inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 8:44:33 GMT -6
dapostrophe you're going to be a rockstar--epi or not (I hope you get the experience you want though). 
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Post by Sunny41 on May 31, 2018 8:44:38 GMT -6
Yesterday I was talking to a mom group friend. She told me her husband was walking at a park with his daughter who was carrying a 32" doll. Someone called the cops and reported "a man with a child dragging a doll". So basically an old couple called the police because it was weird that a dad would be with his kid and that kid (a girl with very short hair possibly mistaken as a boy) had a doll.
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Post by dapostrophe on May 31, 2018 8:45:21 GMT -6
I'm glad you girls agree with me. Now it's trying to tell C no without hurting his feelings. I tried last night and he became moody so I ended the conversation with, let's see how I feel and how long my parents end up staying. I dnw to have my parents and M all visiting at the same time. He seemed happier with that answer. Honestly, your comfort takes priority right now. Maybe there's a way to help him understand that you may need some space and privacy and it has nothing to do with how you feel about his friend. |
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Post by flamingo on May 31, 2018 8:45:52 GMT -6
I was frequently sent to my great aunts' houses for a few weeks in the summers. I have a million Mexican aunts and some are sweet, but there is one that was a tyrant. Like flamingo 's Grandma, she force fed us things and also had a thing for washing out mouths with soap. I have an egg issue to this day because of one unfortunate breakfast incident and my sister got the soap more than once. I'm sure this is part of what makes me keep my kids close by 😬 Yes, my grandmother treated our time there as basically bootcamp in an attempt to fix all the things wrong with us thanks to my mom's "lackadaisical parenting". :eyeroll: My MIL has a few of these tendencies to a much lesser extent so I think some of my reluctance--and feelings about my ILs in general--stem from my own relationship with my grandmother. Ironically, years later, this same grandmother told my mom what a good job she'd done with us and how she knew how well we'd turned out was thanks mostly to my mom, as my dad traveled so much. I know my mom enjoyed that little moment immensely. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 8:46:18 GMT -6
Good luck. The only thing that finally got MH to clean the garage (it's all his crap out there clogging it up) was getting a motorcycle to have a place to put it.  A is getting a motorcycle tomorrow. He's over the moon. I guess at least he's getting it out of his system now instead of waiting for his midlife crisis. My H turns 50 next month and has been midlife-crisising for like the past 5 years. I'm over it. Get therapy and move on. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 8:48:28 GMT -6
Yesterday I was talking to a mom group friend. She told me her husband was walking at a park with his daughter who was carrying a 32" doll. Someone called the cops and reported "a man with a child dragging a doll". So basically an old couple called the police because it was weird that a dad would be with his kid and that kid (a girl with very short hair possibly mistaken as a boy) had a doll. Lord do people need to learn to mind their own business and find ways to cope with life aside from calling the cops. I hope your little dude feels better soon. |
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Post by jewels on May 31, 2018 8:49:46 GMT -6
My ILs are always yammering on about taking the kids and how we can send them down to FL anytime. I’m not really feeling that. I don’t want to send them as unaccompanied minors. Then they talk about wanting to take them on trips and cruises. I’m also not ok w them taking my kids out of the country. I mean, they can take me too if they really want to vacation w my kids so badly! My brothers's kids are a lot older than mine (college and high school) so when they were little, my parents were much younger and able to do more. My brother lives in FL and my parents live in NJ. When the kids were little my brother and SIL used to fly up with the kids for a week to visit and then leave them with my parents and fly home for a week. Then my mom would fly with the boys down to FL for a few days before returning alone. They would do this 2 times per year. I completely understand why my parents can't do this anymore. But man if I'm not jealous of those 2 weeks kid free my bother and SIL always got ! |
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 8:51:41 GMT -6
Last night was trying. Madison had another power struggle tantrum. She really thinks it's her place to decide what to do, tell me no, and that she doesn't have to listen to me. Then it's crocodile tears I have no pity for when she finds out she doesn't run our household. She's in for a rude awakening. I'm about ready to go hardcore and gut her room and get rid of damn near everything. She's already lost their trampoline. She's more than old enough to have more coping skills by now than to go into mega meltdowns over the slightest thing. And to be fair she doesn't always do that by any means, but when she does it's ugly and she gets downright mean.
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Post by peachsmama on May 31, 2018 8:52:07 GMT -6
A is getting a motorcycle tomorrow. He's over the moon. I guess at least he's getting it out of his system now instead of waiting for his midlife crisis. My H turns 50 next month and has been midlife-crisising for like the past 5 years. I'm over it. Get therapy and move on. He's wanted one forever. And this bike is his dream bike and it's been owned by a 78 year old man it's whole life (so the bike was babied and well taken care of) and he's getting a hell of a deal. We always borrow his dads or uncles to ride and he really just wants his own. I'm really happy for him actually. |
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Post by Sunny41 on May 31, 2018 8:53:05 GMT -6
My ILs are always yammering on about taking the kids and how we can send them down to FL anytime. I’m not really feeling that. I don’t want to send them as unaccompanied minors. Then they talk about wanting to take them on trips and cruises. I’m also not ok w them taking my kids out of the country. I mean, they can take me too if they really want to vacation w my kids so badly! Lol this reminds me of the picture she took where it looked like they were her kids |
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 8:55:38 GMT -6
AW over here. My childless friend got back from a trip the other day and last night sent me a text of her whining about a ~10 month-old and ~3 year-old who cried most of the flight with their mom constantly saying "shh." She suffered with her bottle of wine. I eye-rolled. I haven't responded yet but I'm going to ask if she forgot rule of flying #1 and didn't bring noise-cancelling headphones. I never have pity for other people on a flight who have to listen to crying kids (if it's downright misbehaving kids that's a different story, but this was a late flight, the mom was probably praying they'd sleep and instead they were over tired/had ear issues). My empathy always lies with the parent who's stuck in that scenario for several hours with no out unlike the other passengers who can just put in ear plugs and go about their business.
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Post by peachsmama on May 31, 2018 8:55:41 GMT -6
I could probably do a long weekend-5 days kidless. But I don't think I could do 1-2 weeks until they are much older. Middle school age probably.
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Post by jewels on May 31, 2018 8:55:54 GMT -6
inthekitty, I don't know why, but I always get confused as to which of your girls is your N13 girl and which is the older one. Is Madison your N13? If so, S has been doing some of the same. I constantly tell him you don't make the rules, mommy and daddy do. He does not like that very much.
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Post by jewels on May 31, 2018 8:58:20 GMT -6
AW over here. My childless friend got back from a trip the other day and last night sent me a text of her whining about a ~10 month-old and ~3 year-old who cried most of the flight with their mom constantly saying "shh." She suffered with her bottle of wine. I eye-rolled. I haven't responded yet but I'm going to ask if she forgot rule of flying #1 and didn't bring noise-cancelling headphones. I never have pity for other people on a flight who have to listen to crying kids (if it's downright misbehaving kids that's a different story, but this was a late flight, the mom was probably praying they'd sleep and instead they were over tired/had ear issues). My empathy always lies with the parent who's stuck in that scenario for several hours with no out unlike the other passengers who can just put in ear plugs and go about their business. I feel like before kids I would have been annoyed like your friend. But now that I'm a parent, I feel for that mom. Like you said, she was probably stressing and just praying her kids would be quiet! Now, like you, the only thing I get annoyed by is if a parent is annoying bad behavior from their kid (like kicking the seat or screaming if they are of an age to know better). Otherwise, I am just sympathetic to the parent! |
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Post by inthekitty on May 31, 2018 9:04:49 GMT -6
inthekitty , I don't know why, but I always get confused as to which of your girls is your N13 girl and which is the older one. Is Madison your N13? If so, S has been doing some of the same. I constantly tell him you don't make the rules, mommy and daddy do. He does not like that very much. Madison is my O11...so 6.5  Too old to be acting like such a jerk. Cass is my N13er and she's more passive with her fits. Like, her #1 move is to refuse to move. Something upsets her in the store. Refuses to move and grunts uh-uh when I say it's time to go. Sometimes has to be picked up or runs after me crying when I walk off. She does come out of it sooner though. Madison digs in. When she was about 3 I literally had to lock her in her room when she'd tantrum because she just wouldn't stop and calm down. In her room she'd bang her sippy on the wall and put gouges in it. She's stopped being a destructive a-hole, but will just be incredibly nasty in addition to crying uncontrollably. She'll "spit" (doesn't actually spit but does this gross foaming at the mouth thing with spit between her lips), storm off, hit Cass, sometimes hits at me, say mean things to me. Last night it all started because some older boys at the park didn't want to play with her. Tonight we will talk about the many constructive things she could have done to cope with that instead of being an a-hole to Cass and I. |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on May 31, 2018 9:16:00 GMT -6
Yay baby day!!! You got this dapostropheguster I did a killer Pilates class yesterday and my muscles are also jelly this morning mwhip have your husband teach mine his ways. We have a three car garage and currently park one car in it. I used to spend the night at my grandmas all the time. It was my favorite, I’d take bubble baths in her huge tub and we get pizza and ice cream for dinner. And dh and his siblings used to spend summers in Hawaii with his aunts. My fil is awesome about offering to take the kids, and if we lived closer it would be great. My parents... not so much. It’s hard to even get them to babysit for a few hours. |
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Post by slenle on May 31, 2018 9:17:22 GMT -6
Morning! Not much on the agenda today. Thinking of maybe putting the pool up again for the kids. I got dh to agree to us cleaning the garage tonight. I can’t handle how messy it is! I try to keep my mouth shut about it but he has soooo much stuff and so many tools and he is super unorganized. I get so angry every time I try to find a simple tool and have to climb my way to the work bench to not be able to find one. So we will probably end the day with a fight lol. Good luck. The only thing that finally got MH to clean the garage (it's all his crap out there clogging it up) was getting a motorcycle to have a place to put it. Ha. Dh has a motorcycle that he never ever rides. It sits covered up on the other side of the garage next to his car. I’ve been trying to get him to sell it but we swears he’ll ride it more. So far that hasn’t happened And I should clarify- our cars both park in the garage so he’s not quite hoarder level... yet! |
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Post by Sunny41 on May 31, 2018 9:27:29 GMT -6
I have a friend with an S13. She works as a flight attendant and is often away for days and her husband sometimes works nights. The kid has room at grandma's and stays there a lot. Currently said friend is in the Azores hiking for a few days. I'm so jealous of the ability to travel cheap and without kids
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Post by kim22 on May 31, 2018 9:28:09 GMT -6
Both of my grandma’s lived a few blocks away and I loved sleepovers. We were allowed to do anything we wanted and we were spoiled rotten. My kids have only ever slept at my sister’s house, until tonight when my big guy will be sleeping in a hotel with his 2 best friends, hold me!
I’m visiting my grandma now. She’s not good and it’s so sad. She thinks she has bronchitis but it’s heart failure.
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Post by chrisy01 on May 31, 2018 9:32:16 GMT -6
Ok now I'm angry. I bought new tubes for my breast pump and put them on top of a book case. C moved them now I can't find them. I am washing and sanitizing all the bottles and pump parts today. I even told him not to move them. He's not responding to text messages.
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Post by klong11 on May 31, 2018 9:34:24 GMT -6
So apparently yesterday some of the school age kids were in with Cadence's class. She slyly told me that she played with an older boy, but she didn't know his name. He knows *EVERYHING* about animals, but only cats and dogs. She then asked if I knew that dogs ate trees. I told her I wasn't so sure about that and she said she wasn't either.
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Post by vino on May 31, 2018 9:38:20 GMT -6
Oh that's tough kim22, I'm sorry  |
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Post by tgrimes on May 31, 2018 9:42:02 GMT -6
kim22 Oh no! I'm so sorry.
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Post by mwhip on May 31, 2018 9:49:37 GMT -6
Sunny41 I hope E feels better quickly! kim22 Sorry about the update on your grandma. H has mentioned previously thinking about getting a motorcycle, but he also realizes he would kill himself on it and smartly decides it isn't for him. When I was in HS and college, my BF at the time had multiple 'crotch rockets.' We used to do the stupidest shit. Now that I'm 41, I realize how damn dangerous they are and would never get back on one (besides the idiots who pay no attention to other people on the road). When my ex and I divorced, he went out and bought himself a motorcycle, which is funny because I never remember him even talking about wanting one. I guess maybe he cleaned the garage up enough to store it?
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Post by klong11 on May 31, 2018 9:51:01 GMT -6
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Post by jewels on May 31, 2018 9:55:58 GMT -6
MH has 2 motorcycles and it is his favorite hobby. He admittedly doesn't get on them much anymore b/c he always working and when he's not working he's spending time w/ the kids. But he still talks about getting a 3rd. I don't get it.
When we were dating, we got in an accident on the bike and it scared me to death. I tried to get back on it a few times since then and was just so tense it was unpleasant for me. So now it's his own hobby, and I haven't been back on in probably 10 years. I hate it for him, but he loves it, so I deal.
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Post by jewels on May 31, 2018 9:56:14 GMT -6
Sorry about your grandma kim22 |
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Post by nam2013 on May 31, 2018 10:01:19 GMT -6
kim22 I’m so sorry, that is really hard.
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Post by chrisy01 on May 31, 2018 10:02:03 GMT -6
I'm so sorry kim22. Big hugs! |
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Post by flamingo on May 31, 2018 10:13:33 GMT -6
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Too old to be acting like such a jerk. Cass is my N13er and she's more passive with her fits. Like, her #1 move is to refuse to move. Something upsets her in the store. Refuses to move and grunts uh-uh when I say it's time to go. Sometimes has to be picked up or runs after me crying when I walk off. She does come out of it sooner though. Madison digs in. When she was about 3 I literally had to lock her in her room when she'd tantrum because she just wouldn't stop and calm down. In her room she'd bang her sippy on the wall and put gouges in it. She's stopped being a destructive a-hole, but will just be incredibly nasty in addition to crying uncontrollably. She'll "spit" (doesn't actually spit but does this gross foaming at the mouth thing with spit between her lips), storm off, hit Cass, sometimes hits at me, say mean things to me. Last night it all started because some older boys at the park didn't want to play with her. Tonight we will talk about the many constructive things she could have done to cope with that instead of being an a-hole to Cass and I. 
