Where oh where will baby sleep?

[ArielMermaid]

I know we have a nursery thread but this is more specifically for the baby's bed. What is your plan? Crib? Bassinet? Etc?

My daughter is 2.5 and still in her crib. I'm not about to mess that up, so I'm trying to make plans for where the little will actually sleep. We have a pack n play, but that will most likely be downstairs. The baby will be in our room until they two can comfortably share, later.

My daughter HATED her crib for the first 18 months of her life. She loved the rock n play from birth to 4 months. Then I just fucked with the crib and my sanity for the next 14 months.

This time I'm thinking of using a co sleeping crib (I'm not even sure if that's what it is called.)

Basically this,



Does anyone have any experience with these? Where will your baby be?

[calendula]

ArielMermaid, we bought an arms reach co sleeper that DS hated. So we only used it maybe three times.

We will probably try it again with this baby because I'm kind of lazy and its nice that its right there....but ideally we will transition to the crib in her room when she's ready.

The RnP isn't off the table either. Whatever works, basically!

[ArielMermaid]

DD hated to lay flat. That's why I'm afraid of buying one of these. But I do not want to buy another crib so I might just get one of these and do the baby sleep battle with this rather than another crib.
I'm not interested in getting DD a toddler bed until she climbs out of that crib.
She can sleep in there until she's 25 for all I care 😂

[Rama]

The *plan* for us is to get a co-sleeper like the pic you posted or sidecar the crib. Now, whether or not that'll work for everyone is another story entirely. If babe doesn't like laying perfectly flat, maybe you can get a small wedge to give the mattress a slight incline? I've heard that's a thing people do for acid reflux, so maybe that would work for a picky babe, too?

[mrsmonogrammed]

LO will be in the Halo bassinet for the first 6-8w or so, then moved into his crib in his room after that. I'm keeping my FX that this baby is as agreeable as DD was!

My friend used one of those cosleeper cribs like you posted and loved it! I think it would especially great if you'll be breastfeeding, nice easy access to baby!

[sweetc129]

We are in the processes of kicking our almost 2 year old out of her crib. We put both younger kids in the crib by 1-2 weeks old. I planned to do longer but with LO#1 when she was like a week old I put her in the crib one evening just to have a safe place for her while I was putting laundry away and she fell asleep and slept for like 3 hours, so I went with it. It worked well so I did the same with #2, she didn't transition as easily though. We did the bassinet portion of the pack n' play in our room for the first week then I transitioned her into her crib, she would wake about 3 (she would wake before this but would go back down), but once 3am hit she would not go back down so I would put her in a rock n play next to the crib for the rest of the night, and we did this for about a month.

[cornpop]

We bought another crib because I wanted to keep my toddler in hers as long as possible. Then the next week she started climbing out. But it converts to a toddler bed so she's still using it.

When the baby is in our room we'll be using the pack and play. Then transition to her room in a crib.

[ArielMermaid]

Rama I tried the wedge with DD with no luck.

Really, she was just awful. 😂

I'm hoping I can skip the rock n play and have this kid practice lying flat from the start. I'm sure that will go to shit very quickly lol best intentions.

[cp3]

Dd1 is 3 and we moved her out of her crib a few weeks ago. She never climbed out of it but I wanted to deal with the transition now before baby comes and we are in newborn sleep hell. It was rough but she is getting better at staying in her room and not waking as much.

Dd1 did a mix of sleeping in her RNP and sleeping with us mostly because she was always sick. We moved her to her crib when she was about 6 months. I'm debating about getting a bassinet or co-sleeper for our room until we move this baby to the crib. I'm just nervous about buying something that she will hate and we won't use.

[Leaf 🌱]

Hopefully LO will sleep in the halo bassinet we got. They’ll be in our room for 6-12 weeks. DD climbed out of the crib at 14mo so that’s ready to go whenever we decide the baby needs to gtfo of our room. DD slept in the bassinet from our uppababy or the RnP at night for a long time but almost always took a nap in her crib.

We loved the RnPs so much we have two. It’s the most cost efficient sleeping thing ever.

[ArielMermaid]

Dec 4, 2017 13:35:38 GMT -6 Leaf 🌱 said:

Hopefully LO will sleep in the halo bassinet we got. They’ll be in our room for 6-12 weeks. DD climbed out of the crib at 14mo so that’s ready to go whenever we decide the baby needs to gtfo of our room. DD slept in the bassinet from our uppababy or the RnP at night for a long time but almost always took a nap in her crib.

We loved the RnPs so much we have two. It’s the most cost efficient sleeping thing ever.

The RnP was my lord and savior for those first 4 months. My world without it was bleak.

[clementine]

Our plan is to use SILs halo bassinet bc my niece will just be growing out of it by my due date. I’d like to keep him in our room for a while if it works out with nursing and sleep for everyone. I’m #new to all of this so we’ll see what works.

[auri]

Right now the plan is for the baby to sleep in the rock n play in my room. I found a convertible crib that I think I like and we'll probably order it soon before it goes off sale. We used a convertible crib with DD and it worked out really well for us...especially with us having to put her in a toddler bed when she was a little over a year old. She's a little monkey and would climb out of the crib, even with it on the lowest setting.

[katietopaz]

I'm totally in your boat with not messing with my 2.5 year-old - he looooves his crib and I have no desire to rush that transition whatsoever. He can stay in there until he's in college.

If the baby cooperates, the plan is to have him in our room, in the bassinet level of the PNP, for 4-6 months like we did with DS. I love the idea of an arms-reach cosleeper or side-car-ing the crib, but realistically, it's too hard for me to side-lying nurse a newborn with no neck control. My boobs (especially nursing) are so big, I really need to be sitting fairly upright, with the My Brest Friend pillow strapped on so I can use both hands plus pillow to position boobs and baby.

I'm in denial about what we'll do if this baby just flat doesn't cooperate with any of our ideas. I'm starting to get very anxious about being in a 2BR condo and this baby not having a room of his own.

[clementine]

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

[tinyjoys]

clementine, neither kid ever latched to nurse, something many doctors, nurses and lactation consultants could figure out. We moved them to their own bedrooms once they were sleeping more than 4+ hour stretches. I don't sleep well with them next to me. Every little noise, grunt, sneeze, fart, woke me up and then I'd stare at them for many minutes. I basically spent the first 3-4 months in a dozing/never deep REM sleep state, completely exhausted. For my sanity, we moved them.

[tinyjoys]

So, the plan is for babe to sleep in the RNP for a while, then move into a PNP if needed in our room, until sleeping through the night consistently. After that, we'll slowly transition into the toddler's room with her.

[yianna]

We will set up the arms reach co sleeper and have the RNP on standby.

When I go to work we will transition her to her crib, for the first wake up and then back to arms reach or RNP after - I usually play that by ear. My second kiddo we bed shared with bc he wouldn’t sleep anywhere but my arms. I’m flexible.

Team sleep, here.

[ArielMermaid]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

Once she could roll (4 is months) I couldn't have her in the rock n play anymore. She had a crib in her room so I tried to have her sleep in there because all the olds around me scared me out of cosleeping.
My newborn fogged brain doesn't have much more of a reason for that.
And her room is literally 3 feet away.

ETA: we did nurse. I feel like that made her particularly clingy.

[Leaf 🌱]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

We moved her bc I wasn’t sleeping. I would sleep so lightly that every little newborn grunt/sigh (NEWBORNS ARE LOUD) would wake me straight up. Moving her to her room made it so I wasn’t hyper alert and I would only wake up when she really needed me. She nursed for 15ish months so that wasn’t affected - plus her room is just down the hall.

We also did what @gianna dod for a bit too - she initially went in the crib and then moved to the RnP/bassinet for convenience later in the night.

[katietopaz]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

It was a combo of reasons for us with DS1. He was about 7 months old and had never really recovered from the absolute hell that is the 4-month sleep regression. He was up every 45min-1.5 hours at night. Cosleeping in our bed worked from around 5-7 months because he basically just slept with a boob in his mouth, but then he was clearly having a hard time with us waking him up (and vice versa) and him wanting to move around way more than he could with cosleeping. We were all losing our minds and DS was a mess during the day because he wasn't getting good sleep at night.

So we transitioned him to his own room and the crib right around 7-8 months, and only waited that long because we had to wait out traveling for the holidays as well as a cold bug. Very shortly after that, we did CIO and it was hands-down the best decision we've ever made. He still woke up 1-2 times a night to nurse and kept that one night nursing session until shortly after he turned one.

[cornpop]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

I never nursed so that was a moot point for us.

We didn't have a monitor in our room so at the beginning, we'd put her to bed in her room (since we were still awake at that point). Then when she woke up the first time we'd feed her and put her back to bed in our room.

She stopped waking up at 6 weeks so she kind of just moved herself into her room because we stopped switching her. #neverwakeasleepingbaby

[mrsmonogrammed]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

I wanted to do the transition to her room and have it out of the way before going back to work, but also DD was a super noisy sleeper and I needed her out of my room! I think she was 6w when we moved her from the halo to her crib. We were still breastfeeding (and had weight gain issues so I had to wake her every 4 hours to give her a bottle I had pumped).

[calendula]

Dec 4, 2017 14:20:36 GMT -6 clementine said:

To anyone: What were your reasons for moving to the crib or out of your room? And were you still nursing at that point?

DS was a shitty sleeper for a really long time. And when the baby is up, everyone around the baby is up. H and I were both working full time by the time DS was 6 weeks, so we split the night in shifts. Having DS in his own room maximized the potential for the sleeping parent to actually sleep. It also minimized the chance that one of us would wake DS up. Mostly me, since I had to get up every morning around 5 for work to make a 6 am train.

I'm breaking out in hives just thinking about that time of my life. JFC that was terrible. 

[alwayscheese]

In the crib in the nursery which is right right next to our bedroom, like the doorways touch. If LO is not agreeable I'll be asking for advice lol

[mattsgirl2004]

I have zero expectations with this baby. We have a co-sleeper, RnP, bassinet, and crib. All will be on standby to use whichever works best. Baby will start out in our room though because there's nowhere else for him to go at the moment. Each one of my kids were different as babies.

DS1 essentially slept in a bassinet (and later the crib) during the day, but co-slept with me until he was 4 (judge away...single mom at the time and it worked for us).

DD2 would only sleep in the co-sleeper or bed with us. She's a huge cuddler. She'll be 4 in May and still wakes 1-3 times per night, despite all of our efforts.

DD2 has never wanted to be held much or cuddled a lot during sleep. She loved the RnP the first 4-5 months where she transitioned smoothly into her crib and now at 2 years old is in a twin bed and sleeps better than other 2 ever did at this age.

We'll see what works for this baby and go from there. IMHO, the first year is all about survival and doing whatever works for both parents and baby (as safely as possible, of course).

[smootiepie]

The plan (at least for now) is to do the same as we did for DS1. So RNP until he's rolling over, then transition to the PNP in our room. Transition to the crib (in his own room) depends on how bad his 4 month regression is. For DS1, his sleep regression was BAD (however, now he is the most amazing sleeper ever), so we had to wait longer than I really wanted to for the crib transition because he needed to learn how to self-soothe first. And of course this is all dependent on getting DS1 out of the crib by the time we need it for DS2, which I keep telling myself is so much further away than it actually is...

Re: clementine's question - as others have said, my kid was a noisy sleeper, so I wanted him out so I could sleep better. At the time we transitioned (around 5-6 months), I was EPing, but DS1 was also STTN.

[mintyblueair]

We were given a bassinet with DS and we used it for the first 2-3 weeks. One of us would sleep on the living room next to the baby, and the other would get a decent sleep in bed. Then we went straight to putting him in his crib in his own room. We'll be doing the same with this baby.

[kayladawn91]

We have a rocking cradle bassinet thing that was handed down that we will try. I'm hoping that will work for the first couple of months and then we will move him to a crib. I plan on using the crib for naps pretty early on though so he is used to it. We'll see how my plan works, haha

[nuggetrn]

Right now I am assuming she will be in our room in a pack n play to start out with. DH is going to be working third shift so I have no desire to be traipsing back and forth to the nursery which is on the opposite side of our house. I also have a little sleeper thing that I can sit in the bed that she will be safely contained in. I can see myself using this if DH is not in bed with is. We have a king so I feel pretty safe using this as an option. Other than that I guess we will just have to see what happens. There is a twin bed in the nursery so if her being in our room is bad I can always crash there if she ends up in the crib.