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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 14, 2020 16:33:34 GMT -6
Our governor shut down returning to school this school year. I am surprised he did it a couple weeks before the original return date. Given how he responded the first few weeks, I figured he would hold out until the last minute. Maybe he is starting to think for himself. 🤔
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Post by jewels on Apr 14, 2020 16:38:11 GMT -6
This is exactly what I worry about. I see him with his friends bossing them around and bragging about how he knows everything and they are all in. But at some point they will realize he is bossy and full of shit. I want to fix some of that so he doesn't become that jerk. nam2013 we are beyond the point of reason here. His answers to these questions are calmly- its my couch, i can do what I want. Or you don't make the rules. He has zero respect for us as authority figures so that is where we need to get it together. Thank you for all of the advice. He doesn't blow up often so today was jolting. We went for a bike ride and talked but he won't apologize. He was sad that he hurt my feelings so there's that. A big part of this is him not being able to use all of his energy since I am working and can't play with him non-stop. Does he do any of the go noodle YouTube videos? Maybe a YouTube music video playlist so he can dance off some energy. My boys love to dance and move to songs on YouTube. Just trying to think of some things that could help burn that energy. Maybe some type of obstacle course challenge in the yard? Well, that may require you to do it with him. This is good too. Yesterday S was just struggling so hard to concentrate on anything. It was pouring rain here so no outside time. I just stopped everything and said "Dance party?" I put kids bop on - told him he could have 3 songs then it was back to work. He danced the crazies out then got back to focusing. Even better, I was able to get my coffee and have some breakfast. |
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Post by flamingo on Apr 14, 2020 17:02:11 GMT -6
Also, hi!
Our power and internet are both restored. Meanwhile DH and a couple neighbors got the tree mostly cut up and out by the street for yard-trash pick up later this week. There are some big sections still on the fence that the tree-owner and our LL are hiring a tree company to remove, and the fence will need repair. But PROGRESS! B & C loved hauling branches.
We had two showings today (one was 'virtual'...realtor just facetime'd her clients), and we have two tomorrow that I think may be virtual, too. While DH was in the yard, he noticed several people driving by to look at the house, and one couple even stopped and chatted for a bit. The yard looks beautiful and what better advertisement for a Norman Rockwellian neighborhood than all the neighbors out helping one another?! Ha. So hopefully some poor schmucks will rent this thing fast.
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 14, 2020 17:45:06 GMT -6
I also see a marked decline in attitude when he watches trash TV. Since we cut out Youtube we have seen a big improvement in both kids. I would have always said my kids are generally well-behaved but we were starting to see some tantrum-y behavior with C and B was a bit sassier/sarcastic, more argumentative than normal, etc. After the first couple days, they pretty much stopped asking for it, the tantrums have ceased, and B is back to his sweet-natured self. I don't think it's a coincidence at all. I need to do it.. I fear the backlash |
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Post by joelies on Apr 14, 2020 17:56:22 GMT -6
Hiiiii. All the behavioral talk is scary because we are IN for it with Chase. Don't get me wrong, Colin has his moments. And all being cooped up, they're both a bit more bratty than normal. But Chase DGAF in a way that I have no clue how to respond to. We've already made some efforts with taking things away, the sticker chart, etc. But it's hard to say right now if anything was working because the world is on its ear and my kids are acting like animals. ::shrug::
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 14, 2020 17:58:13 GMT -6
Hiiiii. All the behavioral talk is scary because we are IN for it with Chase. Don't get me wrong, Colin has his moments. And all being cooped up, they're both a bit more bratty than normal. But Chase DGAF in a way that I have no clue how to respond to. We've already made some efforts with taking things away, the sticker chart, etc. But it's hard to say right now if anything was working because the world is on its ear and my kids are acting like animals. ::shrug:: J pushes boundaries like I've never seen. It kills me. |
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 14, 2020 18:10:15 GMT -6
wineallthetime , Did you see pictures? It sounds like an odd pick up line. "Hey, did you know I have a full sized trampoline in my bedroom?"... I can't stop laughing at this. |
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 14, 2020 18:21:56 GMT -6
wedding Hardly anyone talks about what happens when their kid acts like an ass. But I promise, no one here will judge you. I wish you could have seen M last night freaking the fuck out about taking a shower. It was...something. Everyone has given you suggestions above so I'll just tell you that you're definitely not alone.
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Post by inthekitty on Apr 14, 2020 18:22:13 GMT -6
Hiiiii. All the behavioral talk is scary because we are IN for it with Chase. Don't get me wrong, Colin has his moments. And all being cooped up, they're both a bit more bratty than normal. But Chase DGAF in a way that I have no clue how to respond to. We've already made some efforts with taking things away, the sticker chart, etc. But it's hard to say right now if anything was working because the world is on its ear and my kids are acting like animals. ::shrug:: J pushes boundaries like I've never seen. It kills me. I know I'm stating the obvious here, but kids and their personalities are so different. I was very different from my siblings, but there were bigger age gaps so more nurture things that could have explained that. But with my girls they are only 2 years apart so it makes the nature vs. nurture so much more apparent. For the most part, Cass is easy and agreeable. She usually responds well to discipline. Madison is much more headstrong and I know that she'll probably be a great outspoken leader as an adult, but as a kid it can just be exhausting. |
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Post by flamingo on Apr 14, 2020 18:38:51 GMT -6
Since we cut out Youtube we have seen a big improvement in both kids. I would have always said my kids are generally well-behaved but we were starting to see some tantrum-y behavior with C and B was a bit sassier/sarcastic, more argumentative than normal, etc. After the first couple days, they pretty much stopped asking for it, the tantrums have ceased, and B is back to his sweet-natured self. I don't think it's a coincidence at all. I need to do it.. I fear the backlash We don't really give the kids our devices, so they were watching it exclusively (a lot) through the app on TV (which we deleted). The first weekend without it, they played creatively, were building forts, got along really well...DH and I were like, "why didn't we do this sooner?" We had to re-download it recently for the Live Safari thing, so they saw that it was 'back' on TV and got all excited. At that point we told them DH was going to delete it again b/c we had learned it was bad for their brains. Shockingly, they were perfectly fine with that explanation. |
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 14, 2020 18:42:30 GMT -6
I need to do it.. I fear the backlash We don't really give the kids our devices, so they were watching it exclusively (a lot) through the app on TV (which we deleted). The first weekend without it, they played creatively, were building forts, got along really well...DH and I were like, "why didn't we do this sooner?" We had to re-download it recently for the Live Safari thing, so they saw that it was 'back' on TV and got all excited. At that point we told them DH was going to delete it again b/c we had learned it was bad for their brains. Shockingly, they were perfectly fine with that explanation. A and I talked, we're going to do it this weekend... pray for us. Haha |
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Post by lahdeedah on Apr 14, 2020 19:47:06 GMT -6
I need to do it.. I fear the backlash We don't really give the kids our devices, so they were watching it exclusively (a lot) through the app on TV (which we deleted). The first weekend without it, they played creatively, were building forts, got along really well...DH and I were like, "why didn't we do this sooner?" We had to re-download it recently for the Live Safari thing, so they saw that it was 'back' on TV and got all excited. At that point we told them DH was going to delete it again b/c we had learned it was bad for their brains. Shockingly, they were perfectly fine with that explanation. We do our YouTube dance videos through the Tv. I don’t mind it in there as much because we can dictate what is being played on it- mostly songs right now. I didn’t like it for M on the iPad (YouTube kids) when he can walk away anywhere with it and me be oblivious to what he is watching. peachsmama I think because I talked with M the night before I took the iPad privilege away, it was a non issue for us. I didn’t do it or threaten it when all hell was breaking loose. I told him what would be happening when he was calm and could listen and take in what I was saying. I took them out of hiding a week or so after, and he didn’t even go for it. I’ll let him play if he wants, but it will be with restrictions now that he is home for the foreseeable future. |
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 14, 2020 21:13:26 GMT -6
Well they Dude and Pop acted like hell beasts this afternoon, so obviously they heard me talking to you and were like, yeah, just because you thought that were working we are going to terrorize you.
X was a model citizen except for diapers and a couple times he got frustrated when we couldn’t understand him right away, but that’s the norm for him
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Post by klong11 on Apr 14, 2020 21:50:10 GMT -6
I'm all for trading my kid for any one of yours for a week. I would prefer a quieter one.
During school today she was getting so frustrated I would give her random requests just to get her to relax. "Hey, can you go count how many yogurts we have." "Hey, go see if Daddy is making coffee". She just gets so upset if it isn't perfect the first time that she starts bitching and moaning and won't do any more work.
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Post by tgrimes on Apr 15, 2020 6:33:13 GMT -6
I'm all for trading my kid for any one of yours for a week. I would prefer a quieter one. During school today she was getting so frustrated I would give her random requests just to get her to relax. "Hey, can you go count how many yogurts we have." "Hey, go see if Daddy is making coffee". She just gets so upset if it isn't perfect the first time that she starts bitching and moaning and won't do any more work. M does the same thing. I can’t tell you how many worksheets I’ve had to reprint so she can start over because it was messy or she erased too many times. She also does this when playing games. So much frustration. |
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Post by wedding on Apr 15, 2020 7:05:17 GMT -6
I'm all for trading my kid for any one of yours for a week. I would prefer a quieter one. During school today she was getting so frustrated I would give her random requests just to get her to relax. "Hey, can you go count how many yogurts we have." "Hey, go see if Daddy is making coffee". She just gets so upset if it isn't perfect the first time that she starts bitching and moaning and won't do any more work. M does the same thing. I can’t tell you how many worksheets I’ve had to reprint so she can start over because it was messy or she erased too many times. She also does this when playing games. So much frustration. C does this too. It’s often followed by crying and an exclamation that he hates school. |
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Post by guster on Apr 15, 2020 8:11:11 GMT -6
wedding, I didn’t want to read and not comment. No one is judging you and we all know you are doing everything you can (we all are) to make a very strange and scary situation a little more normal. Hugs! I hope today is a better day.
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Post by cagoldi on Apr 15, 2020 8:21:44 GMT -6
M does the same thing. I can’t tell you how many worksheets I’ve had to reprint so she can start over because it was messy or she erased too many times. She also does this when playing games. So much frustration. C does this too. It’s often followed by crying and an exclamation that he hates school. Dude is the identical same. One of his teachers started reading them the book “Bubble Gum Brain” and that resonated with him. He’s been a bit more flexible since then. ncyi.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/Bubble-Gum-Brain-Activity-Book_B814-SAMPLE.pdf |
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Post by klong11 on Apr 15, 2020 8:37:42 GMT -6
M does the same thing. I can’t tell you how many worksheets I’ve had to reprint so she can start over because it was messy or she erased too many times. She also does this when playing games. So much frustration. C does this too. It’s often followed by crying and an exclamation that he hates school. Cadence usually goes straight to, "I'm the worst. I can't do anything right!" |
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Post by peachsmama on Apr 15, 2020 8:44:21 GMT -6
C does this too. It’s often followed by crying and an exclamation that he hates school. Cadence usually goes straight to, "I'm the worst. I can't do anything right!" That's Jack. But he also puts forth 0 effort. And when I ask that he try harder, he loses it. |
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