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Post by notmoose on Mar 5, 2018 13:07:59 GMT -6
The baby must have had a big growth spurt in the last week. I gained like 2 lbs and can longer see my lady parts in the shower🤦♀️ Shaving has become an adventure! Bahaha I just told MH I couldn't see mine anymore on Saturday.
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Post by notmoose on Mar 5, 2018 13:08:37 GMT -6
Why do people insist on making stupid comments to pregnant women? There is a new employee at work and another coworker mentioned to her that I’m pregnant with my first. New coworker asked when I was due. Told her August 23. Cue skeptical look from her coupled with “Really? Are you sure you aren’t farther along?” 😡 Way to make a terrible first impression, lady! What a shitty thing to say! Sorry, that was really rude of her.
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Post by notmoose on Mar 5, 2018 13:12:05 GMT -6
I'm blaming pregnancy hormones but I've already cried this morning. We went to my favorite hibachi place last night. My husband took my fucking leftovers to work! I specifically told him he couldn't have them! I wanted those for breakfast and I'm so mad/disappointed. 😭😤 I would be taking myself there, ordering 2 entrees, and saving them all for myself. I would murder MH for doing that though. My food is sacred. I would but its an hour away. 😭 Partially why I'm so upset because we hardly go.
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Post by notmoose on Mar 5, 2018 13:13:45 GMT -6
Thanks for understanding my food drama. 😊
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Post by catladymeow on Mar 5, 2018 13:15:34 GMT -6
I'm on team notmoose. That would piss me off too!
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Post by sugarkissed on Mar 5, 2018 13:42:34 GMT -6
notmoose Have also cried over food, I can sympathize. I’d be so angry. My inlaws came for dinner on Friday and decided not to leave until Sunday afternoon. Pregnancy is hindering my ability to fake being nice and it was a struggle to get through the weekend. They mentioned coming to stay when the baby is born and I need to ensure that does not happen. I would rage. But I don't do houseguests. And in August we technically won't have anywhere for them to stay since MH and I each have a bedroom. Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting.
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Post by pbandjelly on Mar 5, 2018 14:00:11 GMT -6
I would rage. But I don't do houseguests. And in August we technically won't have anywhere for them to stay since MH and I each have a bedroom. Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting. I'm here too. With DS, I was in the hospital for 4 more days after he was born. And my mom and ILs were tgere, sitting in my room for 3 of those days. I was miserable because I felt like I had to entertain when I should have been pumping, resting, and seeing my preemie in the NICU. I'm putting a firm foot down (or making H do it) about when visitors are and are not welcome.
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Post by kam3100 on Mar 5, 2018 14:13:40 GMT -6
notmoose I would cry too goldenbird I am the hunger also. I want to eat everything. I won’t allow visitors to the hospital this time and if anyone comes to visit baby, they have to play with my toddler first. New rules. Last time was a shitshow with visitors and....it’s just a hell no this time. I sound like a jerk but I don’t want some random cousin coming to my room when I’m butt naked having contractions.
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Post by ohreally on Mar 5, 2018 14:56:34 GMT -6
Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting. I'm here too. With DS, I was in the hospital for 4 more days after he was born. And my mom and ILs were tgere, sitting in my room for 3 of those days. I was miserable because I felt like I had to entertain when I should have been pumping, resting, and seeing my preemie in the NICU. I'm putting a firm foot down (or making H do it) about when visitors are and are not welcome. How are people so clueless?? You can show support in more helpful ways. I have issues with my MIL, but she's pretty good with physical boundaries.
The nurses will also help with this. They won't let anyone into your room if those are your wishes.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 5, 2018 15:25:04 GMT -6
I would rage. But I don't do houseguests. And in August we technically won't have anywhere for them to stay since MH and I each have a bedroom. Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting. Did they drive far to visit you guys? If they brought sleeping bags then this was obviously planned. Why not ask you ahead of time. You can tell me to butt out if that's too many questions I'm honestly just curious.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 5, 2018 15:31:25 GMT -6
Re visitors: With DS I told everyone ahead of time that MH would be the only one in the room with me. Our immediate family waited in the waiting room and we didn't see them until after some skin to skin and nursing. They stayed with us for about an hour and left. Our parents came to visit the next day and then left me alone for the other 3 days. This time my IL's will probably have to stay home with DS while I labor.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 15:41:54 GMT -6
I would rage. But I don't do houseguests. And in August we technically won't have anywhere for them to stay since MH and I each have a bedroom. Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting. I'm aghast at them bringing sleeping bags lol. How crazy. I feel you. I'm so excited for the baby but I'm stressed about how to handle visitors/duration/frequency of visits. I've never done this before and I suck at speaking up for myself.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 15:44:50 GMT -6
Re visitors: With DS I told everyone ahead of time that MH would be the only one in the room with me. Our immediate family waited in the waiting room and we didn't see them until after some skin to skin and nursing. They stayed with us for about an hour and left. Our parents came to visit the next day and then left me alone for the other 3 days. This time my IL's will probably have to stay home with DS while I labor. I'm considering trying to keep in under wraps that I'm in labor until things are pretty close. SMIL has been talking about pacing the waiting room. I'm worried I'm going to be focusing on how many people are out there waiting on me/baby, since I can't control how long it takes lol.
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Post by PennyCandy on Mar 5, 2018 15:47:15 GMT -6
With DS1, we had three weeks of visitors. No one came to the hospital because there was a blizzard, but once we got home it was nonstop. It sucked. No one was helpful...like at all and it felt like they needed to be entertained. Breastfeeding was going horribly and was further complicated by the fact that I didn't feel comfortable nursing in front of anyone but DH and felt rushed all the time. I'm seriously dreading having to do that all again. The only bright spot I can see at the moment is that they may help keep DS1 entertained.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 5, 2018 15:59:41 GMT -6
Re visitors: With DS I told everyone ahead of time that MH would be the only one in the room with me. Our immediate family waited in the waiting room and we didn't see them until after some skin to skin and nursing. They stayed with us for about an hour and left. Our parents came to visit the next day and then left me alone for the other 3 days. This time my IL's will probably have to stay home with DS while I labor. I'm considering trying to keep in under wraps that I'm in labor until things are pretty close. SMIL has been talking about pacing the waiting room. I'm worried I'm going to be focusing on how many people are out there waiting on me/baby, since I can't control how long it takes lol. I think it depends on your family. Like if you know that they are the type that would not want to leave or try to be there in the room with you I would let them know ahead of time what your wishes are. People need to respect that. Then if they want to pace in the waiting room all night long it's on them. My labor was very long so my IL's were waiting a long time and TBH when you're going through labor you really DGAF about anything or anyone else, it's all about your comfort at the time and nobody else's. And plus the nurses would never allow anybody in the room with you if you don't want them.
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Post by ohreally on Mar 5, 2018 16:00:49 GMT -6
Re visitors: With DS I told everyone ahead of time that MH would be the only one in the room with me. Our immediate family waited in the waiting room and we didn't see them until after some skin to skin and nursing. They stayed with us for about an hour and left. Our parents came to visit the next day and then left me alone for the other 3 days. This time my IL's will probably have to stay home with DS while I labor. I'm considering trying to keep in under wraps that I'm in labor until things are pretty close. SMIL has been talking about pacing the waiting room. I'm worried I'm going to be focusing on how many people are out there waiting on me/baby, since I can't control how long it takes lol. I suggest not even giving them the option to wait in the waiting room. Just tell them you will have no visitors until XX hours of delivery so there's no point in waiting around.
I love my sister to death but I would NEVER hang out at the hospital waiting for her to deliver. Like you said, too much pressure! Too much pressure to have the baby and too much pressure to invite them in to see the baby.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 5, 2018 16:02:46 GMT -6
With DS1, we had three weeks of visitors. No one came to the hospital because there was a blizzard, but once we got home it was nonstop. It sucked. No one was helpful...like at all and it felt like they needed to be entertained. Breastfeeding was going horribly and was further complicated by the fact that I didn't feel comfortable nursing in front of anyone but DH and felt rushed all the time. I'm seriously dreading having to do that all again. The only bright spot I can see at the moment is that they may help keep DS1 entertained. Oh no I'm sorry mama. Nursing is difficult enough in the beginning and that's just additional stress that you don't need. Can you voice some of your concerns ahead of time, or maybe your DH can? People can feel butt hurt but remember you'll never get those precious moments back. There will be plenty of opportunities to see the baby later.
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Post by sugarkissed on Mar 5, 2018 16:03:01 GMT -6
Actually, neither do we. They brought sleeping bags and camped on the couch... It’s sad that I’m so excited to meet our new baby but equally stressed about people visiting. Did they drive far to visit you guys? If they brought sleeping bags then this was obviously planned. Why not ask you ahead of time. You can tell me to butt out if that's too many questions I'm honestly just curious. They live about an hour and a half away, so not close but not unreasonably far either. They said that they brought stuff in case the storm got bad, which is fair enough. Only the roads were fine and they could have easily driven home. I was fine with them spending one night but our ENTIRE weekend? Not okay.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 16:05:01 GMT -6
I'm considering trying to keep in under wraps that I'm in labor until things are pretty close. SMIL has been talking about pacing the waiting room. I'm worried I'm going to be focusing on how many people are out there waiting on me/baby, since I can't control how long it takes lol. I suggest not even giving them the option to wait in the waiting room. Just tell them you will have no visitors until XX hours of delivery so there's no point in waiting around.
I love my sister to death but I would NEVER hang out at the hospital waiting for her to deliver. Like you said, too much pressure! Too much pressure to have the baby and too much pressure to invite them in to see the baby.
I think that's kind of what I want, to let them know we want a few hours just the three of us, so we'll call them and let them know when they can come. I definitely do not want anyone other than MH and medical staff in the room while I'm laboring/delivering.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 16:08:14 GMT -6
With DS1, we had three weeks of visitors. No one came to the hospital because there was a blizzard, but once we got home it was nonstop. It sucked. No one was helpful...like at all and it felt like they needed to be entertained. Breastfeeding was going horribly and was further complicated by the fact that I didn't feel comfortable nursing in front of anyone but DH and felt rushed all the time. I'm seriously dreading having to do that all again. The only bright spot I can see at the moment is that they may help keep DS1 entertained. I feel bad for you that it went like that. Maybe this time YH can step in and put a time limit on visits at least? I'm thinking of a flat three hour limit. Or around there.
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Post by PennyCandy on Mar 5, 2018 16:12:39 GMT -6
With DS1, we had three weeks of visitors. No one came to the hospital because there was a blizzard, but once we got home it was nonstop. It sucked. No one was helpful...like at all and it felt like they needed to be entertained. Breastfeeding was going horribly and was further complicated by the fact that I didn't feel comfortable nursing in front of anyone but DH and felt rushed all the time. I'm seriously dreading having to do that all again. The only bright spot I can see at the moment is that they may help keep DS1 entertained. I feel bad for you that it went like that. Maybe this time YH can step in and put a time limit on visits at least? I'm thinking of a flat three hour limit. Or around there. Our parents all live far away so they stay with us when they visit. We will put time limits on the length of time they are here. It's really important to me that it's just DH and I at the hospital and they all know that from our first so I don't think it will be an issue.
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Post by PennyCandy on Mar 5, 2018 16:19:15 GMT -6
All of the talk about visitors now has me wondering about DS1. I know his grandparents will want to spend time with him, but at the same time, it's important to me that he go to daycare. His world is about to be turned upside down. I think it would help him to stay in his routine. Nevermind that we pay regardless of whether he goes or not. Maybe I will just send him part time while the grandparents are here. I don't know.
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 16:19:45 GMT -6
I feel bad for you that it went like that. Maybe this time YH can step in and put a time limit on visits at least? I'm thinking of a flat three hour limit. Or around there. Our parents all live far away so they stay with us when they visit. We will put time limits on the length of time they are here. It's really important to me that it's just DH and I at the hospital and they all know that from our first so I don't think it will be an issue. Oh duh, I don't know why I didn't think of that. I hope things go more smoothly this time!
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 16:37:55 GMT -6
My ab muscles are feeling the stretching today. They don't like it. 😢
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Post by cara on Mar 5, 2018 16:51:36 GMT -6
The bottom of my stomach has been really uncomfortable this last couple of days. Blah. Maybe the baby is having a growth spurt.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Mar 5, 2018 16:55:03 GMT -6
we don't tell anyone when i go to the hospital except my mom (who last time had to watch DS1). i can't imagine entertaining visitors while in labor. @_@ FFMC?
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Post by goldenbird on Mar 5, 2018 17:13:32 GMT -6
I'm sure by the end people will be texting both of us multiple times a day lol. I don't know if I can lie about it, but...it depends on how desperate I am.
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Post by klw on Mar 5, 2018 17:22:40 GMT -6
I was induced so my poor family was hanging around the waiting room for about 8 hours. She was born at 11:00 pm, so they came in for a quick visit before they left. I think it was around 1 in the morning. Then my mom cried the whole way home because she was so happy. 😉
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Post by pbandjelly on Mar 5, 2018 17:23:12 GMT -6
I'm sure by the end people will be texting both of us multiple times a day lol. I don't know if I can lie about it, but...it depends on how desperate I am. The whole visitor thing gets me so angry, specifically in regards to labor with DS though. I was on hospital bed rest for 2 weeks and my mom stayed with me. For. 2. Weeks. I was so over people being around me. Besides my comment from above about the 4 days after delivery, I was the last one to see DS in NICU, but thankfully the nurse wouldn't let anyone near him until I could see him a day later. I know my situation was unique, but I am still so angry over the whole situation. Though now, H and I know to speak up more however DD decides to show up. We'll obviously need someone to watch DS and both families are several hours away. But nobody but H will be allowed in during labor or delivery and not for several hours afterwards either. I know both parents will be pissed, but after my last experience I DGAF. I'm also not excited about entertaining anyone at home. So once we get to 3rd tri, H and I will work on some firm ground rules for visiting since we will no longer have a guest room and both parents will be staying *somewhere* at some point.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Mar 5, 2018 17:33:07 GMT -6
Did they drive far to visit you guys? If they brought sleeping bags then this was obviously planned. Why not ask you ahead of time. You can tell me to butt out if that's too many questions I'm honestly just curious. They live about an hour and a half away, so not close but not unreasonably far either. They said that they brought stuff in case the storm got bad, which is fair enough. Only the roads were fine and they could have easily driven home. I was fine with them spending one night but our ENTIRE weekend? Not okay. Well in that case they should have just rescheduled if they were worried about the weather, IMO. I would not be ok with this situation either.
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