cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 17, 2017 13:20:15 GMT -6
I'm sorry, @lahdeedah88. Poor guy. I don't have any advice but we had a rough period and it got better out of nowhere. Seems like it just takes time for them to adjust.
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joelies
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Post by joelies on Aug 17, 2017 13:25:23 GMT -6
I'm sorry, lahdeedah. Colin had a rough time at first, especially early on when I couldn't pick him up. It broke my heart but honestly? I don't think he even remembers life without his brother now. Besides, he'll thank you when they're a bit older and turn to each other to make fun of you and DH.
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Post by vino on Aug 17, 2017 13:29:26 GMT -6
I'm sorry lahdeedah, it's a whole new family dynamic with a new baby, it takes a while to find a new normal. I'm sure you are doing everything possible to ease M into any changes, it just takes time. Hugs, friend.
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 17, 2017 14:25:58 GMT -6
I suggest keeping a barf bucket handy. Yes. I couldn't fathom how the girl was not vomiting all over the guy in the final interview. It was so disgusting. I cried a lot during the show. It was devastating. She said they used Nazi slurs (lugenpresse) and misogynistic attacks on her during the interviews. Lugenpresse is lying press. Sounds a bit like fake news, huh? Ivana said he slept with a copy of Hitler's speeches on his nightstand...
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Post by kim22 on Aug 17, 2017 14:34:15 GMT -6
Cher I think you're good, and a house on water sounds amazing. I second doing ISR, we will definitely be doing that with this baby since we plan on putting in a pool. A gate and door alarms, but a lot of people here just do the safety handles instead of alarms. Basically it a lever that goes more at the top of your door that's a little heavier to pull and you have to pull it to get the door open. Landon's almost 8 and he still can't open the one at my parents house. My sister has that thing on her door. I'm 36 and I can't figure it out.
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Post by jewels on Aug 17, 2017 14:47:04 GMT -6
Hi. I was super tired this morning, so I got back home and took a nap. During that nap M's teacher called to let me know he had been crying off and on all morning and was asleep in the assistant teacher's lap. I heard the phone ring, but I was so tired I didn't answer it. When I woke up and got the message, I felt like an ass. I called her back and she said after he woke up, he was a different kid and ok. By the time I got to school for pick up, he had been crying again. I don't know what to do. I know it should pass, but I thought I've been doing everything I could to help him with this transition. When he comes home from school, he is excited to tell me about his day and what they did. I know he enjoys it, but drop offs aren't great. We're just a week in, so I'll give it more time. Just feeling down about it because despite my efforts, he's still having a tough time. He has had a lot of change since the baby, so I'm sure most of it is that. I haven't told him that I stay home with M2, but he's a smart kid. I'm sure he knows I stay home and that isn't helping things now. I do try to make sure he has my undivided attention at some point during the day so he doesn't feel like I'm always with M2. It's harder to find that time some days, but he at least gets bed time with me. Sorry for the DD. Just needed to get it out. It's hard. But it will get better and he will get more used to it. I'm sure just being aware of it and making the extra one on one time with him is helping. S was fine in the beginning but about a month or 2 ago started getting really upset at drop off. Right now I only work 3 days a week and the 2 days I don't work I send S to day care but keep B home with me. He definitely has said he wants to stay home with me and Benny a lot. But I do find promises for special "Mommy Sam time" really help. Lately that's usually making popcorn and snuggling on the couch with a movie during B's naptime. It's not glamorous, but it works. I know you're alone with your boys a lot too, so it's hard to go somewhere with just M1.
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vino
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Post by vino on Aug 17, 2017 15:14:25 GMT -6
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Post by lahdeedah on Aug 17, 2017 15:38:50 GMT -6
Thanks ladies. I had different expectations in my head about him switching schools. I should have braced myself for this kind of thing.
As far as baby brother, he actually takes it out on everyone else. He has had such an attitude and nasty behavior lately. He loves to hold M2 and always runs to check on him if he starts to cry, but he has been very nasty with everyone including my mom and MIL. I should be grateful he isn't taking it out on the baby, but I'm sure that could still change. MH will be home at night during the week more, so some things should go back to normal for him. It just makes me sad that it isn't going well because he is usually pretty mellow and he's a completely different child at the moment.
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Post by inthekitty on Aug 17, 2017 15:41:26 GMT -6
Lol vino. I've been camping but I'm back now. I totally forgot about the trip since it was so close to being away for the NG for 2 weeks. I'm desparately trying but failing to get caught up at work and simultaneously netbattling about changing my HS's racist mascot. I got to experience nature without being too close to it so I consider it a win. I thought of you when I drove right by one of the ferries heading to CA. We went with another couple. We've been friends with the guy for a long time and he's great. His GF is frankly crazy so it's always...interesting to be around her for any length of time. I wish it were easier to meet an awesome couple where you really like them both. Instead there are times when the guys pair off and I'm stuck with crazypants.
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Post by flamingo on Aug 17, 2017 16:24:57 GMT -6
@klongoria glad your kitty had a good night; hope he eats soon! When I worked I kept deodorant and a toothbrush/paste at my office. FFTC: I still keep a travel-size deodorant in my car bc every so often I forget or just feel extra sweaty. Doesn't it melt in the heat? That happened to a friend of mine in HS. Nope!
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Post by flamingo on Aug 17, 2017 16:33:34 GMT -6
Re: pool/lake/water safety, it just takes vigilance. We're in a rental now so there are some things I'd do differently if this house and pool were mine, but generally speaking layers of security are the way to go. Besides locks and a door chime, we have many talks about pool rules and if we catch B breaking a rule (which he did at first) he immediately has to come inside. He's learned that we mean business. (Same at my parents' lake house). For a long-term house, I'd be willing to put up with inconvenience on the front end since you know it's short-lived, relatively speaking.
We grew up on a little pond and my parents still live in that house; they're way more concerned about B and C getting into it than they ever were about my sister and me 😂
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Post by klong11 on Aug 17, 2017 16:38:15 GMT -6
Cadence just fit comfortably in a 6/6x gymnastics unitard. 😭
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Post by SweetPotato on Aug 17, 2017 16:47:23 GMT -6
Hey! We are almost back to Houston. M was great in San Diego, but lord is this boy high maintenance. I'm exhausted!
We are going straight from the airport to the beach to spend the weekend there with all my siblings, dad, etc.
Luckily my brother forgot to bring some things I need from the office to work on so I'll "have" to take a break from everyone and go in for a bit.
My H is joining us after work on Friday and I plan on doing ZERO parenting over the weekend!
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Post by SweetPotato on Aug 17, 2017 16:48:40 GMT -6
Cadence just fit comfortably in a 6/6x gymnastics unitard. 😭 😱 We're just now getting 4T shorts!
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Post by flamingo on Aug 17, 2017 17:00:20 GMT -6
My two littles start preschool next week! 🎉 it's only 9a-12p T/Th but I CANNOT WAIT!!! ETA: Your post wasn't there when I posted @peach.... not sure why your guy isn't going but I didn't want it to look like I was bragging or something. He can't go unless he's fully potty trained. And he's not even a tiny bit potty trained. I'm going to ask about starting mid year if he trains soon. I didn't take it that way at all, you're good. This was a discussion today in a local mom's group I'm in. Someone suggested the child be in the 2's class until they're trained, then move up. Would that be an option?
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 17, 2017 17:32:33 GMT -6
He can't go unless he's fully potty trained. And he's not even a tiny bit potty trained. I'm going to ask about starting mid year if he trains soon. I didn't take it that way at all, you're good. This was a discussion today in a local mom's group I'm in. Someone suggested the child be in the 2's class until they're trained, then move up. Would that be an option? I wish. This is strictly a preschool. Not day care/school combo. They don't have a 2s class.
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Post by flamingo on Aug 17, 2017 18:15:32 GMT -6
SweetPotato Sounds like a fun trip! Hope the beach will be equally as enjoyable. I'm just getting back from Maine with the kids and now I want a kid-free vacation to recover lahdeedah Poor M1, I'm sorry the transition has been rough. I'm sure things will settle down and he'll be back to his old self soon. Change can be tough for kids (plus 3 can just suck) B is usually very easy-going but we've definitely had more 'moments' lately, and I attribute a lot of it to moving/being out of his normal routine. And boredom, to be honest...he has a special ability to make life hell for everyone else when he is bored I'm hoping starting back to school will be the magic ticket. So much for taking it easy today today! We took Chipotle to a playground for a picnic, then hit the grocery store; then I skimmed out over a week's worth of debris from the pool so B could swim--only to get a reminder text from DH that the pool company is coming out tomorrow to clean, etc. A few choice words might have been muttered but I left the rest for them Our new TV console is being delivered in the morning--I'm excited! Tonight the Jags are playing Tampa Bay, and I don't know why I watch since we are so lousy, except that it's a placeholder until college football starts up. I have a pint of Ben and Jerry's waiting for me, too.
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 17, 2017 20:25:05 GMT -6
Things have been so busy i am just getting on here today . which is crazy bc today was A's first day of day care and i had all the feels to share l. But it was only a half day and it was definitely not as hard as the first time I left L. @ladeedah, it's definitely hard but things will improve! peachsmama would enrolling him a couple days a week at a day care that is learning based be possible? It would get him close to the environment you are looking for and might not have the potty trained rule. We don't have many options by us and the only day care, I haven't heard good things about..
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vino
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Post by vino on Aug 17, 2017 21:11:02 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 17, 2017 21:13:52 GMT -6
I love it vino. Was B super excited?
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 17, 2017 21:18:33 GMT -6
Aw, vino. How sweet. He must have been thrilled.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 17, 2017 21:19:59 GMT -6
Our neighbors came outside, turned on the light and was staring into our pool.
Look fucker, the 3 yo is still up and we're rocking out to Disney music. Get over it. It's before 9 and she's not whining.
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Post by guster on Aug 17, 2017 21:20:22 GMT -6
The sweetest, vino. Enjoy your evening together!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Aug 17, 2017 21:27:32 GMT -6
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Post by lfig on Aug 17, 2017 21:54:31 GMT -6
Awe!! vino that is so sweet.
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Post by tgrimes on Aug 17, 2017 22:08:59 GMT -6
I don't know whether to be proud or should be sad that M can tell me what song it is after hearing 3 notes...
The pianist in me is happy, the mom in me cringes, lol.
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Post by lahdeedah on Aug 17, 2017 23:09:18 GMT -6
Welcome Home Mr. vino! So sweet. So happy your family is whole again!
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 17, 2017 23:28:39 GMT -6
vino that picture is the best, sooo cute! Happy your family is whole again!
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Post by flamingo on Aug 18, 2017 5:54:44 GMT -6
Welcome home Mr vino!! Glad your family is back together again
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Post by yummeecookee on Aug 18, 2017 6:18:35 GMT -6
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