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Post by starbuck on Sept 21, 2017 19:12:34 GMT -6
kleigh *hugs* I'm so sorry! Please take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. We are all here for you. Give those babies an extra squeeze tonight.
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Post by Cheshie6 on Sept 21, 2017 19:16:49 GMT -6
sophiegrace, I think I'm more introverted that I used to be or am just realizing it! Lol like my sister and childhood friend have lots of girlfriends and seem to make friends like it's nothing but I never have! I'm good with 2-3 girls! In high school, I had 3 bffs, in college 2, and my current bff is 3 years behind me so I met her my junior year we got closer my senior year and we've been bffs since!
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Post by danib on Sept 21, 2017 19:20:21 GMT -6
danib did your H make it home? He did, thanks. The boys have been a tad wild (excited) and we've been catching up. |
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Post by dashook on Sept 21, 2017 19:35:47 GMT -6
Just catching up. Wow. jubilantsquirrel I feel for your big boy so much and it sounds like you are doing a great job at finding different angles to help him through this. It's all still new and I hope you'll see a positive change very soon, especially after switching to the afternoon. tgrimes oh my, they are incredibly cute. M's smile is everything. kleigh I can't tell you how glad I am that you're okay. I hope you're able to get some rest tonight and you're not too sore tomorrow. It wouldn't hurt to go get checked out by a doctor. Not to be all litigious but let's just say it's good to have a paper trail. If he's in business and uses his truck for the business he probably has some sort of liability or business auto insurance. Let me know if you want to talk more about the legal side of things once you're feeling better. Also, after synagogue tomorrow I'm headed straight home and will be passing through your hood so please let me know if there is anything I can do for you or bring you ❤️ |
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 21, 2017 19:52:33 GMT -6
kleigh Did you call his insurance? I've never had an insurance co call me. LOL. I've always had to be the one to get things rolling, follow up, etc.
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Post by hangry on Sept 21, 2017 20:04:46 GMT -6
kleigh, my heart breaks hearing how hard this might be for you. Of course this incident could send you in an anxiety tailspin, but having been through it before and being proactive to address it before it gets bad should help you. Don't push it off. Take care of your physical and mental and emotional health, girl. You are important. Big hugs!
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Post by vino on Sept 21, 2017 20:38:00 GMT -6
I'm so glad you're ok kleigh, how scary! |
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Post by vino on Sept 21, 2017 20:41:47 GMT -6
I'm so happy the afternoon class went better for him, what a relief jubilantsquirrel |
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Post by Cheshie6 on Sept 21, 2017 20:59:13 GMT -6
kleigh, please get looked at! Adrenaline is a numbing agent and if you're feeling bad now, it may only get worse! Of course we're here for you!
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Post by goldenlove on Sept 22, 2017 5:36:31 GMT -6
kleigh I'm so sorry that you're feeling like this again. I wish I could go find that POS driver and kick him in the nuts for you. I can't believe how irresponsible a business owner could be. I hope you find someone to talk to about how you're feeling and get to a doctor asap.
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Post by goldenlove on Sept 22, 2017 5:46:07 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I'm very lucky to have a large group of friends and the kids range from 5 to NB. I've talked before about my IRL N16 because myself and 3 friends all had November due dates last year. I would be in trouble if I had to make friends right now. I don't know how to talk to other moms, not even casual chit chat. When I took C to baby classes, the other moms knew each other and I felt like I was intruding in their group.
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Post by danib on Sept 22, 2017 5:54:51 GMT -6
Re Friends
I have 1 IRL friend. And unfortunately she works shiftwork and her husband works away liek DH (but on a different rotation) so we don't see each other as often as we would like (but we talk frequently).
I have plenty of "Facebook Friends" - people who I used to hang out with at one time in my life, but now we just like each other's pictures and send the obligatory Happy Birthday message and so on.
I have "work friends" who I talk to at work, and really enjoy their company, but don't actually get together outside of work events.
And then I have family. My mom is my main support.
Edit to add: I also have A13. But since I live so far away from everyone, that's purely online relationships.
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Post by waitwhat on Sept 22, 2017 5:55:44 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I'm very lucky to have a large group of friends and the kids range from 5 to NB. I've talked before about my IRL N16 because myself and 3 friends all had November due dates last year. I would be in trouble if I had to make friends right now. I don't know how to talk to other moms, not even casual chit chat. When I took C to baby classes, the other moms knew each other and I felt like I was intruding in their group. This. I took B to a couple of play classes at the library when he was about 6 months old and it was so cliquey. The other moms were not friendly or warm at all. It really turned me off and I never went back. |
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Post by goldenlove on Sept 22, 2017 6:10:36 GMT -6
Cheshie6 I'm very lucky to have a large group of friends and the kids range from 5 to NB. I've talked before about my IRL N16 because myself and 3 friends all had November due dates last year. I would be in trouble if I had to make friends right now. I don't know how to talk to other moms, not even casual chit chat. When I took C to baby classes, the other moms knew each other and I felt like I was intruding in their group. This. I took B to a couple of play classes at the library when he was about 6 months old and it was so cliquey. The other moms were not friendly or warm at all. It really turned me off and I never went back. Why is it always like this? I wonder if it gets better the more you go (and force yourself into their group). Even the instructor seemed like she was good friends with the other moms. I actually really enjoyed the Little Gym class I took him to. The group was bigger and there were a lot of dads there too. I think it helped that it was more structured and there wasn't as much side chatting going on. |
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Post by kleigh on Sept 22, 2017 6:49:45 GMT -6
Re Friends I have 1 IRL friend. And unfortunately she works shiftwork and her husband works away liek DH (but on a different rotation) so we don't see each other as often as we would like (but we talk frequently). I have plenty of "Facebook Friends" - people who I used to hang out with at one time in my life, but now we just like each other's pictures and send the obligatory Happy Birthday message and so on. I have "work friends" who I talk to at work, and really enjoy their company, but don't actually get together outside of work events. And then I have family. My mom is my main support. Edit to add: I also have A13. But since I live so far away from everyone, that's purely online relationships. I don't have many IRL friends either, partially because I never kept tons of friends by my side and then I think FB has been the catalyst for many people - it's so much easier to think you're staying in touch bc you see everything so people don't call or hang out in person quite as much. In fact I'd pretty much say at this point the people I hang out with most are just my sisters, my mom, and my husbands' friend's wife. I suck at making and keeping IRL friendships bc I am shy and insecure and feel like I'm annoying so I'm hesitant mostly and it comes off better than thou a lot and I just feel like I don't fit in well. I have always gotten along better with guys partially because I am like a man myself (in the way I talk and joke and inappropriate humor and such) and partially because there was always less pressure to be "ON" or whatever. But then little by little, guys get into relationships and suddenly not allowed to hang out and all that jazz. Anyway I am perfectly happy with my sisters and mom and even MH, we have an amazing friendship still after all these years.. I feel like bc you guys have gotten to know me hat these would be friendship IRL because less pressure but other than that I am too shy to make new friends. |
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Post by kleigh on Sept 22, 2017 6:53:58 GMT -6
Thank you all for the support and kind words. I'm feeling ok physically today (less some neck tightness) but emotionally still upset and angry, so angry that someone could knowingly be so damn irresponsible and negligent. He could have killed someone, I do not consider that an "accident"- that was an intentional decision he made not to secure those knowing what the risks were.
I'm going to call his insurance today. What I'm afraid of is his insurance and the other drivers insurance giving me the runaround bc there was the other car that hit me took us one gonna try to pass off on other etc.
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Post by waitwhat on Sept 22, 2017 6:58:57 GMT -6
I have a handful of girlfriends from high school that I hang out with but we are all in different stages in our lives so it makes getting together hard. One is single, one is dating, one just had a baby last November, one is getting married in a few weeks, and then there's me that is married and has two kids. And because most of them don't have kids they want to get together after work during the week or on weekends when it's hard for me. But we do try to see each other when we can, which is only like once a month. But I'm awkward AF and I HATE talking on the phone. I'd rather text or talk IRL and a lot of my friends like to call and "catch up".
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Post by tjanca22 on Sept 22, 2017 7:13:47 GMT -6
kleigh I'm glad you're feeling physically okay today. What you're feeling emotionally is totally justified. I hope the insurance companies don't give you a hard time, this is 100% on that truck! Hugs friend ❤️
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starbuck
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Post by starbuck on Sept 22, 2017 7:52:51 GMT -6
Friends. Yeah. I remember those.
Most of my friends are single. Like 99.99%. They do single things. I can't go out drinking and I can't spend all day tailgating with three kids. Sooooo. They know they can come here and I will make them a nice meal and we can have fun but there are three kids running around. So it's a hard sell for singles when they could go out somewhere with other singles instead.
I am usually alone with the kids since I no longer work. It's harder and harder to keep in touch.
I have one friend that i used to work with and we see each other every few months and text sometimes. Tomorrow we are getting lunch. She works but has a kid so I feel like she kind of understands.
**TW**My sister definitely although she lives 30min away. It wad tricky before because after her loss she was in a hard place. And to have all my kids around was hard, although she loves them. Once her son get a little older I'm sure we will have lots of wine/playdates.
I am trying with W's friend's mom? But like if our kids decided they didn't like each other I don't think we would talk.
So, ya. MH knows how isolating it is being a SAHP. But like I used to call him daily on my lunch break and he basically never calls me so I don't think he quite gets it or his brain is not wired to be like "hey I bet my wife could really use some adult conversation!"
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Sept 22, 2017 8:24:22 GMT -6
I don't really have any friends. Besides you guys, the only person I talk to daily is MH. I email with my most days during work.
I have a group of friends that I've had since jr. high/high school, but I've been out of sync with them since we graduated high school. They all went to college and I stayed home and worked. When they all graduated and moved back home I was living in the city. When they all moved to the city I was living in the suburbs. I was the first to get married and the first to have kids. One just had a baby last month, but that's it. They also all want to stay in the city and pretty have no desire to ever drive out to visit me.
MH has a couple of friends from high school that we hang out with sometimes. They have kids as well. One couple lives kind of far from us, so we don't see them too often. The other is just in the next town over, but they have 3 kids and both work full time, so it's hard to make time for all of us to hang out.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 22, 2017 9:32:50 GMT -6
kleigh I can see how you might get the run around from the insurance companies. My mother used to work at State Farm. I'll call her in a bit to see what she says about the situation. The original accident was that guys fault though. Good luck.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 22, 2017 9:35:09 GMT -6
RE: IRL friends
I have a couple but I don't see them often or talk to them often. There's an N13 girl that I meet every few months for dinner. A former ballet student of mine that I meet every few months for dinner and one of MH's friend's wife that I meet up with. I don't talk to them that much though.
I wish my sister lived closer.
I talk to y'all & N13 every day so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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