trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 14, 2017 8:11:05 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're having issues with your mom vino. Can she take this weekend off from visiting so you both can have some space? Or maybe she could take B to her house for the weekend? I'm not sure what the main issue is between you so I don't know which solution would be better right now.
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Post by klong11 on Jun 14, 2017 8:11:31 GMT -6
Sitting at Starbucks. I have the day off so I dropped Cadence at school and went to get my oil changed. Apparently only one person showed up for work so he couldn't open. So, I went to the bank to deal with an estate thing and they don't open until 10. Ugh. I'm just trying to get things done people!!
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 14, 2017 8:18:20 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo I'm sorry your not feeling well by maybe the gym will help you feel better Edit tag
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vino
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Post by vino on Jun 14, 2017 8:18:52 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're having issues with your mom vino. Can she take this weekend off from visiting so you both can have some space? Or maybe she could take B to her house for the weekend? I'm not sure what the main issue is between you so I don't know which solution would be better right now. I'm definitely looking at ways for her to not be here at all. She can take B once a week, same as before, but I don't need someone around that is just waiting for me to fail and saying awful things to push me over the edge. She wants to be the saviour during MH's tour so she's sure to break me down to ensure that happens. I think I'm doing alright without MH and it'd be nice to hear that from your Mom who is here everyday. Ya know? Ugh.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jun 14, 2017 8:20:39 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're having issues with your mom vino . Can she take this weekend off from visiting so you both can have some space? Or maybe she could take B to her house for the weekend? I'm not sure what the main issue is between you so I don't know which solution would be better right now. I'm definitely looking at ways for her to not be here at all. She can take B once a week, same as before, but I don't need someone around that is just waiting for me to fail and saying awful things to push me over the edge. She wants to be the saviour during MH's tour so she's sure to break me down to ensure that happens. I think I'm doing alright without MH and it'd be nice to hear that from your Mom who is here everyday. Ya know? Ugh. That really sucks, Vino. That's the last thing you need. From where I stand, you're doing awesome without YH there. I go kinda crazy when I'm on my own with the kids for just a few days!
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Post by wedding on Jun 14, 2017 8:25:32 GMT -6
There's Great Wolf Lodge deals on Zulilly today for one or two night stays in July/August. In my area the price is as low as $169/night which is pretty good. We aren't doing it since we are going in October.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 14, 2017 8:25:37 GMT -6
@vinolove I'm sorry about the situation between you and your mom. Hopefully you can figure something out, this is the last thing you need. When does your H get back?
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Post by wedding on Jun 14, 2017 8:29:43 GMT -6
I'm sorry vino. Fighting with moms sucks
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Post by wedding on Jun 14, 2017 8:30:50 GMT -6
Double post
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Post by wedding on Jun 14, 2017 8:32:04 GMT -6
When do you get the disclosure on the house csho?
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 14, 2017 8:32:42 GMT -6
vino Your mom is a bitch. #sorrynotsorry
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Post by yummeecookee on Jun 14, 2017 8:33:00 GMT -6
I hope L feels better soon wineallthetime ! mwhip and yummeecookee I keep seeing stuff about Keepers (I guess b/c we've been watching stuff on Netflix the last couple nights, ha). Worth watching? Mwhip gave a great synopsis. It is interesting and worth watching if you're not committed to some other, more exciting show. (I am moving onto OITNB now.)
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Post by mwhip on Jun 14, 2017 8:33:09 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're dealing with all this vino. You're doing a great job and handling all this like a pro! I have a hard time when H is gone for a night or two, with only 1 kid! Ignore her and her shitty comments, enjoy some wine and remember she isn't going to be there forever!
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 14, 2017 8:33:24 GMT -6
vino I bet your mom & my mother would be best friends.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 14, 2017 8:36:02 GMT -6
I'm dying at Cher's butt thread. And choking from trying not to laugh.
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Post by yummeecookee on Jun 14, 2017 8:36:19 GMT -6
Sorry to hear you are having a tough time with your mom vino . I wish she would just recognize the bad-ass solo-parenting that you are doing!
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Post by lfig on Jun 14, 2017 8:40:10 GMT -6
Morning. Took S to day care today but we have the day off work so we are catching up on errands, grocery shopping, mowing, laundry, etc. fun stuff. vino I'm sorry that things aren't great with your mom and that she's not more supportive of you. You are doing a kick ass job and don't let her make you feel like your not! xolastunicornxo sorry your dealing with MS. I hope it passes soon! wineallthetime I hope L perks up soon!
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Post by tallb on Jun 14, 2017 8:45:05 GMT -6
vino I'm sorry. You are kicking ass and we know it and your kids do. Hope you can come up with a good plan.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 14, 2017 8:45:48 GMT -6
vino I'm sorry your mom is not being very nice. You can come and hang out here. There is lots of space on the farm
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 14, 2017 8:50:04 GMT -6
I'm dying at Cher 's butt thread. And choking from trying not to laugh. What butt thread?
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 14, 2017 8:50:30 GMT -6
I'm dying at Cher 's butt thread. And choking from trying not to laugh. What butt thread? I think it's on parenting.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 14, 2017 8:51:36 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 14, 2017 8:52:45 GMT -6
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 14, 2017 8:58:48 GMT -6
I'm sorry you're having issues with your mom vino. Can she take this weekend off from visiting so you both can have some space? Or maybe she could take B to her house for the weekend? I'm not sure what the main issue is between you so I don't know which solution would be better right now. I'm definitely looking at ways for her to not be here at all. She can take B once a week, same as before, but I don't need someone around that is just waiting for me to fail and saying awful things to push me over the edge. She wants to be the saviour during MH's tour so she's sure to break me down to ensure that happens. I think I'm doing alright without MH and it'd be nice to hear that from your Mom who is here everyday. Ya know? Ugh. That's shitty. I thought she was there on the weekends only, being there everyday is too much. You have done tons of solo parenting so I don't know why she would have a shred of doubt you could do it.
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Post by jewels on Jun 14, 2017 9:02:31 GMT -6
I'm in a funk. All the tension between my Mom and I came to a head last night. She is awful and I need to find a way to not spend time with her. Fak. I'm so sorry. How much longer is your H away for? I am in a similar boat, as my mom is a difficult personality, but is so good with the boys and tries to help out when my H is away (although to hear her tell it, she's practically raising them even though she comes over for a couple of hours 1 day per week, but I digress). It sounds like perhaps you have more history there, and I'm sorry you have to deal with that
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Post by flamingo on Jun 14, 2017 9:04:00 GMT -6
Sorry vino that sucks. I'm in several mil-spouse FB groups and it never ceases to amaze me the stuff that other wives post in relation to their parents and non-military family/friends, especially during deployments and moves. Some of these people just *do.not.get.it* and instead of being supportive, offering help or a listening ear, or just--you know--keeping their mouths shut since they usually have no clue what they're talking about, it's like they delight in creating drama. So I guess all that is to say, it's not just you/your mom, and we get it, and if you need to vent, we're here for you!
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Post by vino on Jun 14, 2017 9:08:00 GMT -6
trtlcrzy she comes Tuesdays because we have JC weigh in together then she stays and 'helps' with dinner and bedtime then leaves. Then stays Fri-Sun. jewels Another 2.5 months, so far, the possibility of extension is there so who knows.
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Post by jewels on Jun 14, 2017 9:10:24 GMT -6
vino, staying Friday - Sunday every week even with a perfect relationship is tough, I can't even imagine.
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Post by vino on Jun 14, 2017 9:12:09 GMT -6
flamingo Thank you. My Mom threw in my face last night 'you have no friends and I'm your only support' comment. Well Mom, I've had to be at home every night since B was born because either MH is away or when he is home the kids haven't taken well to him doing a routine that I can do with my eyes closed. Pretty hard to find friends and keep relationships when I can't ever go out. Like she has no idea that it's all I think about and how much it bothers me, but thanks for the kick when I'm already down.
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Post by sands42 on Jun 14, 2017 9:12:32 GMT -6
wineallthetime I hope L is feeling better when you get off work! peachsmama Indianapolis is about to open an IKEA in a few months!!! πππ Only an hour away from me and my sister lives right next to it so I plan to dump my kids on her and spend HOURS there! vino... hang in there! I find my mom to be very scrutinous (not a word- but I can't think of the word I want) of me as well. It sucks. And obviously I know how difficult it is with your H being gone... you're doing great girl! csho... I friended you on FB... not sure why we're weren't friends yet but you were being hilarious the other day and it made me wonder why we weren't! βΊοΈ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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