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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 12, 2017 11:22:54 GMT -6
Ok after reading all this potty advice, maybe I need to force O to do #2 on the potty. I've been taking his Dr's advice to wait until he is ready but GD-it I'm sick of changing his giant poops. This was our tact with Bradley. When he asked for a diaper one night bc he needed to go, we put him in his bathroom and baby-gated him in while DH hung out in his room. We said he could not come out until he'd gone #2 in the potty. DH was prepared for quite the wait, tears, bargaining, etc. Nope. Thirty seconds later, B called out that he was done. We were shocked. Literally, that was all it took...after months of trying anything we could think of and so much stressing out. That was in the fall, and he has not asked for a diaper since. It was just like a switch flipped. Some of you may think I'm the worst mom in the world for this, and maybe I am, but it worked for us so just passing it along. I need to try this when he's not backed up and know he has a soft one on deck. Lol.
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Post by sands42 on Jun 12, 2017 11:24:26 GMT -6
Sorry you are having a hard time peachsmama.... if it's any consolation.... there was a lot of crying & screaming, telling me he was scared etc. when I first started training Gunner. I made him sit every 30 min and would just sit in front of him and hug him and talk to him calmly. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:24:50 GMT -6
And I didn't shoot down every piece of advice, I ordered the books, watch and urinal klong11 posted. Fuck this day.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 11:32:20 GMT -6
But he literally screams/cries/flails at the suggestion of using the potty chair or toilet. I thought being gross and wet would switch something for him. It didn't. I'm just waiting a few weeks and hoping something clicks. Well, like trtlcrzy said, every kid is different but in light of that fact I think I'm kind of the opposite. Dude is stubborn beyond belief and no matter what I did or how hard I pushed, he wasn't having it. He would poop or pee in his pants and not care one bit. So I agree in the sense that once you start you can't turn back, but IME pushing too hard too fast won't accomplish much other than frustrating everybody. JMO. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 11:33:07 GMT -6
And I didn't shoot down every piece of advice, I ordered the books, watch and urinal klong11 posted.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 11:35:35 GMT -6
peachsmama , are you also bribing him? That helped a lot in our house. The transformers are something he REALLY wanted. And I kept reminding him that he could only get them when he went potty. Is there anything that he would go crazy for? Yes. He doesn't care. Same. Dude gave no fucks. Me: If you don't have any accidents today, we'll have a rocket pop for desert (his favorite). Dude: I don't WANT A ROCKET POP! Well, great. Now what? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by flamingo on Jun 12, 2017 11:41:30 GMT -6
This was our tact with Bradley. When he asked for a diaper one night bc he needed to go, we put him in his bathroom and baby-gated him in while DH hung out in his room. We said he could not come out until he'd gone #2 in the potty. DH was prepared for quite the wait, tears, bargaining, etc. Nope. Thirty seconds later, B called out that he was done. We were shocked. Literally, that was all it took...after months of trying anything we could think of and so much stressing out. That was in the fall, and he has not asked for a diaper since. It was just like a switch flipped. Some of you may think I'm the worst mom in the world for this, and maybe I am, but it worked for us so just passing it along. I need to try this when he's not backed up and know he has a soft one on deck. Lol. Yes! That's a good point. I read about this in a column by a child psychologist/parenting expert who I tend to agree with. I tweaked his solution, but he suggested feeding the child a lot of fiber, etc. so they really feel the urge to go.
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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 12, 2017 11:45:01 GMT -6
I need to try this when he's not backed up and know he has a soft one on deck. Lol. Yes! That's a good point. I read about this in a column by a child psychologist/parenting expert who I tend to agree with. I tweaked his solution, but he suggested feeding the child a lot of fiber, etc. so they really feel the urge to go. That's what I was thinking. I can probably make this work if there is a poop-mergency, otherwise he might have a hard time on the potty. He regularly squats. I was also thinking of getting the potty seat for squatting but really I'd prefer him to learn how to do it the regular way.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:46:45 GMT -6
Same. Dude gave no fucks. Me: If you don't have any accidents today, we'll have a rocket pop for desert (his favorite). Dude: I don't WANT A ROCKET POP! Well, great. Now what? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Yea. Same. I bought a bunch of M&M's, his favorite candy, put them in a clear jar on the mantle and he asked for some. I told him he gets some every time he sits on the chair. Doesn't even have to go. Just sitting on the chair - boom candy. He just walked away. Never mentioned them again. Jar is still sitting there.
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Post by csho on Jun 12, 2017 11:46:56 GMT -6
Same. Dude gave no fucks. Me: If you don't have any accidents today, we'll have a rocket pop for desert (his favorite). Dude: I don't WANT A ROCKET POP! Well, great. Now what? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Yeah this sounds familiar. Ours goes something like this: Me: Are you ready to poop on the potty? V: I want a Toby train. Me: OK great, let's poop on the potty and go get one! V: I DON'T WANT A TOBY TRAIN.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 11:47:24 GMT -6
And I didn't shoot down every piece of advice, I ordered the books, watch and urinal klong11 posted. Fuck this day. You're frustrated and M is scared. I say get the books and props together, see what seems to excite him and start over this weekend. I get the pressure with the timeframe because I was dealing with the exact same thing except I had like, 4 weeks, but no amount of pushing was going to make it happen when he was insistent he was not doing it or terrified to poop. Then one day it just happened. 7 weeks isn't a long time, but not coming up so soon that you can't pump the brakes and try again this Saturday once you've both had time to regroup. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 12, 2017 11:51:00 GMT -6
Same. Dude gave no fucks. Me: If you don't have any accidents today, we'll have a rocket pop for desert (his favorite). Dude: I don't WANT A ROCKET POP! Well, great. Now what? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Yeah this sounds familiar. Ours goes something like this: Me: Are you ready to poop on the potty? V: I want a Toby train. Me: OK great, let's poop on the potty and go get one! V: I DON'T WANT A TOBY TRAIN. I mean, he's trained now but I couldn't tell you what worked because nothing did until he felt ready and the more we pushed him the more he fought it. See again, all kids are different and YMMV. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 12, 2017 11:52:00 GMT -6
I kept telling O that if he started pooping on the potty he would get a big boy bike. He stopped wanting one and is happy with his tricycle.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 12, 2017 11:52:04 GMT -6
Yes! That's a good point. I read about this in a column by a child psychologist/parenting expert who I tend to agree with. I tweaked his solution, but he suggested feeding the child a lot of fiber, etc. so they really feel the urge to go. That's what I was thinking. I can probably make this work if there is a poop-mergency, otherwise he might have a hard time on the potty. He regularly squats. I was also thinking of getting the potty seat for squatting but really I'd prefer him to learn how to do it the regular way. Yeah. For us it wasn't an emergency, I just waited til B asked for a diaper (so I knew he had to go). He typically goes at night after dinner. He was also a squatter and liked to go off by himself for privacy. I kind of miss that kid who wanted to be alone--now he just wants me to come check out the toilet and 'see how big it is'! 😝
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Post by kim22 on Jun 12, 2017 11:52:32 GMT -6
peachsmama my oldest was starting a must be potty trained preschool 2 weeks after his 3rd birthday. He refused to use the potty. I put him in underwear the first day of school and dropped him off. He never had an accident, he figured it out. He gave no fucks peeing himself in front of me but wouldn't dare do it for someone else. My second trained herself in Disney World so maybe you should book a trip.
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Post by csho on Jun 12, 2017 11:52:51 GMT -6
I have a lovely tale of the consequences of my super positive/no discipline parenting style.
V dumped his full bowl of popcorn on the carpet.
DH: Hey buddy, you need to clean that up.
(V picks up exactly one piece of popcorn)
V: PERFECT! FANTASTIC! I AM AWESOME!
DH: Wow. That was a lot of praise for one piece of popcorn.
I died laughing. Mostly at myself.
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Post by csho on Jun 12, 2017 11:55:04 GMT -6
I kept telling O that if he started pooping on the potty he would get a big boy bike. He stopped wanting one and is happy with his tricycle. LOL
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:56:24 GMT -6
And I didn't shoot down every piece of advice, I ordered the books, watch and urinal klong11 posted. Fuck this day. You're frustrated and M is scared. I say get the books and props together, see what seems to excite him and start over this weekend. I get the pressure with the timeframe because I was dealing with the exact same thing except I had like, 4 weeks, but no amount of pushing was going to make it happen when he was insistent he was not doing it or terrified to poop. Then one day it just happened. 7 weeks isn't a long time, but not coming up so soon that you can't pump the brakes and try again this Saturday once you've both had time to regroup. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Thats what I'm going to do. Everything will be here Wednesday. I'm going to hang up the urinal and not even show him. Wait until he notices it and asks. And I'll just add the books into our rotation and see how he reacts. Saturday we'll try underwear again.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:58:25 GMT -6
I just lost a cracker between my boobs. And reached to get it just as my boss came back from lunch.
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Post by jewels on Jun 12, 2017 11:58:43 GMT -6
This. I had a dance and everything. S loves the potty dance. I feel like an idiot but it works. Also, S thinks it's neat to stand and pee. Might be messy but who cares at this point if he's doing it!.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 11:59:04 GMT -6
We took pics of all the kids this weekend. I won't post the ones with my nieces & nephews though.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 12, 2017 12:00:47 GMT -6
peachsmama I'm sorry M is giving you a hard time with PT. I really have no real advice to ad. The one thing we did was put ds ifo the tv on his potty, with a diaper in the beginning. Then when he was comfortable with the potty we took the diaper of. Like others said about their kids, Ds is also strong willed and has no interest in bribes most of the time. Oh, I think Dh and I are the odd ones who did combine pt at home and diapers outside of our home. Each kid is different! Fingers crossed he gets is soon!
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 12:01:13 GMT -6
CUTE! I can't wait to do cousin pictures! As soon as my brother's youngest is sitting up we're going to.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 12, 2017 12:02:39 GMT -6
I kept telling O that if he started pooping on the potty he would get a big boy bike. He stopped wanting one and is happy with his tricycle. In the same boat, I told ds he'd get a set of drums. He said he'll wait until his birthday and ask them then...
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 12, 2017 12:03:41 GMT -6
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 12, 2017 12:06:51 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 12:09:04 GMT -6
CUTE! I can't wait to do cousin pictures! As soon as my brother's youngest is sitting up we're going to. H still can't sit up by himself yet. He's really lazy.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 12:09:17 GMT -6
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 12:10:57 GMT -6
I spent all morning cleaning both upstairs bathrooms. It's really hard to keep a curious toddler out while you clean. Now I'm siting on the couch listening to S cry in the crib, sleep training sucks. I tried having H try napping in there at the same time and she just started talking to S. So now she's sleeping in my bed. Someday they will be able to sleep together at the same time.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 12, 2017 12:13:39 GMT -6
trtlcrzy yes I can't wait until that day comes... plus I suck at sleep training, my heart isn't in it and the kids can tell. This is why I'm still rocking my 1yo to sleep in the evening 🙄.
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