Friiiiiiiday

[flamingo]

Gorgeous yard trtlcrzy! LOL at the current view.

That reminds me of the first summer my parents owned the lake house, we had workers there daily ripping out wood rot, etc. It was also like, the hottest summer on record there. Every day as the workers would finish they’d strip to boxers or whatever and jump into the lake from our dock. 😂

[inthekitty]

trtlcrzy lolz! 😆 Your yard is beautiful. The shorts remind me of Ranger panties. Army Rangers get these special little silky shorts for exercise and wear them with pride since regular Joes don't get them.

[flamingo]

slenle Poor L! So sorry he's under the weather. Similarly, my nephew had a fever last week for several days; all tests came back negative and he perked back up after a few days. Hopefully L will be back to himself soon.

[kim22]

Happy Anniversary mamabear and peachsmama!

My nephew brought his girlfriend to our beach the other day. They have been dating since the beginning of 7th grade and will be high school juniors this fall. It seemed so funny to me since my oldest just finished 7th grade and has zero interest in girls so far.

NJ announced all school have to have some type of in person learning in September unless things get really bad again. Staff has to wear masks and students are encouraged to. I just ordered several types of mask to try out because the one I have kills my ears and is way too hot for a room with no AC.

[flamingo]

Contractor/carpenter just came re: front doors and built-ins for family room. Excited and simultaneously terrified to get #s back.

[inthekitty]

The saga of my mom and social distancing:

We were going to stay with my family in OR for the first time since 'Rona 4th of July weekend. I felt comfortable with it. I talked to my mom this morning and she asked if we still plan on coming. I replied yes. She got weepy and overly emotional about Covid and how much she misses the girls. She never said she doesn't want us to come but mentioned it'll be easy enough outside for the BBQ, but wondered how we'd socially distance in the house.

Me:




I was more than a little perplexed that she thought we'd socially distance within the house. Both of our areas now allow medium-sized gatherings. She knows we've been social distancing/cautious. I told MH about it and he called my stepdad to get his perspective. He confirmed they are afraid of hurting our feelings but don't want us to come because my mom is terrified of someone giving my brother (who lives with them) the Rona.

The twist:
My mom has never stopped doing in-home daycare. Clearly the biggest risk is already in her house. She actually started watching more kids. My mom has been very concerned about Rona but still kind of went around it in boomer-ish fashion. For instance, even from the beginning of quarantine she would wear a mask but go to random stores for no reason and amble aimlessly around the aisles. She also went to a casino the other day which added hand sanitizer and blocked off some seats, but still allows smoking and doesn't require masks.

So basically I'm stymied by the whole thing. I'm not offended, but I'm struggling to understand her thinking process. Of course anxiety isn't about being rational.

[trtlcrzy]

Jun 26, 2020 14:52:53 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Happy Anniversary mamabear and peachsmama!

My nephew brought his girlfriend to our beach the other day. They have been dating since the beginning of 7th grade and will be high school juniors this fall. It seemed so funny to me since my oldest just finished 7th grade and has zero interest in girls so far.

NJ announced all school have to have some type of in person learning in September unless things get really bad again. Staff has to wear masks and students are encouraged to. I just ordered several types of mask to try out because the one I have kills my ears and is way too hot for a room with no AC.

My personal experience is that the actual surgical masks are the most breathable.

[trtlcrzy]

inthekitty I feel like your family is the least of her worries. Why is she so concerned about your brother getting it? Is he immune compromised?

[lahdeedah]

trtlcrzy I agree about the yard. Pretty! Also LOL to those guys.

inthekitty I am blinking man gif at your mom’s concern, but that she still does in home daycare. Wut?

flamingo Exciting! Yes... waiting for numbers is terrifying.

[kim22]

Jun 26, 2020 15:11:01 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Jun 26, 2020 14:52:53 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Happy Anniversary mamabear and peachsmama!

My nephew brought his girlfriend to our beach the other day. They have been dating since the beginning of 7th grade and will be high school juniors this fall. It seemed so funny to me since my oldest just finished 7th grade and has zero interest in girls so far.

NJ announced all school have to have some type of in person learning in September unless things get really bad again. Staff has to wear masks and students are encouraged to. I just ordered several types of mask to try out because the one I have kills my ears and is way too hot for a room with no AC.

My personal experience is that the actual surgical masks are the most breathable.

My problem with those is they constantly poke me in the eyes. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.

[trtlcrzy]

Jun 26, 2020 15:26:00 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Jun 26, 2020 15:11:01 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

My personal experience is that the actual surgical masks are the most breathable.

My problem with those is they constantly poke me in the eyes. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.

I have to position them a certain way because otherwise my glasses get fogged up. I pinch it at the bridge of my nose and then sort of push the sides of the nose piece down on my cheek a little bit further down. Kind of hard to explain what I mean, sorry.

[klong11]

kim22 I've seen some with adjustable ear straps.

[inthekitty]

Jun 26, 2020 15:19:54 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

inthekitty I feel like your family is the least of her worries. Why is she so concerned about your brother getting it? Is he immune compromised?

Right?! It's weird. From the beginning they've acted like my brother is a huge risk when its my mom who is the high risk one in their house (66 yo with heart condition and borderline diabetes). My brother has congenital heart problems, but his health issues are well-managed. He's had panic attacks over the years which she acts like are medical health problems. She and my stepdad go to a 10 and have called EMTs more than once for his panic attacks yet have never gone to a psychologist with him to learn techniques to help him relax or gone the route of an SSRI. Their instant assumption is he's having a serious health problem which probably increases his panic. As a psychologist I just sit over here and shake my head and gently try to guide in the right direction.

It's exasperating because her response is so irrational and her sadness is brought on by herself. Yes, clearly the 4 of us are going to be the Typhoid Mary in their house and not the daycare kids, casino, etc. She also knows I'm fairly certain I had it in the spring. 

lahdeedah blinking man gif indeed.

[flamingo]

Very strange inthekitty, I agree, her fear seems a bit misplaced (? that may not be the right word I'm going for). Who knows what's going on there.

[slenle]

Wow inthekitty, that doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. I’m sorry that it your plans might have to change

[slenle]

Much to nobody’s surprise, L does not have Covid. If he still has a fever by Monday we will take him back in, but hopefully it goes away soon. He perked up again and did well on a 6 mile bike ride so maybe we’re over the hump

[lahdeedah]

inthekitty Will your plans have to change now or can you still go but get a hotel? I’m sorry that it’s changing last minute.

[lahdeedah]

Speaking of strange mom behaviors...

I just had a week with my mom and she’s getting harder to be around for long periods of time. My grandmother, her mom, can be a lot to be around in certain settings and she always vents about it. Well sad to say, but she is turning into her mom. I actively try not to be like my mom, so it’s funny that the things she finds annoying about my grandma, she is now doing herself.

When we are on her turf, it’s not as bad. But when traveling and not on her turf, she can just be a bit draining. I have to try hard to control my annoyance. This week I found myself saying “Okay, Mawmaw.” Kind of a passive aggressive stop acting like grandma. I don’t know if she got the hint.

So glad to have this weekend to rebound from this past week.

ETA: sorry that was long and maybe confusing. I guess I didn’t realize that I needed to vent about that.

[inthekitty]

Jun 26, 2020 16:36:00 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

inthekitty Will your plans have to change now or can you still go but get a hotel? I’m sorry that it’s changing last minute.

Nah, we're going to skip it. It'd be a lot to pay for a dumpy hotel in town just to hang out for a BBQ. I might offer to my mom that I'd be willing to meet her in Portland again for a socially distant picnic (we did that in May). 

I'm sorry for difficulties with your mom. Family issues can be draining.

[wedding]

Sorry about the mom drama inthekitty and lahdeedah.

I have some serious issues with my mom that I’ll post about at some point soon. Aside from that the issue we all have with her is that she basically complains and gossips nonstop so the negativity can really drag me down. And she doesn’t listen when others talk. I had a great excuse to only see her for short spurts when things were closed but now as things are opening she’s right there. The problem is I love spending time with my dad and they often come as a pair. Sigh. Parents are just tough.

I hear you about trying not to turn into your mom lahdeedah. I can be a serious gossip when I lean into it and I also am a complainer. I always try to keep it in check though.

[tgrimes]

Jun 26, 2020 14:52:53 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Happy Anniversary mamabear and peachsmama!

My nephew brought his girlfriend to our beach the other day. They have been dating since the beginning of 7th grade and will be high school juniors this fall. It seemed so funny to me since my oldest just finished 7th grade and has zero interest in girls so far.

NJ announced all school have to have some type of in person learning in September unless things get really bad again. Staff has to wear masks and students are encouraged to. I just ordered several types of mask to try out because the one I have kills my ears and is way too hot for a room with no AC.

My boss loves jaanuu. They’re like scrub material.

My coworker bought us some from Vera Bradley that are really soft and breathable, too.


www.jaanuu.com/face-masks?color=royal-blue&size=adult

[mwhip]

I finally talked to the pediatric rheumatologist this afternoon. The soonest appointment they have for a new patient is July 20th. I said I'd take it but asked if we could be put on a cancellation list.

I then hung up and called the pediatricians office and left a message that I didnt want to wait 3 more weeks and asked if there was anything that could be done. I also sent a message through the patient portal. The nurse called me back and said the dr would wouldnt be back until monday, but I would hear from her.

But that it the pain is so bad she wont walk on it again, like this morning, then to go to the ER and they will call the specialist in. I really dont want to subject evie to that again. I'm hoping the dr can do something to expedite the appointment.

[inthekitty]

That's frustrating mwhip. I hope something comes through earlier.

[lahdeedah]

Jun 26, 2020 16:54:27 GMT -6 wedding said:

Sorry about the mom drama inthekitty and lahdeedah.

I have some serious issues with my mom that I’ll post about at some point soon. Aside from that the issue we all have with her is that she basically complains and gossips nonstop so the negativity can really drag me down. And she doesn’t listen when others talk. I had a great excuse to only see her for short spurts when things were closed but now as things are opening she’s right there. The problem is I love spending time with my dad and they often come as a pair. Sigh. Parents are just tough.

I hear you about trying not to turn into your mom lahdeedah. I can be a serious gossip when I lean into it and I also am a complainer. I always try to keep it in check though.

I’m right there with you on the complaining. Her energy is just off most of the time and can complain/judge everything around her or just be in a negative headspace. Her tone always comes off as what I/whoever should be doing.

I guess PDQ. Probably delete later.

Just trying to say I 100% get it. Maybe not in the same sense, but pretty darn close.

[lahdeedah]

Poor E. mwhip Sorry it’s not getting better and I hope you have some luck on getting seen sooner.

[trtlcrzy]

Jun 26, 2020 18:44:02 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I finally talked to the pediatric rheumatologist this afternoon. The soonest appointment they have for a new patient is July 20th. I said I'd take it but asked if we could be put on a cancellation list.

I then hung up and called the pediatricians office and left a message that I didnt want to wait 3 more weeks and asked if there was anything that could be done. I also sent a message through the patient portal. The nurse called me back and said the dr would wouldnt be back until monday, but I would hear from her.

But that it the pain is so bad she wont walk on it again, like this morning, then to go to the ER and they will call the specialist in. I really dont want to subject evie to that again. I'm hoping the dr can do something to expedite the appointment.

I’m sorry. I hope they’re able to pull some strings and get her seen ASAP.

[tallb]

I'm sorry @nwhip, how frustrating she can't get in earlier.

inthekitty lots of head scratching about your mom's take on how to do this. I feel like she may be at greater risk than you all if she has kids coming in and going to casinos.

[nam2013]

mwhip I’m so sorry she can’t be seen earlier, it sucks to see your kid in pain and not really know what’s going on.

inthekitty I’m doing the blinking man with you...

[flamingo]

mwhip I feel like a jerk but I guess I missed where E was still experiencing the knee pain. Poor girl, that must be really frustrating for you both. I hope the pedi can pull some strings or a cancellation happens sooner than later.

[vino]

Poor E mwhip, I hope they are able to get her in sooner.