tj
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Post by tj on Mar 9, 2022 8:44:29 GMT -6
I’m so sorry mc13. Fuck cancer so hard. |
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Post by pbandj714 on Mar 9, 2022 11:03:22 GMT -6
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snowmoon
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 9, 2022 11:19:43 GMT -6
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mapleme
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Post by mapleme on Mar 9, 2022 11:25:54 GMT -6
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milano
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Post by milano on Mar 9, 2022 11:48:17 GMT -6
mc13 I'm so sorry. Fuck cancer indeed.
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Post by mintyblueair on Mar 9, 2022 12:36:04 GMT -6
I'm so sorry about your aunt mc13. And I'm sorry you're struggling tj. I hope you're feeling a bit better today ♥️ |
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Post by nikkipal on Mar 9, 2022 14:43:40 GMT -6
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rugger
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Post by rugger on Mar 9, 2022 19:43:35 GMT -6
I'm so sorry MC 😞
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Mar 16, 2022 12:09:11 GMT -6
I'm isolating right now AND ran out of meds while my psych is out sick. Raw dogging this relapse isn't going well.
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Post by charlotte on Mar 16, 2022 18:04:45 GMT -6
Ugh rhymeswithdisco how awful. I wish they could get you some relief on an emergency basis until your regular doctor is back. |
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Post by mc13 on Mar 16, 2022 20:58:14 GMT -6
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snowmoon
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 18, 2022 7:15:07 GMT -6
Ugh. UGH. Burn out is real.
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Mar 18, 2022 7:28:41 GMT -6
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Post by snowmoon on Mar 18, 2022 7:29:55 GMT -6
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Post by sarenu on Mar 18, 2022 7:56:06 GMT -6
Pretty much. Same with working out. If I’m in a bad mood, it’s like a reset button. |
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Post by charlotte on Mar 18, 2022 8:22:19 GMT -6
This just came up on my TikTok homepage yesterday! So true. |
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tj
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Post by tj on Mar 18, 2022 9:10:03 GMT -6
Lol I love that. How you feeling love? |
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Mar 18, 2022 9:21:03 GMT -6
Lol I love that. How you feeling love? Feeling a little better now. I was able to get meds from my PCP after just 3 days without. |
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Post by violajack on Mar 18, 2022 18:12:15 GMT -6
Oh dear, I've missed so much. Fuck cancer. And all the other things, fuck those too.
I'm barely keeping up with life. I love my job but coming home to an absolutely trashed house because my husband's raging ADHD means he just drops shit wherever he's done with it and it ceases to exist forever and ever is killing me. Homeschooling 3 kids in just 3 days a week because the novelty has worn off and they do jack shit when I'm gone is not working for us. I at least got them into a homeschooling forest school program for one of the days I'm gone so they're not on video games all day, but it's not getting our work done. I love my job, but the 50 minute commute is getting old and gas is getting expensive.
I love my job and want to keep it, so I've been looking seriously into schooling options. We've toured 4 private schools and the only one I like is the one that's right down the street from my job, oh and they also have an opening for a music teacher, so I could teach there too. But that's all 50 minutes from our house.
So, there's a perfect house in an amazing neighborhood 15 minutes from that school. But MH is a grumpy elitist snob and thinks the surrounding area would be "depressing" to have to drive through. I can't even with all of the bullshit in that attitude. But also, it's in a city where we can't have the chickens or Leonard and that is a real problem.
So I don't know what I want to do with any of all of this. It's all such first world privilege problems. My mental health suffers when it's all kids all the time and the job is really helping me feel better about me, but the stress of the house and missing my vision of the kids' education kind of undoes it all. So, do I go back to losing my mind over never getting a break from my kids, or do I continue losing my mind over trying to juggle too much?
On the plus side, I finally hired a house cleaner despite my husband's protests, and it was amazing. She's coming again next week. She's going to keep coming as long as MH trashes the house when I'm gone so I can spend my time at home schooling the kids instead of cleaning the kitchen.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 16, 2022 9:54:26 GMT -6
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Post by charlotte on Apr 16, 2022 9:55:04 GMT -6
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Post by pbandj714 on Apr 16, 2022 10:54:35 GMT -6
charlotte, I can relate. The older ones are just...not in an enjoyable phase right now. It's so hard and then I feel guilty about how I feel. You're not alone or wrong in feeling that way sometimes.
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Post by sarenu on Apr 16, 2022 11:51:15 GMT -6
Can totally relate.
I so wanted to have a fun movie night with just the kids and me in our bed.
E got sick so now the whole weekend has turned into me cleaning and washing all the things. Plus cancelling on sparring, an egg hunt, and a nerf gun night for the older two.
Add to that my husband is dealing with a father that purposely scheduled a hip replacement on the weekend his daughter is on call. You know the one that is a doctor and probably the best resource to help. So now my husband who planned to leave today is most likely forced to stay. And stay longer then he expected to because his dad refuses to check in to a rehab facility.
I am definitely feeling a lot of resentment this weekend for things I have no control over, but yet effect my life directly.
And I constantly feel am reminded how much money we pay for daycare for the three kids. We use a city funded daycare and still pay $17.5k in daycare costs last year. F is 4 years old, that is a down payment on a 500k home.
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 18, 2022 14:37:51 GMT -6
Thanks for checking in charlotte! I’m ok. Just keeping busy! |
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Post by milano on Apr 25, 2022 19:54:35 GMT -6
I don't need hair pats, but I need to just put this somewhere.
My dad's best friend died a couple of days ago, very suddenly, from a heart attack. He was 62. Has been my dad's best friend since high school, I called him Uncle ____ growing up. We have seen them every summer and my kids knew him pretty well.
I feel like all I do lately is tell my kids that someone else in their life has died. In the past 2 months alone they have lost 4 people. Now, these were not losses of people they see every day, but 2 great-grandmas, a neighbor and now their Mr. J. I haven't even told them about him yet because I just can't have this fucking conversation again. But I know he is going to come up in conversation soon and I don't want to not tell them either, so I'm just waiting.
Death, especially untimely death, is exhausting and just so sad. The sadness is just so heavy. And of course I feel so horrible for the people who's everyday lives are so affected by these losses: my grandpa, my neighbor who suddenly lost her husband, my "uncle"'s wife and sons. I can't even deal with it and am in like self-preservation mode, can't even bring myself to write a card.
I just needed to get that out.
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Post by rugger on Apr 25, 2022 20:53:27 GMT -6
Hugs milano I hate that you have to deal with a loss again. |
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Post by tj on Apr 26, 2022 7:49:21 GMT -6
That is a lot for you and your kids to go through milano. I hate how this pandemic has forced kids to learn so much about loss - loss of friends and family members, loss of normalcy, loss of carefree childhood. Hugs to you and your fam. |
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Post by mintyblueair on Apr 26, 2022 8:06:19 GMT -6
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Post by pbandj714 on Apr 26, 2022 9:11:35 GMT -6
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Post by snowmoon on Apr 26, 2022 18:18:18 GMT -6
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