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Post by jt2378 on Oct 8, 2017 9:05:43 GMT -6
@starzia, we have the same swing 😊
Eeek about clothes, I know what you mean. I actually weigh less than before pregnancy but things still don't fit right, it's like your hips don't go back to before. It happened the first time too, sometimes your body is just different after childbirth ☹️
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2017 9:50:06 GMT -6
@starzia, if your pants fit through the hips just get a belly band until they will button. I hated all maternity pants so I just wore my regular pants with the band throughout pregnancy because my hips never changed.
I can fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans, but my stomach is still all jiggly and I wonder how long it takes for your muscles to fuse back together. Obviously I need to work out. lol I'm upset I lost my butt! I didn't have much, but it what I had is gone. 😕
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2017 9:51:43 GMT -6
And +whatever to not eating that healthy. I just throw what I can together that doesn't take long to make, eat, and clean up. So lots of snaking and frozen meals.
And lots of cookies. lol I seem to stress eat them when the baby is extra fussy.
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Post by king26 on Oct 8, 2017 10:21:52 GMT -6
So, how many naps a day do your babies take? J takes a lot all under an hour . He used to take 2 hour naps but I can't complain because his night stretches are longer now.
Also, do you do an activity after every feed with your LO? We were trying to do that but now I'm seeing sleep cues a lot of the time so we often wake up, change diaper, eat, then sleep.
Do you change baby everyone they are up? Do you change before feed or after?
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Post by king26 on Oct 8, 2017 10:27:00 GMT -6
I'm dying eating take out so much. As a good blogger I usually make dinner 6 nights a week, 2 or 3 of them new recipes. Then I would bake every weekemd. Now I'm lucky to throw something in the slow cooker. We used to eat out once a week now it's 3-4 times if you include lunch and dinnet. I hate it
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Post by cali on Oct 8, 2017 11:03:28 GMT -6
+ whatever to eating like shit lately, but because M has been so demanding I don't get to eat very often so I think that is how I weigh 6 pounds less than I did pre-pregnancy. I also was bloated as hell pre-pregnancy from Ivf hormones. I still feel like my body doesn't look the same though, even though the number on the scale is down I still need to tone up, but LOL at having time to work out.
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Post by cwbh928 on Oct 8, 2017 11:26:27 GMT -6
king26 H doesn't have any kind of nap schedule yet. He has a few short naps in the am and usually a nice long one in he afternoon. Every few days I notice a pattern and then it goes to crap. As far as activity. I usually do some tummy time whether he likes it or not. I put him on his play mat or in his swing. I also let DS1 sit next to me and work on eye contact with rattles. It's not perfect and I can't do it all the time, but I am starting to notice he best/longest wakeful moments and go with that.
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Post by king26 on Oct 8, 2017 12:07:35 GMT -6
+ whatever to eating like shit lately, but because M has been so demanding I don't get to eat very often so I think that is how I weigh 6 pounds less than I did pre-pregnancy. I also was bloated as hell pre-pregnancy from Ivf hormones. I still feel like my body doesn't look the same though, even though the number on the scale is down I still need to tone up, but LOL at having time to work out. Same. I'm at prepregnancy weight because no time to eat and am wearing normal clothes. Body is differenf though since I've been doing treatments since 2014. My body doesn't know what to do with itself.
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Post by king26 on Oct 8, 2017 12:09:23 GMT -6
king26 my baby still sleeps most of the day. With chunks of awake time. G a fun but short. I do not track this stuff so I don't have a good answer. But there is no average. Every day is different and I'm just rolling with it. Mine just started the whole diaper change eat, sleep. He was awake a lot more but I'm Thinking he hit the 6 week growth spurt and needs the sleep
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Post by bsouls on Oct 8, 2017 12:37:00 GMT -6
R has a few naps that are an hour. She has one that’s usually close to two hours. Then she has two longer stretches at night.
I change her diaper before a bottle if it’s full. And, I usually change it an hour or so after a bottle, so that way it’s clean for her nap.
We don’t really do an activity with her and I’m not concerned about the interaction she gets.
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Post by jexxa on Oct 8, 2017 13:55:23 GMT -6
I’m still about 15lbs over where I started, but I started my lowest weight I had been in years and I gained 40-something lbs while pregnant. I’m trying not to be discouraged but at this point I was 5lbs LESS than my starting weight with DS so it’s hard not to be. I’m not eating a lot but what I am eating is crap, so i’m sure that’s not helping. I’m sure i’m going to have to buy some new clothes for work 😒
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Post by jexxa on Oct 8, 2017 14:00:50 GMT -6
P naps 3-4 times a day. She has 2 long ones in the morning & afternoon and then the ones in the evening are shorter.
I do “activities” maybe once or twice a day. Certainly not after every feed. A lot of times she falls asleep after eating.
Diaper changes just depend.
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 14:53:19 GMT -6
I have my 6wk PP check up with the OB tomorrow. Anything in particular I should make sure to ask or have checked? Also curious, how long were you fellow CS mommas not allowed to drive?
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 15:08:52 GMT -6
Browsed through the pics that were taken when I had the CS- I browsed them once before when we had just gotten home but felt overwhelmed at the time so it was like I hadnt seen them before. I am not sure how to deal with all these emotions that seeing the pics gave me (feelings I have kept at a distance so far). I am struggling with her low apgar scores (3 at birth, she was all grayish instead of pinkish when she was born.. so scary and sad) and knowing that hadn't we made the decision for the CS when it was made the outcome may have been so different.
I am feeling sad and confused for having missed out on her first 24h.. for not having felt her skin to skin when she just arrived in this world, for having only been able to kiss her cheek and having to wait many many hours before I could hold her and touch and smell and see her and then only for a few minutes, for missing out on her daddy meet her for the first time and seeing the look on his face, for not having been able to BF her or try to at least till the next day.. for.... ofcourse I am also grateful she did so well in NICU and perked up and was able to join me in the ward so soon. And she is doing great ever since.
I mostly feel empty and sort of detached from it all. I been wanting to write down my birthstory but I just havent been able to. I hate that because I worry I will have forgotten details by the time I do (hoping I will get to it eventually) and at the same time I dont even remember much at all as it is. Then I start thinking about it and feel so overwhelmed as well as like I am looking at things from an outsiders onlookers perspective which just is so weird.
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Post by bsouls on Oct 8, 2017 15:34:34 GMT -6
Also curious, how long were you fellow CS mommas not allowed to drive? It was suggested not to drive two weeks. But, my doctor said if I was by myself then she was ok with a short trip after a week (but, I didn’t do it).
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 15:48:14 GMT -6
Also curious, how long were you fellow CS mommas not allowed to drive? It was suggested not to drive two weeks. But, my doctor said if I was by myself then she was ok with a short trip after a week (but, I didn’t do it). They never gave me a time frame just said I couldn't drive and then made the appointment for my 6wk PP check up. I asked my GP when she visited me 1.5wks ago and she wasnt sure but felt it was early still (also since it was still bothering me quite a bit while just walking etc). I hope to get the okay from the OB tomorrow.. also for insurance purposes lol. Between the csection recovery and my fractured ankle I haven't driven since mid May 🤤 And we bought a new (and bigger) car since so aaaahhhh. Do look forward being mobile again tho!
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 8, 2017 17:38:25 GMT -6
muscari, I'm sorry for all the emotions and sadness you are feeling. I also felt sad I didn't get to see MH meet her for the first time. Obviously I'm not saying we had the same experience since I think yours was an emergency situation. Please be gentle with yourself, big hugs ❤️
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Post by king26 on Oct 8, 2017 17:51:21 GMT -6
I'm sorry muscari that's tough but you did what was best for you and D and you are both here and doing great. That's what matters . ((( hugs))
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2017 18:30:56 GMT -6
It's definitely hard to come to terms with a birth experience you weren't expecting, muscari. I too get upset when I think of how it went and the lack of control or say so in matters. All I can do is remind myself that a healthy mom and baby was truly the only thing that mattered. It may be therapeutic to write it all down, almost like acknowledging it and then letting it go. And of course you can always talk to us about it.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 8, 2017 18:59:44 GMT -6
It's definitely hard to come to terms with a birth experience you weren't expecting, muscari. I too get upset when I think of how it went and the lack of control or say so in matters. All I can do is remind myself that a healthy mom and baby was truly the only thing that mattered. It may be therapeutic to write it all down, almost like acknowledging it and then letting it go. And of course you can always talk to us about it. This is so true, thank you. While my csection wasn't an emergency situation, it all came about with only a couple days notice and while I was in the midst of my ass hell. It was upsetting but your right we are all lucky us and our babes are healthy
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2017 20:25:09 GMT -6
It's definitely hard to come to terms with a birth experience you weren't expecting, muscari. I too get upset when I think of how it went and the lack of control or say so in matters. All I can do is remind myself that a healthy mom and baby was truly the only thing that mattered. It may be therapeutic to write it all down, almost like acknowledging it and then letting it go. And of course you can always talk to us about it. This is so true, thank you. While my csection wasn't an emergency situation, it all came about with only a couple days notice and while I was in the midst of my ass hell. It was upsetting but your right we are all lucky us and our babes are healthy Well that whole situation was trying in its own way too. I do hope you're healed up from that! I truly don't know how people can say c-sections are an easy way out. Nothing about it is easy.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 8, 2017 20:54:47 GMT -6
This is so true, thank you. While my csection wasn't an emergency situation, it all came about with only a couple days notice and while I was in the midst of my ass hell. It was upsetting but your right we are all lucky us and our babes are healthy Well that whole situation was trying in its own way too. I do hope you're healed up from that! I truly don't know how people can say c-sections are an easy way out. Nothing about it is easy. Thanks, I'm not healed up ☹️ I have to go for a colonoscopy soon and then more surgery 😢 It's literally a living nightmare. I'm thankful at least I healed and didn't have any complications from the csection on top of all this bullshit
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Post by cali on Oct 8, 2017 21:46:42 GMT -6
((hugs)) muscari. Not the same but my birth experience was not at all as I planned or expected and I feel sad about it. But as others have said, the most important thing is that you and D are both healthy and doing well. That other stuff is disappointing though and I totally get where you're coming from.
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 22:22:36 GMT -6
jt2378 oh damn nooo not more ass surgery ?? I am so incredibly sorry this is such an ongoing saga 🤤🙄💗
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 22:29:55 GMT -6
And thank you all 💗
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 22:31:11 GMT -6
I'm about to go to bed but I see I have 20 FB notifications I forgot I RSVP for my cousin who's having one those online party's where they try to sell you stuff. This ones kids books. So now I don't even want to open the app at all. Going to bed. Oopsie! Blame post partum / pregnancy brain for forgetting! Hope you sleep well.
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 22:34:47 GMT -6
Sooo D decided to mix things up again and now wakes up every 2-3 hours again instead of sleeping 5-6h overnight. Still taking an hour per nursing session as ewell. Meh. Hope tis temporary and linked to the mental leap she s about to take. Sje2 is a little extra cranky and clingy too! She did however took a real nap in the afternoon! Not sure what i rather have.... dayt time napping or STTN... i think the latter tbh! ZzzzzZzZzzzz
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Post by muscari on Oct 8, 2017 23:47:31 GMT -6
Of course today is the one day we have to get up early for my OB appointment.. I doubt I am getting more then 2.5h sleep. Not good. Darn D your timing sucks lol
Eta: decided to go downstairs with D so MH will get a couple more hours of actual sleep. I can (read will just have to lol) handle but MH has to drive us and I hate him being so tired when behind the wheel.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 9, 2017 2:22:20 GMT -6
jt2378 So sorry you will have to have additional surgery and colonoscopy. That is so very frustrating. I hope it resolves soon. muscari Good luck at your appointment tomorrow. Hugs regarding your birth experience. I think your feelings are 100 percent understandable. This doesn't compare, but for DS1, I was upset bc I didn't get to do skin to skin bc he pooped right before he came out and they had to make sure he was okay. It's hard to adjust expectations. king26 We change after each nap and before each feeding. (I try to do eat, activity, sleep) If he's really hangry, though, I feed before the diaper change. Sometimes he falls asleep feeding so we don't do an activity. I've sucked at tummy time, so I've been pushing it the last few days, although he doesn't tolerate much. I also like to prop up on pillows and sit him on my belly and then we talk and dance to music. His daytime nap schedule is still erratic and I don't really keep track. I usually get at least one 1.5 hr stretch and then some smaller ones.
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Post by cali on Oct 9, 2017 5:57:32 GMT -6
jt2378, ugh, sorry you're still dealing with this stuff. I hope this next surgery takes care of it!
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