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Post by duskymonkey on Sept 11, 2017 10:07:55 GMT -6
moonandback141, not only that, but all these babies so far have been coming at 34-36 weeks. I'm 35 weeks today and definitely feeling anxious that baby could be a September baby instead of an October one! I want him to keep cooking so that my maternity leave lasts through Christmas... lol. Me too!!! mkrupar and @ bubblefan EDD is the same as me! And a couple months ago, the drs. Didn't even think I make it past 28 wks! |
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Post by seventythree on Sept 11, 2017 10:15:44 GMT -6
Re: visitors, I'm lucky in that we don't have many people here who will want/care to visit the hospital. I don't envy those of you who are expecting a revolving door! I also have strong feelings about DD being the first to meet her sister, and about having some time with just the 4 of us.
This gets tricky because MIL will be looking after DD, and she's the one person I really don't want to see at the hospital. She was our only visitor last time, and it was even worse for me than I had anticipated. We had a rough time at the hospital, and she was just so tone deaf and oblivious to how exhausted and miserable H and I both were. I mostly stayed quiet and let her have her grandma moment, but after she left I hard cried over the bassinet for a LONG time.
Ugh, I know it's not anyone's fault that I can't have my parents there too, but it just hurts so bad.
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Post by ssm on Sept 11, 2017 10:38:55 GMT -6
I basically just told everyone that we would not be accepting any visitors until we had had a couple of hours alone with baby, and DD would get to be the first visitor. We did text pictures to our parents. DH went along with what I was comfortable with. This is our plan too. DS will be with the in-laws in the waiting room and when we're ready, DH will go and pick him up and bring him to the room. Or the NICU. Hopefully not the NICU, but luckily our NICU allows kids old than 3 to come in (at least in the low-intervention areas). GOOD TO KNOW!! |
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Post by danvers on Sept 11, 2017 10:39:41 GMT -6
All these babies are sending me into a nesting spree! I feel like I'm nesting both at home and in my classroom. I came in and got 3 days of emergency substitute plans copied so on the off chance baby comes at a weird time, no one has to scramble to get anything ready immediately. After 3 days, they're on their own.
I'm also placing a huge Amazon order to complete my registry today (we got paid the 10th). So many amazon boxes coming soon!!!!!
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Post by ssm on Sept 11, 2017 10:41:30 GMT -6
I have several Amazon gift cards. I need to get my shtuff together and make an order and request my baby box from them.
I'm not sure exactly what I need from there. But I know I need another curtain.
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Post by mkrupar on Sept 11, 2017 10:57:52 GMT -6
I basically just told everyone that we would not be accepting any visitors until we had had a couple of hours alone with baby, and DD would get to be the first visitor. We did text pictures to our parents. DH went along with what I was comfortable with. This is our plan too. DS will be with the in-laws in the waiting room and when we're ready, DH will go and pick him up and bring him to the room. Or the NICU. Hopefully not the NICU, but luckily our NICU allows kids old than 3 to come in (at least in the low-intervention areas). That's interesting about the NICU visiting age. Ours is adamant about no minors, period. Their security is super strict too. |
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Post by CoachTsWife on Sept 11, 2017 11:07:36 GMT -6
Hugs to you seventythree . Though my dad has been gone 15 years, my mom is still living so I'm not even close to in the same boat as you. But I do feel you and I can try to imagine what it is like and I'm so sorry. Does your H get it? danvers , I feel like the weekend excitement threw me into a nesting spree, too. I was due late in the month with DS so I felt like I had much more time than some others, but this time I'm due 10/1 (but 9/25 if you ask my ob  ) and I'm finally getting my rear in gear. |
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Post by mkrupar on Sept 11, 2017 11:11:05 GMT -6
We're lucky with visitors. It's really just my dad, the guys and DD. They visited yesterday for a bit. H took Brian and Kent down to see DS while dad and I kept DD entertained in my room.
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Post by blackmamba on Sept 11, 2017 11:20:34 GMT -6
Thanks, CoachTsWife and August Blooms. I'm 36+2. I've been going to my chiropractor every other day, hoping he can get this baby to flip! Hope you feel better today, CoachTsWife! Baby was breech for me up until about a week ago. I tried acupuncture with moxibustion. No clue if that's what actually did it but my doctor was the one who recommended it. When they put the needles in my pinky toes and then when the moxibustion started smoking, so much movement!!! It was super interesting. Thanks for the tip! Im going to ask about this. |
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Post by rachydc on Sept 11, 2017 11:29:25 GMT -6
Am I crazy for wanting our families to get their flu shots before the baby arrives? They all live 4 hours away and will come visit for at least a day or two once he's born. Im considering making it mandatory for local friends as well. My one friend doesnt vax her daughter, so im iffy. A summer baby was so much easier to deal with. Flu season baby?? Im not ready for
I never really "believed" in the flu shot, but I'm a huge advocate for doing it to protect others who cannot receive it (newborns, elderly, compromised immune systems, etc..).
Not trying to start a debate at all. I just feel like everyone's going to look at me like a lunatic bc I know H's family avoids shots at all costs.
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Post by mkrupar on Sept 11, 2017 11:34:18 GMT -6
rachydc, I don't think it's crazy given the season we're heading in to. I still have to get mine, and they'll give it to me before I am discharged.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Sept 11, 2017 11:43:44 GMT -6
Am I crazy for wanting our families to get their flu shots before the baby arrives? They all live 4 hours away and will come visit for at least a day or two once he's born. Im considering making it mandatory for local friends as well. My one friend doesnt vax her daughter, so im iffy. A summer baby was so much easier to deal with. Flu season baby?? Im not ready for I never really "believed" in the flu shot, but I'm a huge advocate for doing it to protect others who cannot receive it (newborns, elderly, compromised immune systems, etc..). Not trying to start a debate at all. I just feel like everyone's going to look at me like a lunatic bc I know H's family avoids shots at all costs. October is the ideal month to get the shot. Too much earlier and the effectiveness may be reduced at the later end of the season. Flu timing is generally regional. My area is hardest hit Jan through March. Last year, H got it with the shot in mid March and it was pretty prevalent in our area. It takes two weeks for it to build up immunities. I read an article that it's supposed to be a bad flu season predicited by a bad season in Australia in their winter. I don't know how legit that was but it made me annoyed. October babies are hard because they may be entering daycare settings at the height of flu season. I'm not happy with my late January timing at all as it relates to this. |
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Sept 11, 2017 12:02:49 GMT -6
Re: visitors, I'm lucky in that we don't have many people here who will want/care to visit the hospital. I don't envy those of you who are expecting a revolving door! I also have strong feelings about DD being the first to meet her sister, and about having some time with just the 4 of us. This gets tricky because MIL will be looking after DD, and she's the one person I really don't want to see at the hospital. She was our only visitor last time, and it was even worse for me than I had anticipated. We had a rough time at the hospital, and she was just so tone deaf and oblivious to how exhausted and miserable H and I both were. I mostly stayed quiet and let her have her grandma moment, but after she left I hard cried over the bassinet for a LONG time. Ugh, I know it's not anyone's fault that I can't have my parents there too, but it just hurts so bad. I'm glad I'm not the only one with a Mom and MIL like this. Do they not remember what newborns are like?? It's not all squishy cuddles. This is exactly why I don't want my mother to come and visit one month after kiddo's scheduled birth date. But I don't know how to explain that to her in any way she'll understand. I suppose she thinks it will be like any other visit when we go to lunch and go on little shopping trips and go out for dinner, etc. but I'll be sleep deprived, half naked and covered in breast milk most of the time and won't want to do any of that with her. Then she'll be hurt because she feels ignored. I get she wants to see her grandchild but she has no concept of how disruptive that will be for us. My MIL is not much better. She thinks she can help in the middle of the night and I have explained 16 different ways that there's really nothing she can help with if I'm breastfeeding and/or pumping and regardless it's nothing but stressful to have a house guest wandering around in the middle of the night asking what they can help with. You can help by going away and leaving me alone so I don't have to be self conscious about being topless (and maybe bottomless) with morning breath and my hair looking like something nested in it. /Rant over |
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Post by cougarette on Sept 11, 2017 12:02:52 GMT -6
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Post by chitownsully on Sept 11, 2017 12:29:13 GMT -6
Re: visitors, I'm lucky in that we don't have many people here who will want/care to visit the hospital. I don't envy those of you who are expecting a revolving door! I also have strong feelings about DD being the first to meet her sister, and about having some time with just the 4 of us. This gets tricky because MIL will be looking after DD, and she's the one person I really don't want to see at the hospital. She was our only visitor last time, and it was even worse for me than I had anticipated. We had a rough time at the hospital, and she was just so tone deaf and oblivious to how exhausted and miserable H and I both were. I mostly stayed quiet and let her have her grandma moment, but after she left I hard cried over the bassinet for a LONG time. Ugh, I know it's not anyone's fault that I can't have my parents there too, but it just hurts so bad. I'm glad I'm not the only one with a Mom and MIL like this. Do they not remember what newborns are like?? It's not all squishy cuddles. This is exactly why I don't want my mother to come and visit one month after kiddo's scheduled birth date. But I don't know how to explain that to her in any way she'll understand. I suppose she thinks it will be like any other visit when we go to lunch and go on little shopping trips and go out for dinner, etc. but I'll be sleep deprived, half naked and covered in breast milk most of the time and won't want to do any of that with her. Then she'll be hurt because she feels ignored. I get she wants to see her grandchild but she has no concept of how disruptive that will be for us. My MIL is not much better. She thinks she can help in the middle of the night and I have explained 16 different ways that there's really nothing she can help with if I'm breastfeeding and/or pumping and regardless it's nothing but stressful to have a house guest wandering around in the middle of the night asking what they can help with. You can help by going away and leaving me alone so I don't have to be self conscious about being topless (and maybe bottomless) with morning breath and my hair looking like something nested in it. /Rant over Politely explaining that her help would be more appreciated during the day - to watch baby while you nap - is a better alternative to night time help? |
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Sept 11, 2017 12:39:38 GMT -6
chitownsully, Yes that is what I will emphasize. Either watching baby so I can get a break or helping out with dishes, laundry and such would be a lot more helpful!!!
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Post by caitost21 on Sept 11, 2017 13:07:05 GMT -6
Am I crazy for wanting our families to get their flu shots before the baby arrives? They all live 4 hours away and will come visit for at least a day or two once he's born. Im considering making it mandatory for local friends as well. My one friend doesnt vax her daughter, so im iffy. A summer baby was so much easier to deal with. Flu season baby?? Im not ready for I never really "believed" in the flu shot, but I'm a huge advocate for doing it to protect others who cannot receive it (newborns, elderly, compromised immune systems, etc..). Not trying to start a debate at all. I just feel like everyone's going to look at me like a lunatic bc I know H's family avoids shots at all costs. Nope not crazy. DS was born in the fall and we required all family members to get flu and tdap vaccinations before seeing him. I looked at it this way, their choice if they want to get it but my choice to expose my child or not. It is an awkward conversation to have though lol |
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Post by Rama on Sept 11, 2017 13:14:35 GMT -6
Y'all were busy this weekend, I see.
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Sept 11, 2017 13:23:49 GMT -6
rachydc not crazy at all. Make sure they are up to date on TDAP too. Whooping cough is no joke.
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Post by curmudgeon on Sept 11, 2017 13:48:49 GMT -6
Just popping in to say I hate all hospital visitors. I had a scheduled csection with my first and my parents came to the hospital and texted me and H nonstop for HOURS while I was in recovery. Demanding to know when they could come back.
Then I had some cousins who happened to be in from out of state and I said it was fine for them to visit. All they did was comment on how tired I looked. I just stared at them because, duh? I had a newborn 24 hours ago and I'm being woken up every 2-3 hours.
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Post by mommabakes on Sept 11, 2017 13:50:56 GMT -6
Finished my days to do list, so now I'm sitting and relaxing. Need to figure out dinner before too long. DD won't nap after prek, but is so exhausted that early bedtime is necessary.
I don't remember this from my other two babies, but my belly has been SO tight feeling for the past couple of weeks. Plus Braxton Hicks and pressure when I'm standing/walking.
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Post by August Blooms on Sept 11, 2017 15:59:46 GMT -6
bootsorhearts1 What you said about family staying with you is exactly what I've tried to explain to my H about why I don't want his parents here for an indefinite period of time. They arrive the beginning of October and will be staying until who knows when... he thinks they will be helpful but I really don't want to have them living in my house for the new baby period. We have a small house making it that much more awkward. My MIL likes to take over things and H will just let her. When she can to visit us in the hospital after I had the baby she took the baby away from me because she wanted to change the diaper. At my last appointment with my psychologist we came up with a game plan to deal with the less than ideal situation. So I'm feeling a lot better about things but still hate the whole situation.
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Post by cythe on Sept 11, 2017 18:12:53 GMT -6
Y'all were busy this weekend, I see. I just snorted reading this. Hey, pretty lady. |
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Sept 11, 2017 18:15:14 GMT -6
August Blooms , that is really hard. Is there a way to very nicely suggest they stay in a hotel while they're there, or do you have friends or relatives nearby they can stay with? At least then you get your home to yourself at night and maybe it will limit the amount of time they stay? I'm thinking about that approach with my mother. House guests are a burden even at the best of times. Edit: We should all be taking notes so when we are grandparents we remember the correct approach is to say 'you tell me when and if you want me there, for how long, and what you need me to do while I'm there'
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Post by Taitai on Sept 11, 2017 19:14:49 GMT -6
rachydc You are not crazy or extra at all. We require anyone who is in close proximity to our baby to have TDAP and flu shots. It is your decision as a parent, and if people don't like that....well, tough. There are really serious risks to newborns if they catch the flu or whooping cough. I also despise visitors in the beginning and feel bad for all of you dealing with pushy family. Zero visitors for us until Christmas, when we have my Dad coming out here. August Blooms I've said this before, but omg - your H needs to shut down the indefinite visit of your in-laws! That sounds like pure hell to me! Your MIL sounds like she has boundary issues and also needs to back off. Someone trying to take my baby away from me without asking - full stop NO. Then again, I'm probably more direct and assertive than most people. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by Taitai on Sept 11, 2017 19:17:08 GMT -6
I screwed up quoting bootsorhearts1"Edit: We should all be taking notes so when we are grandparents we remember the correct approach is to say 'you tell me when and if you want me there, for how long, and what you need me to do while I'm there" Yes to all of this! 👍 |
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Post by bootsorhearts1 on Sept 11, 2017 19:54:11 GMT -6
Well I may be making a last minute plane trip this weekend. My Dad had a stroke this morning. He is in his late 80's and has advanced stage alzheimers so it seems like this could be the end of the line. He hasn't regained consciousness, may not but there's no way of knowing.
I will run it by my doctor in the AM but I doubt she'll have an issue with the air travel. This has been the most boring pregnancy ever, for which I am extremely grateful, particularly now. Also waiting for my mom and brother to ask more questions of the doctor tomorrow before I get plans settled. I'll be hauling along DH and DS for the ride. Probably better now than trying to make a trip with a newborn though. I wouldn't risk taking her anywhere during cold/flu season which would mean I'd have to leave her and that would suck royally.
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Post by duskymonkey on Sept 11, 2017 19:54:44 GMT -6
Taitai, so glad to hear your family in FL is safe. 😘
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Post by August Blooms on Sept 11, 2017 20:30:40 GMT -6
Taitai I will book them a ticket once I go into labour with an end date if they haven't already. They just don't know it yet, lol. Yes MIL has boundary issues, which I'm going to have to deal with since H doesn't think some of the stuff she does isn't over the top. I have problems with being assertive with them because I don't want to be disrespectful but really DGAF about their feelings this time because it's all about me and the new baby and if their not on board with that too bad. bootsorhearts1 No friends nearby and H's family has a we don't let family stay in hotels policy. So unfortunately it's our home. The best thing for my marriage has been them moving away and this is the worst possible scenario for them to be showing up. They think they are being helpful because that is what they did for my SIL (their daughter). H does not see that it's totally different when it's not your parents. I'm planning on building a nest in our bedroom with a rocker and we have a tv and anything else I may need that I can retreat to. I'm also compiling a list of my fav recipes (since I'm GF) so at least I can have my meals taken care of.
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Post by August Blooms on Sept 11, 2017 20:32:16 GMT -6
bootsorhearts1 Sorry about your dad. I hope you are able to go see him.
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