kim22
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Post by kim22 on Sept 7, 2018 9:06:45 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo I’m sorry for your dad, people are terrible. I hope it’s settled quickly. You all inspired me to go get a skin check that I have put off my entire life. I had a doctor many friends recommended but they said usually it’s a long wait for an appointment but I called yesterday and they gave me today at 9:30. All is good. I had her removed a few skin tags that popped up while I was pregnant and it didn’t hurt at all but itches like heck now. Add me to the no sleep club. C has a cold and was up most of the night. I put him to nap before I left for the doctor (my dad came to watch him) but he woke right up. Thankfully now he is asleep and even though there is a lot I could be doing, I’m just sitting down.
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nam2013
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Post by nam2013 on Sept 7, 2018 9:06:47 GMT -6
Weddings, births and death bring out the best and worst in people... I’m sorry you’re dealing with this xolastunicornxo. |
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Post by flamingo on Sept 7, 2018 9:08:03 GMT -6
Weddings, births and death bring out the best and worst in people... I’m sorry you’re dealing with this xolastunicornxo. Quoted b/c truth! |
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Sept 7, 2018 9:09:02 GMT -6
I just signed Cadence up for her first Parents' Night Out at dc. They eat pizza, watch a movie, play games, etc. Some of her friends are staying for it and she really wanted to do it. It's tonight. I may be a little stressed about it.  Are y'all going out? Why are you stressed about it? Idk, the teachers that are sticking around for it are new and I don't really know them.
Idk why I'm stressing. I know she will have a great time. Not sure if we are going out. Mh says we have to. LOL
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Post by dapostrophe on Sept 7, 2018 9:15:22 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo I'm sorry that you have to be involved in that. Sounds like a lot of heartache and wasted time for your dad. I have some wealthy family members, and it's pretty much a guarantee that things get ugly as the older generation is passing away. I've seen it again and again...and it's gross. I never understood why people would fight over money and property when they have more than enough themselves, but now I understand it goes much deeper. Power, perceived favoritism, lots of old family wounds that get dug up around the death of a primary member, etc. It's complicated stuff.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Sept 7, 2018 9:16:27 GMT -6
@klongoria no it’s an official will, drawn up by her lawyer. And the money in question is from Raymond James accounts, and they have written a statement that per their policy and they way my grandmother named her beneficiaries through that institution, the money was delegates to go to my dad. When my dh first got started in finance he had to do a lot of distributing accounts upon death, and they don’t take that lightly. They cross every t and dot every I. So really, if the boys want to sue they should sue RJ if they disagree with there policy. The point is, no, they have no reason to sue. They are greedy and horrible people. They are painting my dad as some
Monster who is swindling them, but in truth they are lucky she left them the large amount of money she did.
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 7, 2018 9:21:48 GMT -6
Not getting into our family's horror stories about inheritance, but we've had our share. My dad was lucky. He's the oldest of five and nobody contested the will of my grandparents or fought about anything. Not the norm at all though. Pete has a drug addict, deadbeat dad, loser of a brother who stole >$100,000 cash from their parents. FIL put the house and everything in a trust with Pete as the sole beneficiary/trustee so the brother can't try to take it to probate or some such nonsense. I'm sorry your dad is going through that, xolastunicornxo. |
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 7, 2018 9:23:18 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on Sept 7, 2018 9:23:38 GMT -6
I love it! I worked there for 3 years in college waiting tables. They closed that store down a few years ago so there is just 1 other location around but it’s about an hour away. But since I e got time to kill between appts and my sister and kids getting out of school we decided to make the drive. My mom is trying to diet. She decided today will be her cheat day. Lol. The closing of that Olga's was heart breaking for us! We loved it so much! |
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Sept 7, 2018 9:24:04 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo, yeah, since they are already getting money I don't see a judge giving them any more. And yes, if court costs are involved, then they need to be the ones to pay them. We have seen some crazy shiz here in the office. One family even brought in boxes and boxes of belongings to split "evenly". It was ridiculous.
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guster
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Post by guster on Sept 7, 2018 9:27:46 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times. Oh, no! Both boys ? |
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on Sept 7, 2018 9:38:20 GMT -6
It is LIFE CHANGING!!! Go!
Seriously though, I started going back to the chiro again about a month ago because I was starting to have some SI Joint and sciatic issues. I'm pain free now, and that's WITH camping for two weekends and sleeping on an air mattress. My back used to go out every three months like clockwork, once I started seeing a chiropractor, my back hasn't gone out since.
My chic in Leavenworth is awesome, highly recommend, but I'm sure you want something down there.
Yeah, I'll probably go to the same place H goes in Olathe. Alright, you have all convinced me just to go. I'll try to go tomorrow morning. I would also recommend getting a foam roller and looking up some youtube videos. I used to go get massages when I had some sciatic pain. I found that when they massaged my glutes was the most effective in loosening up that area. (side of my butt pressure point specifically). Now with the foam roller I can work it out myself or I can have MH roll me out. |
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lfig
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Post by lfig on Sept 7, 2018 9:38:52 GMT -6
I just realized I didn’t have my wedding ring on. Last night I took it off and my watch off and put them both on the dresser in the spare room at my parents house. This morning I put the watch back on...but apparently no ring. So I called my dad to look for it since I’ve already left. He found it on the floor right next to the register. I’d say a certain 4yo got her grubby paws on it while I was in the shower. I’m luck it didn’t go down the register never to be seen again.
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 7, 2018 9:40:47 GMT -6
Well you know how well my family handles death.. it'll be fun when my mom dies as I'm the sole beneficiary of her life insurance. When my brother started with holding his kids from her anytime he was mad, she changed it.
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Post by cheeksmum on Sept 7, 2018 9:46:43 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too. It’s definitely not easy. |
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 7, 2018 9:51:21 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times. Oh, no! Both boys ? Just Dude, thankfully. X Man had a really tough time for a few months but that was peak age for separation anxiety, I had disappeared for several days to have P at the hospital, and then his tube surgery so I think there was just so much going on for him at that time. Plus, not that I could have really done anything differently WRT surgery, but I feel like a huge jerk now knowing about his vestibular dysfunction. Having that coupled with ear drops/new sensations in your ear must be a special circle of hell. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 7, 2018 9:56:51 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this too. It’s definitely not easy. +whatever. *sigh* It's so hard. Cass was sobbing last night about going to DC. She loves preschool (3 mornings a week), but hates DC that comes afterward and on the off days. I can't figure out the root of the problem. I think it stems from the long day away from us and she's not used to that but there's no way around it. MH could have her at his school (and it'd be cheaper) but we think the dynamic would be problematic with him as her teacher. She would not be able to adjust well to him being in a different role. My sister has no idea how lucky she was to have my mom watch her kids basically for nothing. Maddie also isn't loving school this year. It's been a tough transition back. |
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jewels
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Post by jewels on Sept 7, 2018 9:58:00 GMT -6
Morning! E is officially 3 months old today. I feel a little bad about going back to work earlier with her then I did with LO. He was over 3 months when I went back to work. But I know it’s best because I can take all her first Holidays off. I did the opposite and felt guilty. I went back at 12 weeks with S and stayed out for almost 5 months with B(while S stayed in DC full time) No matter what you do you’ll feel guilty for something! She’ll be fine!! |
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Post by mwhip on Sept 7, 2018 9:59:43 GMT -6
We joined the crying at school drop-off and begging to go home Club this morning. Fun times. Love tit for commiseration |
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Post by jewels on Sept 7, 2018 10:03:17 GMT -6
I am starting to think of L's bday party already....this year his bday is on Thanksgiving. I am planning his first friends (from day care) party and ideally would have it the Sunday prior, 11/18. However there is another girl in the class having her bday party on 11/17. I am not sure the whole class is invited to hers as it is a princess party , but obviously there will be overlap, so I'm thinking of moving L's so there are not 2 parties in 1 weekend. Do you think people will come to a party the Sunday after Thanksgiving? Or should I have it early on the 11th? Leave it? The next weekend 12/2 seems so late. Wwn13D? I would leave it. We have had weekends with 2 parties and it’s No big deal. S birthday is the Sunday after thanksgiving and we are thinking either the weekend before or after since so many people travel that weekend |
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Post by mwhip on Sept 7, 2018 10:04:20 GMT -6
I just realized I didn’t have my wedding ring on. Last night I took it off and my watch off and put them both on the dresser in the spare room at my parents house. This morning I put the watch back on...but apparently no ring. So I called my dad to look for it since I’ve already left. He found it on the floor right next to the register. I’d say a certain 4yo got her grubby paws on it while I was in the shower. I’m luck it didn’t go down the register never to be seen again. Just an story to keep your rings out of kids reach... My brother and SIL got engaged right out of college, so not much money. My SIL never really loved her ring, but it was still her wedding ring. After about 10 years of marriage (and 3 small kids), the yellow gold started giving her an allergic reaction on her finger. She had mentioned a few times that she wanted an upgrade. One morning, my niece was apparently playing with her ring while she was in the shower, and the ring has never been seen since. You could ask my niece where the ring was and she would walk you to areas of the house (never the same) and the ring wasn't there. They've been married 21 years now and that ring has never shown back up. But she did get her upgrade. It was just funny how much we discussed her getting a new ring, then her disappears. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Sept 7, 2018 10:05:15 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo families suck sometimes. From what you described, the relatives have no case so I hope they have fun paying court and attorney fees. What asshats. My mom's Trump-loving racist little brother isn't suing her (probably just because he's an idiot with money and broke) but has made it clear he's unhappy he didn't get anything when their aunt died. He didn't even know the aunt or anything about her. Meanwhile my mom had been handling her affairs for over a decade and called that crazy B every day even though the aunt was usually rude to my mom. She had to handle the nightmare of an estate which consumed her life for months. She spent hours every day on this woman. And he somehow thinks he's entitled even though he probably hadn't spoken to her since he was a young child.  cagoldi, Scott and Pete's family situations are very similar. Scott's parents have named S the executor but because they've always showed clear favoritism for his deadbeat brother I'm sure they'll leave at least 50% to him even though they fork over at least $1k every month to him because he is constantly out of work.
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guster
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Post by guster on Sept 7, 2018 10:07:36 GMT -6
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Post by jewels on Sept 7, 2018 10:12:57 GMT -6
I’m sorry xolastunicornxo that’s rough Sorry about he tough drop off cagoldi - I’m in that boat now but with B. True to form, he hits every milestone late and just now,at 2, arrived at the separation anxiety stage. Right in time for him to move classrooms and leave the teacher and friends he was most comfortable with. Super fun |
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Sept 7, 2018 10:24:53 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Sept 7, 2018 10:25:15 GMT -6
M had a good second day at school. J is soooooo whiny and its killing my soul.
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 7, 2018 10:25:59 GMT -6
Yikes, inthekitty. I'm sorry both girls are having a hard time with the transition. This really sucks, doesn't it? Imagine how we'll all feel when they have their first heartbreak? I could have a panic attack just thinking about it. |
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Post by cagoldi on Sept 7, 2018 10:28:43 GMT -6
I did talk to Dude's teachers yesterday and they said he is alone most of the time but he is not being singled out or excluded, more like he's nervous and withdrawing. So that did make me feel a little bit better. He still refuses to eat lunch and said his teachers (aides) at lunch are mean. I have no idea what's going with that because he won't give more details. I was thinking about dropping by to visit at lunch next week just to see what's up but that is way too helicopter, right?
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Sept 7, 2018 10:31:38 GMT -6
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kim22
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Post by kim22 on Sept 7, 2018 10:37:06 GMT -6
I did talk to Dude's teachers yesterday and they said he is alone most of the time but he is not being singled out or excluded, more like he's nervous and withdrawing. So that did make me feel a little bit better. He still refuses to eat lunch and said his teachers (aides) at lunch are mean. I have no idea what's going with that because he won't give more details. I was thinking about dropping by to visit at lunch next week just to see what's up but that is way too helicopter, right? Is lunch like a big cafeteria with older kids? My oldest always said the lunch ladies were mean. Then DD who is less sensitive got to his school and always said “they are not mean to us Tom”. I think because their cafe is large and loud, the ladies yell to get everyone’s attention and my oldest has a lot of quirky sensory things like a fear of loud noise and so it really bothered him. I’m not generally mean but when I had cafe duty alone with 300 8th graders while pregnant, I was mean. |
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