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Post by onyx on Jul 17, 2020 8:05:23 GMT -6
My SIL added me to an “expecting” mother’s group on Facebook. She knows what I’m going through. MH says she probably had good intentions and didn’t think about it. But I’m still annoyed. She literally got upset with us in March when we told her I was pregnant then. So she knows how it feels to be wanting a baby and having complications. Maybe I’m just being salty and being sensitive. Idk. uh, no. This is a supremely assholish, insensitive, bitchass thing to do. I would think long and hard about not punching her in the throat for this, TBH. I'd have to stop myself from punching my H, too. Who in the flying fuck invites someone to an expecting mothers group when they legitimately just had a loss? I'm getting heated on your behalf. that makes me feel so much better. I think MH was just trying to make me feel better. He grimaced when I told him. But I’m like we were considerate of her when we found out we were pregnant. (She has been trying to 17 months) so why can’t she be considerate of us? She’s due January 17th. So literally two weeks prior to what I was. So it’s already hard because I should be following all the milestones and I’m not. I deleted myself from the group, but not before I saw a shit ton of pregnancy posts. Which I’m fine with when it’s people I know and am excited for, but a bunch of strangers and “ooops” baby posts hurt like hell. Idk lots of feelings here.
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Post by lemondrop on Jul 17, 2020 8:21:51 GMT -6
uh, no. This is a supremely assholish, insensitive, bitchass thing to do. I would think long and hard about not punching her in the throat for this, TBH. I'd have to stop myself from punching my H, too. Who in the flying fuck invites someone to an expecting mothers group when they legitimately just had a loss? I'm getting heated on your behalf. that makes me feel so much better. I think MH was just trying to make me feel better. He grimaced when I told him. But I’m like we were considerate of her when we found out we were pregnant. (She has been trying to 17 months) so why can’t she be considerate of us? She’s due January 17th. So literally two weeks prior to what I was. So it’s already hard because I should be following all the milestones and I’m not. I deleted myself from the group, but not before I saw a shit ton of pregnancy posts. Which I’m fine with when it’s people I know and am excited for, but a bunch of strangers and “ooops” baby posts hurt like hell. Idk lots of feelings here. Ok on your H's part, I feel less like punching him now, lol. Your SIL tho. Woof. I can see not wanting to create a big divide if she's generally not a huge bitch, but I'd be really tempted to ask her point blank why she would think it was appropriate to invite you to a group like that, knowing full well what you're going through right now.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2020 9:29:14 GMT -6
i wish i could take everyone’s pain away. i try so hard to be selfless and be happy for everyone having babies but it’s really hard. onyx my h says the same things about my irl friend who keeps throwing jabs at the fact that she’s ttc. he says “she’s not thinking clearly and she’s self centered. she’s not saying these things to deliberately hurt me.” but it happened four different times yesterday so i’m starting to get a little worried about our remaining friendship.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2020 9:30:13 GMT -6
in other news, i’m sitting in my genetics class (at home)! it’s gonna start in 1 minute. it’s some sort of power point about carrier screening i think. i’ll keep you posted if i find out anything good.
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 17, 2020 9:53:56 GMT -6
in other news, i’m sitting in my genetics class (at home)! it’s gonna start in 1 minute. it’s some sort of power point about carrier screening i think. i’ll keep you posted if i find out anything good. We did a 172 panel screening and careotype testing. SO interesting.
If you have any questions let me know!
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 17, 2020 10:10:41 GMT -6
onyx that is so insensitive. She might have meant well, but lord it was the wrong thing to do.
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 17, 2020 10:12:36 GMT -6
I’m 8dpo and analyzing every uterus feeling. So far I’m crampy, but not too crampy. After going back through all my pregnancies, I’m feeling good. When I had lots of cramps, it was when I’m pretty sure I had failed implantations.
I think I’ve officially lost my mind.
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 17, 2020 12:51:18 GMT -6
Hey y'all. On amazon the premom 50 ovulation tests and 20 pregnancy test pack has 20% off and use PREMOM50 coupon code brings the total to less than $5. Awesome! I just came in to ask for a brand rec. Last time I bought wondfos bit was feeling cheap today. Anyone have a link? I'm not seeing it on Amazon, maybe it's gone today? Eta. SORRY I eventually found it. But ya doesn't look like the code is working today.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2020 17:33:41 GMT -6
i got done with my appointment! it was great. i got lab work done for literally anything you can think of. i swear it was like donating my blood. they did do a beta too so i’m excited to see what that’s at.
i have an ultrasound scheduled for monday. i guess that’s standard for all new patients.
i have to wait until my cycle returns to schedule my HSG. it has to be done between cycle days 5-12.
after the HSG i might get an SIS done. but since i just had a d&c they might not have to do that.
ummm mh has a semen analysis thursday. it was supposed to already be done but he keeps getting calls into emergency surgeries so it gets pushed and pushed back again. hopefully we can get that done asap!
after doing all of the background info and how easily it is for me to get pregnant, they’re thinking it might be an mh problem because he works so closely with radiation (he’s a surgeon) so that’s mainly what we are waiting for. his results. they hope it’s as easy as a sperm wash and then IUI. but if his sperm looks worse then we will do IVF. OR he has perfect sperm and it’s actually a me problem. hopefully we find out!
let’s see.. what else.. IVF through my insurance is $8k-$10k per cycle which is crazy cheap. IUI’s are only $200 per cycle. i’m feeling lucky in this aspect if we do go this route. they were really banking on it being as easy as a sperm wash and IUI so we’ll see!
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jul 17, 2020 18:39:46 GMT -6
@zweber, all of that sounds like fantastic (and thorough!) news! It seems like the RE was really communicative with their plans and next steps, which is a WORLD of difference from your OB!
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 17, 2020 18:45:01 GMT -6
@zweber that is amazing. I’m so happy for you.
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Post by onyx on Jul 18, 2020 17:44:28 GMT -6
Question for those who have had a D&C: did you have fluctuating bleeding and pain? I was pretty much pain free then last night after dinner and through today I’ve been basically in tears. I actually had to take the Percocet they prescribed to get any relief. I’m also bleeding more than I have since my procedure.
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 19, 2020 4:13:12 GMT -6
Question for those who have had a D&C: did you have fluctuating bleeding and pain? I was pretty much pain free then last night after dinner and through today I’ve been basically in tears. I actually had to take the Percocet they prescribed to get any relief. I’m also bleeding more than I have since my procedure. No, I had very light bleeding and little to no pain. But they did prescribe some heavy duty pain killers, so I’m thinking some women do get pain. I didn’t even have pain after my D&C for the hemorrhaging placenta after my stillbirth. I def was never on the verge of tears (but I have a very high pain tolerance) I would call your doctor!
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 19, 2020 4:13:37 GMT -6
onyx did you move around a lot today? That could do it too.
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Post by onyx on Jul 19, 2020 9:11:03 GMT -6
onyx did you move around a lot today? That could do it too. I did move around a good bit. I also had to take about a 2 hour car ride. I’m taking it easier today and so far so good. I think I may have overdone it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 9:52:15 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 10:27:05 GMT -6
i’m a little nervous. two days ago when my HCG was 4, i had this test. and this morning i have this test.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 10:30:36 GMT -6
i don’t think there’s a chance of a new pregnancy. and since it wasn’t molar it shouldn’t be GTD. i haven’t been taking my prenatals or folic acid because we weren’t trying yet... luckily i have an intake ultrasound tomorrow... i’m gonna ask for another beta. because what is happening. 😭
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 19, 2020 11:35:49 GMT -6
i don’t think there’s a chance of a new pregnancy. and since it wasn’t molar it shouldn’t be GTD. i haven’t been taking my prenatals or folic acid because we weren’t trying yet... luckily i have an intake ultrasound tomorrow... i’m gonna ask for another beta. because what is happening. 😭 What’s the threshold of “pregnant”? 5?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 11:39:26 GMT -6
i don’t think there’s a chance of a new pregnancy. and since it wasn’t molar it shouldn’t be GTD. i haven’t been taking my prenatals or folic acid because we weren’t trying yet... luckily i have an intake ultrasound tomorrow... i’m gonna ask for another beta. because what is happening. 😭 What’s the threshold of “pregnant”? 5? i think it’s technically 25. anything less than that is “grey area” or pre menopausal. but it’s definitely went up since friday. or maybe my urine was like hella concentrated today. i have no idea at this point. but maybe i should stop drinking until i find out.
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Post by donnameagle on Jul 19, 2020 11:47:23 GMT -6
What’s the threshold of “pregnant”? 5? i think it’s technically 25. anything less than that is “grey area” or pre menopausal. but it’s definitely went up since friday. or maybe my urine was like hella concentrated today. i have no idea at this point. but maybe i should stop drinking until i find out. Ohhhh yes to the urine being concentrated. That could absolutely be it.
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Post by robotsvswrestlers on Jul 19, 2020 12:52:42 GMT -6
@zweber that is definitely not comforting. My clinic always said less than 5 was “negative” but I understand wanting to see a zero. I know your RE will take it very seriously, with both the bloodwork and the ultrasound and I am curious to hear their take. My only question would be if the D&C left behind any residual tissue? That is just my thought process if this isn’t “normal” which this may be.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 13:11:32 GMT -6
@zweber that is definitely not comforting. My clinic always said less than 5 was “negative” but I understand wanting to see a zero. I know your RE will take it very seriously, with both the bloodwork and the ultrasound and I am curious to hear their take. My only question would be if the D&C left behind any residual tissue? That is just my thought process if this isn’t “normal” which this may be. i’m just scared because my test today is way darker than it has been the last few weeks. if my HCG is actually 4 it’s whatever. but if it went up recently. 🥴🥴🥴🥴
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Post by caer on Jul 19, 2020 13:39:58 GMT -6
@zweber - I’m a lurker but I had a D&C a few years ago. I was with a RE at the time and they did a series of betas to track my HCG under 5. When it got under 10, it “bounced” around for awhile, by a handful of points. Like it was 7 and then the next time it would be 9, or something like that. I was concerned but my RE said it was common, and apparently more so the closer you get to zero. Also, I remember my cheap hpts were picking up positives at like 5 HCG, which was annoying.
Anyway, I don’t think it hurts to ask for another beta but I wanted to share since I was in a similar situation and it ended up being normal (although super stressful!)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 13:51:21 GMT -6
@zweber - I’m a lurker but I had a D&C a few years ago. I was with a RE at the time and they did a series of betas to track my HCG under 5. When it got under 10, it “bounced” around for awhile, by a handful of points. Like it was 7 and then the next time it would be 9, or something like that. I was concerned but my RE said it was common, and apparently more so the closer you get to zero. Also, I remember my cheap hpts were picking up positives at like 5 HCG, which was annoying. Anyway, I don’t think it hurts to ask for another beta but I wanted to share since I was in a similar situation and it ended up being normal (although super stressful!) that’s so reassuring! i hope that’s what’s happening. i just want to start my period already.
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Post by caer on Jul 19, 2020 13:54:39 GMT -6
@zweber - I’m a lurker but I had a D&C a few years ago. I was with a RE at the time and they did a series of betas to track my HCG under 5. When it got under 10, it “bounced” around for awhile, by a handful of points. Like it was 7 and then the next time it would be 9, or something like that. I was concerned but my RE said it was common, and apparently more so the closer you get to zero. Also, I remember my cheap hpts were picking up positives at like 5 HCG, which was annoying. Anyway, I don’t think it hurts to ask for another beta but I wanted to share since I was in a similar situation and it ended up being normal (although super stressful!) that’s so reassuring! i hope that’s what’s happening. i just want to start my period already. I remember that feeling well! So annoying. I think I finally got my cycle back after 10 weeks but it also took my 8 weeks to get >5. It sounds like your numbers are moving much more quickly so i hope CD1 arrives for you soon! Thinking lots of good thoughts for you.
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Post by allthekristys on Jul 19, 2020 14:19:13 GMT -6
I go here again, finally. We’ve been trying for like, 3 years. 1st with my wife, then switched back to me about 6 months ago. I got in 2 cycles, then coronavirus hot and then timing was off. But this month we are in. I’m currently 3DPO. So 11 days left in the TWW. We used injectables for the 1st time this cycle and my doc said there were 3 follicles that were a good size. I feel like I want to start testing soon so I can track when the trigger shot is out of my system. Or I should just wait til July 30. I never can wait though.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 17:32:27 GMT -6
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Post by addymac on Jul 19, 2020 21:21:16 GMT -6
Lurker @zweber I know it’s all a mindfuck but after my mmc and my d&c, My dr said he felt no reason to track my betas since he did the d&c and was confident everything was out. He told me once my bleeding stopped we could start trying again. So we started ttc again right away and the very next cycle when I was like 8-10dpo I tested and got a positive. And then that night I started bleeding. I was hysterical, thinking I was having another MC, but I got my betas drawn the next day and the # was 6. My dr said it was essentially a negative result (cut off is 5) and my hcg just hadn’t reached 0 yet. I’ll always wonder for sure but just an anecdote about an annoying # post d&c that’s not 0 but not enough.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2020 21:25:19 GMT -6
addymac that’s so frustrating. i’m definitely curious if i’m legit pregnant or not. it’s kinda 50/50 chance at this point. since i was getting negative tests when my HCG was 4. i know it’s went up.. but like someone said up-thread it can bounce around. i just wonder how much! we’ll see tomorrow.
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