McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 14:09:58 GMT -6
However I really don't care what anyone here thinks of me or covid or me and covid. The people that I do care about their opinion, know me and that's it. This is exactly how I feel about it as well and I do not judge others at this point for any decisions they make for their family. this is why I said don't explain. Cause when you do explain that shows you care. We all judge shit. Before covid, during covid and after covid. I mean just last week you made the can't stop living comment. I don't care but that's judgment. Another person here says I don't care but then makes anti social comments. So yeah that's judgment. Who puts people in your business? Your own self. 🤷🏻♀️
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 14:11:37 GMT -6
What I said all along, people will make what they want to do make sense however way they can. Cause people want to do what they want to do. They don't want to be inconvenienced. That's just factual.
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brux
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Post by brux on Oct 18, 2021 14:18:14 GMT -6
I just lived a very different covid life with some of my besties this past weekend. Part of me looks back at the web of anxiety and disease avoidance H and I have created for ourselves, and I wonder if we would do things differently if we had to do it all over again. But now this far in, I can't stop wanting to cocoon myself. I can only keep doing things the way I am and asking my friends and family to just respect my choices and tolerate my quirks. I'm still the same pre-covid lady I was, just one held semi-captive by miss corona. This really resonated with me. I look back on some of the stuff we were very hard-No about at the time and think “Oh that would have been nice, we should have done that.” But what can you do? It’s my first pandemic! No need to dwell, is what I’m saying. I hope it's our *only* pandemic! I keep saying it as a joke, but I think I'm going to need therapy to figure out how to move out of pandemic mode and back into living my life mode. Because I haven't been able to will myself into it yet.
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Post by blurnette989 on Oct 18, 2021 14:21:40 GMT -6
But TETO. Probably why I should just stay out of this thread. I think there is value when people post how they're moving in a Covid world. Sometimes I feel my experience must be so different for regional reasons. So when other posters share experiences that are similar to mine, I'm all ears. I have a wedding next month, so seeing other people attending weddings and staying healthy or feeling uncomfortable or having fun, or whatever, is relevant to my interests. Just like a person who is on the fence about Trick-or-treating may feel reassured that other people have the same anxieties. Like @winomite said, everyone has different comfort levels, so I find the thread most realistic when the posts reflect that. we are coming to the US next month and literally the only thing my 7 turning 8 year old wants to do for his birthday on the trip is go to Chuck e cheese. Right in this thread people were like it's not like I'm taking my kid to Chuck e cheese and i realize shit... This isn't Portugal. Am i crazy for having considered that place? Probably.
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sewf
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Post by sewf on Oct 18, 2021 14:22:04 GMT -6
This really resonated with me. I look back on some of the stuff we were very hard-No about at the time and think “Oh that would have been nice, we should have done that.” But what can you do? It’s my first pandemic! No need to dwell, is what I’m saying. I hope it's our *only* pandemic! I keep saying it as a joke, but I think I'm going to need therapy to figure out how to move out of pandemic mode and back into living my life mode. Because I haven't been able to will myself into it yet. This is why I feel like maybe I will be wearing a mask in public forever. When I think of the future and just running into a store, or school, or doctor's office without a mask I get panicky. Like, I can feel my heart start to race. I'm going to need help on those first few outings and there may be some anxious tears.
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Post by blurnette989 on Oct 18, 2021 14:26:48 GMT -6
I know I live a different covid life than many on the board. It's led to some friction in the politics board and I post less there now (I've been open about that and still love the posters, so this isn't some cross board shade). It is what it is 🤷♀️ I expect most people are doing the best they can. And if they aren't, it's not like I can do anything about it anyway. I continue to be excited about the scientific advances, and have moments of absolute spiraling. I am apparently oblivious of said friction. Love you tho!
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abs
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Post by abs on Oct 18, 2021 14:46:37 GMT -6
I think there is value when people post how they're moving in a Covid world. Sometimes I feel my experience must be so different for regional reasons. So when other posters share experiences that are similar to mine, I'm all ears. I have a wedding next month, so seeing other people attending weddings and staying healthy or feeling uncomfortable or having fun, or whatever, is relevant to my interests. Just like a person who is on the fence about Trick-or-treating may feel reassured that other people have the same anxieties. Like @winomite said, everyone has different comfort levels, so I find the thread most realistic when the posts reflect that. we are coming to the US next month and literally the only thing my 7 turning 8 year old wants to do for his birthday on the trip is go to Chuck e cheese. Right in this thread people were like it's not like I'm taking my kid to Chuck e cheese and i realize shit... This isn't Portugal. Am i crazy for having considered that place? Probably. I would consider Chuck E Cheese. I mean it's not my favorite place so I was always happy to have any excuse to not go but if it was something my kid really wanted to do and had only a few chances to do it we would go. If you go during the weekday when they first open you can have the whole place to yourself. My thought process with Covid changes all the time. In August when cases were spiking and school was starting with zero precautions I was freaking out. We really went back to limiting what we were doing because I didn't want any additional exposure beyond school. Now that cases are falling and things are much better here we are back to doing a lot more. We've eaten in restaurants, went to a baseball game, and have celebrated family birthdays. I am sure that is judge worthy to some here but that is fine. I think I will be looking at Covid like I do the flu. No they aren't the same but when flu is spiking badly we skip indoor crowded places. We will do the same for Covid.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Oct 18, 2021 14:50:07 GMT -6
I think there is value when people post how they're moving in a Covid world. Sometimes I feel my experience must be so different for regional reasons. So when other posters share experiences that are similar to mine, I'm all ears. I have a wedding next month, so seeing other people attending weddings and staying healthy or feeling uncomfortable or having fun, or whatever, is relevant to my interests. Just like a person who is on the fence about Trick-or-treating may feel reassured that other people have the same anxieties. Like @winomite said, everyone has different comfort levels, so I find the thread most realistic when the posts reflect that. we are coming to the US next month and literally the only thing my 7 turning 8 year old wants to do for his birthday on the trip is go to Chuck e cheese. Right in this thread people were like it's not like I'm taking my kid to Chuck e cheese and i realize shit... This isn't Portugal. Am i crazy for having considered that place? Probably. I mean…. I wouldn’t think you’re crazy. We have been attending birthday parties and things like that for a few months. So if you feel comfortable with it and you decide to do it, I hope he has a great time!
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Minerva
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Post by Minerva on Oct 18, 2021 14:52:17 GMT -6
I think there is value when people post how they're moving in a Covid world. Sometimes I feel my experience must be so different for regional reasons. So when other posters share experiences that are similar to mine, I'm all ears. I have a wedding next month, so seeing other people attending weddings and staying healthy or feeling uncomfortable or having fun, or whatever, is relevant to my interests. Just like a person who is on the fence about Trick-or-treating may feel reassured that other people have the same anxieties. Like @winomite said, everyone has different comfort levels, so I find the thread most realistic when the posts reflect that. we are coming to the US next month and literally the only thing my 7 turning 8 year old wants to do for his birthday on the trip is go to Chuck e cheese. Right in this thread people were like it's not like I'm taking my kid to Chuck e cheese and i realize shit... This isn't Portugal. Am i crazy for having considered that place? Probably. It really depends on where you are going in the States and what COVID levels are like when you are here. I might have taken my kids to a birthday party at Chuck e Cheese back in June in the DC area. Right now? Nope. But you all know my threshold for COVID risk is very low. I do care what risks the people I surround myself with are taking because those risks translate to risks to my unvaccinated kids. If my friends are crowd surfing at indoor concerts or dining with unvaccinated family, I would prefer they were open about it so that I could take steps to mitigate my risk while I’m around them. It’s not that I think they’re terrible people, it’s that I want to make pragmatic decisions for the health of my family when I’m with them. And I try to make sure my friends know they can ask the same of me and don’t have to feel awkward if they choose to wear a mask around me, meet me outside, or just talk on FaceTime. My friend circles seem to be on the same page about being conscientious of each others’ preferences, which makes it all pretty easy.
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brux
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Post by brux on Oct 18, 2021 15:23:48 GMT -6
I hope it's our *only* pandemic! I keep saying it as a joke, but I think I'm going to need therapy to figure out how to move out of pandemic mode and back into living my life mode. Because I haven't been able to will myself into it yet. The thought of real travel fills me with terror, which I only realized when I went to plan a trip for work. So at some point I'll need to deal with that 😬 It did for me too. But I've now flown round trip and stayed in hotels three times in 2021 and I'm back to just being regularly annoyed with travel, with a little added benefit of annoyance of close talkers and lack of masks in times I have to be close to people in lines and such. We can do it!
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 15:43:32 GMT -6
We all judge. That's my point. Before covid, during covid, and after. Don't say you don't when you do. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Oct 18, 2021 15:53:37 GMT -6
I hope it's our *only* pandemic! I keep saying it as a joke, but I think I'm going to need therapy to figure out how to move out of pandemic mode and back into living my life mode. Because I haven't been able to will myself into it yet. The thought of real travel fills me with terror, which I only realized when I went to plan a trip for work. So at some point I'll need to deal with that 😬 This is me. I actually have to travel for work later this week. I’m filled with fear and plan to actually quarantine in a room at my parent’s house when I get back so I don’t exposed my unvaccinated child.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 15:54:43 GMT -6
I know several people that have been able to travel for work and or pleasure and have been able to do so safely.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Oct 18, 2021 16:09:24 GMT -6
This is me. I actually have to travel for work later this week. I’m filled with fear and plan to actually quarantine in a room at my parent’s house when I get back so I don’t exposed my unvaccinated child. I don’t remember if your kid is higher risk, but you might want to message their pediatrician to see what measures they recommend. They might have a “hey test on x day and you’re good” plan, just so you don’t have to feel too fearful. And the end of the day, you gotta work! He is. My plan is to test on day 4 that I’m back. If it wasn’t a 400 person meeting that I’m headed to, I would be less crazy. I just stocked the room with snacks and wine. I hope I have enough wine.
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brux
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Post by brux on Oct 18, 2021 16:16:29 GMT -6
It did for me too. But I've now flown round trip and stayed in hotels three times in 2021 and I'm back to just being regularly annoyed with travel, with a little added benefit of annoyance of close talkers and lack of masks in times I have to be close to people in lines and such. We can do it! This gives me hope! That sounds flippant but I mean it. I was taken aback by how strongly the anxiety was. same with the anxiety. I’ve never had any real anxiety before and now…it’s strong. I fly with KN95s and feel really safe about it.
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Post by Pistol on Oct 18, 2021 16:36:41 GMT -6
I was a nervous wreck when we went to Florida this summer. We planned it when things were settling out and numbers were looking ok. Then delta hit and numbers were spiking but H and I decided that since we were driving through the night (so minimal stops and in our own vehicle) then going to a condo with a private beach in a non touristy area would be the safest vacation we could take at that time. Luckily everything worked out in the end and we were all healthy but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous for the 2 weeks after we got home.
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hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Oct 18, 2021 17:38:45 GMT -6
This gives me hope! That sounds flippant but I mean it. I was taken aback by how strongly the anxiety was. same with the anxiety. I’ve never had any real anxiety before and now…it’s strong. I fly with KN95s and feel really safe about it. I was shocked by how safe I felt flying, even with my kids and their weirdo medical stuff. It was May 2020 vs September 2021, but I felt safer flying than I did when we had to road trip home at the beginning of covid. For the most part people were following the rules just trying to get through it. That was not the experience we had driving (looking at you, Ohio).
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Pizzaslut
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Post by Pizzaslut on Oct 18, 2021 18:01:21 GMT -6
same with the anxiety. I’ve never had any real anxiety before and now…it’s strong. I fly with KN95s and feel really safe about it. I was shocked by how safe I felt flying, even with my kids and their weirdo medical stuff. It was May 2020 vs September 2021, but I felt safer flying than I did when we had to road trip home at the beginning of covid. For the most part people were following the rules just trying to get through it. That was not the experience we had driving (looking at you, Ohio). I want to be mad at you for this but…
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Post by coconutbacon on Oct 18, 2021 18:15:12 GMT -6
I flew recently. I wore a KN95 with a cloth mask over it. One flight was completely booked, no empty seats. A person boarded with a mask, took it off when he was on the plane and refused to put it back on. He was escorted off the plane by security before we took off, causing a delay. He clearly wanted to “make a statement.” On the second leg of my flight, when I went to the restroom, I came back and my seat mate had no mask and said he’d lost it. How does that happen? Was it genuine? I don’t know. I gave him a KN95 I had on me from a multiple pack I was carrying. My (direct) flight back was totally different. Everyone on the flight had their own row— no sitting next to someone unless you were traveling with them. And no drama.
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cnf
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Post by cnf on Oct 18, 2021 18:26:14 GMT -6
I know I live a different covid life than many on the board. It's led to some friction in the politics board and I post less there now (I've been open about that and still love the posters, so this isn't some cross board shade). It is what it is 🤷♀️ I expect most people are doing the best they can. And if they aren't, it's not like I can do anything about it anyway. I continue to be excited about the scientific advances, and have moments of absolute spiraling. I am apparently oblivious of said friction. Love you tho! I totally missed it too. I thought I saw less of you over there recently. We still love you, come back and hang out with us whenever you're ready again.
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brux
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Post by brux on Oct 18, 2021 19:18:22 GMT -6
Planes and airports are packed lately.
But (knock on wood) you can definitely travel and protect yourself from Covid.
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Post by PandaWatch on Oct 18, 2021 19:33:01 GMT -6
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 19:35:14 GMT -6
I wouldn't do Chuck e cheese in Texas but we wide open and most mask less.
I walked into a gas station today masked and they looked at me like I was going to rob it. 🤷🏻♀️
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Oct 18, 2021 19:36:19 GMT -6
Right on time for the 3rd shot push.
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Post by rvasc on Oct 18, 2021 20:10:26 GMT -6
We were so incredibly careful. And then we had to send our kid to school or literally move to a different school district. So now that H has been vaccinated and had covid, DD had covid and will soon be vaccinated, and my vaccine is apparently like armor, we’re done. We ate inside at a restaurant for DD’s birthday today for the first time since March 2020.
I don’t feel our previous sacrifices were in vain. We opened up once grandparents were vaccinated (and now boosted too!). Who knows who we prevented from getting sick in those months?
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rvasc
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Post by rvasc on Oct 18, 2021 20:17:26 GMT -6
@icedtea we all flew to Florida in august, and we didn’t get sick! We wore kn95s.
If you have glasses, wear those.
Florida.
So.
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Post by willow on Oct 18, 2021 20:18:15 GMT -6
I really appreciate the stories of safe travel. Logically I know it'll be fine, but emotionally... Woof. So the first hand stories help. Realistically we're going to have to go to Illinois at some point to see my in-laws so it's gonna happen. I blame the Midwest. I’m getting on a plane on Wednesday for the first time since Feb 2020 to go to Seattle and I’m wavering between feeling good about all my precautions to flailing wildly in a sea of anxiety. PPA is adding an extra layer to it too because I’ll be states away from the twins for the first time. But 19 months of being stuck at home with these 3 hellions (love them dearly) has given me newfound strength to embrace this child free time with open arms…
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Post by SweetPotato on Oct 18, 2021 20:20:59 GMT -6
I really appreciate the stories of safe travel. Logically I know it'll be fine, but emotionally... Woof. So the first hand stories help. Realistically we're going to have to go to Illinois at some point to see my in-laws so it's gonna happen. I blame the Midwest. I’ve travelled…a lot. Always with many masks and wipes. It’s been fine. I think almost anything/anywhere can be done safely.
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sewf
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Post by sewf on Oct 18, 2021 20:22:10 GMT -6
I really appreciate the stories of safe travel. Logically I know it'll be fine, but emotionally... Woof. So the first hand stories help. Realistically we're going to have to go to Illinois at some point to see my in-laws so it's gonna happen. I blame the Midwest. We drove through Kansas in September, and almost no one but us wore a mask. We just ate picnics outside and spent as little time as possible on bathroom breaks and sanitized. We made it through ok. Small towns in the midwest aren't doing the masking thing, but can be done safely. We were just BORED, because Kansas is just completely flat.
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hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Oct 18, 2021 21:07:06 GMT -6
For more safe travel anecdotes. H travels in a team of 20-100 depending on where they’re going and what they’re doing. They’ve been traveling almost weekly (H every 2-3 weeks) since July of last year. In March 2020, about ten of them came home with covid. Half of them were scary sick like H, plus a beloved team member has terminal cancer, so they have been strictly sanitizing, testing, masking, and vaccinating ASAP in their office almost immediately after covid started to heat up in the States.
Since then they’ve had less than 20% of their team get sick in total, and all of the cases after the initial group were related to off-duty activities, found through contact tracing. I was really scared for him flying everywhere at first (we know more than one person who has gotten covid twice so antibodies didn’t really help me feel better).
I’m not advocating everyone go hop on a plane immediately or anything, just saying that it seems a lot safer than I thought it would be.
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