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Post by sterling on Feb 2, 2024 11:49:25 GMT -6
I do want my kids to be active but it’s mostly because I want to be active and I want them to do things like go hiking with me or enjoy swimming at the beach or whatever. The sports piece I care less about, but I actually think it would be great for my emotionally immature 8 year old so I am pushing it a bit this spring for the first time. We’ll see if it sticks.
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Post by STP on Feb 2, 2024 11:49:55 GMT -6
I personally feel a lot of people overthink kid activities. They both communicated pretty early on what they were interested in, we just payed attention. And then we tried it out. Some stuck, some didn't. It was never forced or a chore, because what the fuck do I care ultimately. I agree, but I think the problem is that so many parents give way too many fucks about what their kid is going to do. I have friends who I like very much and are otherwise normal people who require kids to do certain sports or activities even though the kids don’t like it. It’s so annoying to me. I don't understand the "but," that's what I'm talking about.
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Post by STP on Feb 2, 2024 11:51:54 GMT -6
I do want my kids to be active but it’s mostly because I want to be active and I want them to do things like go hiking with me or enjoy swimming at the beach or whatever. The sports piece I care less about, but I actually think it would be great for my emotionally immature 8 year old so I am pushing it a bit this spring for the first time. We’ll see if it sticks. Ok but swimming at the beach is the literal worst.
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Post by sterling on Feb 2, 2024 12:01:52 GMT -6
I do want my kids to be active but it’s mostly because I want to be active and I want them to do things like go hiking with me or enjoy swimming at the beach or whatever. The sports piece I care less about, but I actually think it would be great for my emotionally immature 8 year old so I am pushing it a bit this spring for the first time. We’ll see if it sticks. Ok but swimming at the beach is the literal worst. ”Swimming” in this context means boogie boarding and jumping in waves and climbing on rocks. 😂
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Post by Eagles on Feb 2, 2024 12:02:44 GMT -6
Thank goodness our school has alternatives to gym requirements! If you complete two seasons of a sport in HS that counts as your gym credit. Marching band counts as a sport (and an art), along with color guard, cheer, dance. They also have strength and conditioning for those who prefer to lift, and lifestyle fitness. They try to reach everyone at their level instead of just traditional gym. The amount of effort that I put into dodging gym class in HS was probably more than I would have expended just...participating. But I hated so many of the activities.
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Post by wasabi on Feb 2, 2024 12:04:10 GMT -6
I don’t really let my big kid have any SM on her phone, but the annoying part of the iPhone is that if they have downloaded an app once, and you remove it, they can just go back and download it without permission (someone can tell me if I’m just an idiot and doing something wrong here). So instead of having to monitor whether she’s redownloading apps, I just put their time limit to 1 minute.
Pretty sure she also sees plenty of tiktok videos on YouTube anyway, but whatever.
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Post by thatgolfb on Feb 2, 2024 12:12:05 GMT -6
My husband coaches our son's basketball and soccer team. The kids all play adequately. But, all these parents out here thinking their kid is the next Messi yelling about play time when their little Tommy hasn't been to a single practice. Ugh. We had one of these last season, although not to that extent. The kid was at most practices. It was a girl who has been on DD1’s team multiple times. Her mom argued on championship tournament day that her daughter should be catcher, and it was unfair that she wasn’t starting catcher. We had 5 catchers on the team, and H (the manager) rotated them fairly throughout the season. On championship day, he played to win. That’s literally the only time he didn’t rotate everyone. She argued that her daughter didn’t get equal catching time during the season, either. He was like- I have a spreadsheet showing who caught for each game, and it’s pretty even, if you would like to see? She stormed off and didn’t watch her kid play in the first game. The kid’s dad stayed with her. And then took her before the second, tougher game. Oh and her mom was scorekeeper through Gamechanger, and she not only didn’t scorekeep, she locked everyone out of the team Gamechanger so no one else could do it. I had to run to the other 10U team across the way and ask for a paper scorebook, bc H hadn’t brought his. Again, this family has been with us for multiple seasons, and he had no reason to think he would need the back up (although now obviously he will always bring one). And I now manage the Gamechanger. 🙃🙃🙃 Anyway there is my rant for the day. 😂
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Post by thatgolfb on Feb 2, 2024 12:12:44 GMT -6
Weird that that family didn’t return for spring season. 🤣
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Post by thatgolfb on Feb 2, 2024 12:13:26 GMT -6
Tbh snapchat is what scares me the most out of everything. I think they'd be ok for the most part on the other things but I've heard so many horror stories about snapchat so I'm trying to hold off as long as possible Same. DD1 has Roblox and can only chat with friends, and even that has loopholes that I have heard stories about. No Snap or Tik Tok or anything else for a while.
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Post by mapleme on Feb 2, 2024 12:16:52 GMT -6
Thank goodness our school has alternatives to gym requirements! If you complete two seasons of a sport in HS that counts as your gym credit. Marching band counts as a sport (and an art), along with color guard, cheer, dance. They also have strength and conditioning for those who prefer to lift, and lifestyle fitness. They try to reach everyone at their level instead of just traditional gym. The amount of effort that I put into dodging gym class in HS was probably more than I would have expended just...participating. But I hated so many of the activities. I think that this is one of the reason that doing some organized activity is so important to me. I hated PE as a kid. My kids hate PE. But like many things that one doesn't like in school, l discovered a whole world of physical activity that I loved as an adult. If my kids' only exposure to physical activity is a PE class that they hate, they are going to think that they hate physical activity and that becomes their personal narrative. My oldest is a happy bookworm, but found a love of Girls on the Run. It's a girl positivity group that also runs. She only did it last year because she had a friend who was doing it, but this year is excited about signing up again. She still hates running in PE, but has discovered that she enjoys running with friends.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 2, 2024 12:16:53 GMT -6
Yeah, I think so much of parenting is kid dependent and parents just want their way (either based on what they did or didn’t do as a kid).
My kid will not be active without a designated practice time or competitive game. He will just loaf around. But he needs a lot of movement. So he’s more scheduled than my instincts would guide me, but it works better that way. The neighbor kid is opposite. I hear him outside from sun up to sun down just playing around. I often encourage my kid to just go to the park or go find some friends to play with and he will but he needs a big push.
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Post by miawallace on Feb 2, 2024 12:17:14 GMT -6
Ok but swimming at the beach is the literal worst. ”Swimming” in this context means boogie boarding and jumping in waves and climbing on rocks. 😂 Ew nature 🤮
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Post by jaygee on Feb 2, 2024 12:21:48 GMT -6
I think one of the biggest things with social media and media in general is explaining it to kids. Like they need to know the agenda behind it and that so much that they see is fake. It’s hard messaging to get through to some of them (DS is so blissfully naive to what those YouTube videos he watches really are) but it’s worth the effort because we can’t keep them away from it forever and it’s only going to get trickier. The whole deep fake and AI stuff is going to be really hard to deal with. I mean, if adults can’t decipher the truth how can we expect kids to.
For now, I’m keeping with the age limits set by social media - I.e. we don’t lie about birthdays to create accounts, so DS doesn’t have social media yet. But I use YouTube and things he sees other places to talk about what the person is selling or why they are creating this content. “DS, I know you watched a video about the 35 things you must have in your baseball bag, but let me break that down for you”. I’m fun. 😆
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Post by newspapers on Feb 2, 2024 12:23:17 GMT -6
I don’t really let my big kid have any SM on her phone, but the annoying part of the iPhone is that if they have downloaded an app once, and you remove it, they can just go back and download it without permission (someone can tell me if I’m just an idiot and doing something wrong here). So instead of having to monitor whether she’s redownloading apps, I just put their time limit to 1 minute. Pretty sure she also sees plenty of tiktok videos on YouTube anyway, but whatever. I am under no illusions that my kid doesn't sometimes see tiktok videos when chatting with certain friends. But I took away a bunch of her contacts when I found out shitty stuff was going down in the group text, so there's that too...
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Post by adelbert on Feb 2, 2024 12:23:21 GMT -6
I do want my kids to be active but it’s mostly because I want to be active and I want them to do things like go hiking with me or enjoy swimming at the beach or whatever. The sports piece I care less about, but I actually think it would be great for my emotionally immature 8 year old so I am pushing it a bit this spring for the first time. We’ll see if it sticks. We love hiking and skiing and our kids often do these activities with us. Thankfully they really enjoy doing them now but even when they were younger if they didn't feel like it at first they were always happy at the end and we have a lot of positive family memories involving these activities. So I would always push the things you love in a positive way. Your boys will probably come to associate the days at the beach with mom or hiking in the mountains with mom as really special moments that they're happy to have had. We took my mom hiking with us on her most recent visit and she loved it so much and the boys loved that she tried it out and it ended up being a pretty special bonding activity for everyone. For other things like climbing which my H is pretty into, all the boys tried it multiple times but only 2 enjoy it, and we don't make the one who doesn't like it go climbing. He gave it a fair try and it's fine that he doesn't enjoy it. We don't need to do everything together.
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Post by gingy on Feb 2, 2024 12:28:06 GMT -6
Yeah, I think so much of parenting is kid dependent and parents just want their way (either based on what they did or didn’t do as a kid). My kid will not be active without a designated practice time or competitive game. He will just loaf around. But he needs a lot of movement. So he’s more scheduled than my instincts would guide me, but it works better that way. The neighbor kid is opposite. I hear him outside from sun up to sun down just playing around. I often encourage my kid to just go to the park or go find some friends to play with and he will but he needs a big push. This is SD vs DS. She has to be forced off the couch. He has to be forced to sit down.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 2, 2024 12:30:46 GMT -6
What surprises me continually is that I live in the land of tech and these parents (most millennials) do not do a good job at locking down or monitoring their kids tech usage. I would have thought it would be the opposite since a lot of people work for these companies and know what is out there. But…
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Post by flojo on Feb 2, 2024 12:37:31 GMT -6
DD1 did track a few years ago and at one of the first practices I saw her sitting alone in the field looking pained. I ran over to her and asked if she was ok. She said “No. I’m sweating and I don’t like that”. So sports have been a tough go for her, lol.
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Post by jaygee on Feb 2, 2024 12:43:08 GMT -6
DD1 did track a few years ago and at one of the first practices I saw her sitting alone in the field looking pained. I ran over to her and asked if she was ok. She said “No. I’m sweating and I don’t like that”. So sports have been a tough go for her, lol. I’m in my 40s and still having that experience daily.
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Post by thatgolfb on Feb 2, 2024 12:43:57 GMT -6
This thread reminded me to sign DS for swim lessons, so thank you for that.
He is my kid that requires a very large amount of physical outlet. His teacher said he jumped on the trampoline for an hour straight, and she has never seen that before. She is approximately 80 years old and has been an early education teacher forever, so 😫😫😫. He now has a trampoline at home as well.
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Post by flojo on Feb 2, 2024 12:44:12 GMT -6
The amount of effort that I put into dodging gym class in HS was probably more than I would have expended just...participating. But I hated so many of the activities. I think that this is one of the reason that doing some organized activity is so important to me. I hated PE as a kid. My kids hate PE. But like many things that one doesn't like in school, l discovered a whole world of physical activity that I loved as an adult. If my kids' only exposure to physical activity is a PE class that they hate, they are going to think that they hate physical activity and that becomes their personal narrative. My oldest is a happy bookworm, but found a love of Girls on the Run. It's a girl positivity group that also runs. She only did it last year because she had a friend who was doing it, but this year is excited about signing up again. She still hates running in PE, but has discovered that she enjoys running with friends. I really hope my DD chooses to do Girls on the Run this year. It’s such a great group.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Feb 2, 2024 12:55:18 GMT -6
In junior high part of our PE curriculum was coed swimming. I didn't develop until high school, so walking around in front of hormonal boys whilst being very flat chested did wonders for my ego. I know that my larger chested friends also hated it for the same reason.
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Post by abs on Feb 2, 2024 12:56:34 GMT -6
DD1 did track a few years ago and at one of the first practices I saw her sitting alone in the field looking pained. I ran over to her and asked if she was ok. She said “No. I’m sweating and I don’t like that”. So sports have been a tough go for her, lol. This is why I hate summer, lol. Although sweat from exercise? Yes I enjoy that. Sweat from walking outdoors in July to my car 5 feet from the front door? Yes a very pained expression.
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Post by jorkzy on Feb 2, 2024 12:56:49 GMT -6
Re: taking kids sports too seriously, my son’s hockey team signed up for a local tournament in a couple weeks. We just got the schedule and their first game is like 10am on the Friday. Sooooo we’re expected to pull the kids from school to participate in a tournament? They’re 10 year olds, playing Tier 2. They’re not going to the NHL tomorrow.
I know it’s just one day, but who organizes a kids’ hockey tournament for daytime during the week?? 🤨
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Post by lucilleaustero on Feb 2, 2024 12:57:42 GMT -6
I do want my kids to be active but it’s mostly because I want to be active and I want them to do things like go hiking with me or enjoy swimming at the beach or whatever. The sports piece I care less about, but I actually think it would be great for my emotionally immature 8 year old so I am pushing it a bit this spring for the first time. We’ll see if it sticks. We love hiking and skiing and our kids often do these activities with us. Thankfully they really enjoy doing them now but even when they were younger if they didn't feel like it at first they were always happy at the end and we have a lot of positive family memories involving these activities. So I would always push the things you love in a positive way. Your boys will probably come to associate the days at the beach with mom or hiking in the mountains with mom as really special moments that they're happy to have had. We took my mom hiking with us on her most recent visit and she loved it so much and the boys loved that she tried it out and it ended up being a pretty special bonding activity for everyone. For other things like climbing which my H is pretty into, all the boys tried it multiple times but only 2 enjoy it, and we don't make the one who doesn't like it go climbing. He gave it a fair try and it's fine that he doesn't enjoy it. We don't need to do everything together. We are a huge hiking family. I really recommend hiking for kids that are not into the sports thing. Great exercise, fresh air, appreciation for the environment and family time.
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Post by imapenguin on Feb 2, 2024 13:02:02 GMT -6
Re: taking kids sports too seriously, my son’s hockey team signed up for a local tournament in a couple weeks. We just got the schedule and their first game is like 10am on the Friday. Sooooo we’re expected to pull the kids from school to participate in a tournament? They’re 10 year olds, playing Tier 2. They’re not going to the NHL tomorrow. I know it’s just one day, but who organizes a kids’ hockey tournament for daytime during the week?? 🤨 Our theatre program does this too. For their main stage show (so not all) they schedule a 2pm weekday performance for field trip groups. It made me go huh.
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Post by McBenny on Feb 2, 2024 13:04:16 GMT -6
So, this go around with covid has me sneezing and coughing nonstop. As a result by sneeze or cough number 5 or 6, I piss myself a little. Doesn't matter if I just peed. Apparently pelvic floor therapy only covers the first 4 or 5 coughs and sneezes. I am going through more pads than on my period. My pelvic floor was fine until my last bout of COVID and the coughing. Just sharing.
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Post by sweptaway on Feb 2, 2024 13:05:06 GMT -6
We've taken DS hiking since he was a literal infant and now at 11 he still bitches about it all the time. But we try to make it fun; geocaching helps.
We are not sports people but he does like to go for walks, toss a ball around in the yard, run on the treadmill, and swim
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Post by jaygee on Feb 2, 2024 13:09:12 GMT -6
Re: taking kids sports too seriously, my son’s hockey team signed up for a local tournament in a couple weeks. We just got the schedule and their first game is like 10am on the Friday. Sooooo we’re expected to pull the kids from school to participate in a tournament? They’re 10 year olds, playing Tier 2. They’re not going to the NHL tomorrow. I know it’s just one day, but who organizes a kids’ hockey tournament for daytime during the week?? 🤨 Our theatre program does this too. For their main stage show (so not all) they schedule a 2pm weekday performance for field trip groups. It made me go huh. Same. But ours is 10 am on a weekday. So he pretty much misses a day of school. But they get to perform to school groups that don’t have field trip budgets to do much in the way of arts so it’s pretty cool. Meh. It’s two days each school year. I’m ok with it.
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Post by McBenny on Feb 2, 2024 13:13:14 GMT -6
I am probably going to have to go before a committee for how many absences DS has this year and I truly do not give a fuck. There is a 0.0% chance they hold him back so I just throw the letters in the garbage. I feel this way about tardies. They give detention here for your 3rd tardy. That counts tardies to school and tardies to class. We are normally never tardy people. However, my son is in athletics and made to shower at school. He also refuses to shit at school so he has been tardy one day due to that. I would love for someone to contact me and ask me why he was tardy.
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