |
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 15, 2019 12:08:27 GMT -6
I'm struggling most right now with my 3.5 yr old. I've noticed that I'm very angry about a lot of things and I feel like I'm displacing my anger towards DD. This age is just so hard especially since we've basically cut all naps. I feel like we used to be so close and now I'm just annoyed by her 75% of the time. I feel like I'm sucking at being her mom right now. Hugs. I'm having the same issue actually with my 2 year old. It makes me feel terrible because 4 months ago he was my world and I still absolutely love him but a lot of the time I just can't deal right now. The baby still needs so much time and attention that when he doesn't need something I don't really want to deal with anyone or anything else. It's hard enough even when we still get the quiet time from DS1's naps, so I imagine giving up naps has to make it even harder. I'm not saying this is the case with you, but I've started to wonder if I have a touch of PPD coming through as anger. And this is actually the first time I'm admitting that to anyone. As DS2 gets older it has been getting easier, but I definitely still have a ways to go. So no suggestions really, but you're not alone and you DO NOT suck at being her mom. 2 kids is hard. |
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 15, 2019 12:14:14 GMT -6
Another night of couldn't put him down resulting in cosleeping. I don't mind the cuddles but I would love a night to myself. I don't like to medicate unless truly
necessary, but I'm considering giving Tylenol tonight just to see if it makes a difference since I feel like teething could be part of the problem.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Jan 15, 2019 12:29:21 GMT -6
NymeriaYes, I've actually wondered if this anger I'm feeling is PPA. I don't think I've dealt with PPD or PPA before but I've heard it can come out as anger. I mentioned it this morning in the mother group at the birth center and plan to talk about to Friday at my therapy appointment. Luckily I haven't felt those feelings towards the baby and we seem to be bonding well. And thank you!
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Post by Nymeria on Jan 15, 2019 14:44:13 GMT -6
pixiepink24 - Yea it's hard to tell if the feelings are just because my first was my only kid and therefore was inherently easier because there was only one of him and this is just due to going from one kid to two, or if the feelings are more. Since things have been getting better I haven't done anything about it yet, but it's certainly something I'm trying to pay attention to.
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Post by tbirdlove on Jan 15, 2019 19:27:28 GMT -6
Hugs to everyone today. Shit. I'm glad we're talking about this. Lately I feel so much of exactly what you're all saying. I'm annoyed and angry at DS majority of the time, I feel awful for yelling at him and being irritated with him so frequently, I speak rather negatively to/at him sometimes, and I feel guilty that I just can't deal with him because I'm so exhausted. I feel irritated with DD too sometimes. All the issues with DS's sleep have really taken a toll on me. I feel like that's when "the wheels came off" for me. I've also been considering talking to my OB about possible PPD. I have a history of depression so I'm always checking in with myself. But when it comes to the kids, the feelings are always different than when I've suffered from depression in the past. But lately I've been thinking that maybe I shouldn't feel so angry and impatient and irritated as much as I have been. I don't want to feel this way so often. Life is passing me by because I'm too tired/frustrated to enjoy it.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Jan 15, 2019 20:11:32 GMT -6
I'm so glad I'm not alone in this, though I wish we all weren't experiencing it. Being a mom is So. Fucking. Hard.
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