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Post by danib on Jul 13, 2020 10:50:10 GMT -6
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Post by danib on Jul 13, 2020 11:24:53 GMT -6
Weeks- 7 (May 22) The Good - Everything is pretty much status quo around here these days. G is sleeping well, eating tons, and getting more social every day. We've gotten some adorable smiles and laughs from him lately and his big brothers continue to be obsessed with him. We also just had his baptism so I'm super happy that's off my list. The Bad - Dude hates his car seat. Unless he falls asleep right away (or we hit zero red lights) car rides really suck. Milestones/Appointments - Newborn audiology test on Thursday (hospital is super behind in getting this done!) To Do List - nothing at the moment.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 13, 2020 12:42:17 GMT -6
danib it sucks so much when a baby hates the car. DD2 was like that and the only thing that would settle her down was singing or playing the row your boat song. I hope G grows out of it soon.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 13, 2020 12:51:32 GMT -6
Weeks- 3 tomorrow
The Good - I feel basically back to normal. V is eating well and is a great snuggler. DH is going on a guys trip this weekend and the big girls will be staying at the IL’s house so I get my house to myself and V.
The Bad - I think she has silent reflux. She arches her back in pain, I hear her spit up but then she swallows it, hates to be laid down in the evening. Last night she just wouldn’t stay asleep unless I was holding her so that’s how we slept.
Milestones/Appointments - none for a few weeks
To Do List - laundry...which never ends.
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Post by magaroni on Jul 13, 2020 12:52:29 GMT -6
Weeks- 7 ( May 22)
The Good - Getting a lot of smiles first thing in the morning. Last night she slept from 8-3:30.
The Bad - I had gone dairy free to see if it would help her spit up. She was still spitting up a lot after 5 weeks weeks dairy free so this weekend I started adding dairy back in. For the past 30 hours she done nothing but cry and spit up.
Milestones/Appointments - 2 month appointment in 2 weeks.
To Do List - Pack and clean. We leave Sunday for a week at the beach.
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Post by danib on Jul 13, 2020 14:23:09 GMT -6
Oh magaroni that sounds awful. Do you think you need to go back to eliminating dairy? I feel like soy often accompanies dairy issues (it doesn't for us, but I've definitely heard it with other people).
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Post by magaroni on Jul 13, 2020 14:36:38 GMT -6
Oh magaroni that sounds awful. Do you think you need to go back to eliminating dairy? I feel like soy often accompanies dairy issues (it doesn't for us, but I've definitely heard it with other people). I’m definitely going to eliminate dairy again. She spit up a lot before but was at least happy. She’s been miserable today. I’m going to try soy as well to see if that helps even more.
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Post by hangry on Jul 13, 2020 17:33:16 GMT -6
magaroni I’m sorry. I went soy and dairy free for months with my second and it sucked. DD was at least happy and slept so much better after the change though. trtlcrzy I held my DD for months before the doctor finally agreed to try some meds for reflux. She kept on saying, “maybe it isn’t that bad”. And I talked myself out of thinking things were bad. As said above, I ended up needing to change my diet, but maybe reflux meds would work for you! danib I’m jealous of your hearing test! They had cancelled that in-hospital service at the height of covid here and so I had to wait for it to resume in the community. Well, I got a call when DS was 8 weeks old saying that it still wasn’t up yet and they don’t do it in babies over 8 weeks so we won’t have one. She just gave me a list of things to look for over the next several months/year for signs of hearing loss. Based on how this poor child jumps at his older siblings loudness, I’m not worried. But it is a weird thing of these times.
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Post by hangry on Jul 13, 2020 17:43:18 GMT -6
Weeks- 12 weeks old
The Good - T is eating great. Growing like a weed. Sleeping ok. He sleeps in 3 hour chunks at night and goes down pretty easily but naps are all in my arms or in the stroller. He wakes whenever I put him down during the day sleeps. He’s smiling and giggling. Big sibs adore him. I’m feeling pretty stable and happy.
The Bad - Day naps aren’t great. I am losing so.much.hair. I was finally able to schedule a hair cut for aug 1, so I’m excited for that.
Milestones/Appointments - more social. He’s found his hand to suck on and it’s really cute. No appointments until shots at 4 months.
To Do List - So many life to-do lists. But I need my H for them. But we also need the older two in care/school before tackling those. So for now, nothing.
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Post by danib on Jul 13, 2020 17:51:26 GMT -6
hangry G will be getting it done literally 1 day before 8 weeks, so just under the wire. I don't think he has issues because he generally will turn towards my voice if someone else is holding him. But other than that he doesn't react to much noise (singing doesn't sooth him, he sleeps through the boys screaming, etc) so I would probably have a little anxiety if we weren't going to get it done.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 13, 2020 18:22:40 GMT -6
magaroni I’m sorry. I went soy and dairy free for months with my second and it sucked. DD was at least happy and slept so much better after the change though. trtlcrzy I held my DD for months before the doctor finally agreed to try some meds for reflux. She kept on saying, “maybe it isn’t that bad”. And I talked myself out of thinking things were bad. As said above, I ended up needing to change my diet, but maybe reflux meds would work for you! danib I’m jealous of your hearing test! They had cancelled that in-hospital service at the height of covid here and so I had to wait for it to resume in the community. Well, I got a call when DS was 8 weeks old saying that it still wasn’t up yet and they don’t do it in babies over 8 weeks so we won’t have one. She just gave me a list of things to look for over the next several months/year for signs of hearing loss. Based on how this poor child jumps at his older siblings loudness, I’m not worried. But it is a weird thing of these times. The nurse messaged me back and suggested we try diet changes first. I really don’t do much dairy but yesterday I did have some Oreos and milk so maybe that affected her? Who knows. The only other change yesterday was we gave her milk in a bottle for the first time. She seemed to eat it just fine and didn’t seem to get a lot of air or anything. Idk.
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Post by sdlaura on Jul 13, 2020 19:43:22 GMT -6
For those doing good changes, my babies are sensitive to both dairy and wheat/gluten when I’m BFing - so I’ve cut both. Somehow I still can’t manage to get the scale to move on losing the rest of the baby weight
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Post by willow on Jul 14, 2020 6:52:04 GMT -6
Weeks- 3 months on Thursday!
The Good - 4th trimester is done! I don’t want to say it out loud because I’m terrified of jinxing it but these babies are such good sleepers. I am counting my lucky stars after my firstborn’s horrible baby sleep. They have stretched out to 8-9.5 hour overnight sleep now and they still do really well with naps during the day. Sometimes I’m worried they sleep too much during the day but then they still do well overnight so I guess they are just naturally sleepier kids. Which is absolutely fine by me! Lol.
The Bad - I am very much ready to get back to work so I feel like these next 3 weeks are going to drag. I feel bad but I’m just ready for a little normalcy.
Milestones/Appointments - H is trying sooo hard to roll over but he gets stuck lol. No appts til next month for 4 month well visit.
To Do List - Just keep swimming along...
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Post by Radley on Jul 14, 2020 8:08:22 GMT -6
Weeks - 4 weeks
The Good - She naps pretty good and sleeps through most of her brothers’ noise.
The Bad - She’s fairly hard to settle in the evenings. Not screaming and crying but lots of on off nursing and doing but not really sleeping well. It’s usually pretty late 12-1am before she settles. I’m still so sore from the c section and I’m fairly positive that my UTI is not gone despite the antibiotics.
Milestones/Appointments - she is a month old this week 😭
To Do List - Not much really
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Post by txaggie08 on Jul 14, 2020 10:00:50 GMT -6
Weeks - almost 6 The Good - Night sleep has been good the last two nights. He also loves to smile at everyone. I know that babies aren't supposed to socially smile this early, but he definitely reacts with a smile when you smile at him. The Bad - His day sleep is awful. Between that and my lunatic older children being at home, I'm exhausted and wired at the end of every day. I'm not doing a good job of parenting the older ones and it's stressing me out. Milestones/Appointments - We go to the pediatric dentist this Thursday for his lip tie revision and possible revision of his tongue tie. I'm looking forward to slightly less sore nipples. To Do List - Stay sane and not yell at my older kids as much.
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Post by magaroni on Jul 14, 2020 10:10:36 GMT -6
txaggie08 I feel like I’m not doing a feat job with the older kids either. I’m touched out and stressed/anxious by the time DH gets home from work. I’ve started running again so that seems to help on evenings I can get away to do that.
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Post by txaggie08 on Jul 14, 2020 10:14:36 GMT -6
txaggie08 I feel like I’m not doing a feat job with the older kids either. I’m touched out and stressed/anxious by the time DH gets home from work. I’ve started running again so that seems to help on evenings I can get away to do that. I took a solo walk this morning and that definitely helped. I really miss running, but don't think my body is ready for that yet. Another issue is that it's so hot that we're all stuck inside most of the day. It was still over 100* last night at 8:30. So gross.
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Post by Radley on Jul 14, 2020 10:30:21 GMT -6
Add me to the group struggling with parenting the other kids. I’m touched out or if they need intervention, I’m under the baby who is nursing or finally asleep. It isn’t ideal for sure.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 14, 2020 20:19:02 GMT -6
Weeks - 4 weeks The Good - She naps pretty good and sleeps through most of her brothers’ noise. The Bad - She’s fairly hard to settle in the evenings. Not screaming and crying but lots of on off nursing and doing but not really sleeping well. It’s usually pretty late 12-1am before she settles. I’m still so sore from the c section and I’m fairly positive that my UTI is not gone despite the antibiotics. Milestones/Appointments - she is a month old this week 😭 To Do List - Not much really That’s exactly how V is in the evening. Drives me crazy. I get really sleepy by the time she finally will stay asleep for a while.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 14, 2020 20:24:38 GMT -6
My big kids don’t listen, which is a real problem when I’m stuck under the baby. I do feel that the Zoloft helps me to not get as agitated with them. I still take a break from them when DH gets home from work, which helps.
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Post by danib on Jul 15, 2020 4:00:40 GMT -6
My big kids don’t listen, which is a real problem when I’m stuck under the baby. I do feel that the Zoloft helps me to not get as agitated with them. I still take a break from them when DH gets home from work, which helps. I swear DS2 purposely chooses feeding time to be bad because he knows I'm stuck and can't put him in his room.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 15, 2020 6:20:13 GMT -6
My big kids don’t listen, which is a real problem when I’m stuck under the baby. I do feel that the Zoloft helps me to not get as agitated with them. I still take a break from them when DH gets home from work, which helps. I swear DS2 purposely chooses feeding time to be bad because he knows I'm stuck and can't put him in his room. Sounds about right
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Post by sdlaura on Jul 15, 2020 8:43:54 GMT -6
All of you who at home with all your kids and without your partners around during the day (or longer) are rock stars! We have care for the older three during weekdays and DH is WFH, and I still feel like the 5-ish hours each weekday afternoon/evening and all weekend are PLENTY of time for all six of us to be together. I don’t need more
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Post by lucylou on Jul 15, 2020 9:11:31 GMT -6
Weeks- 3 weeks
The Good - yesterday was my first full day truly alone with all 3 kids and it went better than expected. I can tell D is still gaining well. I swear he’s about grown out of his 3 month sleepers. I feel almost back to normal as far as c section pain.
The Bad -ugh. A lot of bad. Just when we have a decent night of sleeping, it’s followed by a horrific night (last night). It’s only 11 and the older kids have watched way too much tv already. I feel spread too thin. I feel awful for my poor DS2 (2.5). I swore I wouldn’t let him become a stereotypical middle child but 3 weeks in and he’s already falling through the cracks. He starts preschool for the first time next month so I’m just trying to hold on until then. I also have guilt for not talking/interacting with the baby more during his brief awake times but the other 2 take it outta me. I’ve got nothing left to say lol. It’s becoming apparent that I wouldn’t be able to handle a 4th child that I really wanted to have and it’s got me down. H is being a dick. Usually he’s a great guy but the past few days have me wanting to punch him. I don’t ask him for help motn. Ever. In the past, he’s proven unhelpful and even unsafe because he doesn’t fully wake up. So why TF is he acting put out in some way? Yes the evenings have been hectic but he literally only has to deal with it for 2 hours between the time he gets home and bedtime so he really needs to have a seat.
Milestones/Appointments - nothing this week
To Do List - try to find time to sleep haha
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Post by sdlaura on Jul 15, 2020 9:39:39 GMT -6
lucylou definitely don’t decide anything about your family size when you have a 3-week-old! By the time you did consider another baby, your older kids will all be older and more self sufficient too.
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Post by magaroni on Jul 15, 2020 11:11:25 GMT -6
lucylou I second what sdlaura said. We were certain we were going to be done after 3 but then decided to have a 4th. It is hard to feel like you are giving them all the attention they deserve. Not sure if this is a possibility for you but my parents have taken each of the older ones separately for a special sleepover at their house. They get their undivided attention and it takes one child off my hands for a night so everyone loves it.
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Post by lucylou on Jul 15, 2020 11:49:52 GMT -6
Thanks ladies. Honestly, I just feel like our family isn’t doing very well as a whole right now and I’m scared the toll a 4th would take. *I* know it would only be super temporary in the grand scheme of things but I don’t think the rest of them think it’s worth it😔. And knowing it would likely be harder than this time around, with an extra toddler thrown in, I know I would need more help which means everybody needs to be on board. *eta: obviously everybody needs to be on board regardless but I mean like, want it as much as I do so I don’t feel guilty when I ask for help
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Post by sdlaura on Jul 15, 2020 12:30:05 GMT -6
Thanks ladies. Honestly, I just feel like our family isn’t doing very well as a whole right now and I’m scared the toll a 4th would take. *I* know it would only be super temporary in the grand scheme of things but I don’t think the rest of them think it’s worth it😔. And knowing it would likely be harder than this time around, with an extra toddler thrown in, I know I would need more help which means everybody needs to be on board. *eta: obviously everybody needs to be on board regardless but I mean like, want it as much as I do so I don’t feel guilty when I ask for help I recommend putting it completely out of your mind until baby is at least a year old - then see how you feel!
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Post by Radley on Jul 15, 2020 13:56:28 GMT -6
Weeks - 4 weeks The Good - She naps pretty good and sleeps through most of her brothers’ noise. The Bad - She’s fairly hard to settle in the evenings. Not screaming and crying but lots of on off nursing and doing but not really sleeping well. It’s usually pretty late 12-1am before she settles. I’m still so sore from the c section and I’m fairly positive that my UTI is not gone despite the antibiotics. Milestones/Appointments - she is a month old this week 😭 To Do List - Not much really That’s exactly how V is in the evening. Drives me crazy. I get really sleepy by the time she finally will stay asleep for a while. Oh yeah, I keep a can of mixed nuts and some water nearby to keep myself from dozing off the later it gets. It’s exhausting!
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Post by Radley on Jul 15, 2020 14:02:05 GMT -6
lucylou don’t even worry about it right now! Life can change so quickly. Things after DS2 was born were not good at all. H and I had our toughest patch, DS2 had feeding problems and DS1 was coming in second place to feeding DS2. I was so certain we’d never have another kid after him. It’s hard with 3 though right now but I just keep telling myself that we’re in the very early stages. ETA and if you decide it really isn’t going to work out having another, that’s perfectly ok and you can handle those emotions then
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