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Post by lfig on Dec 7, 2017 6:12:07 GMT -6
Wow joelies! You do have a unicorn kid! He likes to sleep and he like to eat! Those are the two biggest struggles most parents have. Lol. What’s your secret?!
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Post by lfig on Dec 7, 2017 6:17:53 GMT -6
S naps still and still needs it. Occasionally she skips nap and bedtime is easier...but getting to that point is exhausting (for me 😬). But also it’s important for her to get good rest due to her epilepsy. Seizure’s tend to happen more when they haven’t had good rest. And I have noticed that often times when she has breakthrough seizures, it’s when she hasn’t got enough rest. Whether she skipped nap, went to bed late, or woke up super early. I can almost always pinpoint one of those situations when she’s had a seizure. And she’s a much more pleasant child when she’s rested too!
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Post by wineallthetime on Dec 7, 2017 6:24:16 GMT -6
I just did the first round of cleaning and combing out her hair. There were... a lot. Like a serious infestation. I know i didn’t even get it all because it was so bad. I feel like such a shitty mom. I can’t believe i didn’t see this. The day care told me last week that they thought she had it but then only showed me what i thought was her cradle cap. I washed her hair that night and combed it but didn’t see the lice. O doesn’t have it but it’s hard to believe that the lice just stuck to one host. I’m going to wash and vacuum everything tomorrow and do a second pass on her head. Ugh. Don't feel like that! I don't know much about lice, but I'm going to guess that it can spread really quickly. My coworker (who calls herself a lice expert lol) always tells me that they don't like hair product. Might be worth giving O's hair a light spray of hairspray to deter them. I may do that when C goes to daycare tomorrow since I know it's in his room. My coworker said she'll put her girls hair in buns and do a light spray of hairspray when it's going around their school.
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Post by wineallthetime on Dec 7, 2017 6:26:09 GMT -6
C doesn't nap at home except on super rare occasions, but does nap at daycare. He only goes to daycare twice a week and I think he plays HARD on those days. We don't have a problem with bedtime if he naps at daycare, but we do if he naps at home. Like Vino, we do a "quiet time" during L's nap where he watches videos or reads books.
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Post by joelies on Dec 7, 2017 6:28:29 GMT -6
Wow joelies! You do have a unicorn kid! He likes to sleep and he like to eat! Those are the two biggest struggles most parents have. Lol. What’s your secret?! He's his Dad's son.
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Post by yummeecookee on Dec 7, 2017 7:04:09 GMT -6
melaniesue, B would never ask or say she is ready for bed, but she rarely fights when I tell her it’s bedtime. I think it’s bc of the routine- she just likes having one so much. After her bath, I let her watch tv for a little bit to calm her down, help her veg out. Then we potty and brush teeth. Then (and I think this is the part she likes), she picks out her clothes for the next day and picks out a story for me to read to her. After I read the story, I lay w her for a little bit, like 2-3 minutes. We’ve had all sorts of ups and downs in her 4yrs but this has worked for us for several months now.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 7, 2017 7:46:43 GMT -6
I just did the first round of cleaning and combing out her hair. There were... a lot. Like a serious infestation. I know i didn’t even get it all because it was so bad. I feel like such a shitty mom. I can’t believe i didn’t see this. The day care told me last week that they thought she had it but then only showed me what i thought was her cradle cap. I washed her hair that night and combed it but didn’t see the lice. O doesn’t have it but it’s hard to believe that the lice just stuck to one host. I’m going to wash and vacuum everything tomorrow and do a second pass on her head. Ugh. Don't feel like that! I don't know much about lice, but I'm going to guess that it can spread really quickly. My coworker (who calls herself a lice expert lol) always tells me that they don't like hair product. Might be worth giving O's hair a light spray of hairspray to deter them. I may do that when C goes to daycare tomorrow since I know it's in his room. My coworker said she'll put her girls hair in buns and do a light spray of hairspray when it's going around their school. This. If anything it means you keep her hair really clean! They like clean hair, easier to move around on. kamakaziartist is a lice expert at this point too if you need tips!
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Post by kim22 on Dec 7, 2017 8:26:39 GMT -6
Daycare naps are state law here. My two oldest napped until the day they started kindergarten. I was worried they wouldn't make it through the day. T naps at school but not home, pretty much because we are never at home for a long enough stretch for him to take a nap.
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 7, 2017 8:28:47 GMT -6
I really, really pushed that B not nap at daycare. I told them they needed to find a way, move him up to another room, etc. Whatever they needed to do, it had to be done. We had the worst time last year this time when he was starting to drop naps, he was all over the place, fighting us and losing his mind if we left his room. I put my foot down and set the timer for 3 minutes to stand in his room then left, if he got out I put him back to bed nanny Jo style. Two nights were terrible but he got the point that we were serious and has been good ever since. UO maybe but I think 4 is too old to be napping. The transition from napping to not is a bit of an adjustment but in the end it’s been a really great thing for us, he is asleep by 8:15pm and is truly tired. The weekends when J naps her one nap he gets to quiet time, usually a movie and quiet play with lego. I really, really question why DCP’s push naps at this age, there has got to be an option at least.I think it's for their own sanity, which kind of pisses me off. I asked if it was possible for M to not nap. They told me no. They have to lay down on their mats and rest. If she doesn't fall asleep, it's okay but they have to lay there. Well of course she's going to fall asleep if you turn off the lights and make her lay down! I love this place though so if that's the only thing I complain about, so be it.
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 7, 2017 8:30:17 GMT -6
Daycare naps are state law here. My two oldest napped until the day they started kindergarten. I was worried they wouldn't make it through the day. T naps at school but not home, pretty much because we are never at home for a long enough stretch for him to take a nap. I didn't realize it could be a law. Hmmm. I'll have to check if it is here.
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Post by kim22 on Dec 7, 2017 8:32:14 GMT -6
Daycare naps are state law here. My two oldest napped until the day they started kindergarten. I was worried they wouldn't make it through the day. T naps at school but not home, pretty much because we are never at home for a long enough stretch for him to take a nap. I didn't realize it could be a law. Hmmm. I'll have to check if it is here. The older they get, the less time it is, but until Kindergarten, I think it's at least an hour.
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Post by melaniesue on Dec 7, 2017 8:37:43 GMT -6
lahdeedah she’s easier on the weekends when she doesn’t nap for sure. We asked dc to not let her nap but she disturbs all the kids so now they only let her nap for an hour then wake her up. But I feel like they are still letting her sleep too long. At our dc they get a book to look through when they aren't sleeping. There has to be other kids not sleeping she can be next to. They get books and expect them to be quiet on their mats for 2 hours. I think it’s unreasonable to expect her to stay still and quiet for two hours. They don’t take the non Nappers out if the room. Which is also really dumb. .
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Post by klong11 on Dec 7, 2017 8:41:35 GMT -6
Daycare naps are state law here. My two oldest napped until the day they started kindergarten. I was worried they wouldn't make it through the day. T naps at school but not home, pretty much because we are never at home for a long enough stretch for him to take a nap. Does it help to tell the kids that it is against the law NOT to take a nap? LOL
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Post by mwhip on Dec 7, 2017 8:41:40 GMT -6
Evie still really needs a nap during the week. She is up at 5:30, so after lunch, she's pretty tired. On the weekends, I don't even bother trying anymore. But we also sleep in later, so she's getting more sleep at night.
I shouldn't say/type this, but bedtime is pretty easy at our house, although completely different than the rest of you I think. We stick to a schedule during the week. Bath around 7:45 nightly, lotion and jammies, read a book, in bed asleep by 8:30. I also lay in bed with her though, until she's close to asleep or asleep (because sometimes I fall asleep too). She also comes into our room most night, like this morning, she cried for me at 3:00, I went and got her, she came to bed and snuggled with me until I got up to shower. I know this doesn't work for a lot of you because she falls right back to sleep and doesn't toss and turn, so it works for us.
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 7, 2017 8:43:43 GMT -6
Daycare naps are state law here. My two oldest napped until the day they started kindergarten. I was worried they wouldn't make it through the day. T naps at school but not home, pretty much because we are never at home for a long enough stretch for him to take a nap. Does it help to tell the kids that it is against the law NOT to take a nap? LOL What about bedtime? Can we make an 8:30 bedtime law? Do toddler listen to laws? Can I get someone to come enforce it? I NEED BEDTIME HELP! Which in reality this is just my life until my house is done.
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Post by klong11 on Dec 7, 2017 8:48:02 GMT -6
Cadence does not nap on the weekends. I prefer it. Bedtime is just easier. She does nap at school, usually for 1-2 hours and bedtime is a nightmare. It has gotten better when I stay calm and consistent. She really is just trying to see how far she can get with us lately, so I've had to stay firm with the rules. Mh will always bend the rules for her, which doesn't help. If she says 5 more minutes, he says ok. I say hell no, get your ass in bed. Not in those specific terms. I feel like this age is def. a try your patience, test the limits age. Our job is to stick to our guns and make sure they follow the rules we set. Or at least that's what I keep telling myself when I'm holding the bedroom door closed and shes screaming and trying to kick down the door. Ahhh, bedtime routine.
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Post by klong11 on Dec 7, 2017 8:48:30 GMT -6
Does it help to tell the kids that it is against the law NOT to take a nap? LOL What about bedtime? Can we make an 8:30 bedtime law? Do toddler listen to laws? Can I get someone to come enforce it? I NEED BEDTIME HELP! Which in reality this is just my life until my house is done. I don't even remember when Cadence had an 8:30 bedtime. Lately she's been pushing 10!
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Post by peachsmama on Dec 7, 2017 8:57:32 GMT -6
What about bedtime? Can we make an 8:30 bedtime law? Do toddler listen to laws? Can I get someone to come enforce it? I NEED BEDTIME HELP! Which in reality this is just my life until my house is done. I don't even remember when Cadence had an 8:30 bedtime. Lately she's been pushing 10! Same. Maybe as a newborn? IDK. Jack can fight it until 11.. I think it's because the sitter lets him nap to long. But until we are in the house and can establish a real bedtime routine, I'm not pushing the issue.
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Post by flamingo on Dec 7, 2017 8:59:55 GMT -6
Bradley no longer naps (except maybe dozing off in the car on occasion) and he is in bed by 7:30 every night, asleep almost immediately. Like mwhip, I’m afraid to say it aloud for fear of jinxing it, but bedtime is like clockwork in our house. That is something we just don’t budge on for either child. The other night we offered to let B stay up ‘late’ for a movie and at 8 o’clock he said he was tired and asked to go to bed. 🤷🏻♀️ I feel like the DCPs push naps bc it’s a break for the workers—same reason moms love naps!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 7, 2017 9:09:22 GMT -6
I let H stop napping in August to prepare for afternoon preschool. She still naps occasionally (like when she was sick or other random times). I didn’t see a major improvement in bedtime that I was hoping for. It helped right away but now that she’s used to not napping she’s back to her old shenanigans. And it’s exactly like klong11 said, she’s pushing her limits. When she stayed at the ILs a couple weekends ago my MIL said she came out once, said something about not being able to fall asleep, went back in and fell asleep. It does not happen like that here. She wants us to lay with her and she stalls in every way she knows how. DH is a sucker and will give in to her, which is annoying. Sometimes if we go somewhere after I pick her up from school she will fall asleep in the car on the way home. Then she naps from like 4:30-6 and bedtime is the worst. So I avoid that if possible.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 7, 2017 9:10:12 GMT -6
Do kids still nap in K? I remember doing that as a kid.
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Post by klong11 on Dec 7, 2017 9:10:54 GMT -6
I only did half day kinder, so we didn't nap.
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Post by lfig on Dec 7, 2017 9:20:29 GMT -6
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Post by cagoldi on Dec 7, 2017 9:29:29 GMT -6
snoopmommymom I'm so sorry, that really sucks. klong11 that's obnoxious. I remember a mom at daycare when DS1 was there giving every kid a live fish. On T's birthday, I sent a box of donuts. A live fish!? Oh I'd be livid at that mom and at the daycare for allowing that to happen. What?! I'd lose my mind. No.
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Post by tgrimes on Dec 7, 2017 9:29:29 GMT -6
I only did half day kinder, so we didn't nap. Same here.
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Post by guster on Dec 7, 2017 9:36:44 GMT -6
lfig, I think want to weighted blanket. That's always my biggest complaint in bed I want the weight of something but not the heat, but I can't really justify spending $200 on something that I may not like. My nephew has a lot of sensory issues, and he uses a weighted blanket at home. It's been a real game changer for him. (well that and some melatonin)
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Post by cagoldi on Dec 7, 2017 9:38:34 GMT -6
Does anyone’s N13’r go willingly to bed? If so, what’s your secret? I’d love to just have one night of no fighting and running away from me. One night oh no screaming and crying. It’s easier when we use melatonin but I don’t like falling back n that. Ever. Single. Night. Sucks. Oh God. Knocking on all the wood, but after nightmarish sleep troubles the first 15-16 months of life, we've been pretty lucky. He stalls, sure, but we I'm sure the amount we've had any kind of real resistance has been less than 10 times total. Even when he stalks, it's not bad at all. He just negotiates for one more book. He was afraid of the dark, so he would whimper and act a little desperate but I got this projector/nightlight that stays on all night so he's been a dream since then. We also do "little piggies" before bed. We tuck him in, then kiss each of his fingers and talk about his day or stuff we have planned coming up. He really looks forward to this ritual. I think it's a good way to recap the day.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Dec 7, 2017 9:39:10 GMT -6
I only did half day kinder, so we didn't nap. I did half day too, but we did nap time. Or rest time maybe. I had an Aladdin nap mat.
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Post by klong11 on Dec 7, 2017 9:43:56 GMT -6
I'm hoping once we convert from toddler to full size bed it will go easier. FX.
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Post by cagoldi on Dec 7, 2017 9:47:25 GMT -6
I'll be the outlier and say C still really needs naps. He's easier to put to bed the days he naps. Otherwise he's overtired and cranky. He naps for an hour at school but on the weekends it can be anywhere from 0-3hrs. Dude doesn't nap at school anymore. He quit napping on weekends when we moved X into his room (so maybe 5-6 months ago). Now we do quiet time. He lies on the couch and watches a movie and will sometimes fall asleep. I haven't noticed a difference with nap and non nap days with respect to bedtime.
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