Weekend Wonders

[wedding]

We are at my in laws for the first time since July. We are celebrating Christmas and my nieces birthday. We took the kids sledding and they had a blast but now they are hung pains. My nieces have attitude with their parents and while C does with me sometimes, it is much worse when he is with them. He called me a dummy and we had to have a chat. Hopefully they will simmer down once they have some food.

[trtlcrzy]

Feb 20, 2021 13:47:39 GMT -6 wedding said:

Feb 20, 2021 13:18:43 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Hey. H went to the neighbor’s house to play this morning while S made Dh and I “food” from her play kitchen. I talked S into playing outside with me since it’s a balmy 20 degrees. Before we came back in I put V in her snowsuit and brought her outside. She wasn’t super impressed, but was fine with it. I set her down on the porch right next to me, she rolled to her side and immediately face planted in snow. She was mad about that, lol, but I laughed. Right now I am laying with V, she’s napping, and everyone else is watching flora and Ulysses in the living room.

Share pics of V in her snow gear! I’m sure she’s adorable.

This is the only pic I took

[nam2013]

trtlcrzy omg such a cutie! She looks so much like the other girls!

[kim22]

Hello from my minivan where I’m going on hour 3 of the gymnastics meet and wishing I had packed some snacks. They are 3.5 rotations in and I’m hoping my computer charge holds up for the last rotation. Car is running now to charge my phone and prevent me from freezing while is snows around me. I just logged into DS’s game and saw them kneeling for someone hurt and logged right back out because it’s usually my kid and I’m an hour north or home and he’s an hour south of home so I can’t deal.

inthekitty my conversations with my older kids are also so different from the ones my mother never had with me. DS came home from Christmas shopping and announced DH took him to Spencers and they had Candy Cane dildos. I will still not say dildo to my mom.

[inthekitty]

kim22 hoping it's not your boy and whoever it is recovers quickly.

Re: grown-up conversations. I'm hopeful that being so much more open and honest will have a great positive impact. People who are more knowledgeable, empathetic, kinder, less ashamed, less ridden with anxiety, etc. For those who watch Cobra Kai I always love the contrast of sweet-natured and woke Miguel to non-PC Johnny. We need more Miguels.

[tgrimes]

inthekitty I think it's great that y'all are able to talk so openly. My sister is like that with her kids and I think it makes a world of difference. My mother taught us about the birds and the bees and that was it. It was embarrassing and hard on both of us. I was not comfortable going to her for things or to ask her questions and I'd like to make sure both of our kids could come to one of us for the truth, hard questions, or sympathy, etc.

I definitely think it makes a world of difference.

[inthekitty]

I've been working on my promotion packet for months and it's been a nightmare (stupid computer tech issues). It's finally done. Everything is in. That's been a stressor in the back of my mind of months. Feels good to let it go.

[peachsmama]

I finally found bras that fit now. Only took 3 trips to target. I'm barely an A cup. Can't wait until April 29th, I got my next surgery scheduled this week.

[lahdeedah]

I’ve always wanted to be that kind of parent. inthekitty Like many others, my parents didn’t discuss anything with us. I know that did me no favors growing up. I want to be the complete opposite and talk about everything with my boys to let them know they can come to me with anything. With that said, I don’t know how to get these conversations started. Does the conversations start through books, shows, podcasts?

[lahdeedah]

Feb 20, 2021 17:39:11 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

I've been working on my promotion packet for months and it's been a nightmare (stupid computer tech issues). It's finally done. Everything is in. That's been a stressor in the back of my mind of months. Feels good to let it go.

Glad you were able to finish it, finally.

[lahdeedah]

Feb 20, 2021 20:35:38 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

I finally found bras that fit now. Only took 3 trips to target. I'm barely an A cup. Can't wait until April 29th, I got my next surgery scheduled this week.

What size do you want to be?

[jewels]

Add me to the group that never talked with my parents about that stuff and am still uncomfortable

I try to be as honest and open with them as I can but I know I fall short sometimes.

[lfig]

Feb 20, 2021 20:35:38 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

I finally found bras that fit now. Only took 3 trips to target. I'm barely an A cup. Can't wait until April 29th, I got my next surgery scheduled this week.

Your new boobs and I will share a birthday 😂.

[tallb]

We need to work on discussing more openly with kids. I bought that "it's not the stork" book, so hoping that will help since we have had lots of questions about babies lately and I am useless.

[lfig]

What do ya’ll do with your kids teeth after they lose them? Sierra’s first tooth she must’ve swallowed. The 2nd I threw away. Then she lost 2 teeth today. We don’t do the tooth fairy because she doesn’t know/understand. I was just curious if anyone kept them for any reason. I read that they can be used for stem cells down the road. I know some people are sentimental and keep. I’m not sentimental about that stuff. I’m not a keeper of things.

[lfig]

This next week is my last week off work. I go back on March 1. I’m so ready. But I will probably be griping by day 3 because I will be jumping right in to hiring my staff for the summer. I hate dealing with hiring, interviews, reference checks, ect.

This week I am taking my Jeep to the dealership for more work. I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of money on it since last summer. It’s definitely time to start looking for something new. It’s got 230,000 miles on it and it is Nickle and diming me. I was really hoping to wait till MH’s truck was paid off but at this point I don’t think I will be able to wait.

[inthekitty]

Picked these up tonight.

[inthekitty]

Feb 20, 2021 21:06:52 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I’ve always wanted to be that kind of parent. inthekitty Like many others, my parents didn’t discuss anything with us. I know that did me no favors growing up. I want to be the complete opposite and talk about everything with my boys to let them know they can come to me with anything. With that said, I don’t know how to get these conversations started. Does the conversations start through books, shows, podcasts?

I think it can be through a little bit of everything. I've just let them know before we're going to have a chat about things. This time I found a 2 minute YouTube video that did a good job explaining periods. I paused it occasionally to explain things a little more at her level. When they were younger picture books with accurate anatomy were good.

Sometimes I feel like I'm dying inside a bit but find my anxiety/embarrassment eases when I show my poker face and they feed off that energy and are relaxed too. Definitely makes it easier.

[trtlcrzy]

Feb 20, 2021 21:32:17 GMT -6 lfig said:

What do ya’ll do with your kids teeth after they lose them? Sierra’s first tooth she must’ve swallowed. The 2nd I threw away. Then she lost 2 teeth today. We don’t do the tooth fairy because she doesn’t know/understand. I was just curious if anyone kept them for any reason. I read that they can be used for stem cells down the road. I know some people are sentimental and keep. I’m not sentimental about that stuff. I’m not a keeper of things.

Straight to the trash. I don’t know if I mentioned it here but last spring/late winter MIL gave me DH’s teeth that she had saved 🤮

[trtlcrzy]

Those are so good inthekitty!

[inthekitty]

I throw the teeth away too. MH saved Cass' first.

[lfig]

Good to hear! I was worried I was doing wrong by throwing the teeth away. Whew.

[klong11]

I have all of Cadence's teeth that she's lost. Idk why I'm saving them. Mine were in my baby book, so I just assumed I should save Cadence's for hers. Granted it will be the only thing in her baby book....oops.

I've always spoken straight up to Cadence. No weird nicknames for body parts, she knows tampons are for periods. I've been a bit vague on baby making, but she knows it takes a man and a woman and the man puts it in the woman's belly. Just not how.
She also knows way too much about death and cremation. Granted, I did use 'heaven' when talking about death, but I think that is a "to each his own" type of thing.

[guster]

We have taken questions as they come but I haven’t sat anyone down for specific conversation. Race, babies (not sex), and death have all come up. They both know I get my period, but they didn’t care to ask questions after learning that.

[guster]

Oh and add me to the list of parents who never really talked about the big things. They didn’t refuse but they didn’t initiate either. I did go to them with dating woes, school or friend trouble, but nothing beyond that.

[guster]

I have Josie’s teeth — she swallowed one, but I have the other 5. I don’t know why. I’m not sentimental about it, but I’m guess I wonder if she might be later in life.

[guster]

Morning!
I’m up super early for the weekend, but still in my robe. I need to place a grocery order for this week and I need the peace and quiet to do it.
No real plans today (or really ever)-I have a tiny section of basement hallway and ceiling to finish and we promised the kids we’d sled again today. Next year I am buying myself a snow suit— my lined wind pants from Old Navy circa 2000 are not cutting it anymore.

[nam2013]

We’ve talked about the big stuff, death, illness, babies, gender, race, lgbt etc. but at a level they can comprehend. For example, about having babies, they know mom has the eggs & daddy has a seed and combined they can make make a baby, we didn’t tell them how exactly.

My parents talked to us about this too. They took us to demonstrations, thought us about equality, talked to us about how relationships work and my dad got us our monthly stuff just a often as my mom. They even offered to buy us protection if we were to embarrassed to do it ourselves, that was a step to far for us 😂.

[nam2013]

Morning. Packing to leave for ‘our’ cabin tomorrow, can’t wait for a change of scenery! I forgot how much stuff a baby needs 😱. The weather is going to be amazing. We got the pictures from the photographer back, we got so much, so I need to make a selection, but I’m thinking I might need to make a album.

[joelies]

Hiiiiiii. Long time, no post.

The grown up conversation thing is tough. My Mom was very open with us about puberty and periods as a former nurse, but sex, race, sexuality, etc. were not discussed. I find that stuff easier than talking to boys about puberty but my husband is from such a buttoned up family, I am not sure he'll be able to do it. So I need to figure this out.

As for teeth, Col has only lost 3 and the first one disappeared at some point between putting it in his pillow and me sneaking in his room. Eww. I have the other two but I can't imagine he will ever want them and I am just not that sentimental.

vino - re: shoes. I don't think I've ever run in Brooks but I know a lot of runners who swear by them. You should be able to find a shoe finder online, Brooks may even have one. They generally ask about your arch, pronation (which you can figure out looking at an older pair of shoes), your frame, how much cushioning you prefer, and what surface you plan to run on. I haven't used one in years because once I find something I like, I HOARD shoes. I've been wearing Altras for the last 8 years because they work well with the shape of my feet and I love a minimal shoe. I am a firm believer in the right shoes making a huge difference.

peachsmama - I am so excited for you!!