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Post by imapenguin on Jan 26, 2018 11:24:45 GMT -6
I...would not be amenable to that visit. Do you even have room for all of them to stay? We have a futon in the basement and could put an air mattress somewhere. Unfortunately none of them made great financial choices and I don't know that a hotel is even something they can afford. MH talked to his mom last night and said she needed to wait until he knows what's going on at work because he travels a lot and doesn't know if he'll be here. He's a pushover though and didn't tell her that nobody has ASKED US if they can come to our house and stay. MIL is crazy and lives in a fantasy world. He's afraid of being disrespectful because she cries when things don't go her way We have the same MIL š
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Post by mrsweasley on Jan 26, 2018 11:36:57 GMT -6
Sorry imapenguin MH is very bad at handling her too so it adds to the frustration
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Post by imapenguin on Jan 26, 2018 11:37:50 GMT -6
Sorry imapenguin MH is very bad at handling her too so it adds to the frustration Yes, he will get frustrated and complain to me, but never actually address anything with her. Itās maddening.
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Post by mrsweasley on Jan 26, 2018 11:40:39 GMT -6
Sorry imapenguin MH is very bad at handling her too so it adds to the frustration Yes, he will get frustrated and complain to me, but never actually address anything with her. Itās maddening. Once these babies come out we can drink all the wine and commiserate. My MIL keeps saying she wants to post on FB about the baby (I haven't yet) and I'm ready to hurt her. She doesn't even like children, probably why MH is an only child.
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Post by imapenguin on Jan 26, 2018 11:43:51 GMT -6
Yes, he will get frustrated and complain to me, but never actually address anything with her. Itās maddening. Once these babies come out we can drink all the wine and commiserate. My MIL keeps saying she wants to post on FB about the baby (I haven't yet) and I'm ready to hurt her. She doesn't even like children, probably why MH is an only child. My MIL announced my pregnancy to her whole family during the eulogy at her mothers funeral earlier this month. Rage.
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Post by mrsweasley on Jan 26, 2018 11:47:22 GMT -6
Once these babies come out we can drink all the wine and commiserate. My MIL keeps saying she wants to post on FB about the baby (I haven't yet) and I'm ready to hurt her. She doesn't even like children, probably why MH is an only child. My MIL announced my pregnancy to her whole family during the eulogy at her mothers funeral earlier this month. Rage. With DD we told them at 6w and asked them not to tell anyone so she immediately started making phone calls, after telling ud it wasn't the right time because we didn't own a house (wtf?). Needless to say we didn't say anything until 12 weeks this time. Her first response was "at least you own a house now" š
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Post by cara on Jan 26, 2018 13:08:25 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now.
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Post by catspajamas2 on Jan 26, 2018 13:36:48 GMT -6
cara Iām sorry for the stress. Anecdotally, my very very experienced OB couldnāt find my baby on the Doppler at my 16 week visit but baby was fine on the ultrasound.
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Post by tarheelmom on Jan 26, 2018 13:37:06 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now. You may need to try higher up. Those cute pictures of itty bitty uteruses by gestational age may not be accurate for STM+. My OB couldnāt find the heartbeat at my 12w appt, did an u/s and said it was no wonder because my uterus already extended a couple inches above my belly button š³. Thanks DD and DS for stretching everything out so much. Iām scared to think how big this baby may end up with so much extra room to grow! So donāt stress, babies are good at hiding at this age, even for professionals.
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Post by goldenbird on Jan 26, 2018 15:33:21 GMT -6
Once these babies come out we can drink all the wine and commiserate. My MIL keeps saying she wants to post on FB about the baby (I haven't yet) and I'm ready to hurt her. She doesn't even like children, probably why MH is an only child. My MIL announced my pregnancy to her whole family during the eulogy at her mothers funeral earlier this month. Rage. Oh my god. I would have seen red.
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Post by goldenbird on Jan 26, 2018 15:35:33 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now. I messed with it for almost 10 minutes and was about to give up when I tried pressing down in one more spot and heard it. I could only pick it up for about 20 seconds also. It wouldn't surprise me if I tried it again today and couldn't find it. I say put it away, try again in a few days.
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Post by notmoose on Jan 26, 2018 18:59:07 GMT -6
I have to get back to exercising and eating better. I am seriously upset about my body and it's affecting my mental health. I spent 20 mins crying this evening because the maternity pants I bought (without trying on) wouldn't fit over my fat thighs. I already have really bad self image/self esteem so pregnancy is even harder. I know it's worth gaining weight and I'm more than happy to be pregnant, it's just hard seeing my body like this. Especially since I JUST got to DS pre-pregnancy weight 2 weeks before I got pregnant this time. Im sorry you're struggling with this. I worry about putting on too much weight with this pregnancy too. It took me over 2 years to loose most of the weight and I was still 10lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight when I got KU. I'm trying to be more conscious of my food choices this time around and now that I'm in my second trimester and started getting my energy back I'm trying to be more active. Were you involved in a fitness program before this? Not really a program but I went to the gym 5/6 days a week and worked out for 2 hours. I have a bunch of excuses as to why I haven't been, but I need to get back at it. It makes me feel better.
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Post by notmoose on Jan 26, 2018 19:00:33 GMT -6
notmoose one other thing. I swear that maternity pants are the most ill fitting and randomly sized clothes out there. Donāt put to much stock in the thigh sizes of those pants. ETA: words I think you're right. I tried on 4 pairs at motherhood a week ago (all the same size) and only 1 fit me right. I don't know what they're thinking while making clothes.
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Post by kaeguri on Jan 26, 2018 19:04:17 GMT -6
imapenguin, wow. Just..... wow. To your MIL. mrsweasley, it's like they don't care about the kid, just about the social status it brings. My mom told all of her friends the day after i told her, but her reaction to the news was "Oh, ok. You know the world is ending soon and if you don't go back to church, you're all going to die anyways". My mom is a peach. We don't talk much, for obvious reasons. Luckily my dad was super happy and cried.
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Post by notmoose on Jan 26, 2018 19:05:11 GMT -6
RE pregnancy weight gain on your thighs-- i remember getting to 3rd tri and feeling like my thighs were going to bust out of my maternity pants, Hulk style. anyway, i read this article recently that made me feel better: This is so accurate.
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Post by notmoose on Jan 26, 2018 19:06:07 GMT -6
I'm getting sick, and desparately trying to avoid it. I did the neti pot this morning to clean everything out, tea with honey and lemon for my sore throat, and now have a smoothie to try to get lots of vitamin C in. Ugh. I hate being sick when you can't take the good drugs! I hope it passes quickly!
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Post by kaeguri on Jan 26, 2018 19:07:33 GMT -6
I went to the gym for the first time in months yesterday, woooo. And promptly died after 20 min on the stair climber. Also, started back counting macros yesterday, because I have got to be more accountable over my food choices than I was last time. I can't gain 45lbs again. I'm too short for that lol.
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Post by notmoose on Jan 26, 2018 19:10:49 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now. Don't stress. I still have to search and I'm 15w. I think you're 9? Have you watched the YouTube videos? Try angling the wand and moving suuuuuuper slow. It's so easy to miss it if you move too quickly.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Jan 26, 2018 19:13:46 GMT -6
Im sorry you're struggling with this. I worry about putting on too much weight with this pregnancy too. It took me over 2 years to loose most of the weight and I was still 10lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight when I got KU. I'm trying to be more conscious of my food choices this time around and now that I'm in my second trimester and started getting my energy back I'm trying to be more active. Were you involved in a fitness program before this? Not really a program but I went to the gym 5/6 days a week and worked out for 2 hours. I have a bunch of excuses as to why I haven't been, but I need to get back at it. It makes me feel better. I think that's the hardest part! I know once I get into a routine I find myself much more motivated.
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Post by kaeguri on Jan 26, 2018 19:14:33 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now. I never could find the HB consistently til I was 16+ weeks. The tiny little suckers like to play hide and seek even this young.
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Post by cara on Jan 26, 2018 19:28:44 GMT -6
I tried my doppler again today and I cannot find the babyās heartbeat to save my life. I can hear my placenta. Itās stressing me out now. Don't stress. I still have to search and I'm 15w. I think you're 9? Have you watched the YouTube videos? Try angling the wand and moving suuuuuuper slow. It's so easy to miss it if you move too quickly. I just turned 10 weeks. I did watch YouTube videos and I think Iām doing it correctly? Iām definitely going very slow. Maybe Iām not angling it correctly or pressing down hard enough.
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Post by mrsweasley on Jan 26, 2018 19:57:23 GMT -6
imapenguin, wow. Just..... wow. To your MIL. mrsweasley, it's like they don't care about the kid, just about the social status it brings. My mom told all of her friends the day after i told her, but her reaction to the news was "Oh, ok. You know the world is ending soon and if you don't go back to church, you're all going to die anyways". My mom is a peach. We don't talk much, for obvious reasons. Luckily my dad was super happy and cried. Definitely true for my MIL. At least FIL loves children and plays with them all the time. MIL just likes telling people they exist. My mom was a little weird about this one too though, we hadn't shared that we were TTC and I think it took her by surprise. But she engages with the kids too and is a very involved grandparent. I wouldn't even trust MIL to babysit
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Post by PennyCandy on Jan 27, 2018 8:17:42 GMT -6
35 and pregnant is a lot harder than it was a couple of years ago.
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Post by kam3100 on Jan 27, 2018 10:31:23 GMT -6
I got my blood draw results from my thyroid and my TSH shot up which is probably why Iām still fatigued in the 2nd trimester. I will get new meds on Monday and hopefully start feeling better.
My 3.5 year old is being extra dramatic today. She is fake crying because I made her get dressed on her own. š
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Post by sugarskull on Jan 27, 2018 13:26:16 GMT -6
I got a text invite yesterday for a co-ed diaper party/baby shower that is TODAY. I was quite annoyed. It's for a couple that we have been friends with for years and H was the best man in their wedding. We haven't hung out much lately but I mean I still consider them close friends. I felt like such a forgotten friend and have decided to be petty and not go today. It was a last minute invite and DS had a basketball game today, so I'm not going to rearrange my schedule for that.
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Post by PennyCandy on Jan 27, 2018 13:33:18 GMT -6
Don't stress. I still have to search and I'm 15w. I think you're 9? Have you watched the YouTube videos? Try angling the wand and moving suuuuuuper slow. It's so easy to miss it if you move too quickly. I just turned 10 weeks. I did watch YouTube videos and I think Iām doing it correctly? Iām definitely going very slow. Maybe Iām not angling it correctly or pressing down hard enough. It took me until 11 weeks to find it. I just put it away and kept trying every few days until I did. It depends on where baby is and how they are positioned. Try not to stress.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Jan 27, 2018 15:46:10 GMT -6
sugarskull that would really annoy me and I don't blame you for not wanting to go.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Jan 27, 2018 15:49:19 GMT -6
I'm probably overthinking this but I'm concerned about my weight gain. I haven't gained any weight in 3 weeks. I've gained a total of 6lbs so far (almost 15 weeks) and with DS I had gained almost 15 at this point in my pregnancy.
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Post by goldenbird on Jan 27, 2018 17:36:55 GMT -6
My cousin who is due 5 weeks ahead of me is having a boy!! ššš I'm so excited for her!! She passed out cupcakes today at the lunch and the filling was blue. They were freaking delicious cupcakes too.
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Post by goldenbird on Jan 27, 2018 17:40:22 GMT -6
I was so excited about her reveal and my dad goes "you know you can have one of your own, according to your mom". And my sisters start telling me to get pregnant. š They're in for a pretty big surprise in a couple weeks.
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