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Post by trtlcrzy on May 11, 2021 6:48:47 GMT -6
In the spirit of inthekitty last week… This speech is my recital. I think it’s very vital To rock (a rhyme) that’s right (on time) “It’s Tricky” is it’s title, here we go… It’s tricky to rock a rhyme, to rock a rhyme that’s right on time It’s tricky…it’s tricky (tricky) tricky (tricky)
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Post by trtlcrzy on May 11, 2021 6:53:00 GMT -6
Morning. Though I tried my hardest to sleep with my mouth closed last night (I’ve been mouth breathing since I got my braces on) I kept waking up mouth open with drool running down my face. I’m feeling pretty good so far this morning, aside from a headache. Back to normal today. I need to run to Costco while S is at preschool.
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Post by peachsmama on May 11, 2021 7:31:01 GMT -6
Laundry and paperwork day over here. I'm tired because MJ is super congested and neither of us slept last night because of it.
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Post by inthekitty on May 11, 2021 7:38:15 GMT -6
I'm glad the procedure is behind you trtlcrzy! Hope you're 100% soon.
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Post by vino on May 11, 2021 7:54:12 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:01:05 GMT -6
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Post by jewels on May 11, 2021 8:02:10 GMT -6
Good morning from the office!
I have been really struggling with what to do about B for next year (he is supposed to start K, he's about 7 weeks from the cutoff, he's very immature (like probably acts more like a almost 4 year old than an almost 5 year old) and still struggles with potty training (some weeks he's fine, some weeks he may have 2 or 3 accidents). But he's crazy smart. He's already sounding out the spelling of words, and doing basic math. He gets school concepts so quickly, but he often will miss entire lessons because he is upset about something (like they made him wash his hands or throw away his snack when he didn't want to), so he'll refuse to participate. I've been working with his teachers to try to fix it and he has a lot of good days, but a lot of bad ones too.
Anyway, I need to decide by the end of this week. His DC is holding a spot in the 4+ class (I think it's called Jr. K in other places) and they told me I need to let them know so they can release the spot to someone else if he doesn't take it.
I am so conflicted. Maturity vs academics. I know I've asked y'all before but any words of wisdom?
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:02:55 GMT -6
This afternoon is H's ct scan. I didn't sleep at all last night worrying about it. I'm praying that we can do it without sedation, otherwise I'll have to reschedule and pay $$$$$. The scan alone is costing me $1650 and I had to pay $645 last week for the speech evaluation. freakin insurance man.
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:04:55 GMT -6
jewels If he goes to the 4+ class, would they be able to help him more with academics to make it challenging for him? Or will he just be bored?
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Post by jewels on May 11, 2021 8:10:32 GMT -6
Oh jeez tgrimes, that's a lot. Can they give him meds to sedate him without totally putting him out? Or is it all or nothing? I hope he is able to do it and you don't have to reschedule. What's his currency? Will he be still if you promise him a certain toy? Or ice cream or something afterwards?
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Post by jewels on May 11, 2021 8:12:59 GMT -6
tgrimes I think for the 4+ Class he will be fine, since he is still working so hard on how to sit and listen, not shit his pants, etc. I'm more worried about him being bored later on in school as he gets older, and the material is not challenging enough for him. I was, and it led to some not great decisions on my part in my teen years.
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:17:30 GMT -6
tgrimes I think for the 4+ Class he will be fine, since he is still working so hard on how to sit and listen, not shit his pants, etc. I'm more worried about him being bored later on in school as he gets older, and the material is not challenging enough for him. I was, and it led to some not great decisions on my part in my teen years. Then send him to Kindergarten. Maybe it will help being in a new environment.
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:19:02 GMT -6
Oh jeez tgrimes , that's a lot. Can they give him meds to sedate him without totally putting him out? Or is it all or nothing? I hope he is able to do it and you don't have to reschedule. What's his currency? Will he be still if you promise him a certain toy? Or ice cream or something afterwards? If he could watch the ipad, it'd be fine. But he can't since it will be a scan of his neck & head. I don't know that they'll give him anything today. The IV will hurt but for the ct scan he needs to be still for 30-60 seconds at a time.
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Post by nam2013 on May 11, 2021 8:26:42 GMT -6
jewels any other school in holland Ds would have been a 2nd grader, this school’s general rule is to keep kids who haven’t turned six for another year in kinder. I’m so happy they did, Ds is very smart (he’s reading at a end 3rd grade level) but also still loves to play, play outside, make his own plans etc. He wasn’t emotionally ready two years ago. Professionally I’ve seen plenty of ‘bracket’ kids who were always trailing behind (or feeling like it) and often those were the kids who had to repeat another year at a later point. As long as they can challenge him enough cognitively i’d say keep him back.
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Post by nam2013 on May 11, 2021 8:30:17 GMT -6
tgrimes jeez that’s a lot! I’m so sorry healthcare is so crazy expensive, it’s ridiculous, it’s not like you’re doing this for fun!
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 8:39:45 GMT -6
Oh jeez tgrimes , that's a lot. Can they give him meds to sedate him without totally putting him out? Or is it all or nothing? I hope he is able to do it and you don't have to reschedule. What's his currency? Will he be still if you promise him a certain toy? Or ice cream or something afterwards? If he could watch the ipad, it'd be fine. But he can't since it will be a scan of his neck & head. I don't know that they'll give him anything today. The IV will hurt but for the ct scan he needs to be still for 30-60 seconds at a time. CTs are quick. I hope he does great and they get the images he needs. Most of the time they have a special head cradle for those scans so if they can keep him calm, he should do fine. I told MH’s cousin a couple weeks ago to try not to let her anxiety about it show so he won’t pick up on it and become nervous himself. He is 9 and had an MRI that was 45 minutes.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 8:43:16 GMT -6
tgrimes I think for the 4+ Class he will be fine, since he is still working so hard on how to sit and listen, not shit his pants, etc. I'm more worried about him being bored later on in school as he gets older, and the material is not challenging enough for him. I was, and it led to some not great decisions on my part in my teen years. I think I would opt to send him to K. Being challenged may help him to do well. He may be able to get resources to help in the public system, too right? Like an IEP. He may just need it for the transition year. I know it’s a hard decision and we always wonder if we are making the right decisions when it comes to our kids. Did you get him the appt. with the developmental pedi?
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Post by jewels on May 11, 2021 8:43:44 GMT -6
If he could watch the ipad, it'd be fine. But he can't since it will be a scan of his neck & head. I don't know that they'll give him anything today. The IV will hurt but for the ct scan he needs to be still for 30-60 seconds at a time. CTs are quick. I hope he does great and they get the images he needs. Most of the time they have a special head cradle for those scans so if they can keep him calm, he should do fine. I told MH’s cousin a couple weeks ago to try not to let her anxiety about it show so he won’t pick up on it and become nervous himself. He is 9 and had an MRI that was 45 minutes. This is excellent advice
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 8:45:15 GMT -6
tgrimes Not sure if they will do it for a CT, or even a kid his age, but his ordering doc may be able to give him something to help him be relaxed- like a Xanax or something appropriate for his age. Maybe message his doc and see if she can call him in something real quick that you could pick up on the way and give him.
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Post by jewels on May 11, 2021 8:48:13 GMT -6
tgrimes I think for the 4+ Class he will be fine, since he is still working so hard on how to sit and listen, not shit his pants, etc. I'm more worried about him being bored later on in school as he gets older, and the material is not challenging enough for him. I was, and it led to some not great decisions on my part in my teen years. I think I would opt to send him to K. Being challenged may help him to do well. He may be able to get resources to help in the public system, too right? Like an IEP. He may just need it for the transition year. I know it’s a hard decision and we always wonder if we are making the right decisions when it comes to our kids. Did you get him the appt. with the developmental pedi? I never did. The therapist he's been seeing did the assessment and he was great in 4 categories and borderline in 2. I have just, honestly, been dragging my feet on making an appointment b/c it all feels so... subjective. Like he's met all his milestones. Everyone keeps asking me what services I want for him and I just can't even think of an available service that would help him. Is there a "grow up" service?? I am wondering about an IEP. I was thinking that originally. But like I said before, for what? All the IEP's I can think of are for a disability, or a kid who's fallen behind academically. What would an IEP even look like in this case? Why is this so hard?!?!?
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 8:48:41 GMT -6
tgrimes Not sure if they will do it for a CT, or even a kid his age, but his ordering doc may be able to give him something to help him be relaxed- like a Xanax or something appropriate for his age. Maybe message his doc and see if she can call him in something real quick that you could pick up on the way and give him. Dude, I'm scared. Remember when the dentist gave it to M and it had the opposite effect? She wouldn't stfu. lol.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 8:54:49 GMT -6
Morning.
It’s dreary and cool out. We are expecting rain most of the day so naturally I’m feeling a little lazy. MH left before dawn this morning and should make it there in the next hour or so.
I think I’m going to take today to do some catching up and other things like updating my resume and maybe applying for a job or two. I don’t know if I even have a chance for qualifying for a job I want to apply for, but I won’t know if I don’t do it. It’s also a full-time position and I am skeptical about working full time again. I know it will be so good for us financially, but gosh I love my days at home when the boys are at school.
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Post by vino on May 11, 2021 8:57:58 GMT -6
This afternoon is H's ct scan. I didn't sleep at all last night worrying about it. I'm praying that we can do it without sedation, otherwise I'll have to reschedule and pay $$$$$. The scan alone is costing me $1650 and I had to pay $645 last week for the speech evaluation. freakin insurance man. I cannot love tit this. OOOF at the out of pocket expenses. I'm sorry.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 9:00:34 GMT -6
tgrimes Not sure if they will do it for a CT, or even a kid his age, but his ordering doc may be able to give him something to help him be relaxed- like a Xanax or something appropriate for his age. Maybe message his doc and see if she can call him in something real quick that you could pick up on the way and give him. Dude, I'm scared. Remember when the dentist gave it to M and it had the opposite effect? She wouldn't stfu. lol. 😂 I forgot about that. Just know that it’s quick. I know it’s already scheduled this afternoon, too, but another thing I usually tell parents or anyone who is nervous about imaging machines is to do it first thing in the morning. I find that people, kids especially, are more calm in the morning and willing to cooperate. Anything can happen throughout the day that may completely change their attitude/energy or have a bad day and it will be that much harder to get them to cooperate if their energy is off.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 9:05:23 GMT -6
jewels and anyone. I’m not well versed in IEPs but can’t they be for behavioral reasons, too? You say he gets upset and misses lessons, would an IEP make it possible for him to have an aide of some sort or get him special attention from a TA when there are transitions through the day? That is more along the lines of what I was thinking, not really academically because you said he is super smart.
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Post by guster on May 11, 2021 9:06:28 GMT -6
Good morning from the office! I have been really struggling with what to do about B for next year (he is supposed to start K, he's about 7 weeks from the cutoff, he's very immature (like probably acts more like a almost 4 year old than an almost 5 year old) and still struggles with potty training (some weeks he's fine, some weeks he may have 2 or 3 accidents). But he's crazy smart. He's already sounding out the spelling of words, and doing basic math. He gets school concepts so quickly, but he often will miss entire lessons because he is upset about something (like they made him wash his hands or throw away his snack when he didn't want to), so he'll refuse to participate. I've been working with his teachers to try to fix it and he has a lot of good days, but a lot of bad ones too. Anyway, I need to decide by the end of this week. His DC is holding a spot in the 4+ class (I think it's called Jr. K in other places) and they told me I need to let them know so they can release the spot to someone else if he doesn't take it. I am so conflicted. Maturity vs academics. I know I've asked y'all before but any words of wisdom? It’s so hard. I was back and forth with Josie til the very very end, and I think waiting made the difference. Not that it really matters, but she is also still small and even though she is the oldest in her class, she is the third smallest (I also only know the real specificity on this because they just did some unit on Penguins where they had to measure themselves against some of the worlds tallest penguins). For us the maturity mattered more bc I knew her school could (and does) do things to enrich the curriculum for her.
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Post by guster on May 11, 2021 9:10:13 GMT -6
tgrimes, I hope H does well today. It would be nice to just have it be done (aside from having to pay loads of money.)
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Post by tgrimes on May 11, 2021 9:11:47 GMT -6
Dude, I'm scared. Remember when the dentist gave it to M and it had the opposite effect? She wouldn't stfu. lol. 😂 I forgot about that. Just know that it’s quick. I know it’s already scheduled this afternoon, too, but another thing I usually tell parents or anyone who is nervous about imaging machines is to do it first thing in the morning. I find that people, kids especially, are more calm in the morning and willing to cooperate. Anything can happen throughout the day that may completely change their attitude/energy or have a bad day and it will be that much harder to get them to cooperate if their energy is off. they only schedule the sedated ones for the morning appts.
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Post by lahdeedah on May 11, 2021 9:20:50 GMT -6
😂 I forgot about that. Just know that it’s quick. I know it’s already scheduled this afternoon, too, but another thing I usually tell parents or anyone who is nervous about imaging machines is to do it first thing in the morning. I find that people, kids especially, are more calm in the morning and willing to cooperate. Anything can happen throughout the day that may completely change their attitude/energy or have a bad day and it will be that much harder to get them to cooperate if their energy is off. they only schedule the sedated ones for the morning appts. Gotcha. Is he doing it at a hospital or outpatient center?
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Post by vino on May 11, 2021 9:26:32 GMT -6
jewels I've got a lot of thoughts about it since B is the same way, he is 7.5 and the youngest in his grade 2 class but always in the top two for learning, participating in class etc. The other day the teacher asked the class to pretend that B wasn't there and others had to give answers. ha! So I think that it's important to know that whatever you choose there will be pros/cons and work you will have to do in the home to keep him up to speed. 1. holding back - maturity could increase within the timeframe and he may match the class when he gets into school but at home you will have to provide additional work for him to learn and grow, think tutoring almost. If you hold him back it could mean that he would be frustrated with being bored and then lose confidence therefore setting him 'back' in maturity level as well. I also think that the timeline for keeping him in daycare could possibly be to long with the one full year, as he could show leaps and bounds within 6 months and then what, you're waiting for the next Sept to come around. 2. sending him - he could be the youngest in his class therefore immature a little but he would thrive and gain confidence through the in school learning and challenges presented to him. BUT within the home you will have to cradle his emotional needs, lots of conversations about feelings and I find spending quality one on one time is the key here. So in any case there will be adjustments within the home to reach his needs, either academically or emotionally. TO ME and in my home, meeting B's need emotionally is what mothers and families do best, I am not a teacher and he doesn't want to learn from me. He wants hugs, golf games, throwing the baseball to each other, bike rides, long conversations and quality time. I think that so much confidence can be gained by challenging the kids academically if that's what makes them proud. my disclaimer is that whatever you choose you will always think, what if I had chosen differently? It still happens to me when B will inevitably be crying about some art project that ISNT QUITE RIGHT and I then tell myself that I made the wrong choice.....
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