Talkative Tuesday

[nam2013]

Sept 11, 2018 9:16:38 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I'm also perusing H&M.  Why does everything have to be so cute?  I feel like I need to win the lottery to make these purchases.

Don’t go to the nextdirect.com... they took alllll my monies yesterday 🙄.

[tgrimes]

Sept 11, 2018 9:46:01 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

Sept 11, 2018 9:16:38 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I'm also perusing H&M.  Why does everything have to be so cute?  I feel like I need to win the lottery to make these purchases.

Don’t go to the nextdirect.com... they took alllll my monies yesterday 🙄.

I've never heard of this so of course I have to check it out. 

Damn you!

[tgrimes]

nam2013 Well that's way out of my price range! I'm complaining about spending $8-10 on a dress over here. I'M NOT MADE OF MONEY, NAM!

Some of their stuff is adorable though.

[lahdeedah]

Awww vino. That made me a little teary-eyed. Virtual hugs...

[lahdeedah]

I was in middle school when it happened and my English teacher put the TV on the news as soon as we sat down. By the end of that class, the second plane had hit. It was so awful, but I don’t think I processed the magnitude of what was happening at that moment. It was like we were watching a movie and I couldn’t fathom that this was real life. Hard to believe that was 17 years ago.

[guster]

Good morning. Very hard to believe it’s been 17 years. I was teaching that morning. We had 3 teacher computers in the library and a radio in our office, nothing like the on demand instant communication we have now. Being so close to the city, kids were pulled out of class to check on family or to be picked up by a relative. Too many people in our community lost so many friends and family members. It still feels surreal and eerily quiet thinking back on that day.

[peachsmama]

Well vino has me crying.

Well as you all know, I'm a baby lol. I was homeschooled at the time, I was in 3rd grade. My dad was always hounding my mom to watch the news more and be more informed and she always promised she would. He called her that morning asking if she was watching the news and she started to argue. He started screaming to turn on the news. Her, my brother and I all sat at a folding table in our living room playing cards and watching the tv. We didn't do any school work at all. Just sat and cried and played cards. My dad was a truck driver and said everyone on the highway just stopped. People pulled over or stopped in the middle and everyone he could see was crying listening to the radio.

[kim22]

Being just 10 miles from The Workd Trade Center, there are still services yearly in my city at memorial that was built for 5 people who lived here who died that day. The school I work in always does a remembrance ceremony too. I was a Jr. in college but I lived home and my school canceled classes that day. My younger sister had just left for college about 2 hours south of us. My mom called me from her job and told me I had to contact my sister because she wasn’t answering her phone. I remember getting her on the phone and she had no idea anything was going on. It was really scary waiting to hear from friends who were there. Local schools were preparing for the possibility that some kids may not be picked up even if their parents were safe because there were very few ways out of the city. I can’t believe how fresh the memory of that day still is.

[jewels]

kim22 my town still does a yearly memorial today as well. I hope they never stop. It's a much smaller town than yours (and further from the city) and sadly, there are more lost lives. The town I grew up in is much more of a commuter town and lost about a dozen people that day, plus a few more in the following years from first responders who rushed in to help.

It's just so sad.

Also vino, thanks for making me cry at my desk

[lfig]

I feel like this day was an eye opening day into my adulthood. I was 21. I worked for the YMCA doing childcare before and after school. I was driving home from my morning work to get ready for one of my college classes when I heard about it on the radio. I immediately called my mom who worked for a govt agency that I knew would be involved in everything. I then called MH who was my bf at the time. He was away at college but came home on weekends and worked at the Arch. They called him back from school because they needed extra LE at work because it is considered an “Icon” and a possible target. I went home and watched the news by myself all day. Cried all day thinking of the horror. My heart broke for all those lives lost and the families affected. I skipped classes that day because I couldn’t tear myself away from the news.

[lfig]

Also, PDQ...

MH is the commander of the NPS Honor Guard. They held a ceremony at the Flight 93 Memorial this weekend. Here is some of his team posting colors at the memorial.

[inthekitty]

Morning ladies. Like others I feel somewhat depressed and I look back and say I wish I could feel our world is safer than it was on 9/11 and we've learned more, but I can't say that with confidence. I don't want my kids to have a 9/11-type memory they relive.

Both girls really hate their daycare programs. :/ I know the reasons Maddie's sucks and unfortunately there's no good way around it. Cass' is at her school and we asked to have her switched to the other room because she has more friends there as well as a connection with the provider. The director is giving us some lame reasons why that can't be done now and may not be able to be done at all (kids that signed up for the program but haven't show yet...so, why can't the kids who aren't even there take the spot on her side?). I really like her school and she has an amazing teacher this year. She's trying her best but really not happy there. We could put her in MH's school but it's much longer days (too long for that age IMO) and he'd be her teacher and we don't think that dynamic would work well. Apparently they'll let us know by Friday if they can switch her.

MH is regretting taking this job. I wish he would have found out more about it before he accepted. He assumed since it was to teach pre-k it wouldn't be full time. In one year Cass would be in K anyway and at least she and M would have each other in M's crappy after-school care program. I wish my work would quit being a-holes for no reason and allow work from home options because there's no reason I couldn't do at least 75% from home which would nearly eliminate the after-care issue.

[jewels]

Sorry inthekitty. Day care issues suck and they are so draining. I hope it gets better for the girls.

[flamingo]

Thank you for sharing those photos lfig , I'm glad to see (and hear, from those of you in the NY/NJ/CT areas) there are still annual memorials and remembrance ceremonies taking place.

[cagoldi]

Woof, inthekitty. No easy way around any of that. I'm sorry.

More people should be able to WAH, I think it's mostly just higher ups trying to be controlling rather than a legitimate "these tasks can't be completed offsite."

[nam2013]

9/11 is one of my first real news experiences. I just got home from picking up the girl I was watching from school, heard the radio, turned on the tv and saw the second plane flying in to the second tower. I was glued to the tv for hours, I just couldn’t comprehend what I had seen and what was happening. The world changed that day. That day it became clear that anyone could be a victim of terrorism.

I’m so sorry for all the personal experiences, memories and heartbreak some off you have on this day.

[flamingo]

Still in waiting mode over here, supposedly we should know more after a 2 pm meeting DH has. If we have to stay here, he's going to stop at the grocery store...I'll probably gain 5 lbs. eating my (trapped, cooped up) feelings.

B is bored to tears, funny how he's only been in school 4 days but he's already missing the routine! At least C is napping now so I can finally accomplish some stuff.

So sorry to hear that inthekitty. I can imagine that is stressful, plus just a bummer for the girls. Is there someone over the after school program director's head? I hate to pull that card but darn, if there's a spot to move the kid, quit making feeble excuses and do it.

[inthekitty]

Sept 11, 2018 11:45:13 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Woof, inthekitty . No easy way around any of that. I'm sorry.

More people should be able to WAH, I think it's mostly just higher ups trying to be controlling rather than a legitimate "these tasks can't be completed offsite."

It's absolutely a control issue. My job is largely administrative and I don't have much direct patient contact so it'd be really easy to have direct patient care all booked on one day a week (members of our team could each cover different days so it wouldn't limit appt options). I know some people thrive on the outside contact and would feel socially isolated at home. It would not be at a loss to never see the vast majority of people I work with again at my main job. 

[inthekitty]

flamingo, I called the principal this morning and she wasn't very friendly about it. She seemed annoyed to have to talk to me. I mean, I get spacing and slots and all that jazz, but since these groupings are arbitrary (butterflies and ladybugs, not any actual meaning behind it) why not switch a kid who hasn't even shown yet? If they say they can't switch her Friday we're going to have to make a decision whether or not to pull her from the school and move her to MH's program. :/

And the icing to the cake with new care/school arrangements yesterday was on M's first day riding home on the bus this year (T-F she goes to aftercare) the bus was almost 40 (!) minutes late. It was effing insane. She was on the bus for an hour and 20 minutes. We do not live in the boonies. Her old bus ride was about 25 minutes. Apparently according to the other parents this was not that unusual for that stop and it's normal to take an hour to get there. So even though the school is a madhouse for pick-ups and she was looking forward to riding with her friends I'll start picking her up on Mondays if she wants me to because that's insane.

[kim22]

inthekitty I’m sorry the aftercare sucks. I have heard terrible things about our after care program since they outsourced and if I don’t get to return to my old job, it may be a reason I end up resigning. Is it at all feasible to hire someone to pick both girls up and watch them at your house?

[kim22]

On a happy note, my baby is 9 months old today!

[klong11]

The runner just heated up something and I smell potatoes. Now I need potatoes in my life.

[chrisy01]

I wish I could WAH but boss L said no. Wouldn’t even consider it. My meeting with my director got moved to tomorrow. It can’t come soon enough.

[chrisy01]

Sept 11, 2018 12:21:38 GMT -6 kim22 said:

On a happy note, my baby is 9 months old today!

It’s hard to believe. The lattes are growing up so fast

[chrisy01]

wedding enjoy your mental health day.

[nam2013]

My two year I a nightmare to put down. Every single night she fights, whines and cries. I’m usually firm, but sweet, I’ll pick her up calm her down and put her back down, rinse and repeat between me and Dh. After back to back meetings, coming home during rush hour, bedtime, cleaning etc. I couldn’t take it and got mad at her. I told her I was done, gave her back her paci, put on the sound machine and walked out. She screamed her little head of, but caved in 30 seconds and fell asleep. And I feel like the worst mom ever. I just want to run upstairs and cuddle her.

[vino]

Sept 11, 2018 12:40:10 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

My two year I a nightmare to put down. Every single night she fights, whines and cries. I’m usually firm, but sweet, I’ll pick her up calm her down and put her back down, rinse and repeat between me and Dh. After back to back meetings, coming home during rush hour, bedtime, cleaning etc. I couldn’t take it and got mad at her. I told her I was done, gave her back her paci, put on the sound machine and walked out. She screamed her little head of, but caved in 30 seconds and fell asleep. And I feel like the worst mom ever. I just want to run upstairs and cuddle her.

Please read, and re-read the bold.  That is what you need to focus on.  She is not scarred, she is happily sleeping and she'll wake up happy to see you.  Now, do not go up there and wake a sleeping baby, we all know that never ends well   

[nam2013]

vino you’re right, I need to shut up and enjoy being able to drink a hot latte without dd screaming through the monitor.

[sands42]

Oh vino! ❤️ I have a big heart for those who have served and their families who now are dealing with mental health issues.

Well- we got the haircut. Gunner behaved horribly, he literally cried/screamed the whole time. I was SO embarrassed. I feel he is too old to be behaving like this. It’s like he’s out of control. I had no control over him. I’m at the point where I feel like I need to do something about it but I have ZERO clue where to start. He’s obviously lost all game/iPad/tv privileges for I don’t know how long.... but he doesn’t even seem to care. I’m guessing this has something to do with his dad always being gone and me being spread too thin.

Here is his haircut 😞

[inthekitty]

Sept 11, 2018 12:15:38 GMT -6 kim22 said:

inthekitty I’m sorry the aftercare sucks. I have heard terrible things about our after care program since they outsourced and if I don’t get to return to my old job, it may be a reason I end up resigning. Is it at all feasible to hire someone to pick both girls up and watch them at your house?

I'm going to look into it but I think it would cost way too much money since it'd basically be a part-time nanny. :/ 

Happy 9 mo to your little guy!