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Post by katietopaz on May 4, 2018 16:22:24 GMT -6
Can we ship our moody toddlers off to a place they can be cranky and "working on their independence" together?
DH's work just decided to send him on a super last-minute work trip to the opposite coast next week. He leaves Monday morning and gets back very late Wednesday. I have to survive three full days solo with these two kids, including somehow doing bedtime. FML. Meanwhile he gets to eat meals and sleep all night in peace. I'm...very bitter.
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 4, 2018 17:32:09 GMT -6
We need that toddler farm. We need it now.
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Post by clementine on May 4, 2018 19:00:33 GMT -6
Can we ship our moody toddlers off to a place they can be cranky and "working on their independence" together? DH's work just decided to send him on a super last-minute work trip to the opposite coast next week. He leaves Monday morning and gets back very late Wednesday. I have to survive three full days solo with these two kids, including somehow doing bedtime. FML. Meanwhile he gets to eat meals and sleep all night in peace. I'm...very bitter. Ugh I’m sorry. Sending you super mom vibes and energy. My H just told me he’s going on a work trip at the end of May for 3 days. I only have one child but I’m already worried. He’s already turned down 2 trips since L has been born so he can’t skip out on this one. |
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Post by woodenshoes on May 4, 2018 19:59:23 GMT -6
My 4 yo definitely needs the toddler farm. He wants constant attention and requests never stop. Tonight’s adventure was getting him a haircut. Haircuts involved loud crying and screaming aka embarrassing mommy. Thankfully another lady told me she had been in the same situation and the one stylist said she her son was the same way.
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Post by katietopaz on May 5, 2018 0:02:03 GMT -6
FFFC: I have half a tube of nipple cream left that I don’t think I’m going to need for its intended purpose, so I’m repurposing it on some rough/cracked spots on my feet. Second FFFC: The baby just turned a month old, but didn’t get his first real bath until last night. MOTY here. clementine Sending you supermom vibes and energy for your H’s trip at the end of the month, too! There’s something about them being gone while our babies are still so little, it’s extra intimidating. And exhausting. |
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Post by leatherpants on May 5, 2018 1:24:12 GMT -6
We need that toddler farm. We need it now. Mine hasn’t stopped talking since he turned 4. At a loud loud volume. |
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Post by leatherpants on May 5, 2018 7:20:16 GMT -6
UGH.
I had B on my knees on the pillow in front of me, upright after a feeding and I went to move him and yawned at the same time AND HE PROJECTILE SPIT UP IN MY MOUTH
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Post by leatherpants on May 5, 2018 7:20:53 GMT -6
Also Rama girl, where you at? How’s that baby doing? How are you? |
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Post by Rama on May 5, 2018 7:48:55 GMT -6
Also Rama girl, where you at? How’s that baby doing? How are you? I'm alive! Just always on the go and trying to keep up here from my phone is a hassle I have no time or energy for most days.  Baby is great and growing like a goddamn weed. Seriously. This girl grows nearly an actual, full pound each week. She's just shy of (or maybe over now, since we last weighed on Thursday) 11lbs. I'm wrestling with having to go back to work in 2 months. I don't think I can leave her. It's been the monkey on my back for the past couple of days. But not going back to work would be kind of hard for a few reasons, too: everyone is expecting me to come back (and have made accommodations for me with this in mind), I have approximately a year left before I get vested in my retirement, I carry our insurance through my employer, and, of course, the sudden change in our financial situation if I stay home. I firmly believe it's doable, but I'm not sure it's the right call and MrRama is nervous about the finance side of things. I'm mostly concerned about my retirement. But I also know me and I'm starting to realize that if I miss these early months, especially not knowing if we'll ever have another kid, I may well regret it for the rest of my life. |
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Post by Rama on May 5, 2018 7:53:13 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on May 5, 2018 8:14:46 GMT -6
She’s such a squish Rama! All those rolls just beg for nibbling! I hope you sort out the work thing. It’s so hard because she’s still so little. Do you have any options to extend your leave at all rather than just not going back? |
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Post by Rama on May 5, 2018 8:30:03 GMT -6
She’s such a squish Rama! All those rolls just beg for nibbling! I hope you sort out the work thing. It’s so hard because she’s still so little. Do you have any options to extend your leave at all rather than just not going back? I've spread my leave out pretty far already, even if I could push it out further, if wouldn't be by more than a week or two. |
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 5, 2018 8:51:20 GMT -6
UGH. I had B on my knees on the pillow in front of me, upright after a feeding and I went to move him and yawned at the same time AND HE PROJECTILE SPIT UP IN MY MOUTH Oh no!! It happens to the best of us. |
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 5, 2018 8:51:54 GMT -6
Is there an option for part time Rama? |
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Post by whatsit on May 5, 2018 9:33:12 GMT -6
I’m sorry Rama that’s a hard decision for sure. |
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Post by cornpop on May 5, 2018 10:12:19 GMT -6
leatherpants I am so, so sorry about the projectile vomited. Yuck. Rama so adorable!! I feel you on the work thing. With Em I knew I wanted to go back but this time...I very much do not. I honestly don't know how I'm going to. Unfortunately, not working is not an option, pretty much solely for health insurance. The con side of my H owning his own business
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Post by babybean on May 5, 2018 10:39:31 GMT -6
Rama she is so beautiful! I hope you make peace with whatever decision you end up making. Being a mom is tough.
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Post by dizzycooks on May 5, 2018 11:16:23 GMT -6
I’m here. Most days are good, but I’ve had several rough ones lately. I think dh has forgotten that I just had a baby and that we are both super sleep deprived. He’s got grand plans for so many things and is convinced he’s getting a new wah job any day now. Of course this means all things office need to be done NOW. Never mind that he doesn’t have an offer yet. I might kill him.
Baby does not settle at night after nursing which sucks and is the main reason I’m exhausted. However, bc I’ve had an easy recovery I am doing every.freaking.thing. Plus working my pt gig and starting to show houses (spring market and all that). I just want someone to take care of me and let me snuggle my 3 week old baby. Instead there is a never ending pile of dishes, laundry and meals to deal with. Not to mention the other munchkins that need things.
I’m actually looking forward to dhs work trip in two weeks because then there are less dishes and clothes and I can serve cereal for dinner.
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Post by dizzycooks on May 5, 2018 11:17:25 GMT -6
Does anyone else have a baby that nurses like 5 minutes and then spits a ton up? I’ve never had a spitter? How do you know if it’s normal or too much? He’s gaining weight so that’s not a concern.
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Post by Rama on May 5, 2018 11:46:20 GMT -6
Is there an option for part time Rama? My entire first month back is part time. 😔 |
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Post by ArielMermaid on May 5, 2018 11:48:51 GMT -6
Is there an option for part time Rama? My entire first month back is part time. 😔 Damn. |
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Post by Rama on May 5, 2018 11:52:14 GMT -6
Does anyone else have a baby that nurses like 5 minutes and then spits a ton up? I’ve never had a spitter? How do you know if it’s normal or too much? He’s gaining weight so that’s not a concern. Lyra does this sometimes, but grew out of it for the most part by 5 or 6 weeks. If he is still gaining weight, I wouldn't worry about it too much. |
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 5, 2018 18:24:00 GMT -6
I feel guilty about it, but I’m kinda looking forward to going back to work. SAHM is just not me I discovered! Part time is a good compromise for me, not sure how many days I’ll be going back yet I’ll need to talk to my boss about that at some point.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on May 5, 2018 19:08:41 GMT -6
I feel guilty about it, but I’m kinda looking forward to going back to work. SAHM is just not me I discovered! Part time is a good compromise for me, not sure how many days I’ll be going back yet I’ll need to talk to my boss about that at some point. Dont feel guilty - I miss going to work. I work from home 1-2 days/week and have a flexible schedule. My boss is fantastic and does everything in her power to help us keep a good work/life balance. I can’t ever imagine leaving bc this is such a nice change from my last job. I wish I could work part time but there are so so few jobs in my field that would allow it. This is probably as close as I can get. SAHM life is not for me - I really wish it was some days. It has taken a lot of personal reflection/self-forgiveness to recognize that I’m a better mom when I work and that is ok. My kids will be happier because they have a happier, more fulfilled mom. These little snippets of wisdom have really helped me: Good for her! Not for me. - Amy Poehler You can't have it all at once. Over my lifespan, I think I have had it all. - Ruth Bader Ginsburg |
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Post by cornpop on May 6, 2018 5:40:26 GMT -6
I feel guilty about it, but I’m kinda looking forward to going back to work. SAHM is just not me I discovered! Part time is a good compromise for me, not sure how many days I’ll be going back yet I’ll need to talk to my boss about that at some point. Don't feel guilty! I felt the same with my first. Going to work and getting a break to be around adults made me a better mom when I was home. |
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Post by calendula on May 6, 2018 6:58:52 GMT -6
Rama she is so lovely. I'm glad you're enjoying these early days with her. I obviously have my reasons for being a working mom, which may or may not apply to you and that's okay. I will say that I like the adage about not making big life decisions in the early months after having a baby. Everything is so new right now, and the way your infant needs you now is very different than the relationship you'll have in 2 months, and 10 months, and 24 months. I'm obviously taking a conservative approach, but I'm of the mindset that if a decision could potentially impact your financial stability for many years going forward, it would be beneficial to wait it out a bit. No rush to make that call.
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on May 6, 2018 7:08:25 GMT -6
I’m annoyed at my MIL’s siblings. They’re organising a lunch for next weekend and as usual don’t consider us (the furthest ones away and with a newborn and toddler). It’s nearly winter and they want to have it at a beachside Park over an hour from us. WTF?
MIL went in to bat for us but plans haven’t changed yet.
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Post by woodenshoes on May 6, 2018 7:53:36 GMT -6
I feel guilty about it, but I’m kinda looking forward to going back to work. SAHM is just not me I discovered! Part time is a good compromise for me, not sure how many days I’ll be going back yet I’ll need to talk to my boss about that at some point. I am kind of looking forward to going back to work too. I get very little adult interaction outside of work. Also, this may sound terrible but I like eating lunch in peace since breakfast and dinner are never in peace. I work in the schools so I have lots of breaks and time with my children. By the end of every summer I am ready to get back in my work routine. I am not cut out to be a full time SAHM. Maybe if I lived somewhere more to do ( I am in a rural town) I would enjoy it more. |
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Post by cp3 on May 6, 2018 7:54:51 GMT -6
I haven't been around much the past few days. Mh came home sick Thursday and I've been doing everything for both girls and stuff around the house since. I'm exhausted. He finally got checked yesterday and has bronchitis. I'm glad he got checked and got meds and hoping the girls avoid getting it.
And I woke up to my period this morning. I thought the spotting I had yesterday was from working out more but it's a lot more than spotting now. I got it back early with D1 too but was hoping for a few months period free this time around.
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Post by woodenshoes on May 6, 2018 7:57:46 GMT -6
Sleep has been terrible the last few nights. I now know why...L has a cold. My H rarely helps overnight which is frustrating. I keep telling him I need some restful sleep too, but he doesn’t seem to get it. I really hope the cold clears up quickly because we are leaving for a short vacation on Wednesday.
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