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Post by bsouls on Sept 3, 2017 8:03:18 GMT -6
I don't know if I've recommended white noise before, but it was extremely handy last time. We've only had to use it a few times so far, but I used it last week when checking out at the grocery store and when R was in the car seat waiting to go to a store. We've also used it to hush R, so she doesn't wake her sister. People are usually amazed at how quickly a baby stops crying, but sometimes you need the volume to be loud (for some reason, but my SILs refuse to use it). We use the white noise sound on this app: White Noise Ambience Lite by logicworks itunes.apple.com/us/app/white-noise-ambience-lite/id428075504?mt=8
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Post by jexxa on Sept 3, 2017 10:07:06 GMT -6
Q: what's the longest in a car you would be comfortable with driving with a 2-3 week old? Not exactly the same, but I did a 3 hour car ride with DS when he was 6 weeks. Luckily he slept the entire time, but I was such a nervous wreck.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 3, 2017 10:10:19 GMT -6
Will respond to the rest later but had another Q first. Do you all track breastfeeding sessions? And how to you time those? Sometimes D feeds for quite a while but other times she will stop feeding pretty quickly then just lays there enjoying the occasional suckle and dozes off. Do I time just the active drinking bit or?? I'm tracking them with an app called Baby Tracker. I start timing when DD latches on and stop timing when she pops off. That means that even if she falls asleep and is "sleep sucking", I still count that, because sometimes it triggers another letdown. Sleep sucking helps your body boost supply, so I don't generally unlatch her.
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Post by king26 on Sept 3, 2017 10:36:51 GMT -6
Can you all feel your let down? I cant. All I feel is some heat in my breasts. I feel like I'm being a mom failure here. I tried pumping last night and middle of night and got about 5 drops so I'm very worried about my supply. I did pump this morning and got 1/3 of an ounce so tgats something i guess. Between this and him not sleeping at night its been really rough in our house this weekend. I've been looking at cosleeper thinking maybe that would help since he likes to be held but i worry about them too. Thoughts?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 10:52:30 GMT -6
king26, I think I can feel it. But I'm not positive on what is supposed to feel like. I figured I had enough milk coming in when I started to leak a bit. I've read you have the most milk in the morning, so pumping 30-60 mins after the first feed will get you the most milk.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 3, 2017 10:55:45 GMT -6
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 3, 2017 10:57:47 GMT -6
Whoops as far as letdown,yes I can feel it and it's pretty painful, this kid has a strong latch but I don't think everyone feels it that intense. This is definitely more than with my first king26
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Post by addymac on Sept 3, 2017 11:08:33 GMT -6
I don't feel a letdown. 🤷🏻♀️ Or I don't know rhats what it is. I feel hardness and warmth. Then after he eats or I pump softness. And I've been massaging and hit compressing the shit out of them since I started pumping righty. How soon after you fed did you try to pump, king26? I tried once soon after he ate to "get the rest out" and it was such a small amount I was like oh no... then I pumped half an he before his next feeding and got a lot more... maybe your boobs just needed time to fill back up?
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Post by yellowcat on Sept 3, 2017 11:15:48 GMT -6
addymac I posted one I took at the hospital and sent regular birth announcements later. For online I don't see it as a formal thing just a "oh hey guys I did this..."
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 3, 2017 11:22:56 GMT -6
Can you all feel your let down? I cant. All I feel is some heat in my breasts. I feel like I'm being a mom failure here. I tried pumping last night and middle of night and got about 5 drops so I'm very worried about my supply. I did pump this morning and got 1/3 of an ounce so tgats something i guess. Between this and him not sleeping at night its been really rough in our house this weekend. I've been looking at cosleeper thinking maybe that would help since he likes to be held but i worry about them too. Thoughts? I can't feel it if he's nursing but I feel it sometimes if I'm pumping or if my breasts are full and he cries. It's like warmth and prickling.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 3, 2017 11:27:10 GMT -6
Not everyone feels the letdown, so don't worry if you can't. For me it varies in intensity. It's never really painful but can definitely be uncomfortable.
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 11:45:29 GMT -6
I didnt even know you could feel let down... nor sure what it is?? Trying to think of what the Dutch word would be, toeschietreflex I think but whenever I read that in an article I am puzzled too lol. Definitely don't feel it?? king26 I get between 1-2 oz per pump.. not much but it all adds up? And hopefully makes the boobs think ohhh we gotte make more. addymac when you pump half an hr prior to feeding your son arent you worried there wont be enough left for him? That is my worry, also when I pumped after feeding and she wants more after like 30-45 mins I am like uhmmm no clue whether there is much to get for you get lil one.. how long does it take for the boobs to "refill"??
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 3, 2017 11:53:03 GMT -6
muscari, based on what I always heard, your baby can always get milk no matter when you pump. Anyone else know more on this? Everyone's babies are likely always acting hungry because they are all still so young and your supply is getting established in these early weeks. I know it's hard not to stress but again diaper output is the best indicator usually if they are gaining weight.
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 12:17:12 GMT -6
muscari, based on what I always heard, your baby can always get milk no matter when you pump. Anyone else know more on this? Everyone's babies are likely always acting hungry because they are all still so young and your supply is getting established in these early weeks. I know it's hard not to stress but again diaper output is the best indicator usually if they are gaining weight. Interesting... you would think there is like a limit .. though I do know babies suction is much stronger then the pumps so baby can get more milk / milk from further back (?) then you can pump. So i guess there is always some milk left even if I was to pump prior to feeding indeed. I am not toooo worried about my supply -it may not be up to par yet but I do think I can supply D with most of what she needs.. Although it can be frustrating not to know how much exactly she gets. Diaper output seems okay and at her last weighting moment she was growing okay as well. She just seems to be a boobhappy baby *g* and wants to be on or near it regardless of whether she is really hungry. Her daddy just doesnt quite get that (yet)... I pumped 45ml BM so far today which we will use to supplement her MOTN feeding (together with some formula if needed). I hope to be able to pump a bit more everyday and then maybe one night I can skip one feeding where MH fingerfeeds her with pumped milk and I can sleep a little longer... 😊🤞
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 12:21:20 GMT -6
king26, I think I can feel it. But I'm not positive on what is supposed to feel like. I figured I had enough milk coming in when I started to leak a bit. I've read you have the most milk in the morning, so pumping 30-60 mins after the first feed will get you the most milk. The milk leaking thought is one I thought as well. Funnily enough regularly I start leaking soon after baby wakes up.. like when I hear her suckle in her hands and her little cry my boobs go 🤗🤗 😲😁 I thought a big difference between am and pm milk was also how much fat it held? Or something like that? Didn't know volume also was different!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 12:26:21 GMT -6
king26, I think I can feel it. But I'm not positive on what is supposed to feel like. I figured I had enough milk coming in when I started to leak a bit. I've read you have the most milk in the morning, so pumping 30-60 mins after the first feed will get you the most milk. The milk leaking thought is one I thought as well. Funnily enough regularly I start leaking soon after baby wakes up.. like when I hear her suckle in her hands and her little cry my boobs go 🤗🤗 😲😁 I thought a big difference between am and pm milk was also how much fat it held? Or something like that? Didn't know volume also was different! You have less milk at night so it can be a little more calorie dense. But your fatty milk comes in a little after your let down either way I'm pretty sure.
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 12:27:45 GMT -6
@easilyunamused now if only I knew what this let down exactly is and all! Off to google and my dictionary 😊
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Post by king26 on Sept 3, 2017 12:59:43 GMT -6
I'm thinking maybe breastfeeding justbisnt working for me. I feel like everyone else is getting so much more milk. I've pumped twice today and have 15ml total.i think he gets some milk because when he comes off my boob I can see milk but then he's still hungry about half the time. I'm just really frustrated right now about it.
I was looking at the last few days and on Thursday I breast fed 8 times, gave formula 4 times ( total 3 oz ) u wet diapers and 1 dirty. On Friday I breast fed 11 times, formula 4 times for a total of 2 oz. Had 8 wet diapers and 2 dirty. Yesterday I breast fed 9 times, formula fed 4 times foe a total of 2.5 oz. Had 7 wet and 1 dirty diaper. He is 10 days old.
I was hoping to see a lactation consultant tomorrow but realized tomorrow is a holiday so I doubt it. I'd just like to know what I should do..keep trying, do half breast half formula, or go all formula . I think I'm ok either way right niw. I feel like I must be producing some milk to have that many wet diapers.
I also feel like a broken record here and I apologize but this is really my main focus the last week. My parents keep asking me what I've done, if I'm going anywhere, what we are doing. I'm like I've been home with him...for the last week. I feed him, I cloth him, I change him, we try to sleep. That's it
I did go to the market myself today which was nice but after about an hour I had some anxiety about leaving him.
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Post by king26 on Sept 3, 2017 13:01:16 GMT -6
That's another thing, the only time I leak is if he just fed off one side, the other leaks. Otherwise I have no milk leaking ever.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 3, 2017 13:20:10 GMT -6
I'm sorry king26 that it feels like such a struggle. BF can have many frustrating moments especially right now and is definitely not just a one size fits all for everyone. I think you need to do what's best for you and if that means formula so be it. Baby will be happy and fed either option 😊 Also I haven't done much either as far as leaving and doing stuff so don't let your parents get to you. He is still only 10 days old
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 13:35:22 GMT -6
king26, those first days are so hard. There were a lot if tears in the easily household. It's been 10 days, so please cut yourself some slack. I'm pretty much still chained to this baby and nursing 10+ times a day can be normal the first few weeks. I didn't even leave my house except to go to the dr until almost week 3, so don't worry about that.
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Post by addymac on Sept 3, 2017 14:04:08 GMT -6
muscari - sorry that 1/2 hr before was for when I was just giving him the bottle for that feeding and not from the breast. But otherwise I'd pump after a feeding and not get much, just some leftovers. king26 I only took a very quick trip out w my MIL bc I had to fill some paperwork out in person for work 🙄 Otherwise I was gone all week, too. Don't feel badly.
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 14:19:31 GMT -6
king26 I am sorry the whole BF thing is such a struggle and you ferl discouraged. But you are doing great mama, you really are!! It has ONLY been 10 days yet so as @easilyunamused also said cut yourself some slack and don't be too hard on yourself. 💛 As for going out/doing other stuff.. my days pretty much evolve around BFing diaper changes more BFing...some more BFing and pumping as well. Maybe with a brief nap thrown in here or there or a couple of minutes on outside on the garden.. I would love to have a bit more me time but for now that ain't happening heh.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 3, 2017 15:49:37 GMT -6
That's another thing, the only time I leak is if he just fed off one side, the other leaks. Otherwise I have no milk leaking ever. king26 Same here regarding leaking--only if feeding on the other side. And I think you are perfectly normal not going out a ton. You should get lots of time to rest, recover, and snuggle baby.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 16:03:50 GMT -6
MH finally gets home tonight, after being gone 17 days! 🙌🏼 I almost didn't survive it. A has been in beast mode all day and he's finally sleep on me while I'm in the glider. No sleep for me, but I'll take that over a cranky baby.
He's only 4 weeks old, what's there to be so upset about? 😆
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 16:07:41 GMT -6
And omg he just laughed and smiled in his sleep. Makes up for all the yelling. 💕
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 3, 2017 16:18:53 GMT -6
Yay! @easilyunamused! I cannot imagine MH being gone this whole time. I hope you get some much deserved rest (if that's at all possible lol)
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 16:23:08 GMT -6
Yay! @easilyunamused! I cannot imagine MH being gone this whole time. I hope you get some much deserved rest (if that's at all possible lol) Thanks! It's definitely been hard, but I'm just glad it's almost over. And luckily he'll be able to let me nap. His mom is only good with the baby for 15 mins or so. If he gets fussy she wants to hand him back quickly. I don't blame her for that! Lol
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Post by muscari on Sept 3, 2017 16:33:06 GMT -6
OMG @easilyunamused 17 days ??!!! I'd be dead meat. So glad YH will soon be home again. When is your move scheduled for? You are a rockstar for getting thru all this in one piece!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2017 16:40:23 GMT -6
OMG @easilyunamused 17 days ??!!! I'd be dead meat. So glad YH will soon be home again. When is your move scheduled for? You are a rockstar for getting thru all this in one piece! Idk if I'd call myself in one piece. 😆 And we pack up the moving truck on Tuesday and drive out on Wednesday! I'm so ready for things to calm down.
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