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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 11, 2018 17:23:01 GMT -6
I always pee before and after. I do after and before if possible, but if it's something I'm not planning I don't take a pee break before. |
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 11, 2018 17:28:28 GMT -6
I always pee before and after. I do after and before if possible, but if it's something I'm not planning I don't take a pee break before. Our sex life is not that exciting. Ha ha ha! |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 11, 2018 17:46:49 GMT -6
I have bought about an iud, but I just don’t really want to be on any bcp. And pull and pray is def a bad idea considering I was technically on the pill for two of our four pregnancies. Condoms just feel.... I don’t know... Yucky. We’ve literally never used them,even back in college.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 11, 2018 17:50:03 GMT -6
When TTC talk comes up I tend to shy away and go to other boards. Since I'm one and done by mh's choice, it's hard to hear about other people's plans. Not to say it shouldn't be discussed, I'm just still not in a good place to relate. So I want to ask you about this without overstepping... feel free not to answer. I would be super resentful if I felt like wanted more kids and dh was “making” me be one and done. Did you want more than one before you had C? |
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 11, 2018 17:54:44 GMT -6
I do after and before if possible, but if it's something I'm not planning I don't take a pee break before. Our sex life is not that exciting. Ha ha ha! Same lol. |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 11, 2018 18:23:33 GMT -6
Oh.... I have one that may be good? I have never been a smoker, beyond socially/drunk in college, but there are a select few friends that when I’m with them and I drink I love smoking.
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Post by vino on Aug 11, 2018 18:59:55 GMT -6
We have sex about once a week. He’d like more but I’m just not into it, at all. It’s the number one major disagreement/fight in our relationship from his end.
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Post by tallb on Aug 11, 2018 19:32:38 GMT -6
I have bought about an iud, but I just don’t really want to be on any bcp. And pull and pray is def a bad idea considering I was technically on the pill for two of our four pregnancies. Condoms just feel.... I don’t know... Yucky. We’ve literally never used them,even back in college. What about a copper one that doesn't have hormones? I'm considering that one since I'm having trouble adjusting to a regular pill. |
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Post by lahdeedah on Aug 11, 2018 19:36:31 GMT -6
Add me to the list of zero drive after kids. Both kids. I blamed my IUD after M, but I didn’t get one for a year after M2 and had no drive in that year either.
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Post by vino on Aug 11, 2018 19:54:03 GMT -6
Re: alternate universe - I can relate tallb, I haven’t seen my long term high school boyfriend in years and to this day, I avoid him at all costs, I just can’t see him. |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 11, 2018 20:00:33 GMT -6
tallb I could look into a copper one. I don’t know, I just don’t want to be on bc. I’ve been on it since I was 15 and I just want to be done. Also, I haven’t seen my high school bf since about 2004. He legit broke my heart. I would love and also hate to run into him.
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 11, 2018 20:11:22 GMT -6
I have bought about an iud, but I just don’t really want to be on any bcp. And pull and pray is def a bad idea considering I was technically on the pill for two of our four pregnancies. Condoms just feel.... I don’t know... Yucky. We’ve literally never used them,even back in college. What about a copper one that doesn't have hormones? I'm considering that one since I'm having trouble adjusting to a regular pill. That's what I had and loved it. But tmi: I had discharge constantly. Apparently since it's a foreign object your body is constantly cleaning to prevent infection. It was annoying. |
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Post by klong11 on Aug 11, 2018 20:42:29 GMT -6
When TTC talk comes up I tend to shy away and go to other boards. Since I'm one and done by mh's choice, it's hard to hear about other people's plans. Not to say it shouldn't be discussed, I'm just still not in a good place to relate. So I want to ask you about this without overstepping... feel free not to answer. I would be super resentful if I felt like wanted more kids and dh was “making” me be one and done. Did you want more than one before you had C? I've always wanted at least 2 and mh did as well. After C we both went through periods where we didn't want any more. Logically, financially, and just marriage-wise adding a second just won't work for us. I feel like Cadence wouldn't be able to do everything she does if we had #2. So in my head I know one and done is best, but in my heart there will always be the "what if". So I just keep adding cats to our house instead  |
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 11, 2018 20:57:48 GMT -6
I always pee before and after. Same. |
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 11, 2018 21:02:30 GMT -6
I've never had my heart broken. Am I tempting fate by writing that?
I still see my abusive ex once in awhile and when I do, my blood runs cold and I feel like I'll be sick.
I'd be totally cool with seeing my other two exes, and am still friendly with the guy I dated before Pete (and his wife).
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 11, 2018 21:19:12 GMT -6
I've never had my heart broken. Am I tempting fate by writing that? I still see my abusive ex once in awhile and when I do, my blood runs cold and I feel like I'll be sick. I'd be totally cool with seeing my other two exes, and am still friendly with the guy I dated before Pete (and his wife). Dh has never had his heart broken and not scared me when we started dating. My high school bf was the epitome of puppy love and young love and heartbreak. Like when I think about how ridiculous I behaved in regards to him, it’s embarrassing. |
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 12, 2018 5:27:23 GMT -6
Dh and I where both each other’s first real love. It wasn’t how we planned things, but that’s what happens in life!
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 12, 2018 5:37:12 GMT -6
During these crazy road trips (between 8-10 hours) I loooong for the days when it was just me and Dh and being on the road was just fun, taking listening to music, snacking etc. These days road trips just make me feel like I’m on the brink of a panic attack the whole time.
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Post by tallb on Aug 12, 2018 20:59:59 GMT -6
We have sex about once a week. He’d like more but I’m just not into it, at all. It’s the number one major disagreement/fight in our relationship from his end. I'm pretty sure MH wants to try for a third bc I'll be more interested in it... I think he'd be so disappointed if it were a surprise and we skipped the ttc phase. I'd prefer the opposite scenario. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Aug 12, 2018 21:18:46 GMT -6
We have sex about once a week. He’d like more but I’m just not into it, at all. It’s the number one major disagreement/fight in our relationship from his end. I'm pretty sure MH wants to try for a third bc I'll be more interested in it... I think he'd be so disappointed if it were a surprise and we skipped the ttc phase. I'd prefer the opposite scenario. My DH was super bummed I got pregnant the first month ttc S. He thought he’d get way more action. |
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 13, 2018 6:09:25 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure MH wants to try for a third bc I'll be more interested in it... I think he'd be so disappointed if it were a surprise and we skipped the ttc phase. I'd prefer the opposite scenario. My DH was super bummed I got pregnant the first month ttc S. He thought he’d get way more action. A says the same lol. |
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Post by vino on Aug 13, 2018 8:16:57 GMT -6
I have a hidden excel spreadsheet with a financial plan and budget titled 'Single Parent' for myself.
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Post by klong11 on Aug 13, 2018 9:06:50 GMT -6
vino, in the same vein I price apartments and rental houses in our area on the regular. Just to see what's out there and how much I would need to bank in order to afford it on my own.
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Post by mskatiep on Aug 13, 2018 10:29:46 GMT -6
I have a hidden excel spreadsheet with a financial plan and budget titled 'Single Parent' for myself. and klong11
I personally think this is smart. I think that a woman should never feel stuck, like she could not leave a relationship. I maintain a separate JIC fund. You never know what life will bring.
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Post by vino on Aug 13, 2018 10:44:17 GMT -6
I have a hidden excel spreadsheet with a financial plan and budget titled 'Single Parent' for myself. and klong11
I personally think this is smart. I think that a woman should never feel stuck, like she could not leave a relationship. I maintain a separate JIC fund. You never know what life will bring.
For me personally I dont feel stuck, for financial reasons anyways, but this past year hasnt been good and I'd be an idiot if I didnt have a plan. It is good knowing that the kids and I would be just fine financially. And yes I agree, a woman should never feel stuck because of money. |
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Post by joelies on Aug 13, 2018 11:09:34 GMT -6
vino , in the same vein I price apartments and rental houses in our area on the regular. Just to see what's out there and how much I would need to bank in order to afford it on my own. I have absolutely done this recently. Between my own relationship issues and my best friend going through a divorce right now, it's been front and center on my mind. |
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Post by flamingo on Aug 13, 2018 14:41:13 GMT -6
During these crazy road trips (between 8-10 hours) I loooong for the days when it was just me and Dh and being on the road was just fun, taking listening to music, snacking etc. These days road trips just make me feel like I’m on the brink of a panic attack the whole time. Oh, for sure. I'm basically just a slave constantly passing food or entertainment back, or playing DJ with Disney's greatest hits, and praying no one loses it. I can't wait for our trip in November when it'll just be me and DH on the plane. We can read, nap, have a drink without worrying about it getting spilled...wild and crazy! |
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 13, 2018 14:49:37 GMT -6
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 13, 2018 15:23:42 GMT -6
and klong11
I personally think this is smart. I think that a woman should never feel stuck, like she could not leave a relationship. I maintain a separate JIC fund. You never know what life will bring.
For me personally I dont feel stuck, for financial reasons anyways, but this past year hasnt been good and I'd be an idiot if I didnt have a plan. It is good knowing that the kids and I would be just fine financially. And yes I agree, a woman should never feel stuck because of money. This is one reason I would find being a SAHM terrifying, TBH. My mom tried to leave my SD a bunch of times and couldn't because she had no income. DNW |
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Post by flamingo on Aug 13, 2018 15:46:40 GMT -6
Scottsdale, Arizona, for a few days, with a side trip up to the Grand Canyon (we've never been  |
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