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Post by stringy on Jul 20, 2017 12:34:33 GMT -6
I think that the non-feeding partner should ALWAYS sleep through the feeding parter getting up (and then be ready with kind words when the feeding partner is grumpy and tired). In the early days DH used to stay awake while I was up with M and then on top of being tired and grumpy, I would have to deal with his tired and grumpy ass. It was no bueno. Nope. I don't think it should always go like that. Sometimes I needed A to wake up, if only for a little bit, so that I didn't feel that I was the only person awake in the world, at 3am, crying over a cute baby. It's very lonely; and if your partner being present helps, do it. It's obviously different for everyone, and my husband isn't one to overly bitch about being tired.
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Post by piccyami on Jul 20, 2017 14:15:37 GMT -6
I think that the non-feeding partner should ALWAYS sleep through the feeding parter getting up (and then be ready with kind words when the feeding partner is grumpy and tired). In the early days DH used to stay awake while I was up with M and then on top of being tired and grumpy, I would have to deal with his tired and grumpy ass. It was no bueno. Nope, I make MH wake up and help me with the babies in the MOTN. But, I'm still having trouble getting both babies changed and latched by myself. Once one of them is back asleep, he is welcome to go back to sleep. This was not the case with J. I let him sleep when it was only one baby. With two, it's the only way to function. Early on, we were both up for every feeding. Now that we're down to one-on-one wakeup each every night, it's just one of us doing wakeups. You need help right now. Get all the help.
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Post by piccyami on Jul 20, 2017 14:16:56 GMT -6
Not one-on-one wakeup. One-ish wakeups. And I can't figure out how to edit right now.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Jul 22, 2017 5:43:10 GMT -6
4am - baby wakes up 4:02 - changes diaper 4:04 - nurses baby 4:15 - transfer sleeping baby to bed 4:17 - 4:35 - baby cries out several times, gets hiccups - burp baby again 4:40 - baby makes epic poop requiring full clothing change 4:50 - nurse baby again 5-5:30 - rock awake baby back to sleep 6am - kid #1 wakes up
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Post by linewifekat on Jul 22, 2017 6:30:42 GMT -6
brandiewine11 I think I somehow got dairy on Thursday too. Ds was spitting up all day yesterday and hasn't pooped since Wednesday. Does it take less time to get out of your system if you've been dairy free for 3+ weeks? I hope your little guy is better soon and it's only dairy.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Jul 22, 2017 8:50:29 GMT -6
brandiewine11 I think I somehow got dairy on Thursday too. Ds was spitting up all day yesterday and hasn't pooped since Wednesday. Does it take less time to get out of your system if you've been dairy free for 3+ weeks? I hope your little guy is better soon and it's only dairy. Thanks. He did get better after a day or 2. In my experience, yes, it was always ok after 1-2 days if it was accidental exposure after being clear.
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Post by linewifekat on Jul 22, 2017 8:51:52 GMT -6
brandiewine11 that's good to know. I've been wondering about that.
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Post by grumpycakes on Jul 22, 2017 17:05:21 GMT -6
brandiewine11 I think I somehow got dairy on Thursday too. Ds was spitting up all day yesterday and hasn't pooped since Wednesday. Does it take less time to get out of your system if you've been dairy free for 3+ weeks? I hope your little guy is better soon and it's only dairy. Thanks. He did get better after a day or 2. In my experience, yes, it was always ok after 1-2 days if it was accidental exposure after being clear. Same.
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Post by mapleme on Jul 23, 2017 17:21:00 GMT -6
Holy f. C has been on a nursing strike all day. This never happened with M. She refused to nurse at bedtime and I tried everything that I could think of her get her to sleep which only resulted in over an hour of screaming (her) and crying (me). She's eating plenty of solids, so I don't think that it's a mouth problem. I gave her Tylenol and Motrin (at different time), so I don't think that it was teeth. Finally DH took over and she was out in 3 minutes. I just can't even. I have no idea how tonight will go.
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Post by mapleme on Jul 23, 2017 21:23:31 GMT -6
Oh thank heavens. She is nursing.
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Post by mapleme on Jul 23, 2017 21:32:45 GMT -6
Or not. She nursed one side, bit me and then bit the other side
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Post by rugger on Jul 24, 2017 5:38:54 GMT -6
R woke us up at O'dark-thirty yelling "Alex, NO!" while dreaming...Sheesh, kid, way to give us a scare!
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Post by brandiewine11 on Jul 24, 2017 5:42:20 GMT -6
Dear husband,
The fact that you willingly stayed up until midnight, thus falling asleep approximately 30 minutes before the baby wakes up, plus the baby being fussy after 2:30 from a stuffy nose, and screaming at 4am, does NOT entitle you to be a grumpy jerk to me in the morning. I'm sorry you're tired. I am too. You are welcome to go sleep on the couch at any point.
Love, Your sleep deprived wife
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Post by sassyq on Jul 24, 2017 7:45:51 GMT -6
We were doing so good, A was down to one wakeup and actually slept through the night a few times! But suddenly we are back to 3-4 wake ups and I am soooo over it. She's 20 months and we night weaned a few months ago... at this rate she's not going to be sttn before I have a newborn! It's so frustrating and I get so mad at her. I really need to find a way to not get mad at her. She just screams so much, all day and night because she's so strong willed... if I brought her to my bed she would sleep all night, or if she woke up just go back to sleep... But I need her to sleep on her own, and we hope to move her to L's room soon.
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Post by sarenu on Jul 24, 2017 7:53:21 GMT -6
C woke us at 1:30 with a scream and then threw up. I took him today, and I've been up all night because he refuses to sleep.
So now I've been going on 1-2 hours of sleep. This is going to be a test of wills today.
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Post by milano on Jul 30, 2017 6:27:07 GMT -6
The night started out with M in the pnp, J in his toddler bed and MH and I in a full bed. M woke up twice last night to eat, J came into our bed around 6 and is still in there, MH left just now to go golfing, and I'm laying on the floor next to the toddler bed trying to get M to go back to sleep.
I'm going to be a bitch today. And I'm never leaving my house overnight again.
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Post by milano on Jul 30, 2017 6:28:25 GMT -6
And I've done solo bedtime for both kids the past 5 of 6 nights and I'm kinda salty about it.
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Post by mc13 on Jul 30, 2017 7:43:29 GMT -6
We've started weaning from formula to whole milk and hopefully dropping bottles by their birthday in 3 weeks. I've been trying to make sure they eat tons of solids during the day. Both girls only had 2 wakeups for a 4 ounce bottle each time last night so I'm really keeping my fingers crossed this will also help with nighttime sleep.
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Post by piccyami on Jul 31, 2017 7:11:31 GMT -6
I struggled to go to sleep last night, and when I was finally close, Z woke up. She also woke up at 3 this morning because she was ready to play. And I was the only one that would do. Today is going to be rough.
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Post by mc13 on Jul 31, 2017 8:23:43 GMT -6
I think this 6 week growth spurt might kill me. I know the feeling. Having two newborns is so so hard. It will get better. Try to bring in some extra help if you can and maybe even get a little break. I know it's easier said than done, especially with no family around. For me, even getting out of the house for a quick walk around the block with no kids, really helped. And seriously, before you know it, you'll be wondering how your teeny babies could possibly be almost 1.
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Post by stringy on Jul 31, 2017 8:45:44 GMT -6
Is there also a 13 m sleep regression? Cuz omg.
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Post by piccyami on Jul 31, 2017 10:55:16 GMT -6
I think this 6 week growth spurt might kill me. All those early growth spurts were rough. Like pbandj714 said, get some help if you can and get some time for yourself. Two babies at once is rough, but you can make it. It really helped me to just have someone with me on the days when they were being awful. Just having another adult there helped so much for my state of mind.
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Post by Dramaphile on Jul 31, 2017 11:11:28 GMT -6
Is there also a 13 m sleep regression? Cuz omg. Nugget had some awful sleep around 14 months.
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Post by ovenrack on Jul 31, 2017 15:30:29 GMT -6
Is there also a 13 m sleep regression? Cuz omg. Is she working on a lot of motor skills? Walking or close to it? Yes. She is. I'll answer for strings.
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Post by stringy on Jul 31, 2017 15:54:33 GMT -6
Is she working on a lot of motor skills? Walking or close to it? Yes. She is. I'll answer for strings. Yesterday she was on top of the little toddler table. She's got climbing down.
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Post by milano on Aug 1, 2017 3:47:05 GMT -6
Well, J woke up at 430, wet, so I changed him and was trying to get him back to sleep and M woke up so I left him in his room.
He was playing quietly in his room so I got back in bed. We tie a sock on his gate so he can't get out at night so I figured he'd play in there until he fell back asleep.
And a short while later I hear the security alarm going off, right as the security company calls MH and says an entry door is open. J busted out of his room and was trying to go outside! Thankfully MH locked the screen door last night, which J can't open. My heart is still racing. Omg.
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Post by mapleme on Aug 1, 2017 4:06:58 GMT -6
Good lord. Apparently C's strategy when something isn't going her way is to banshee scream at the top of her lungs. Which is really cool when she wants the boppy instead of sidelying at 6 am at someone else's house. So that's fun.
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Post by mapleme on Aug 1, 2017 4:12:33 GMT -6
Well, J woke up at 430, wet, so I changed him and was trying to get him back to sleep and M woke up so I left him in his room. He was playing quietly in his room so I got back in bed. We tie a sock on his gate so he can't get out at night so I figured he'd play in there until he fell back asleep. And a short while later I hear the security alarm going off, right as the security company calls MH and says an entry door is open. J busted out of his room and was trying to go outside! Thankfully MH locked the screen door last night, which J can't open. My heart is still racing. Omg. Holy crap. The previous owners of my house put these on all the exterior doors for probably this very reason.
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Post by stringy on Aug 1, 2017 4:26:45 GMT -6
Oh man milano that is not a fun time. At least every 2 hours here and up for the day at 6. I thought I did better with this kid. She's so awake and happy
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Post by pbandj714 on Aug 1, 2017 8:55:26 GMT -6
Holy cow Alyssa. That would have been scary! Thank goodness for the locked screen door and security alarm!
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