Pistol
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Sept 18, 2020 8:19:07 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:19:07 GMT -6
@holliberry do you want to keep them if you don't have a bad surgery experience? (I didn't know how to say that appropriately sorry)? I have journals that are 😬😬😬 too and I'd probably trash them if I thought DD would read them. *this is just me They do hold sentimental value. I just don't want anyone to ever read them. Can you elect a friend who will swear to burn them without reading if anything happens to you? I have a friend who is ready to swoop in and remove all sex toys and anything else embarrassing if H and I both die in a freak car accident so my mom doesn't have to find a dildo while grieving my death and cleaning out my house.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:19:11 GMT -6
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Post by donnamoss on Sept 18, 2020 8:19:11 GMT -6
@holliberry It flew off my finger while I was a passenger in a car. We’ve looked everywhere. We were careful but it was nighttime and kids were climbing in and out of the car.
I’m holding onto a small sliver of hope that we find it.
I needed to have it sized (again) as I’ve lost a considerable amount of weight. The temp dropped a bit yesterday here and my fingers must have just been extra skinny.
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McBenny
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Sept 18, 2020 8:19:37 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Sept 18, 2020 8:19:37 GMT -6
I guess I will confess that I cried about Chadwick Boseman for like 3 days. Snotty cried.
I still can't really talk about it. I don't what the hell I was crying about.
I am tearing up just typing this.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:19:42 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:19:42 GMT -6
I'm not attached to my rings. I upgraded from the original a few years ago.
Someone once told me they disliked their ring and when I asked if they were going to get a new one they were aghast because their husband gave it to them. Why wear something you don't like...?
Anyway, I'm not attached to any object and DH thinks I'm a psychopath. The whole house could burn and I wouldn't shed a tear over my things.
Except my creatures. I need my humans/pets. Just have no attachment for any object at all.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:19:44 GMT -6
Post by coconutbacon on Sept 18, 2020 8:19:44 GMT -6
I shared last night but I lost my engagement ring. I’m devastated. Haven’t cried so hard in years and years. I’m so puffy this morning there is no way I can get on Teams meetings and show my face. I feel silly for losing my mind over a ring. And simultaneously, it’s my MF-ing ring, and I loved it and 13 years in, I still stared at it and thought it was perfect and how lucky I was to have found this man who would give me this ring. And I’m crying, again... Oh no! That's awful. I'm sorry. I don't think you're silly for crying. It's not just some jewelry. It has sentimental value as well.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:20:05 GMT -6
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Post by emma on Sept 18, 2020 8:20:05 GMT -6
My kid's preschool sends emails summarizing things they learned that day. They've been learning about bugs all month and it was all about stag beetles yesterday. First of all, I was like, what's a stag beetle? And no, I did not know that stag beetle larvae communicate, or where they lay their eggs, or what they eat, or.... I never finished preschool and maybe there's been a gap in my education all along. Last year my kids K teacher sent out weekly learning emails and they spent a lot of time subertizing. I had to good and still not entirely sure what it is.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:20:22 GMT -6
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 18, 2020 8:20:22 GMT -6
Me and my H got into a lively debate last night on what were the primary colors. We are still in disagreement.
*Apparently there are multiple groups of primary colors. Like paint colors vs computer primary colors.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:21:39 GMT -6
Post by Rusty Red on Sept 18, 2020 8:21:39 GMT -6
I guess I will confess that I cried about Chadwick Boseman for like 3 days. Snotty cried. I still can't really talk about it. I don't what the hell I was crying about. I am tearing up just typing this. I haven't seen Black Panther and wasn't really familiar with much about him, but even despite that I was really bothered by his death. It felt like a serious punch from 2020 that is already a cesspool.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:22:16 GMT -6
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Post by lucilleaustero on Sept 18, 2020 8:22:16 GMT -6
I guess my confession is that gainful employment is a non negotiable for me when I’m dating. I’ve settled into the fact that I would rather be single than to live a standard of life with my husband that’s not acceptable to me. I’ve also realized that it would not sit well with me to be the breadwinner in the house. Honestly, if DH and were no longer married, I would have high standards for the gainful eployment of a potential partner. I would/could not be happy in a relationship where my standard of living was not met.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:22:17 GMT -6
Post by Rusty Red on Sept 18, 2020 8:22:17 GMT -6
Solid employment is a definite must in a partner. No exceptions. I learned that lesson the hard way.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:23:12 GMT -6
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Post by lucilleaustero on Sept 18, 2020 8:23:12 GMT -6
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Post by thatgolfb on Sept 18, 2020 8:23:19 GMT -6
My H will be away on a business trip the 2 days the kids are in school next week so I am giving myself the day off. The only thing I can think of to do is get my flu shot and schedule a vet visit for the dog. Then maybe log into work incognito and get stuff done. 2020 has broken me. Any suggestions for what I should do between 8 am - 2:30 pm? Go get breakfast (or order breakfast). Get a massage. Get your nails done. IDK it's hard to find things that you're comfortable doing bc of that bitch Rona. Read in a beautiful metro park? I struggle with finding ways to 'treat myself' during these days. I like to binge my feel good shows or movies that H isn’t interested in. Or the ones that make me bawl if I need a good cry. 😂
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Sept 18, 2020 8:23:39 GMT -6
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Post by canteverremember on Sept 18, 2020 8:23:39 GMT -6
I shared last night but I lost my engagement ring. I’m devastated. Haven’t cried so hard in years and years. I’m so puffy this morning there is no way I can get on Teams meetings and show my face. I feel silly for losing my mind over a ring. And simultaneously, it’s my MF-ing ring, and I loved it and 13 years in, I still stared at it and thought it was perfect and how lucky I was to have found this man who would give me this ring. And I’m crying, again... I’m sorry I’d be a wreck too. I’ve had it 20 years and it’s like part of me. Don’t feel silly. I hope so much that it turns up soon.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:24:16 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:24:16 GMT -6
DH doesn't wear a ring and I think I've shared that before and got some gasps. He doesn't like jewelry 🤷♀️
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McBenny
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Sept 18, 2020 8:24:42 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Sept 18, 2020 8:24:42 GMT -6
It's a traumatic event for me the way my anxiety is set up to lose things. It doesn't have to be sentimental or my ring. I will be very upset about it. I don't lose things normally. As much as I would try to get passed it, it would pop in my head.
It will replay and replay for days that I lost something and where could it be etc.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:24:56 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:24:56 GMT -6
I guess my confession is that gainful employment is a non negotiable for me when I’m dating. I’ve settled into the fact that I would rather be single than to live a standard of life with my husband that’s not acceptable to me. I’ve also realized that it would not sit well with me to be the breadwinner in the house. One of my new TX friends that I have been trying to ghost for a minute (well I had ghosted and then she popped back up) was obsessed with the issue that she made more than her man. I mean I told her if it's that much of an issue leave him then. I have never heard breadwinner said so much before in real life. It wasn't like it was making nothing just not more than her.
Anyway, FF now he got a promotion and a substantial raise.
She is now harping on something else.
Come ups definitely happen and I’m 100% here for it. But the thing is I’ll have come ups too. Lol. So I need for my husband to be starting ahead. For me, it’s caused problems. Especially since I’m “so young”. I want to do certain things, and be treated a certain way but if we are on different levels we can’t relate. I may be missing out on my one, but my one might also have a dog so I could be destined for the single life either way.
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Pistol
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Sept 18, 2020 8:24:57 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:24:57 GMT -6
Me and my H got into a lively debate last night on what were the primary colors. We are still in disagreement. *Apparently there are multiple groups of primary colors. Like paint colors vs computer primary colors. Red, yellow, blue. What else is there?!
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Sept 18, 2020 8:25:01 GMT -6
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Post by rvasc on Sept 18, 2020 8:25:01 GMT -6
I shared last night but I lost my engagement ring. I’m devastated. Haven’t cried so hard in years and years. I’m so puffy this morning there is no way I can get on Teams meetings and show my face. I feel silly for losing my mind over a ring. And simultaneously, it’s my MF-ing ring, and I loved it and 13 years in, I still stared at it and thought it was perfect and how lucky I was to have found this man who would give me this ring. And I’m crying, again... I thought I threw mine away recently and it was the same thing. It’s not even an expensive ring! Like called my parents and my mom thought there had been a tragedy because I was sobbing devastation. I don’t think it’s silly. H was, “I’ll get you a new one! We can spend more now so it can be really nice!” And I was, “But it won’t mean anything ::wailing::!” I get it. I hope you find yours.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:26:39 GMT -6
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Post by Kida on Sept 18, 2020 8:26:39 GMT -6
I confess that apparently I don't know the difference between soft or hard g. I thought soft was guh and hard was juh. I say gif as gift and refuse jiff.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:26:44 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:26:44 GMT -6
It's a traumatic event for me the way my anxiety is set up to lose things. It doesn't have to be sentimental or my ring. I will be very upset about it. I don't lose things normally. As much as I would try to get passed it, it would pop in my head. It will replay and replay for days that I lost something and where could it be etc. I get this. I've lost things I've never found before and I just end up thinking someone took it because I can't get over the fact I can't find it.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:26:49 GMT -6
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Post by babybean on Sept 18, 2020 8:26:49 GMT -6
I guess I will confess that I cried about Chadwick Boseman for like 3 days. Snotty cried. I still can't really talk about it. I don't what the hell I was crying about. I am tearing up just typing this. I did too.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:27:26 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:27:26 GMT -6
I wish I still had some of my old journals to read. I used to write so many and it would be fun to relive. I have no idea what happened to them though 🤔
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Sept 18, 2020 8:27:28 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2020 8:27:28 GMT -6
I had a god damn barbie watch at the age of 7 I never found again and I will NEVER FORGET.
Losing things bugs me lol
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Sept 18, 2020 8:28:50 GMT -6
Post by piratecat on Sept 18, 2020 8:28:50 GMT -6
DH doesn't wear a ring and I think I've shared that before and got some gasps. He doesn't like jewelry 🤷♀️ Mine doesn't either and I used to but stopped after I was pregnant with my kid and they got tight and haven't really gone back to wearing them since.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:29:28 GMT -6
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 18, 2020 8:29:28 GMT -6
Me and my H got into a lively debate last night on what were the primary colors. We are still in disagreement. *Apparently there are multiple groups of primary colors. Like paint colors vs computer primary colors. Red, yellow, blue. What else is there?! That was my thought! Apparently for computer or something it is red, blue, and green. There were a tense few minutes.
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McBenny
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Sept 18, 2020 8:29:41 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Sept 18, 2020 8:29:41 GMT -6
I don't tell people to leave people (barring abuse) cause I don't know how great shit is when it's great. I don't know how bad it is when it's bad. I also know people that aren't happy but they aren't miserable and they feel that's ok. Who am I to exert the energy to tell someone to leave? People say it will get greater later and for some that may be the case. I also have had to deal with some be more miserable later. You just never know how the shit is going to go.
During a global pandemic - I am not telling anyone to leave anything. Not jobs, not businesses, not relationships right now cause I feel shit is going to get worse.
I am just confessing my feelings on the matter and not telling anyone here how to feel or how to move. The end.
Plus - when a woman is truly fed up she will move mountains and no one could talk her out of it so again barring abuse I just roll with it and listen.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:29:45 GMT -6
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Post by Pistol on Sept 18, 2020 8:29:45 GMT -6
I would be a wreck if I lost my rings. My wedding set is a wrap around my engagement ring so its all one. I do think I lost my mom's original set somewhere which has me fairly upset. They have to be in the house somewhere. I just can't find where.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:30:03 GMT -6
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Post by icedcoffee on Sept 18, 2020 8:30:03 GMT -6
I picked out my own ring and I'm happy I did. I think MH would have done fine on his own but I really really love my ring and I'm not sure he would have picked this style
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Sept 18, 2020 8:30:37 GMT -6
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Post by joy on Sept 18, 2020 8:30:37 GMT -6
I had a god damn barbie watch at the age of 7 I never found again and I will NEVER FORGET. Losing things bugs me lol I left my favorite stuffed Ernie in a sewing store. I was about six. Every time we went back, I looked for it. I never found him. I told my mom that story when I was in college. She was horrified that I never said anything. She would have asked the store. I said she didn’t want me to bring a toy because I could lose it and I brought it anyway. I thought it was my punishment. She was a sad panda at the whole story.
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Sept 18, 2020 8:31:22 GMT -6
Post by Rusty Red on Sept 18, 2020 8:31:22 GMT -6
McBenny, that is part of why I struggle to make a choice. A lot of my anxiety is caught up in this pandemic and my home situation, and I don't want to project that on to my relationship. I can't really gauge how much I am doing that. Part of me feels like I am the dumpster fire part of this equation. He has definitely done some things I have mentioned in other threads with which I'm not happy, but I can't decide if I'm overreacting or not.
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