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Post by danib on Apr 6, 2020 9:24:00 GMT -6
Apparently it's a new week.
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Post by Radley on Apr 6, 2020 10:01:02 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 28w 2d/6-27
The Good - nausea and vomiting are at an all time low! Whoo!
The Bad - Doctor said I have SPD and gave me some exercises to try. Sadly getting seen for a physio or chiro or massage appointment is next to impossible so I just have to deal. Some days like today, even laying down is still painful and walking is excruciating.
Milestones/Appointments - 3rd trimester now!! Also a growth scan next week.
To Do List - Ugh so many things. She will be next to naked if we don’t buy some baby clothes soon and we still don’t have a car seat and I haven’t even started a hospital bag. It’s sad.
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Post by twopeas on Apr 6, 2020 10:01:28 GMT -6
Omg I can't believe there is already a 2021 board. 😳
Weeks/Due Date - 26w1d / July 12th.
The Good - Nursery is painted and all furniture is ordered!
The Bad - just random pregnancy pains. My pubic bone (I think?) hurts often, I've been experiencing carpal tunnel pain... just thank God I'm not working right now because I get those pains from working anyway, so it would be doubly painful.
Milestones/Appointments - sitting at my appt right now. I have 15 or so mins before my blood draw for glucose testing and I can't wait to get out of here, I'm starving! They're already scheduling me for 2 wk appts!? Seems a little early for that, but I'm not the Dr. 🤷
To Do List - assemble furniture as it arrives. Need to order a few more necessities & my breast pump I guess.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 6, 2020 12:50:24 GMT -6
Ha danib, I love the "Apparently it's a new week. " Weeks/Due Date - 31 weeks tomorrow/June 9 The Good - I think I finally convinced my parents that it's not a good idea to fly back to the East coast on Saturday, only to fly back here 6 weeks later to help us when we have the baby, just because they want to see their house. It's not like they can go anywhere or see anyone there anyway, and I think Maryland's peak will be behind California's, so I think they're safer here. Of course I want them here because they're helping us, but even if that weren't the case, I don't feel like they should risk their safety to fly unless it's an emergency. Assuming everyone we know is still self-isolating and kids aren't allowed in hospitals when the baby arrives (which I think will be the case), if my parents weren't in town, I'd probably have to have the baby alone so DH could stay with the kids. I also sorted all of our girls clothes to give away this weekend. Radley, can I mail you some newborn girls clothes? If so, message me your address. I'm sending a few things to my cousin in Ohio because she does daycare, but a lot of our stuff was just going to go to Goodwill, and I'd rather it go to you! The Bad - My growth ultrasound got moved back a week due to staffing. Not a huge deal, but I haven't had an ultrasound since our anatomy scan, which was a long time ago, and I'm eager to see how the baby is growing and measuring. Also it's supposed to be rainy all week, so it's harder to get exercise for the kids with them being stuck at home. Milestones/Appointments - Ultrasound 4/21 To Do List - My friend says she has a swing and jumperoo she'd like to give us, so I can check that off. I mostly sorted the kids' clothes over the weekend, so now I just need to gather and wash the newborn stuff. Plus the boppy and brest friend cover, activity mat, and baby toys. But I figure we have some time on that.
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Post by danib on Apr 6, 2020 13:26:14 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 31+2 / June 6
The Good - Little guy is growing like crazy. He was estimated 4lbs1oz at my last ultrasound (putting him 2 weeks and 1 day ahead.
The Bad - everything hurts and I'm waking up multiple times a night so I'm exhausted.
Milestones/Appointments - next ultrasound is Monday the 13th.
To Do List - I finished buying everything I need for baby (right down to the Vitamin D drops). When DH gets home Thursday (hopefully) I plan to start washing everything. My mom is also going to come by next week (since we have exposure to her anyway where she babysits for my appointments) and take our maternity pictures. Won't be anything fancy like the first 2 but I'm just happy to do them at all.
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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 6, 2020 14:06:18 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 32 weeks/May 30
The Good - I've finally seen all the baby stuff we've saved so I know what we need and what we don't. Also, Avent still sells the nipples for the bottles we have, so we shouldn't need new ones.
The Bad - The uncertainty of everything. I'm very much a planner and I'm struggling with not being able to already have a plan in place. I've started researching epidural free births so I don't have to have contact with the anesthesiologist in the hospital, but boy is that going to suck if DH can't be there with me. I have no idea who is going to watch our kids if DH is allowed in the hospital with me. I was planning on my parents because they live closeish, but they're doing a terrible job of staying at home right now so I don't feel comfortable with anyone in my family being around them at this point.
Also, DH looked at me last night and said "you're a lot bigger than you were with the other kids and you still have 2 months to go". I can't be mad at him because it's true and it's nice that someone else has acknowledged it, but it sucked to hear it out loud.
Milestones/Appointments - My next appointment is next Thursday.
To Do List - Finish adding things to the Amazon registry so we can place an order with the completion discount. I suppose I should think about what I'd want in a hospital bag, but there's still time to pack that. I do have the baby's coming home outfit picked out - a super cute rainbow romper from Primary, so I guess that can get packed.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 6, 2020 14:58:39 GMT -6
txaggie08 I can't believe your DH said that! Even if it is true. All you're allowed to say about a pregnant woman's appearance is "you look great!" I've had 3 epidural-free births at this point. I don't have anything to compare them to, but in my opinion it's not that bad. It hurts for a bit and then after baby pops out, I feel amazing. Nobody needs to tell you when to push because it's like an involuntary bodily response - you just go with the flow and do what your body wants. Afterward, no meds to wear off or anything. I feel like my body does a pretty good job of just numbing everything down there with hormones. I haven't even needed tylenol after.
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Post by magaroni on Apr 6, 2020 15:38:11 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 31 weeks/ June 5
The Good - I’m feeling pretty good overall. I went to the chiropractor last week and that helped a lot with my right hip/sciatica pain. We also finalized baby names this weekend. It was causing me a lot of anxiety because I felt like we were just so far apart in what we like.
The Bad - I am being given more time in the ER which I would normally love but with the current situation I am pissed.
Milestones/Appointments - none until 35 weeks
To Do List - We finished DD1s room this weekend so we just need to move her in to it and then we can start on the nursery which is just a coat of paint. I’ve gone through all my baby stuff and have separated out all my neutral/newborn stuff so it just needs washed. I’ve also ordered or picked up pretty much everything we will need for the hospital and once baby arrives. I finally called my insurance company and got the info for getting a breast pump through them but need the prescription from my OBGYN. The stress/anxiety of everything has made me super productive at least.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 6, 2020 16:22:32 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 28w1d, 6/28
The Good -It’s been super nice out lately and getting outside has helped with my mood. My pelvis is feeling much better after going to the chiro last week.
The Bad - we got official word that the kids won’t be going back to school this year. I knew it was coming but I’m still super bummed DD1 won’t get to finish our her kindergarten year at school. I also heard from my boss that I have to wear a mask at work now because I’m pregnant. Those things are so annoying and hard to breathe out of. I’m getting winded super easy and it sucks to bend over.
Milestones/Appointments - appt on wed. Glucose test, tdap shot fun.
To Do List - we finally got the last 2 walls in our living room painted this weekend. I’m glad that’s done but now I feel like I need to decorate and we are trying to not spend money. I don’t really have much else to do baby related for a few weeks. I need to purchase a car seat, wipes, baby meds and otherwise I think we should be set. I’m not buying any more baby clothes until I know how big this baby is. I have enough to get through a week or two if necessary.
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Post by wasabi on Apr 6, 2020 16:57:32 GMT -6
txaggie08 I can't believe your DH said that! Even if it is true. All you're allowed to say about a pregnant woman's appearance is "you look great!" I've had 3 epidural-free births at this point. I don't have anything to compare them to, but in my opinion it's not that bad. It hurts for a bit and then after baby pops out, I feel amazing. Nobody needs to tell you when to push because it's like an involuntary bodily response - you just go with the flow and do what your body wants. Afterward, no meds to wear off or anything. I feel like my body does a pretty good job of just numbing everything down there with hormones. I haven't even needed tylenol after. I’ve considered very briefly off and on attempting no epidural, I feel like I have a pretty high pain tolerance but I’ve kind of resigned to being pretty sure I’ll just get it. But it’s amazing to hear women who’ve had experiences like yours! Makes me want to reconsider. Again. Lol.
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Post by wasabi on Apr 6, 2020 17:14:36 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 30+2/June 13
The Good - I can’t believe I’m 30 weeks already. Time is so weird during pregnancy. It’s like it flies by yet goes so slow all at once. Anyway, good- I guess I’m feeling pretty good. Just getting a bit achy. My hips and pubic bone(? Is this a thing?) I don’t remember this kind of pain with my first, at least not this early, but it’s annoying. Oh, I guess this part belongs under The Bad lol.
The Bad - I’m sad that SO won’t be able to come with me to my ultrasound at 32 weeks. I know it could be way worse, just a little bummed as we were looking forward to it. It’ll probably be just a quick peak anyway so it’s probably not even as big a deal as I’m making it.
Milestones/Appointments - just had my glucose screen which I passed, woot. Next appt is 4/22
To Do List - A lot of things checked off. SIL and MiL bought us a crib which was super sweet so we just need to get that together. I’ve prepped/washed cloth diapers, and sewed a bunch of cloth wipes (yes I’m crazy lol), all the clothes have been washed and put away. I need to get a lot of the small things like crib sheets but other than that everything is coming together.
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Post by twopeas on Apr 6, 2020 17:38:51 GMT -6
txaggie08 my H said to me this weekend, as I was walking down the hallway towards him, "you're looking awfully preggers lately." I was like "..... 😤" Even though it's true, lol. Since danib mentioned it, can someone tell me about vitamin D drops? I don't remember giving DS any when I had him 4.5 yrs ago. Should I be giving some this time around?
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Post by danib on Apr 6, 2020 18:07:20 GMT -6
txaggie08 my H said to me this weekend, as I was walking down the hallway towards him, "you're looking awfully preggers lately." I was like "..... 😤" Even though it's true, lol. Since danib mentioned it, can someone tell me about vitamin D drops? I don't remember giving DS any when I had him 4.5 yrs ago. Should I be giving some this time around? Do you breastfeed or formula? If formula, it has all the vitamin D baby needs. Breastfed babies are recommended to get daily vitamin D drops. I *think* because most of us are a bit deficient so our milk doesn't have enough, but I could be wrong in the reasoning.
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Post by twopeas on Apr 6, 2020 19:39:46 GMT -6
txaggie08 my H said to me this weekend, as I was walking down the hallway towards him, "you're looking awfully preggers lately." I was like "..... 😤" Even though it's true, lol. Since danib mentioned it, can someone tell me about vitamin D drops? I don't remember giving DS any when I had him 4.5 yrs ago. Should I be giving some this time around? Do you breastfeed or formula? If formula, it has all the vitamin D baby needs. Breastfed babies are recommended to get daily vitamin D drops. I *think* because most of us are a bit deficient so our milk doesn't have enough, but I could be wrong in the reasoning. Good to know! I mostly breastfed DS but occasionally supplemented with formula, probably 70/30 I'd say, and I likely will do similar with this one too. I'll remember this if I end up nursing more. Thank you!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 6, 2020 22:31:58 GMT -6
wasabi yes, pubic bone pain is a thing and it sucks. Can you FaceTime your H during the ultrasound?
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 6, 2020 22:34:37 GMT -6
txaggie08 my H said to me this weekend, as I was walking down the hallway towards him, "you're looking awfully preggers lately." I was like "..... 😤" Even though it's true, lol. Since danib mentioned it, can someone tell me about vitamin D drops? I don't remember giving DS any when I had him 4.5 yrs ago. Should I be giving some this time around? My pedi told me to do them with my 4 year old. I found that the kind that you can do one single drop is better than the kind that you have to give them a whole dropper full. I, personally, have a history of vit d deficiency so I take an additional supplement daily on top of my prenatal. My levels are usually worse while nursing so giving the supplement makes sense to me.
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Post by danib on Apr 7, 2020 0:26:08 GMT -6
txaggie08 my H said to me this weekend, as I was walking down the hallway towards him, "you're looking awfully preggers lately." I was like "..... 😤" Even though it's true, lol. Since danib mentioned it, can someone tell me about vitamin D drops? I don't remember giving DS any when I had him 4.5 yrs ago. Should I be giving some this time around? My pedi told me to do them with my 4 year old. I found that the kind that you can do one single drop is better than the kind that you have to give them a whole dropper full. I, personally, have a history of vit d deficiency so I take an additional supplement daily on top of my prenatal. My levels are usually worse while nursing so giving the supplement makes sense to me. Yes definitely the single drop type!!!
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Post by fikafairy on Apr 7, 2020 7:17:35 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 28w/June 30
The Good - We made it to 28 weeks without needing a transfusion!!! We had a loss the previous pregnancy at 27w1d due to the anemia, so this was a HUGE milestone that I wanted to make it to, and I'm even more excited we got this far without needing to get the baby blood. I'm still going to be on edge for a while because I know the procedure is likely coming soon, but at least we got this far.
The Bad - I'm exhausted, between the appointments and infusions, staying home with our 7yo DS trying to both work FT, parent FT, AND play 1st grade teacher, it's exhausting. H is still at work since his office is considered "essential" (steel manufacturing - which I guess maybe, but I have thoughts about how "essential" I think it is) so it's just me and I'm just tired.
Milestones/Appointments - 28 WEEKS!!! Plus I still have my weekly monitoring appointments, next on is Thursday. Baby is measuring about 2 lb 11 oz based on growth as of last week, and I passed my GD test by a small but decent margin.
To Do List - start redoing the baby's room to turn into an actual baby room, and finish buying whatever we need.
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Post by wasabi on Apr 7, 2020 7:38:26 GMT -6
wasabi yes, pubic bone pain is a thing and it sucks. Can you FaceTime your H during the ultrasound? That’s a good idea! I feel silly complaining because in the end it’s really not a big deal at all, but I will try the FaceTime!
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Post by aries on Apr 7, 2020 7:57:17 GMT -6
txaggie08 I can't believe your DH said that! Even if it is true. All you're allowed to say about a pregnant woman's appearance is "you look great!" I've had 3 epidural-free births at this point. I don't have anything to compare them to, but in my opinion it's not that bad. It hurts for a bit and then after baby pops out, I feel amazing. Nobody needs to tell you when to push because it's like an involuntary bodily response - you just go with the flow and do what your body wants. Afterward, no meds to wear off or anything. I feel like my body does a pretty good job of just numbing everything down there with hormones. I haven't even needed tylenol after. Just curious how long do your labours typically last? I had a horrible first labour, many annoying doctors (and students), very pushy, very hard to focus and stay in what my own body needed. Which resulted in a 50hr + labour, pitocin, epidural, not being able to walk, delivering on my back (everything I had not wanted), then baby with cord around his neck, meconium, NICU team coming in to help. I was very angry about it all and had a hard time letting it go. In the grand scheme of things all turned out fine - minimal pain after, no tearing, healthy baby etc. so I felt bad being so mad. But after lots of reflection (and therapy lol) i've come to terms that that's my story and i'm excited to do so many things differently this time. But as I research and look at how things could have been done differently, I really think I went to the hospital too early and should have stayed home way longer. I know stress and fear can cause your body to not work effectively and I think that also contributed. Sorry the point of what i'm saying is - is it easier to resist intervention if you have shorter labours/shorter time at hospital? I think I remember you saying you get there and delivered within 45 mins? Have you found your labours get shorter with every baby? I love how you've described it (baby just pops out haha!) and I really hope to be able to feel that this time instead of being numb to what was happening.
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Post by Radley on Apr 7, 2020 7:59:56 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 32 weeks/May 30 The Good - I've finally seen all the baby stuff we've saved so I know what we need and what we don't. Also, Avent still sells the nipples for the bottles we have, so we shouldn't need new ones. The Bad - The uncertainty of everything. I'm very much a planner and I'm struggling with not being able to already have a plan in place. I've started researching epidural free births so I don't have to have contact with the anesthesiologist in the hospital, but boy is that going to suck if DH can't be there with me. I have no idea who is going to watch our kids if DH is allowed in the hospital with me. I was planning on my parents because they live closeish, but they're doing a terrible job of staying at home right now so I don't feel comfortable with anyone in my family being around them at this point. Also, DH looked at me last night and said "you're a lot bigger than you were with the other kids and you still have 2 months to go". I can't be mad at him because it's true and it's nice that someone else has acknowledged it, but it sucked to hear it out loud. Milestones/Appointments - My next appointment is next Thursday. To Do List - Finish adding things to the Amazon registry so we can place an order with the completion discount. I suppose I should think about what I'd want in a hospital bag, but there's still time to pack that. I do have the baby's coming home outfit picked out - a super cute rainbow romper from Primary, so I guess that can get packed. I had med free births with the boys. Ngl my first was pretty terrible, but it would have been with an epidural too. He was facing the wrong direction and I had tons of ineffective back labor - 72hrs of labor before he was out. But DS2 was much, much easier. 5 hrs from start to finish and afterwards I felt great. Also I feel you on the family not staying home. It’s gotten to the point that it is actively making me angry. They don’t have to go out but they will not stay at home and uggghhhhh. H keeps having to take off work so I can go to the doctor because I don’t trust the kids to be with family right now. And what about when it’s time for baby to be here? H is supposed to be with me and deserves to be but I don’t want to leave the kids with family who may be exposed.
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Post by Radley on Apr 7, 2020 8:01:00 GMT -6
wasabi yes, pubic bone pain is a thing and it sucks. Can you FaceTime your H during the ultrasound? That’s a good idea! I feel silly complaining because in the end it’s really not a big deal at all, but I will try the FaceTime! Don’t feel silly! I have had many many ultrasounds that were heartbreaking and I hate going alone now. I’m nervous about going alone next week even though it’s just a growth scan.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 7, 2020 8:16:00 GMT -6
aries I think you hit the nail on the head with going to the hospital too early being a major factor in how many interventions you end up with. That has definitely been the theme among my friends. We took a hypnobirthing class before our first and that was the #1 thing the instructor emphasized. Instead of using the 4-1-1 method to decide when to go, we waited until 2-1-1 with our first, even though we had an hour to get to the hospital between dropping off our dogs and driving there. A couple other benchmarks were - if you can easily walk to the driveway/car from your house without having to stop for a contraction, it’s too early, and don’t go until you no longer feel safe at home. I think I’m more relaxed at home and so laboring at home made things progress faster. I am lucky that I think I had a relatively short labor with my first, but I also always wonder when people start counting something as labor. Is it first contraction, or when they get close together? With my first baby, my bloody show and first real contractions were at 6:30 am. I went for a multi-mile walk and went about my morning. By probably 11 am, they were serious enough that I didn’t want to move from the couch. At 2 pm they had gotten to 2 minutes apart and at one point I had a contraction lasting 4 minutes straight, so we decided it was time to go. I loved tracking my contractions on the Sprout app - I found it fun to get to hit the button when the contraction was over We left for the hospital at 2:30, got checked in at 3:30 (I couldn’t walk by that point and needed a wheelchair), was 8/9 cm dilated and had the baby at 4:35 pm. Honestly if I had been through that and we got to the hospital and they had told me I was like only a couple centimeters dilated I would have asked for the epidural. I’m not anti epidural - but I really wanted to try to do it with no interventions. I also don’t let them break my water or do anything else beyond my body moving things along on its own. Then labors 2 and 3 were faster than I expected and both times I barely made it to the hospital. Still multi-hour, I just didn’t take the early contractions seriously enough because of wanting to labor at home.
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Post by danib on Apr 7, 2020 9:08:51 GMT -6
For me I counted labour starting when my contractions were 5 minutes apart. I ended up 36 hours with DS1. I got the Epi at 34 hours and 7ish cm because I was just too exhausted to continue and couldn't focus enough to manage the pain on my own anymore. DS2 was about 16ish hours. I got that Epi at 15.5 hours and 4cm, because once it was clear that my body was dilating so slowly again (and they started me on pitocin) I decided I was not putting myself through the same exhaustion as I did with DS1. Apparently my body is funny though and the Epi makes me dilate faster.
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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 7, 2020 9:35:53 GMT -6
sdlaura Thank you for your input. The way you wrote it makes birth sound easy (which I know isn't true, but it definitely doesn't sound impossible). The quicker recovery sounds nice to me too - the epidural I had with DS wasn't the best and my recovery was not as smooth as it was after DD was born.
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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 7, 2020 9:42:45 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 32 weeks/May 30 The Good - I've finally seen all the baby stuff we've saved so I know what we need and what we don't. Also, Avent still sells the nipples for the bottles we have, so we shouldn't need new ones. The Bad - The uncertainty of everything. I'm very much a planner and I'm struggling with not being able to already have a plan in place. I've started researching epidural free births so I don't have to have contact with the anesthesiologist in the hospital, but boy is that going to suck if DH can't be there with me. I have no idea who is going to watch our kids if DH is allowed in the hospital with me. I was planning on my parents because they live closeish, but they're doing a terrible job of staying at home right now so I don't feel comfortable with anyone in my family being around them at this point. Also, DH looked at me last night and said "you're a lot bigger than you were with the other kids and you still have 2 months to go". I can't be mad at him because it's true and it's nice that someone else has acknowledged it, but it sucked to hear it out loud. Milestones/Appointments - My next appointment is next Thursday. To Do List - Finish adding things to the Amazon registry so we can place an order with the completion discount. I suppose I should think about what I'd want in a hospital bag, but there's still time to pack that. I do have the baby's coming home outfit picked out - a super cute rainbow romper from Primary, so I guess that can get packed. I had med free births with the boys. Ngl my first was pretty terrible, but it would have been with an epidural too. He was facing the wrong direction and I had tons of ineffective back labor - 72hrs of labor before he was out. But DS2 was much, much easier. 5 hrs from start to finish and afterwards I felt great. Also I feel you on the family not staying home. It’s gotten to the point that it is actively making me angry. They don’t have to go out but they will not stay at home and uggghhhhh. H keeps having to take off work so I can go to the doctor because I don’t trust the kids to be with family right now. And what about when it’s time for baby to be here? H is supposed to be with me and deserves to be but I don’t want to leave the kids with family who may be exposed. Yes! I talked to my mom this morning on her way into the office. She still thinks it's NBD that she's going in because people have to have an appointment to get in the building...
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 7, 2020 9:44:40 GMT -6
txaggie08, luck definitely has a lot to do with it, too, of course! Before my first baby, I had a few friends who had had multiple med-free births, and talking to them about their positive birth experiences definitely made me feel like I could make that happen, too. My sister ended up with a major complication with her first pregnancy and then scheduled c-sections with her other two kids, so she's had 3 scheduled c-sections and that has worked great for her. I think there are lots of ways to end up with a good birth experience. I do hear so many stories like aries where women feel like the birth got out of their control and they were forced/convinced into things that weren't what they wanted/might not have been necessary in other scenarios, and that's the main thing I was hoping to avoid.
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Post by Radley on Apr 7, 2020 9:54:12 GMT -6
I had med free births with the boys. Ngl my first was pretty terrible, but it would have been with an epidural too. He was facing the wrong direction and I had tons of ineffective back labor - 72hrs of labor before he was out. But DS2 was much, much easier. 5 hrs from start to finish and afterwards I felt great. Also I feel you on the family not staying home. It’s gotten to the point that it is actively making me angry. They don’t have to go out but they will not stay at home and uggghhhhh. H keeps having to take off work so I can go to the doctor because I don’t trust the kids to be with family right now. And what about when it’s time for baby to be here? H is supposed to be with me and deserves to be but I don’t want to leave the kids with family who may be exposed. Yes! I talked to my mom this morning on her way into the office. She still thinks it's NBD that she's going in because people have to have an appointment to get in the building... My mom doesn’t even have a job! And my sisters who are young adults have either been laid off or school is out. They are out shopping for the heck of it and visiting other family. It’s infuriating!!
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Post by willow on Apr 7, 2020 14:10:19 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 37w, c/s April 16
The Good - only 9’more days max at this point. We have reached single digits!
The Bad - Everything hurts and I’m dying. lol. This pregnancy has lasted approximately 845 years.
Milestones/Appointments - I have my 37w weekly u/s and appt tomorrow. It’s my last appt before the scheduled c/s next week!
To Do List - Get last minute few things for our hospital bags. We can’t have any delivery/takeout so we need to make a few things that will sit well in the fridge in our hospital room so I need to plan those and get the ingredients in my next grocery order.
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danib
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Post by danib on Apr 7, 2020 14:45:39 GMT -6
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