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Post by flamingo on Jun 12, 2017 10:30:33 GMT -6
Not to pile on but I agree with the others re: keeping the potty training train going, peachsmama. I saw this with my aunt's twin boys, who were beyond uninterested in training; they were close to 4 when she finally got it done, and she basically had to make up her mind that her will was stronger than theirs. This may be a UO but kids can be manipulative--not out of malice but b/c they're figuring out what they can get away with. B was 'scared' of going #2 on the potty, but in hindsight he was playing us, lol. He just didn't want to and was comfortable going in his diaper. I like vino's advice to essentially quit talking about it and just do it. Take the choice away from him. That is finally how we got B to go #2 on the toilet last fall. It had turned into a battle of wills and I just made up my mind that we were going to end it one way or another and I was not changing one more dirty diaper.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:30:47 GMT -6
We do. He has no interest in the books. But it's a generic one. Maybe if I can find a paw patrol one or something. I've tried to talk through it with him but he can't give me answers.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 10:32:37 GMT -6
We do. He has no interest in the books. But it's a generic one. Maybe if I can find a paw patrol one or something. I've tried to talk through it with him but he can't give me answers. Watch the Daniel tiger potty training episode
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:32:43 GMT -6
peachsmama, oh and this: www.amazon.com/Potty-Time-Watch-Blue/dp/B001AH8JNCMy nephew used it and so did a coworker's grandson, and now a little boy in Cadence's class has it and it is amazing. You just set it for whatever time interval you want and instead of it being YOU telling him to go, it's just the time to go. You know? "Oh, the timer went off, we all go potty now, come on!" Then after awhile you can extend the time between potty visits and soon he is realizing the point and can do it on his own.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:33:03 GMT -6
I still don't understand why you can't send him. In a perfect world, the kids would magically potty train themselves and sleep through the night on their own. Unfortunately we live in reality and shit happens. Literally. So, do a long 4 day weekend to potty train. Starting and stopping will only make things worse. Okay. I won't send him in underwear when he's not even the tiniest bit potty trained. Well, you work so it's not like you can just stay at home with him all day until he's completely trained. I'm really not trying to be a bitch about this, but if he has to be trained for school in August, you only have 7 weeks. Attempting to potty train on the weekend and then giving up during the week isn't going to work.
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Post by vino on Jun 12, 2017 10:34:26 GMT -6
peachsmama, oh and this: www.amazon.com/Potty-Time-Watch-Blue/dp/B001AH8JNCMy nephew used it and so did a coworker's grandson, and now a little boy in Cadence's class has it and it is amazing. You just set it for whatever time interval you want and instead of it being YOU telling him to go, it's just the time to go. You know? "Oh, the timer went off, we all go potty now, come on!" Then after awhile you can extend the time between potty visits and soon he is realizing the point and can do it on his own. We used this for B as well.
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:36:54 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:37:23 GMT -6
I ordered the urinal, 2 potty books (trains(how does a train potty?) and super heros) and the watch. Hopefully something works. I'll try to talk to him about the potty chair again when he's not in underwear so he doesn't feel pressured.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:37:51 GMT -6
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:38:20 GMT -6
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:39:03 GMT -6
oops, didn't realize that posted while i was still typing.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:40:17 GMT -6
Okay. I won't send him in underwear when he's not even the tiniest bit potty trained. Well, you work so it's not like you can just stay at home with him all day until he's completely trained. I'm really not trying to be a bitch about this, but if he has to be trained for school in August, you only have 7 weeks. Attempting to potty train on the weekend and then giving up during the week isn't going to work. I'm painfully aware of that. But it feels really shitty to be like "hey he's in underwear and BTW screams bloody murder at the word 'toilet' have a good day!" He's not in a center. It is one woman with 7 kids. She doesn't have an aide to help while she changes underwear and clothes every 40 minutes. I need to get him AT LEAST sitting on the toilet before I put that on her.
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Post by klong11 on Jun 12, 2017 10:41:37 GMT -6
Well, you work so it's not like you can just stay at home with him all day until he's completely trained. I'm really not trying to be a bitch about this, but if he has to be trained for school in August, you only have 7 weeks. Attempting to potty train on the weekend and then giving up during the week isn't going to work. I'm painfully aware of that. But it feels really shitty to be like "hey he's in underwear and BTW screams bloody murder at the word 'toilet' have a good day!" He's not in a center. It is one woman with 7 kids. She doesn't have an aide to help while she changes underwear and clothes every 40 minutes. I need to get him AT LEAST sitting on the toilet before I put that on her. You might see if she has any ideas about helping to get him started.
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Post by vino on Jun 12, 2017 10:45:04 GMT -6
peachsmama I really hope that one of the many props that you have bought him work, I really do. But keep in mind that maybe he doesn't need props and a party, maybe it's overwhelming for him to have all this extra 'pressure' in the form of props and shit to live up to. I mean, are you going to go through this all over again when you try and sleep train him to stay in his bed in the new house, seems like a bit much. Just my 2 cents...
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 10:50:09 GMT -6
peachsmama I really hope that one of the many props that you have bought him work, I really do. But keep in mind that maybe he doesn't need props and a party, maybe it's overwhelming for him to have all this extra 'pressure' in the form of props and shit to live up to. I mean, are you going to go through this all over again when you try and sleep train him to stay in his bed in the new house, seems like a bit much. Just my 2 cents... He loves having his own bed so I don't think it'll be an issue. Jack will be the one transitioning then. And I don't think the two things are remotely related. This weekend was just the potty and M&Ms. Not many props.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 12, 2017 10:50:28 GMT -6
Anyone want to come work in customer service with me?! I'll take anyone at this point...new girl is just not catching on at all and I'm practically on my own.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:50:55 GMT -6
peachsmama I really hope that one of the many props that you have bought him work, I really do. But keep in mind that maybe he doesn't need props and a party, maybe it's overwhelming for him to have all this extra 'pressure' in the form of props and shit to live up to. I mean, are you going to go through this all over again when you try and sleep train him to stay in his bed in the new house, seems like a bit much. Just my 2 cents... My sister potty trained 4 kids as soon as they turned 2 without any books, props, etc.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 10:52:39 GMT -6
Well, you work so it's not like you can just stay at home with him all day until he's completely trained. I'm really not trying to be a bitch about this, but if he has to be trained for school in August, you only have 7 weeks. Attempting to potty train on the weekend and then giving up during the week isn't going to work. I'm painfully aware of that. But it feels really shitty to be like "hey he's in underwear and BTW screams bloody murder at the word 'toilet' have a good day!" He's not in a center. It is one woman with 7 kids. She doesn't have an aide to help while she changes underwear and clothes every 40 minutes. I need to get him AT LEAST sitting on the toilet before I put that on her. Well, I think several people have given you plenty of good advice. You seem to be shooting it all down though. I hope you find something that works for both of you. I'm still going to reiterate that consistency is key.
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Post by vino on Jun 12, 2017 10:53:12 GMT -6
peachsmama I really hope that one of the many props that you have bought him work, I really do. But keep in mind that maybe he doesn't need props and a party, maybe it's overwhelming for him to have all this extra 'pressure' in the form of props and shit to live up to. I mean, are you going to go through this all over again when you try and sleep train him to stay in his bed in the new house, seems like a bit much. Just my 2 cents... He loves having his own bed so I don't think it'll be an issue. Jack will be the one transitioning then. And I don't think the two things are remotely related. This weekend was just the potty and M&Ms. Not many props. Ok cool. KOKO.
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Post by vino on Jun 12, 2017 10:54:41 GMT -6
Is there a PTing thread here yet? Maybe have all ideas in one place.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 12, 2017 11:01:51 GMT -6
Is there a PTing thread here yet? Maybe have all ideas in one place. Nope, I don't think so. Probably a good idea to do one. Actually I think there is a potty training sub board on the toddler/preschool board too.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:04:00 GMT -6
I'm painfully aware of that. But it feels really shitty to be like "hey he's in underwear and BTW screams bloody murder at the word 'toilet' have a good day!" He's not in a center. It is one woman with 7 kids. She doesn't have an aide to help while she changes underwear and clothes every 40 minutes. I need to get him AT LEAST sitting on the toilet before I put that on her. Well, I think several people have given you plenty of good advice. You seem to be shooting it all down though. I hope you find something that works for both of you. I'm still going to reiterate that consistency is key. I didn't ask for advice. I answered how it went when asked. I'm not shooting down ideas just because, I'm telling you all he's terrified. It's not bad advice but I don't think it applies to my kid.
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Post by wedding on Jun 12, 2017 11:04:27 GMT -6
C loves the book Even Firefighters go to the Potty!
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 12, 2017 11:09:53 GMT -6
C loves the book Even Firefighters go to the Potty! I saw that one when I was looking and immediately thought of him!
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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 12, 2017 11:10:55 GMT -6
Ok after reading all this potty advice, maybe I need to force O to do #2 on the potty. I've been taking his Dr's advice to wait until he is ready but GD-it I'm sick of changing his giant poops.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 11:11:33 GMT -6
Well, I think several people have given you plenty of good advice. You seem to be shooting it all down though. I hope you find something that works for both of you. I'm still going to reiterate that consistency is key. I didn't ask for advice. I answered how it went when asked. I'm not shooting down ideas just because, I'm telling you all he's terrified. It's not bad advice but I don't think it applies to my kid. Oh, okay.
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Post by csho on Jun 12, 2017 11:12:40 GMT -6
Motherfucker I was just out shopping and didn't get anything for Father's Day.
I was out of coffee and pissed...I bought myself all the coffee and all the things. Nothing for DH.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 11:16:05 GMT -6
Motherfucker I was just out shopping and didn't get anything for Father's Day. I was out of coffee and pissed...I bought myself all the coffee and all the things. Nothing for DH. LOL!
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Post by flamingo on Jun 12, 2017 11:16:34 GMT -6
Ok after reading all this potty advice, maybe I need to force O to do #2 on the potty. I've been taking his Dr's advice to wait until he is ready but GD-it I'm sick of changing his giant poops. This was our tact with Bradley. When he asked for a diaper one night bc he needed to go, we put him in his bathroom and baby-gated him in while DH hung out in his room. We said he could not come out until he'd gone #2 in the potty. DH was prepared for quite the wait, tears, bargaining, etc. Nope. Thirty seconds later, B called out that he was done. We were shocked. Literally, that was all it took...after *months* of trying anything we could think of and so much stressing out. That was in the fall, and he has not asked for a diaper since. It was just like a switch flipped. Some of you may think I'm the worst mom in the world for this, and maybe I am, but it worked for us so just passing it along.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 12, 2017 11:22:35 GMT -6
Ok after reading all this potty advice, maybe I need to force O to do #2 on the potty. I've been taking his Dr's advice to wait until he is ready but GD-it I'm sick of changing his giant poops. This was our tact with Bradley. When he asked for a diaper one night bc he needed to go, we put him in his bathroom and baby-gated him in while DH hung out in his room. We said he could not come out until he'd gone #2 in the potty. DH was prepared for quite the wait, tears, bargaining, etc. Nope. Thirty seconds later, B called out that he was done. We were shocked. Literally, that was all it took...after months of trying anything we could think of and so much stressing out. That was in the fall, and he has not asked for a diaper since. It was just like a switch flipped. Some of you may think I'm the worst mom in the world for this, and maybe I am, but it worked for us so just passing it along. Definitely not the worst mom in the world.
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