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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Sept 18, 2020 8:31:35 GMT -6
I cared that my man worked and had strong work ethic, not so much about the dollar figure he brings in. I got lucky that H had a great paying job and savings and bomb credit.
Then the pandemic hit and he hasn’t worked in 6+ months and I’m the breadwinner.
He’s hustling on the side to make whatever he can, on top of taking care of everything at home (schooling, cleaning, cooking, shopping) so I’m glad that he has that strong work ethic because I would struggle if he was just lying around doing nothing.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:31:48 GMT -6
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I had a god damn barbie watch at the age of 7 I never found again and I will NEVER FORGET. Losing things bugs me lol I left my favorite stuffed Ernie in a sewing store. I was about six. Every time we went back, I looked for it. I never found him. I told my mom that story when I was in college. She was horrified that I never said anything. She would have asked the store. I said she didn’t want me to bring a toy because I could lose it and I brought it anyway. I thought it was my punishment. She was a sad panda at the whole story. Aw this makes me sad for 6 yo you
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Sept 18, 2020 8:33:12 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Sept 18, 2020 8:33:12 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass.
Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited.
Anyway, carry on.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:34:01 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:34:01 GMT -6
Breadwinner doesn't matter to me.
DH was a full time student for a couple years and I was the only one making money but I'd come home to a clean house and hot meal every night 🤷♀️
I still make a tad more than him.
But there was hella judgment from others when he wasn't working and I got a lot of negative comments. It upset me because if he had a vagina I doubt those comments would have been as acceptable or even said at all.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:34:03 GMT -6
Post by kayc on Sept 18, 2020 8:34:03 GMT -6
The other day I needed to do a workout but did not feel like it. So I just pulled up the go noodle I use when i teach and did a bunch of Koo Koo Kangaroo songs as my workout. I had more fun than i should admit.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:34:54 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:34:54 GMT -6
My mom gave me her ring after her and my dad divorced. She said it wasn't expensive and she didn't care what I did with it. I was right out of HS and I have no idea what happened to it. I never wore it cuz that seemed kind of weird? In a way. But I'm also sad I lost it
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Sept 18, 2020 8:35:15 GMT -6
Post by piratecat on Sept 18, 2020 8:35:15 GMT -6
My H and I are sitting at our respective workspaces across the hall from each other and communicating over Gchat...
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Sept 18, 2020 8:35:23 GMT -6
Post by MelanieCarmichael on Sept 18, 2020 8:35:23 GMT -6
donnamoss , I hope you find it. I tried to throw away my e-ring. Every few days, I would put it in the jar of jewelry cleaner, pull it out, then rinse while put on the bristles of an old toothbrush with super-hot water. Sink always plugged. And I would dry it off with a Kleenex and put it on. Until one day, about two weeks before the wedding, I realized I couldn't find it. Sink plugged so not there, not next to the sink, not wearing it (duh!) and not on my nightstand ring catch-all. I had several minutes of racing around my apartment, looking in completely random places while my body went from cold sweats to hot as balls. I circled back to the bathroom and sat on the (closed) toilet seat lid as I tried to just think calmly and rationally about where it could be. And as I sat there, I stared at the small trash can and something said, "Check it" and sure enough, there it was, wrapped in Kleenex. To this day, I've never told MH (as my freakout would be nothing compared to his, even though it had been found). So mini-confession there. The other? I found the receipt for my engagement ring roughly six months before he proposed while I was looking for some pen/paper to write something down at his apartment. Obviously never said a word about that either. And it's a good thing I found it because after 5+ years of dating, I was getting itchy to break up.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:35:59 GMT -6
Post by kayc on Sept 18, 2020 8:35:59 GMT -6
DH doesn't wear a ring and I think I've shared that before and got some gasps. He doesn't like jewelry 🤷♀️ My H doesn’t wear one either. Never has.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:36:06 GMT -6
Post by fb on Sept 18, 2020 8:36:06 GMT -6
I'm not in LOVE with my engagement ring, as it's just not my current style.
But it is more than that; it's something my husband picked out, worked hard to save enough $ for (including selling his motorcycle which he loved), and had made for me that makes me love it. I haven't been able to wear it, or my wedding band since the middle of my first pregnancy. I'm working to lose weight and that is one of the first NSVs that I'm looking forward to.
Anyway, if I lost it, I'd be devastated.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:36:45 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:36:45 GMT -6
I picked out my own ring and I'm happy I did. I think MH would have done fine on his own but I really really love my ring and I'm not sure he would have picked this style I did without realizing it. I had a different ring break so I was in the jewelry store to get it fixed. I looked at the engagement rings (because why not?) and found exactly what I would want down the road. I came home and teased H (then bf) about finding the perfect ring but then told him it was too much $$ and we were poor so don't buy it. What I didn't know was he had been saving up money for such a purchase and he spent a week of going in every night to try to find who had showed me the rings so he could get just the right one. He then asked if they could order it in with a yellow gold instead of white and the owner of the store told him that I fell in love with that specific diamond so that would be the diamond I got. They cut the setting off and put it on a yellow gold band. If you look closely you can see that my prongs are white gold. The night he was going to propose I could tell he had something up his sleeve but I thought he had gotten the patio table and chairs I liked and was disappointed to come home to no patio set. 🤣
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Sept 18, 2020 8:38:56 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:38:56 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. Wait. Did someone say that? If so I missed it.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:39:12 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:39:12 GMT -6
I've never been proposed to. H and I were kind of rushed into marriage (insurance thing) so we just went into picking out rings and planning a courthouse wedding. My confession is I sometimes wish I could have known how he would have proposed. He told me he was starting to plan something before the insurance thing happened but won't tell me details. Boo.
Sometimes I also wish we could have had a big wedding. I loved our courthouse wedding and I'm glad we saved all that money. But sometimes I see others wedding pictures or see them planning their wedding and wish I could have had that experience
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Sept 18, 2020 8:39:41 GMT -6
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Post by donnamoss on Sept 18, 2020 8:39:41 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. I ignored it, because in general I ignore her. I do appreciate you acknowledging this though.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:40:15 GMT -6
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Post by justbecause on Sept 18, 2020 8:40:15 GMT -6
I haven’t worn my engagement ring in 8-9 years. I should sell it and buy a new dishwasher.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:40:21 GMT -6
Post by Rusty Red on Sept 18, 2020 8:40:21 GMT -6
My H and I are sitting at our respective workspaces across the hall from each other and communicating over Gchat... My mom is right downstairs and I routinely send her texts during the day.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:40:34 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:40:34 GMT -6
I picked out my own ring and I'm happy I did. I think MH would have done fine on his own but I really really love my ring and I'm not sure he would have picked this style I did without realizing it. I had a different ring break so I was in the jewelry store to get it fixed. I looked at the engagement rings (because why not?) and found exactly what I would want down the road. I came home and teased H (then bf) about finding the perfect ring but then told him it was too much $$ and we were poor so don't buy it. What I didn't know was he had been saving up money for such a purchase and he spent a week of going in every night to try to find who had showed me the rings so he could get just the right one. He then asked if they could order it in with a yellow gold instead of white and the owner of the store told him that I fell in love with that specific diamond so that would be the diamond I got. They cut the setting off and put it on a yellow gold band. If you look closely you can see that my prongs are white gold. The night he was going to propose I could tell he had something up his sleeve but I thought he had gotten the patio table and chairs I liked and was disappointed to come home to no patio set. 🤣 Awe this is a cute story. And lol about the patio set 🤣
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Sept 18, 2020 8:41:05 GMT -6
Post by Rusty Red on Sept 18, 2020 8:41:05 GMT -6
Hell, I freak out when I can't find a shirt I want to wear. Jewelry might send me over the edge.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:41:37 GMT -6
Post by piratecat on Sept 18, 2020 8:41:37 GMT -6
I haven’t worn my engagement ring in 8-9 years. I should sell it and buy a new dishwasher. This reminds me, I need to know the status of your dining room refrigerator.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:41:37 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:41:37 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. I ignored it, because in general I ignore her. I do appreciate you acknowledging this though. I mean your confession brought my confession. I didn't say anything negative or put down about your feelings. You have the right to feel and be attached to whatever you want. I was sharing I have no attachment to items. I wasn't posting AT you.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:41:39 GMT -6
Post by ftwr on Sept 18, 2020 8:41:39 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. Wait. Did someone say that? If so I missed it. No, no one said it. But that's the point. She purposely changed how she said something so that it wouldn't garner the negative reaction she believes she would have received. I don't think she's wrong.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:43:27 GMT -6
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Post by sweptaway on Sept 18, 2020 8:43:27 GMT -6
I guess my confession is that gainful employment is a non negotiable for me when I’m dating. I’ve settled into the fact that I would rather be single than to live a standard of life with my husband that’s not acceptable to me. I’ve also realized that it would not sit well with me to be the breadwinner in the house. I've been the breadwinner for 6 months and I am struggling with a lot of ugly feelings lately I guess that can be my confession
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Sept 18, 2020 8:43:58 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:43:58 GMT -6
I did without realizing it. I had a different ring break so I was in the jewelry store to get it fixed. I looked at the engagement rings (because why not?) and found exactly what I would want down the road. I came home and teased H (then bf) about finding the perfect ring but then told him it was too much $$ and we were poor so don't buy it. What I didn't know was he had been saving up money for such a purchase and he spent a week of going in every night to try to find who had showed me the rings so he could get just the right one. He then asked if they could order it in with a yellow gold instead of white and the owner of the store told him that I fell in love with that specific diamond so that would be the diamond I got. They cut the setting off and put it on a yellow gold band. If you look closely you can see that my prongs are white gold. The night he was going to propose I could tell he had something up his sleeve but I thought he had gotten the patio table and chairs I liked and was disappointed to come home to no patio set. 🤣 Awe this is a cute story. And lol about the patio set 🤣 He was laughing because I came home and looked seriously bummed. He asked if I had a rough day at work and I said no I just thought maybe you got that bistro table I wanted since you were in town today. He looked at me like I had 3 heads. Turns out he was in town tracking down my parents so he could ask my dad his blessing. Then we went to dinner where I groaned about the jeweler still not having my ring fixed and how my finger just felt so naked and I wanted my ring back. Turns out he told the jeweler not to call me yet and he had the ring in his pocket the whole time I moaned and groaned. I'm real fun.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:44:52 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:44:52 GMT -6
I guess my confession is that gainful employment is a non negotiable for me when I’m dating. I’ve settled into the fact that I would rather be single than to live a standard of life with my husband that’s not acceptable to me. I’ve also realized that it would not sit well with me to be the breadwinner in the house. I've been the breadwinner for 6 months and I am struggling with a lot of ugly feelings lately I guess that xan be my confession Aw I'm really sorry. I don't know exactly what you're feeling but when I was, due to the obvious and outward judgment, I rarely talked about it to others. I'm sorry
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Sept 18, 2020 8:45:07 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Sept 18, 2020 8:45:07 GMT -6
It's a traumatic event for me the way my anxiety is set up to lose things. It doesn't have to be sentimental or my ring. I will be very upset about it. I don't lose things normally. As much as I would try to get passed it, it would pop in my head. It will replay and replay for days that I lost something and where could it be etc. We are one. Losing things is a big trigger for my anxiety. Someone that wasn't me or MH lost the key to my truck. I was sick about it for days even though I have another key. My stomach was nervous and I couldn't eat.
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Post by Cher on Sept 18, 2020 8:45:11 GMT -6
It's a traumatic event for me the way my anxiety is set up to lose things. It doesn't have to be sentimental or my ring. I will be very upset about it. I don't lose things normally. As much as I would try to get passed it, it would pop in my head. It will replay and replay for days that I lost something and where could it be etc. We are one. Losing things is a big trigger for my anxiety. Me too. I recently went back to a restaurant I was at the night before because I dropped my lipliner at some point. Walked the parking lot and everything. It wasn’t about the dumb lipliner at all. But something about losing things makes me so anxious and I can’t shake it until I find the item.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:45:12 GMT -6
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Post by canteverremember on Sept 18, 2020 8:45:12 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. I feel that you wouldn’t post that though because you can read the room.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:45:29 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:45:29 GMT -6
Awe this is a cute story. And lol about the patio set 🤣 He was laughing because I came home and looked seriously bummed. He asked if I had a rough day at work and I said no I just thought maybe you got that bistro table I wanted since you were in town today. He looked at me like I had 3 heads. Turns out he was in town tracking down my parents so he could ask my dad his blessing. Then we went to dinner where I groaned about the jeweler still not having my ring fixed and how my finger just felt so naked and I wanted my ring back. Turns out he told the jeweler not to call me yet and he had the ring in his pocket the whole time I moaned and groaned. I'm real fun. At least the surprise element worked out for him!
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Sept 18, 2020 8:47:12 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:47:12 GMT -6
He was laughing because I came home and looked seriously bummed. He asked if I had a rough day at work and I said no I just thought maybe you got that bistro table I wanted since you were in town today. He looked at me like I had 3 heads. Turns out he was in town tracking down my parents so he could ask my dad his blessing. Then we went to dinner where I groaned about the jeweler still not having my ring fixed and how my finger just felt so naked and I wanted my ring back. Turns out he told the jeweler not to call me yet and he had the ring in his pocket the whole time I moaned and groaned. I'm real fun. At least the surprise element worked out for him! Oh I was totally shocked. When he proposed I was speechless then he asked again and I was like are you fucking kidding me right now?? He was like uhhh you still haven't answered so I yelled duh I'll marry you! Super romantic. Much love.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:47:18 GMT -6
Post by rosalind on Sept 18, 2020 8:47:18 GMT -6
I also confess that I FEEL (keywords here) - I feel had I posted: "I am just not tied to jewelry, it's not that serious" after someone's confession that some here would have jumped all up and down in my ass. Read the room, tone and timing would all be cited. Anyway, carry on. I feel like something like that happens 4-5 per day minimum. I read and wtf after the fact.
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