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Post by jt2378 on Oct 15, 2018 11:34:23 GMT -6
Hi Ladies, how's everyone? How's the babies who are now toddlers? AAhhhhhh
Anyone who is still having sleep woes, if you aren't feeding them at wakeups, WTF do you do??? I try ignoring and sometimes it works but other times its so damn loud to listen to her scream and go on and on that it just ramps up my anxiety. The times I nurse her back to sleep she is down in 10 minutes. I keep hoping she is like my first and just figures it out and stops nursing MOTN and STTN. It was right at the 14 month mark with DD1 but not sure with this one.
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Post by king26 on Oct 15, 2018 12:21:20 GMT -6
Hi Ladies, how's everyone? How's the babies who are now toddlers? AAhhhhhh Anyone who is still having sleep woes, if you aren't feeding them at wakeups, WTF do you do??? I try ignoring and sometimes it works but other times its so damn loud to listen to her scream and go on and on that it just ramps up my anxiety. The times I nurse her back to sleep she is down in 10 minutes. I keep hoping she is like my first and just figures it out and stops nursing MOTN and STTN. It was right at the 14 month mark with DD1 but not sure with this one. I'd also like to know. Sometimes J falls back to sleep on his own, sometimes I go and put his binky in, and sometimes I have to give him a bottle. If I give him a bottle he goes right back to sleep. If I hold and rock sometimes it takes forever. I hate sleep right now. Last night J was up from 1230 to 2 crying even after having a bottle which is really rare. So...sleep ducks here too.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 15, 2018 14:20:41 GMT -6
With toddler H, we put his binky back in or let him cry for five minutes and he goes back to sleep. It took about a week for him to get it once we stopped feeding him at night.
Ds1 never took the binky, so at this age we gave up in desperation and started co-sleeping.
Good luck!! Hopefully, it will just fade away with shorter wake ups until they cease.
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Post by muscari on Oct 15, 2018 14:33:54 GMT -6
Hi Ladies, how's everyone? How's the babies who are now toddlers? AAhhhhhh Anyone who is still having sleep woes, if you aren't feeding them at wakeups, WTF do you do??? I try ignoring and sometimes it works but other times its so damn loud to listen to her scream and go on and on that it just ramps up my anxiety. The times I nurse her back to sleep she is down in 10 minutes. I keep hoping she is like my first and just figures it out and stops nursing MOTN and STTN. It was right at the 14 month mark with DD1 but not sure with this one. What is that you're talking about, not feeding at wake-ups??!! How else am I supposed to get her to fall back asleep LOL!! Hahahahahahahaa
Ok seriously though, it depends. Some times I can pick her up and rock her back to sleep without much trouble, other times she won't have it and will wriggle and fuss till she finds my boob. I realise I may be the odd oneout here, but as we have been bed-sharing since July on, I've not been too bothered by motn wake ups and nursing her back to sleep, as I will easily fall back asleep myself. Switching to bed-sharing has been my life safer as the nights were going worse and worse and I was starting to fall apart. Now these past months have been rough with D. rolling from one illness into teething into another cold into more teeth into more illness, but during better nights she's actually starting to sleep longer stretches and is learning to sooth herself back to sleep = ♥♥♥ I hope she's finally growing into less MOTN wake ups and possibly STTN again? Seems like forever ago that she did that. (fact.. it was forever ago LOL.. she hasn't STTN since she was 6mo lol)
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Post by muscari on Oct 15, 2018 14:36:32 GMT -6
I feel bad.. I totally forgot to light my candle at 7pm for the International Wave of Light as part of Pregnancy& infant loss awareness day today. We were in the middle of bedtime routine and the time just slipped by.
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2018 14:37:32 GMT -6
On the nights N wakes up we just let him cry for up to 15min then we go in and give a paci and a hug. Then we repeat every 15-20min until he falls asleep. Usually Only takes 1visit maybe 2. Every now and then if he’s really going apeshit or we think he’s sick or something we will pick him up and rock him a little. Check his diaper etc. In the last six weeks I’ve only given him a bottle once MOTN. honestly we just cut them out when I stopped pumping. We know he eats enough during the day and always eats a 6oz bottle before bed at night so no more bottles. Went cold turkey on those. And the one time I gave him a bottle I also gave him Tylenol bc he was crying crying crying and I said Noah, does your mouth hurt bc of your teeth? And he looked at me and stopped crying and touched his mouth so I said well maybe that’s a yes, so Ill give him some medicine. Otherwise we just cio.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 15, 2018 14:44:51 GMT -6
Thanks ladies, I know I need to just let her be, its just tough because my other daughter is directly next to her room and even with the door shut, she just screams like a wild banshee, LOL and I'm afraid she will wake her up and then I have 2 to deal with. Sometimes she will just lay back down and hug her stuffed dog so maybe that will click eventually if I just stop feeding her.
The checking in does not work with this one, she just amps up more so I guess I'll have to just ignore or deal.
Don't they know how great sleep is??!!!! GDI
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Post by muscari on Oct 15, 2018 14:45:45 GMT -6
addymac, whenever D. is teething she sticks her fingers (or whole hand if she could lol) into her mouth a TON as well. It never occured to me to ASK her.. while I just realized this week how much she understands and how well she communicates in her own way - not necessarily with words but she's sooo expressive!
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Post by king26 on Oct 15, 2018 14:49:54 GMT -6
muscari if I could get J to sleep in our bed on bad nights I totally would but he wont. If I bring him in he snuggles for a few minutes then is up laughing and wants to play. His sleep is so hot or miss I dont really know what it is. He does sttn several times a week (thankfully) and usually just wakes once if he does. However twice in the last 4 days he has woken up and been up for 1.5 hours. I think k hes not feeling well because dh and I also aren't feeling well.
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Post by muscari on Oct 15, 2018 14:55:24 GMT -6
king26, I don't know what I'd do if D. woke up MOTN and didn't want to go back to sleep! Once I took her downstairs MOTN cause she refused to settle down and just was so wild (and keeping MH awake who had to work early morning) but usually I can somehow coerce her back to nursing and relaxing enough to fall back asleep after a while. Sometimes it takes a bit of time though. I honestly wouldn't know what to do if I wasn't BFing still... that boob comes in so handy MOTN hah! Sorry to hear J and you both aren't feeling well - hope you won't get sick!
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 15, 2018 15:31:25 GMT -6
king26, I don't know what I'd do if D. woke up MOTN and didn't want to go back to sleep! Once I took her downstairs MOTN cause she refused to settle down and just was so wild (and keeping MH awake who had to work early morning) but usually I can somehow coerce her back to nursing and relaxing enough to fall back asleep after a while. Sometimes it takes a bit of time though. I honestly wouldn't know what to do if I wasn't BFing still... that boob comes in so handy MOTN hah! Sorry to hear J and you both aren't feeling well - hope you won't get sick! Same! I think I would die if this kid wanted to be up and playing. The boob has always been a quick fix. Probably why I’m stuck in this predicament of still not STTN 😂
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2018 16:01:22 GMT -6
I feel bad.. I totally forgot to light my candle at 7pm for the International Wave of Light as part of Pregnancy& infant loss awareness day today. We were in the middle of bedtime routine and the time just slipped by. It’s ok. Light it when you can. I won’t get home til 8p today so I won’t be lighting mine til well after bedtime, around 9p my time. 💛
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2018 16:03:48 GMT -6
addymac, whenever D. is teething she sticks her fingers (or whole hand if she could lol) into her mouth a TON as well. It never occured to me to ASK her.. while I just realized this week how much she understands and how well she communicates in her own way - not necessarily with words but she's sooo expressive! Lol. Honestly I was just talking and then realized he was responding in the only way he can. And I was like OMG. HE UNDERSTANDS ME. WHAAAAT. maybe he wasn’t in pain and was just responding to me saying mouth. But I figured a dose of Advil isn’t gojng to hurt anyway haha. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by addymac on Oct 15, 2018 16:06:58 GMT -6
Thanks ladies, I know I need to just let her be, its just tough because my other daughter is directly next to her room and even with the door shut, she just screams like a wild banshee, LOL and I'm afraid she will wake her up and then I have 2 to deal with. Sometimes she will just lay back down and hug her stuffed dog so maybe that will click eventually if I just stop feeding her. The checking in does not work with this one, she just amps up more so I guess I'll have to just ignore or deal. Don't they know how great sleep is??!!!! GDI Checking with N didn’t work when we started CIO when I went in. If I went in he’d get more upset but if dh went in he’d eventually calm down and fall asleep. So I put dh on check in duties for a few weeks (yay less getting out of bed for me haha) and then I started doing them and by that point he just stopped flipping out every time bc he knew the deal. Sometimes. Sometimes it’s a disaster but sometimes it works. 🤷🏻♀️ When he’s a teenager I’m going to drag his ass out of bed at 6am as payback lol
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Post by muscari on Oct 15, 2018 21:17:56 GMT -6
Great so my insomnia is back.... just what i needed!
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2018 8:09:49 GMT -6
Lol to me. After telling y’all how I cio w N last night he ended up in bed with me bc it was so terrible. And he was up at 7am. So now he’s taking a quiet time / hopefully nap time bc he is being a beast.
Freakin hate it when my one day off results in him being in a mood.
Anyone else’s kid starting to tantrum when they don’t get what they want or are tired and cranky? If I’m holding him he whacks me in the face and he KNOWS he’s not supposed to but he does it anyway and he just ignores me when I tell him no. But he listens to the nanny. Idk wtf to do.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 16, 2018 8:34:51 GMT -6
Lol to me. After telling y’all how I cio w N last night he ended up in bed with me bc it was so terrible. And he was up at 7am. So now he’s taking a quiet time / hopefully nap time bc he is being a beast. Freakin hate it when my one day off results in him being in a mood. Anyone else’s kid starting to tantrum when they don’t get what they want or are tired and cranky? If I’m holding him he whacks me in the face and he KNOWS he’s not supposed to but he does it anyway and he just ignores me when I tell him no. But he listens to the nanny. Idk wtf to do. Yes, she has been a maniac too and lying on the floor and kicking her feet, LOL..good times! I hope he is less cranky after he wakes up!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2018 8:48:11 GMT -6
addymac, A has been throwing tantrums for the past few weeks. Screaming, throwing himself backwards, laying face down crying. I’m like...shocked it’s this crazy already. I’m not too sure how to even handle it at this point. I try to speak calmly and redirect, but it’s definitely testing my patience.
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2018 9:29:15 GMT -6
jt2378 @easilyunamused oh thank god. It’s not just N. I really didn’t think they’d start this early. I’m secretly relieved it’s not just N bc some of the kids we do storytime with are just angels in public and I’m like 😐
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Post by pennylane on Oct 16, 2018 10:36:20 GMT -6
Oh L definitely throws some epic fits- rolling on the floor scream crying, throwing herself back, smacking us. It’s soo fun. 😬
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Post by muscari on Oct 16, 2018 10:40:36 GMT -6
jt2378 @easilyunamused oh thank god. It’s not just N. I really didn’t think they’d start this early. I’m secretly relieved it’s not just N bc some of the kids we do storytime with are just angels in public and I’m like 😐 Not just N! D has been throwing herself backwards and crying and what not as well lately.
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Post by addymac on Oct 16, 2018 13:50:56 GMT -6
Guys. I just realized why my mom playdate was so awkward. She’s 23!!!!! She’s a baby. I was like OH 😳 I guess you haven’t learned the art of small talk lol.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 16, 2018 15:34:37 GMT -6
addymac lolol. I guess she doesn't look her age. Toddler H has started tantrums too. He definitely needs to take some tips from his brother on duration and intensity, but he will throw himself backwards and wail and scream. We just went through a phase where he screamed bloody murder and flailed whenever I put him in his car seat, to the point that once he literally flipped upside down backwards to get out. It was so embarrassing bc he would do that if I tried to strap him in, but he would let our daycare provider strap him in with little fuss. I'm such an idiot bc one day I realized, wait his infant seat maxes out at 30 inches and he's 31 inches. He's been a little better since we switched to the convertible seat. He also gets mad if you eat anything without offering him some.
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Post by king26 on Oct 16, 2018 17:29:03 GMT -6
Lol to me. After telling y’all how I cio w N last night he ended up in bed with me bc it was so terrible. And he was up at 7am. So now he’s taking a quiet time / hopefully nap time bc he is being a beast. Freakin hate it when my one day off results in him being in a mood. Anyone else’s kid starting to tantrum when they don’t get what they want or are tired and cranky? If I’m holding him he whacks me in the face and he KNOWS he’s not supposed to but he does it anyway and he just ignores me when I tell him no. But he listens to the nanny. Idk wtf to do. J tantrums and has been for about a month. I pick him up, tell him no, and lay him down on the floor. He usually yells and cries for a minute and tries to do it again. We repeat them hes usually done and I pick him up and take him somewhere else in the house
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Post by king26 on Oct 16, 2018 17:32:06 GMT -6
jt2378 @easilyunamused oh thank god. It’s not just N. I really didn’t think they’d start this early. I’m secretly relieved it’s not just N bc some of the kids we do storytime with are just angels in public and I’m like 😐 Oh J doesnt tantrum in public ever so he looks like an angel but he throws a tantrum multiple times a day at home so....
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Post by king26 on Oct 16, 2018 17:36:06 GMT -6
I've been trying to get j to say o for cherrios and up when he wants up. I know he understands me but nothing. Today I took him out of the tub and lay him on his towel and immediately his arms go up and he says up lol. Guess he was cold enough to ask today!
Hes also cracking ne up with what he knows. His newest thing is I'll say open your mouth and he opens it really wide then laughs and laughs. Hes also been sharing his food by feeding us which is super sweet.
So we have 8 teeth now, 4 too and 4 bottom. Does this mean molars will be coming in soon?
Also, we still aren't walking. He is letting go of things and taking a step or to towards us but then falls.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2018 18:27:46 GMT -6
Great so my insomnia is back.... just what i needed! Hope you can get some sleep!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2018 18:29:58 GMT -6
addymac, yeah 23 might have something to do with it. 😬 king26, that’s better than A! He won’t let go or stand unassisted at all. As soon as we try, he buckles his knees and yells “ohhhhh”! As he sits down. lol while super cute, it’s not helpful.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2018 18:31:49 GMT -6
Sometimes I feel like my child cries more than the average kid. Like colic for toddlers? Every day it’s a battle to keep him from melting down every 5 mins. Is this normal?
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 17, 2018 5:03:32 GMT -6
@easilyunamused DS1 was like that at this age. If we weren't holding him, he could occupy himself for about four minutes and then cue the fussing/crying. It could also be leap 9 which has been a doozy for us. At almost 4, DS1 is still not great at independent play.
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