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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 6:45:33 GMT -6
Do you open gifts at the birthday party?
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 6:57:11 GMT -6
Do you open gifts at the birthday party? Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house.
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Post by lupincat on May 22, 2018 7:05:50 GMT -6
Do you open gifts at the birthday party? We do but I'll admit it seemed kind of pointless at DS1's first birthday party because he was more interested in eating sand.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 7:13:35 GMT -6
Do you open gifts at the birthday party? Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house. I generally don't want gifts but didn't actively discourage because I figured no one would listen. I don't want to open gifts but I wasn't sure if it would be expected.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 7:15:54 GMT -6
babystandish , I hope your cat is feeling better piratecat , good luck with the weather! We had rain for ours, sigh (and of course the next day was gorgeous). But it all worked out. We opened presents mostly because my mom wanted to (I was hoping we wouldn't even get any presents lol). Now it's 80% chance of scattered thunderstorms. The day before the party looks beautiful and warm and perfect swimming weather.
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 7:18:52 GMT -6
Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house. I generally don't want gifts but didn't actively discourage because I figured no one would listen. I don't want to open gifts but I wasn't sure if it would be expected. I've found that the older crowd expects that their presents are opened in front of them. Like my aunt wanted to be there when ds1 opened the gift from her but my neighbors didn't seem to care. Now she just arrives early to birthday parties so he can open her gift before everyone else arrives bc she knows how I feel about it. Whatever lol.
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Post by gingy on May 22, 2018 7:29:04 GMT -6
Do you open gifts at the birthday party? Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house. I've considered requesting this but I can't see anyone actually doing it. It's like they get so offended that you don't want them to spend money on junk.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 7:32:58 GMT -6
I generally don't want gifts but didn't actively discourage because I figured no one would listen. I don't want to open gifts but I wasn't sure if it would be expected. I've found that the older crowd expects that their presents are opened in front of them. Like my aunt wanted to be there when ds1 opened the gift from her but my neighbors didn't seem to care. Now she just arrives early to birthday parties so he can open her gift before everyone else arrives bc she knows how I feel about it. Whatever lol. The party is mostly family except for two friends and their kids, so we'll have time to open family gifts after the party really. I hope the friends won't bring anything (I told my H to tell them not to but I don't know if he did) or at least won't care if we don't open them at the party.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 7:33:31 GMT -6
Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house. I've considered requesting this but I can't see anyone actually doing it. It's like they get so offended that you don't want them to spend money on junk. I'm thinking it might go over better once they are a little bit older, but we'll see.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 7:34:30 GMT -6
I feel like there is going to be so many outfit changes (because it will get dirty, not like for funsies) so I need to account for all that time.
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 7:35:48 GMT -6
Some people do, some people don't. We don't open gifts in front of everyone. I also have a well established "bring a donation for the animal shelter or canned food items instead of gifts" policy lol. ETA which people (cough grandparents cough) disregard but dnw more toys in my house. I've considered requesting this but I can't see anyone actually doing it. It's like they get so offended that you don't want them to spend money on junk. I've found that if you frame it as collecting donations so they are still bringing something, it helps. Now that ds1 is 3, I involve him in it and he comes with me to drop off the items. I've got some time before ds2's first birthday, but I'll pry collect canned food since it's a couple weeks before Thanksgiving.
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Post by babystandish on May 22, 2018 7:53:41 GMT -6
We open gifts in front of everyone (when we actually throw parties lol). I dislike going to parties when they don’t. I want to see the kid open the present we got them even if they aren’t interested.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 8:02:35 GMT -6
We open gifts in front of everyone (when we actually throw parties lol). I dislike going to parties when they don’t. I want to see the kid open the present we got them even if they aren’t interested. This is not what I wanted to hear!
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Post by babystandish on May 22, 2018 8:35:37 GMT -6
We open gifts in front of everyone (when we actually throw parties lol). I dislike going to parties when they don’t. I want to see the kid open the present we got them even if they aren’t interested. This is not what I wanted to hear! Well if you don’t at the very least send a thank you card. One of my friends didn’t open presents and no thank you card and never mentioned the gift to me ever. Arghhhhhhhh. Ragggggeeeeeeee!
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 8:45:14 GMT -6
This is not what I wanted to hear! Well if you don’t at the very least send a thank you card. One of my friends didn’t open presents and no thank you card and never mentioned the gift to me ever. Arghhhhhhhh. Ragggggeeeeeeee! Gah I hate that. I always send a thank you note with an anecdote about the gift and ds1.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 8:50:46 GMT -6
This is not what I wanted to hear! Well if you don’t at the very least send a thank you card. One of my friends didn’t open presents and no thank you card and never mentioned the gift to me ever. Arghhhhhhhh. Ragggggeeeeeeee! Are you saying I don't have to send thank you cards if I open the gifts at the party? Because that may convince me.
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Post by gingy on May 22, 2018 9:58:32 GMT -6
Well if you don’t at the very least send a thank you card. One of my friends didn’t open presents and no thank you card and never mentioned the gift to me ever. Arghhhhhhhh. Ragggggeeeeeeee! Are you saying I don't have to send thank you cards if I open the gifts at the party? Because that may convince me. This is our reasoning for opening at the party. If they see the kid open it, we can say thank you right then. If it's sent from an OOT relative or whatever, we send a note.
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Post by gingy on May 22, 2018 10:37:00 GMT -6
I like these thank you note rules. However the baby shower I had painfully open the presents in front of everyone and send thank you notes The worst. I fucking loathe showers. Though I mildly enjoyed our coed shower because DH could experience the pain with me. He finally understood my hatred.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 10:48:42 GMT -6
I like these thank you note rules. However the baby shower I had painfully open the presents in front of everyone and send thank you notes The worst. I fucking loathe showers. Though I mildly enjoyed our coed shower because DH could experience the pain with me. He finally understood my hatred. I didn't have one. Wedding or baby. *hair flip*
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 10:51:10 GMT -6
Well if you don’t at the very least send a thank you card. One of my friends didn’t open presents and no thank you card and never mentioned the gift to me ever. Arghhhhhhhh. Ragggggeeeeeeee! Are you saying I don't have to send thank you cards if I open the gifts at the party? Because that may convince me. I would still send thank you notes lol. I always err on the side of sending a thank you note.
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Post by grumpycat on May 22, 2018 10:54:59 GMT -6
I like these thank you note rules. However the baby shower I had painfully open the presents in front of everyone and send thank you notes The worst. I fucking loathe showers. Though I mildly enjoyed our coed shower because DH could experience the pain with me. He finally understood my hatred. I hate bridal/baby showers too. DNW to watch someone open presents or play stupid games. No bridal shower or "sprinkle" for my 2nd baby, and my mom had to essentially trap me into having a baby shower for my first. Like came to my house and made me go upstairs for 45 minutes to take a nap while she set up.
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Post by lupincat on May 22, 2018 11:13:39 GMT -6
I don't do thank you notes for parties. My kid can't write to thank you so it seems not genuine. I will happily thank you in person or send a picture of my kid enjoying their gift.
I had a baby shower for my first but flat out refused a sprinkle for my SECOND boy in 22.5 months. No thank you, I have what I need. I'm not a fan of sprinkles anyway. I had friends really pushing for it and luckily my sister shut them down hard.
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Post by babystandish on May 22, 2018 12:21:58 GMT -6
So spending 2.5 hours at the vet with 2 kids was fun. They did some blood tests and discovered she had a very high white blood cell count and some kind of infection. But her liver function and other organ function looked good. So we got antibiotics and an appetite stimulator. They said she should start improving in 2-3 days. Thank goodness it’s not too serious.
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Post by piratecat on May 22, 2018 12:33:55 GMT -6
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Post by babystandish on May 23, 2018 12:20:42 GMT -6
Still in denial about my baby turning one tomorrow. I did buy the ingredients for the cupcakes though so I must be starting to accept it.
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Post by babystandish on May 23, 2018 18:36:58 GMT -6
Cupcakes are made and ready!
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Post by piratecat on May 23, 2018 19:00:45 GMT -6
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Post by lupincat on May 23, 2018 19:41:54 GMT -6
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Post by babystandish on May 23, 2018 20:29:02 GMT -6
I got candy melts for the lettering and some kind of piping tube thing at Michael’s. You just melt them down and then write it out on parchment on a cookie sheet and then freeze it for a few minutes for it to set.
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Post by babystandish on May 23, 2018 20:30:01 GMT -6
Sounds good! We will need all the help we can get since we aren’t doing a party.
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