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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2020 13:57:38 GMT -6
speaking of premom. my strips are still positive and my OPKs are still so negative. i’ll never get rid of this HCG. 🙄
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 15, 2020 15:13:01 GMT -6
@zweber I would ask the RE at your appointment to do a beta for you. After you explain the asshattery of your OB, I’m sure they will understand.
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Post by catlady22 on Jul 15, 2020 15:19:20 GMT -6
@zweber I agree with the above, definitely get a draw. It took mine forever to to be negative about 30 days
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2020 15:23:06 GMT -6
robotsvswrestlers & catlady22 i totally will. it's only been 31 one days and i know some women take like 6 weeks. i am the most impatient of them all.. also anyone that has been to an RE or infertility clinic did you have to attend a class? i have a class friday (virtual) before my appointment (also virtual) apparently it's a genetics course!?
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 15, 2020 15:30:15 GMT -6
robotsvswrestlers & catlady22 i totally will. it's only been 31 one days and i know some women take like 6 weeks. i am the most impatient of them all.. also anyone that has been to an RE or infertility clinic did you have to attend a class? i have a class friday (virtual) before my appointment (also virtual) apparently it's a genetics course!? It hasn’t been long but if your beta is supposedly 2, I’m surprised you’re turning tests. Aren’t those detection limits usually like 20? ETA I just remembered blood and urine HCG can be different levels. So maybe it’s not so surprising. I never attended a class? I’m guessing it’s to inform you of things so they don’t have to explain in person and have you better prepared for your appointment. I’m really excited for you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2020 15:53:37 GMT -6
yesss robotsvswrestlers my hcg was 3.9 a week ago. but my tests have been the exact same all week so that 3 damn miu is like "nah we chillin"
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 15, 2020 16:17:58 GMT -6
omg it worked. those are expensive too!! THANKS DONNA!!!! Yes!! Extra pee sticks! We can pee on all the things!
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 15, 2020 19:53:25 GMT -6
CD1. *throws shit* I let myself get my hopes up. I’m so upset
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2020 22:08:33 GMT -6
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Post by catlady22 on Jul 16, 2020 7:00:07 GMT -6
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 16, 2020 7:00:56 GMT -6
lemondrop,I am so so sorry. @zweber,how dark are the tests?
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 16, 2020 7:02:27 GMT -6
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 16, 2020 7:53:41 GMT -6
Thanks y'all.
It took over a year to conceive our son, so I don't know why I thought this time would be any easier.
Also, it's complete bullshit that pregnancy symptoms and PMS symptoms are the same. COMPLETE. FUCKING. BULLSHIT.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2020 8:12:14 GMT -6
Thanks y'all. It took over a year to conceive our son, so I don't know why I thought this time would be any easier. Also, it's complete bullshit that pregnancy symptoms and PMS symptoms are the same. COMPLETE. FUCKING. BULLSHIT. lemondrop are you going to seek RE help to give your body a little nudge? like hey body... we are trying to make a baby here! get with the program
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 16, 2020 9:15:38 GMT -6
Thanks y'all. It took over a year to conceive our son, so I don't know why I thought this time would be any easier. Also, it's complete bullshit that pregnancy symptoms and PMS symptoms are the same. COMPLETE. FUCKING. BULLSHIT. lemondrop are you going to seek RE help to give your body a little nudge? like hey body... we are trying to make a baby here! get with the program We've talked about it but I'm in a weird age/ timing situation. Typically you can't get an appt with my RE unless you've been trying for over a year if you're under 35 - or 6 months of trying if over 35. Or if you have a history of loss, which I (fortunately) do not. We're going on 6 months and I'm almost exactly 34 and a half. Infertility is also not covered by my insurance, so it's completely out of pocket to the tune of like $450 an hour with the RE.
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Post by pbandj714 on Jul 16, 2020 9:31:43 GMT -6
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 16, 2020 10:14:25 GMT -6
lemondrop are you going to seek RE help to give your body a little nudge? like hey body... we are trying to make a baby here! get with the program We've talked about it but I'm in a weird age/ timing situation. Typically you can't get an appt with my RE unless you've been trying for over a year if you're under 35 - or 6 months of trying if over 35. Or if you have a history of loss, which I (fortunately) do not. We're going on 6 months and I'm almost exactly 34 and a half. Infertility is also not covered by my insurance, so it's completely out of pocket to the tune of like $450 an hour with the RE. If you really wanted to go, then I bet you could find someone who would take you. But I don’t think you should feel like you have to go. It is expensive and time consuming and can be exhausting. The waiting and uncertainty is the worst and my impatience ebbs and flows. Sometimes I think, if it takes 3 more months it’s fine. Other times I want to cry and think I can’t take this another month.
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 16, 2020 10:47:56 GMT -6
We've talked about it but I'm in a weird age/ timing situation. Typically you can't get an appt with my RE unless you've been trying for over a year if you're under 35 - or 6 months of trying if over 35. Or if you have a history of loss, which I (fortunately) do not. We're going on 6 months and I'm almost exactly 34 and a half. Infertility is also not covered by my insurance, so it's completely out of pocket to the tune of like $450 an hour with the RE. If you really wanted to go, then I bet you could find someone who would take you. But I don’t think you should feel like you have to go. It is expensive and time consuming and can be exhausting. The waiting and uncertainty is the worst and my impatience ebbs and flows. Sometimes I think, if it takes 3 more months it’s fine. Other times I want to cry and think I can’t take this another month. oh, I know this life. I lied last time after 9 months and said we'd been trying for a year in order for them to take me. It took a few months to get an appointment, they did a bunch of incredibly expensive testing (for me and my H) and emotionally destroying me. I ended up getting pg on my own, right before they put me on Clomid.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2020 11:15:42 GMT -6
lemondrop are you going to seek RE help to give your body a little nudge? like hey body... we are trying to make a baby here! get with the program We've talked about it but I'm in a weird age/ timing situation. Typically you can't get an appt with my RE unless you've been trying for over a year if you're under 35 - or 6 months of trying if over 35. Or if you have a history of loss, which I (fortunately) do not. We're going on 6 months and I'm almost exactly 34 and a half. Infertility is also not covered by my insurance, so it's completely out of pocket to the tune of like $450 an hour with the RE. ohhh i'm so sorry i think i got you confused with another poster with a similar avatar. shells and cheese maybe? i thought you'd been trying for a year, that's why i asked.
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 16, 2020 11:48:14 GMT -6
Well I am about to lose my shit. High school friend’s wife (we don’t hang out so much the past 3 years bc his wife sucks) just posted on FB that they are expecting their 4th. She got drunk and drove through a gazebo with 2 kids in the car last year.
She has mental health/anxiety issues and supposedly has been in rehab/therapy and I know everyone deserves a chance. But what the actual fuck. There goes my patience. Why can’t I get pregnant like that????
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 16, 2020 11:52:33 GMT -6
We've talked about it but I'm in a weird age/ timing situation. Typically you can't get an appt with my RE unless you've been trying for over a year if you're under 35 - or 6 months of trying if over 35. Or if you have a history of loss, which I (fortunately) do not. We're going on 6 months and I'm almost exactly 34 and a half. Infertility is also not covered by my insurance, so it's completely out of pocket to the tune of like $450 an hour with the RE. ohhh i'm so sorry i think i got you confused with another poster with a similar avatar. shells and cheese maybe? i thought you'd been trying for a year, that's why i asked. you're fine, I don't generally assume everyone remembers my specific TTC history
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2020 12:20:30 GMT -6
robotsvswrestlers i relate to you so hard. i am crying at my desk right now because of something like this. the only person IRL who knows in depth what i've been through lately and how badly me and mh want a child together just sent me a picture of a baby she got to hold today. she sent "yep i need one" with the photo cause she was back and forth on whether or not she wanted to ttc. like.. ok? congrats to that girl's body for not killing that baby. i will go buy her a trophy. a normal person probably wouldn't take this much offense but it fucking tore me apart for her to send ME a picture of a new baby. she could have just said "i decided to ttc!"
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Post by catlady22 on Jul 16, 2020 12:33:44 GMT -6
robotsvswrestlers so unfair @zweber wow that's not right, especially since she knew your situation. I'm so sorry.
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 16, 2020 12:53:02 GMT -6
I know @zweber. It’s so hard for normal people to relate to us and to understand how it’s like a knife in the heart. I went to my coworker who knows everything and understands (she is 60 with endo and was never able to conceive) and she just said “I’m sorry, that’s so unfair” and it meant so much to me.
Luckily I haven’t seen her in two years and him in maybe a year, so I can avoid. I still haven’t seen their third kid in person.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2020 13:31:19 GMT -6
i just took the last hour to cry and clear my head. i was feeling better and i even texted her back. i open a message from someone i haven’t heard from in FIVE years and he says “i just passed through *hometown* and thought of you! how are you?” i replied and he said “oh i’m good, just waiting for this damn baby to be born!”
i haven’t heard from you in five years and OF COURSE you’re waiting for a baby to be born and you needed to tell me today.
i hate this i hate this i hate this i hate this. i am not okay with any of this.
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Post by sally on Jul 16, 2020 13:57:04 GMT -6
robotsvswrestlers & catlady22 i totally will. it's only been 31 one days and i know some women take like 6 weeks. i am the most impatient of them all.. also anyone that has been to an RE or infertility clinic did you have to attend a class? i have a class friday (virtual) before my appointment (also virtual) apparently it's a genetics course!? **lurking** I had to do a “class” before IVF cycles but not before other treatments. And I had to do the class before. Each. IVF. Cycle. Which was awesome. /s. I can see it being helpful at this point though depending on what kind of treatment or testing they do for you- it’ll also make the appointment with the dr shorter and allow you to ask any questions that come up in the meantime that you might not think of when they throw info at you in the class.
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Post by shellsncheese on Jul 16, 2020 13:58:51 GMT -6
I'm so sorry to everyone having a hard time. It sucks and I wish no one had to go through this. It is somewhat comforting to know I'm not crazy for feeling all the same things you all are feeling. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this in real life. Only 1 friend knows and she had no troubles getting pregnant. I would tell my sister, but she's done IVF (unsuccessfully) and can't have kids so I don't want to hurt her since I do have a son.
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Post by onyx on Jul 17, 2020 7:21:56 GMT -6
My SIL added me to an “expecting” mother’s group on Facebook. She knows what I’m going through. MH says she probably had good intentions and didn’t think about it. But I’m still annoyed. She literally got upset with us in March when we told her I was pregnant then. So she knows how it feels to be wanting a baby and having complications.
Maybe I’m just being salty and being sensitive. Idk.
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Post by onyx on Jul 17, 2020 7:26:23 GMT -6
I just caught up on all the post and I feel everything all of y’all are feeling. I’m so sorry we’re going through this. Praying for all the healthy babies our hearts desire.
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 17, 2020 7:34:09 GMT -6
My SIL added me to an “expecting” mother’s group on Facebook. She knows what I’m going through. MH says she probably had good intentions and didn’t think about it. But I’m still annoyed. She literally got upset with us in March when we told her I was pregnant then. So she knows how it feels to be wanting a baby and having complications. Maybe I’m just being salty and being sensitive. Idk. uh, no. This is a supremely assholish, insensitive, bitchass thing to do. I would think long and hard about not punching her in the throat for this, TBH. I'd have to stop myself from punching my H, too. Who in the flying fuck invites someone to an expecting mothers group when they legitimately just had a loss? I'm getting heated on your behalf.
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