Leaf 🌱
Sapphire
Posts: 2,855 Likes: 12,814
|
July 23rd
Jul 28, 2018 6:19:13 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 28, 2018 6:19:13 GMT -6
I think we're hitting that 4 month sleep regression. Or something is annoying her MOTN and I can’t figure out what. Should I just bite the bullet and put her in the crib now? Any books or sleep training plans I should brush up on?
I mentioned in the food thread DD1 was the worlds worst sleeper and nothing worked with her. It was awful and I just struggled to survive. I want to at least try to set up a good sleep routine/environment for DD2. Give me allllll the tips and tricks.
|
|
|
Post by alwayscheese on Jul 28, 2018 9:21:23 GMT -6
Sorry about pp period calendula. Leaf 🌱 I have no advice since we put DS in the crib from day 1, but hopefully the "regression" is short lived! I'm hoping DS doesn't get my cold. I've been living on Dayquil and Nyquil. We have done almost nothing to get ready because DH is in no hurry. So lots to do yet today. I'm sure DS will be sick as soon as we get to West Virginia for camping. I guess I should figure out what meds I can take for him in case.
|
|
auri
Platinum
Enter your message here...
Posts: 1,340 Likes: 3,330
|
July 23rd
Jul 28, 2018 11:26:02 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by auri on Jul 28, 2018 11:26:02 GMT -6
Ugh I'm sorry. Road trip with a nursing baby is always fun. 😝 we are driving again next week to go camping with the ILs. Found out today it's 8 hrs each way. 😒 Good luck! We finally figured out he was too cold with the AC on in the car so we bundled him up and he finally stopped screaming at us. Also I’m pretty sure I had some blocked milk ducts or whatever. I’ve been massaging my boob in the car and today poured some hot water into a diaper to use as a hot compress. You’re welcome for all that, fellow travelers on the road. I dressed J in his pjs for our road trip. I figured that he’d be more comfortable and they are warmer than a onesie and shorts if he got cold.
|
|
|
Post by alwayscheese on Jul 28, 2018 12:19:33 GMT -6
I made almost 200 small peanut butter cookies for snack while camping. We really don't need that many so it's NBD if I just sit here and continuously eat them, right?
Also we got jerk chicken from a Jamaican food truck for lunch so my tummy is well pleased. 😂
|
|
|
Post by clementine on Jul 28, 2018 13:25:51 GMT -6
I made almost 200 small peanut butter cookies for snack while camping. We really don't need that many so it's NBD if I just sit here and continuously eat them, right? Also we got jerk chicken from a Jamaican food truck for lunch so my tummy is well pleased. 😂 NBD, at all. Peanut butter cookies sound amazing. I thought I had a sweet tooth before this baby... now I’m on a whole other level. I am craving ice cream all the time and last night I made chocolate chip caramel pretzel brownies... a la mode. Yummmzzzz.
|
|
cornpop
Amethyst
Posts: 5,340 Likes: 13,661
|
Post by cornpop on Jul 28, 2018 16:05:58 GMT -6
My tattoo for N is done. It wasn't exactly what I was thinking, but I love it.
|
|
|
Post by clementine on Jul 28, 2018 16:18:24 GMT -6
|
|
|
Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 28, 2018 17:58:53 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱 the sleep regression is awful, I feel you on sleep problems. Things that helped us: Sleep consultant! It was all over phone/email and she was great. Her methods were: Positive sleep associations - sleep suit, baby shusher, lovey (when old enough) Pick up put down method (gentle sleep training after four month regression is over- I chose this sleep training method from a bunch she presented me). Picking “times” to feed (he was waking every sleep cycle wanting to feed to sleep- he did not need to eat every 45 minutes so we chose 10pm and 2am as feed times if he woke before then, pick up put down method and if at or after, feed). Putting him down awake, sitting with him patting and reassuring (this didn’t work for us until after the sleep regression was done, at about 5.5 months with DS1. He stayed asleep longer at bedtime if he did this vs. me trying to transfer him already asleep).
|
|
|
Post by dizzycooks on Jul 28, 2018 20:11:10 GMT -6
Everyone is sleeping so I asked dh if he wanted a snack or something. He wants tea. I really wanted someone to drink wine with me. <sigh> not tonight, tea it is. No sleep regression here yet, but zero progress toward sttn. This little guys likes his 11pm and 2am wake ups. In other news, dh is starting a new job. We have recently learned the OOP max is 13,500 per year. WTF has 13k annually to spend on medical bills?? Is this normal? I’m dying bc I know what dd3s treatment costs are and I know we will hit that in a matter of months, but it’s more than twice our current max. So yeah, we met our max this year already and now we start over again bc new job. Fml, when will I win the lottery??
|
|
Leaf 🌱
Sapphire
Posts: 2,855 Likes: 12,814
|
July 23rd
Jul 28, 2018 20:30:21 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 28, 2018 20:30:21 GMT -6
dizzycooks I’m sorry I’m not familiar with what your DD’s treatments are, but is it possible to apply for Medicaid/CHIP for her? My ILs were able to get supplemental insurance for my nephew’s needs though I’m not sure if they qualified for a state or federal program. Insurance in the worst.
|
|
|
Post by mintyblueair on Jul 28, 2018 20:36:53 GMT -6
dizzycooks we're having a similar evening, both of my kids are sleeping and I was hoping to have a glass of wine with my H, too. But his acid reflux is flaring up so he said no. He is currently making us tea lol. N isn't STTN yet, but I'm able to put her down awake for all her naps and at bedtime, and she only wakes at night if she's hungry. A good night is 7pm-7am with one quick feed at around 4am. A bad night involves an extra feed at around 12:30am. I hate the unpredictability, but it could definitely be worse. DS dropped to one feed at night when he was on a 3 nap schedule (at 4 months), and then dropped the other night feed at 6 months when he went to a 2 nap schedule. He's 2 and, barring the time he had roseola, I haven't had to go into his room at night since before he was 6 months old. I'm praying that N follows a similar path.
|
|
|
Post by mintyblueair on Jul 28, 2018 20:41:53 GMT -6
MH (currently on a postdoctoral fellowship) has put job applications in for jobs in 3 different cities: one on the B.C. coast, one in New Brunswick, and one in Manitoba. He's working on 2 more, one in the B.C. interior and one in Edmonton. All of these cities are far away from my family and I do not want to move to any of them, but we need job security for him soooo badly. I'm trying not to get my hopes too high because his field is so competitive, but I can't help but feel like one of them HAS to work out.
|
|
|
Post by dizzycooks on Jul 28, 2018 21:44:18 GMT -6
I made almost 200 small peanut butter cookies for snack while camping. We really don't need that many so it's NBD if I just sit here and continuously eat them, right? Also we got jerk chicken from a Jamaican food truck for lunch so my tummy is well pleased. 😂 This all sounds amazing!! 😋
|
|
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 0:23:09 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Jul 29, 2018 0:23:09 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱 what does your bedtime/night routine look like now? I always think the 4m regression sucks no matter what so making a sleep change then isn’t a terrible idea!
|
|
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 0:25:39 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Jul 29, 2018 0:25:39 GMT -6
dizzycooks congrats to your H on his new job! Sorry about the insurance situation☹️ I can’t rememebr if you SAH, but if not can you look in to getting cheaper insurance for your DD through your work? You can use your H’s new job as a qualifying life event.
|
|
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 0:41:37 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by katietopaz on Jul 29, 2018 0:41:37 GMT -6
My parents leave on Monday and I’m already sad and a little anxious. The boys have been a huge handful and my parents have been cleaning and making meals and it’s been amazing, I hate living across the country from family. Leaf 🌱 (and everyone) I’ll forever and ever amen swear by Precious Little Sleep for sleep advice. Her writing style is great, and she talks through why babies have trouble with sleep and correlated ideas to help. She gives non-“sleep training” starting points (ex. moving nursing/bottle to beginning of bedtime routine instead of end) and goes up through guidelines for CIO if you land there. Her blog/book/FB group were lifesavers with DS1. www.preciouslittlesleep.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-sleeping-through-the-night-part-i/
|
|
|
Post by clementine on Jul 29, 2018 6:49:27 GMT -6
2 of my really good friends just had babies on Friday and Saturday. And then H’s cousin had her baby this morning. So many babies!! Thankfully one is in town so I can go meet and snuggle her. Someone asked me if I was ready for another one. Uh. No.
|
|
|
Post by dizzycooks on Jul 29, 2018 6:55:35 GMT -6
dizzycooks congrats to your H on his new job! Sorry about the insurance situation☹️ I can’t rememebr if you SAH, but if not can you look in to getting cheaper insurance for your DD through your work? You can use your H’s new job as a qualifying life event. I sah and while I wouldn’t change it for the world, I completely understand why people work just to keep their insurance now.
|
|
Leaf 🌱
Sapphire
Posts: 2,855 Likes: 12,814
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 7:29:07 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 29, 2018 7:29:07 GMT -6
So it looks like my fears about sleep regression may have been premature. She’s just super congested and I must have grabbed the blanket under the head of her bassinet at some point a few days ago. I put it back and BOOM much better.
|
|
|
Post by alwayscheese on Jul 29, 2018 8:19:19 GMT -6
We're driving on the throughway and I'm pumping. 😏 while we were driving I noticed the top part of my breast was all hard so I must have a clogged duct so I'm trying to work that out. Not sure how much I want to expose myself to other drivers though 😂
|
|
|
Post by mintyblueair on Jul 29, 2018 8:57:03 GMT -6
2 of my really good friends just had babies on Friday and Saturday. And then H’s cousin had her baby this morning. So many babies!! Thankfully one is in town so I can go meet and snuggle her. Someone asked me if I was ready for another one. Uh. No. That's so nice that you'll have so many babies close to your son's age! I've had questions about when the next one is coming from a couple of people, too. My husband is excited for a third already but I need a bit more time 😅
|
|
|
Post by clementine on Jul 29, 2018 10:20:59 GMT -6
2 of my really good friends just had babies on Friday and Saturday. And then H’s cousin had her baby this morning. So many babies!! Thankfully one is in town so I can go meet and snuggle her. Someone asked me if I was ready for another one. Uh. No. That's so nice that you'll have so many babies close to your son's age! I've had questions about when the next one is coming from a couple of people, too. My husband is excited for a third already but I need a bit more time 😅 Same here. SIL found out she was pregnant with her second when her daughter was 6 months. I told my ILs to most definitely not expect that from us!
|
|
|
Post by sunshinedaisies on Jul 29, 2018 11:10:25 GMT -6
Is it flameful that I am already thinking about # 3? We have no doubts we want to try for another but it was really hard for us to get both of our kids. It took us 3+ years to get DS1 and 13 months to get DS2. I don’t want three years between #2 and #3 so I’m already thinking of when we need to start if it takes that long again. And I’m also not sure how many more IF treatments I can take so I’m not even sure we will get #3. So lots to consider on my end.
Plus...I already miss the newborn stage. Someone slap me. I complained nonstop on here for the first two months. Seriously what is wrong with me?
In other news...I’m currently feeding baby and then we will furiously finish packing. We leave for Hawaii in a few hours and I’m soooo excited. DS1 is running around shouting “I’m excited about Maui! Moana?” I think he may think we are going to meet the cast of Moana. I’m sure he will figure it out right? 😂
|
|
|
Post by clementine on Jul 29, 2018 11:29:46 GMT -6
sunshinedaisies I have brief periods of time where I miss the newborn stage. BRIEF. But there are definitely things I miss. We for sure want 2 kids (and maybe a third), and I think we’ll start trying again next spring/summer. Not flameful at all for you to be thinking about another baby though! I hope you don’t have to wait so long for #3. Have fun in Hawaii! Hope your trip goes well and that DS1 isn’t too disappointed Moana won’t be there.
|
|
|
Post by mintyblueair on Jul 29, 2018 11:29:59 GMT -6
sunshinedaisies, not flameful at all! My two are 21 months apart and I think a closer age gap would have been lovely. I'm not quite ready yet but I think we'll start trying for #3 when N is a year old. Have fun in hawaii!!
|
|
|
Post by alwayscheese on Jul 29, 2018 11:38:37 GMT -6
No flames but I've been watching my two bffs that both have 2.5 year olds and 7 month olds and more and more I think I want a bigger gap after DS. A lot because two in diapers is a big DNW.
I guess there are just pros and cons both ways and some people pick different than others. I used to think I wanted all my children close together and then be done. Changed my mind though. 😂
|
|
whatsit
Platinum
Posts: 2,394 Likes: 14,458
|
Post by whatsit on Jul 29, 2018 11:56:42 GMT -6
No flames but I've been watching my two bffs that both have 2.5 year olds and 7 month olds and more and more I think I want a bigger gap after DS. A lot because two in diapers is a big DNW. I guess there are just pros and cons both ways and some people pick different than others. I used to think I wanted all my children close together and then be done. Changed my mind though. 😂 This is me too. G and A are 2y 4m apart and its good but I think if we do have a third I’d like to wait a bit longer. 1- to decide whether we’re ok with a third and 2- just see if having a bigger split is easier lol When i got my iud in my dr said that most families she sees do have 3, which surprised me.
|
|
Leaf 🌱
Sapphire
Posts: 2,855 Likes: 12,814
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 12:50:29 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by Leaf 🌱 on Jul 29, 2018 12:50:29 GMT -6
This almost 3yr gap seems to be great for us. DD1 was PTed before DD1 arrived and has been legitimately helpful and adjusted fairly easily. My sister and I are also almost 3yrs apart and have always gotten along well. I don’t want a third but I would repeat the newborn days if I could. I miss them already and am so so sad to know I’ll never have that experience again. I’m trying to get over it by thinking about all the “big kid” stuff we have in front of us and how we are less than three years from being a diaper free house 😂
|
|
|
July 23rd
Jul 29, 2018 14:01:12 GMT -6
via mobile
Post by stardust84 on Jul 29, 2018 14:01:12 GMT -6
I would consider a third but I think the thought of having to go through the toddler (2-3 yo) stage a third time will stop me. That and I don't think we can afford it.
|
|
|
Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jul 29, 2018 14:35:40 GMT -6
I was all for a third, but now... the thought of another maternity leave and dealing with toddler plus newborn again DNW. Plus, money.
|
|