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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 7, 2020 14:56:17 GMT -6
I'm so excited for you willow! It's so soon! |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 7, 2020 14:56:20 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 37w, c/s April 16 The Good - only 9’more days max at this point. We have reached single digits! The Bad - Everything hurts and I’m dying. lol. This pregnancy has lasted approximately 845 years. Milestones/Appointments - I have my 37w weekly u/s and appt tomorrow. It’s my last appt before the scheduled c/s next week! To Do List - Get last minute few things for our hospital bags. We can’t have any delivery/takeout so we need to make a few things that will sit well in the fridge in our hospital room so I need to plan those and get the ingredients in my next grocery order. I’m so excited!! |
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Post by willow on Apr 7, 2020 15:16:29 GMT -6
I’m excited too...still terrified for two babies at once but I’m honestly so over being pregnant that anything has to be better!
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Post by Radley on Apr 7, 2020 16:00:20 GMT -6
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Post by wasabi on Apr 7, 2020 17:59:27 GMT -6
I’m excited too...still terrified for two babies at once but I’m honestly so over being pregnant that anything has to be better! I cannot believe how close it is! I’m so excited for you, I know you’re ready  |
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Post by hangry on Apr 7, 2020 18:14:10 GMT -6
txaggie08 I can't believe your DH said that! Even if it is true. All you're allowed to say about a pregnant woman's appearance is "you look great!" I've had 3 epidural-free births at this point. I don't have anything to compare them to, but in my opinion it's not that bad. It hurts for a bit and then after baby pops out, I feel amazing. Nobody needs to tell you when to push because it's like an involuntary bodily response - you just go with the flow and do what your body wants. Afterward, no meds to wear off or anything. I feel like my body does a pretty good job of just numbing everything down there with hormones. I haven't even needed tylenol after. Wow, I am jealous! This was not my experience. I’ve had 2 epidural free births and hated both of them. Wanted an epi for #2 but wasn’t enough time. And planned to try to get one for this baby too. I hadn’t even considered avoiding he anesthesiologist!! Damn, now I have to consider if I can handle a med free birth again! (But really, That’s a thank you to txaggie08 for opening my eyes!) |
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Post by willow on Apr 7, 2020 18:24:00 GMT -6
I’m not saying this to be snarky but I’m genuinely curious as to what the difference would be between interacting with the anesthesiologist vs the rest of your birth team? I had an epidural for my son and from my vague memory (since I was in super painful labor when it happened), he didn’t get any more or less close to me than my doctor and the nurses when they were all up in my vagina to get the baby, etc.
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Post by hangry on Apr 7, 2020 18:28:31 GMT -6
I’m not saying this to be snarky but I’m genuinely curious as to what the difference would be between interacting with the anesthesiologist vs the rest of your birth team? I had an epidural for my son and from my vague memory (since I was in super painful labor when it happened), he didn’t get any more or less close to me than my doctor and the nurses when they were all up in my vagina to get the baby, etc. That’s a good point. And I don’t think anesthesiologists would be more active with Covid patients as they’re not really needing surgeries. Right? |
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Post by hangry on Apr 7, 2020 18:35:11 GMT -6
Radley and txaggie08 Do you have any close friends that you trust with their isolation/distancing? We don’t have family in the area and had originally planned to have my parents visit around due date to watch the kids. That’s obviously not happening now. I have had a couple friends offer and chose one family that I know is following the rules as my family is. And my kids know the mom which gives me some comfort. It is a risk, but I feel comfortable enough to do that and have MH with me rather than having nothing. The plus to all of this is that their schedule is quite predictable and I don’t have to worry about them being busy or away or anything! I could guess this might cause family tensions that might not be worth it though.
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Post by willow on Apr 7, 2020 18:40:59 GMT -6
I’m not saying this to be snarky but I’m genuinely curious as to what the difference would be between interacting with the anesthesiologist vs the rest of your birth team? I had an epidural for my son and from my vague memory (since I was in super painful labor when it happened), he didn’t get any more or less close to me than my doctor and the nurses when they were all up in my vagina to get the baby, etc. That’s a good point. And I don’t think anesthesiologists would be more active with Covid patients as they’re not really needing surgeries. Right? Yeah I mean, unless the person develops complications that require surgery but I don’t know how common that is. To me it’s just as much of a risk to have doctors and nurses around you that may be interacting with laboring patients that are asymptomatic or their partners that are asymptomatic, etc. I am not going to lie, I have anxiety about being in a hospital for an extended period of time during all this but what choice do I have, you know? |
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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 7, 2020 19:11:17 GMT -6
I’m not saying this to be snarky but I’m genuinely curious as to what the difference would be between interacting with the anesthesiologist vs the rest of your birth team? I had an epidural for my son and from my vague memory (since I was in super painful labor when it happened), he didn’t get any more or less close to me than my doctor and the nurses when they were all up in my vagina to get the baby, etc. You're right. My thought is that the anesthesiologist may be anywhere in the hospital whereas the rest of the L&D staff that I would interact with would be just on that floor. I could be overreacting, but this is my brain's way to maintaining some control over the situation. |
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Post by txaggie08 on Apr 7, 2020 19:13:21 GMT -6
Radley and txaggie08 Do you have any close friends that you trust with their isolation/distancing? We don’t have family in the area and had originally planned to have my parents visit around due date to watch the kids. That’s obviously not happening now. I have had a couple friends offer and chose one family that I know is following the rules as my family is. And my kids know the mom which gives me some comfort. It is a risk, but I feel comfortable enough to do that and have MH with me rather than having nothing. The plus to all of this is that their schedule is quite predictable and I don’t have to worry about them being busy or away or anything! I could guess this might cause family tensions that might not be worth it though. DH and I have discussed it and we do have some friends around here that we'd be comfortable asking at this point. Of course, I want to wait until mid-May or so to make a decision like that because of the long-term family implications. |
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Post by willow on Apr 7, 2020 19:15:28 GMT -6
I’m not saying this to be snarky but I’m genuinely curious as to what the difference would be between interacting with the anesthesiologist vs the rest of your birth team? I had an epidural for my son and from my vague memory (since I was in super painful labor when it happened), he didn’t get any more or less close to me than my doctor and the nurses when they were all up in my vagina to get the baby, etc. You're right. My thought is that the anesthesiologist may be anywhere in the hospital whereas the rest of the L&D staff that I would interact with would be just on that floor. I could be overreacting, but this is my brain's way to maintaining some control over the situation. Yeah I get that, I just don’t know how much more of a risk of exposure that the anesthesiologists have vs L&D staff given that they aren’t really front line staff for covid treatment, and L&D could also have exposure to asymptomatic people too. But I get anxiety and having control over things for sure and of course there is nothing wrong with choosing a med free birth. I just don’t want you (or anyone else here) to feel forced into a med free birth either. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 7, 2020 19:15:35 GMT -6
I 100% will be getting an epidural. My hospital has instituted that all patient caregivers wear mask and as a rule anesthesiologists are very meticulous about cleanliness. I have no concerns about any of my caregivers in the hospital. If someone here is delivering and is suspected/has covid then they go into a specific room and I’m sure they have certain providers that see them. The hospitals don’t want you to get covid while you’re admitted any more than you do, I promise.
In related news I have to wear a dang mask while I’m working because I’m pregnant and it’s sucks. They also sent an email saying that they are recommending not working for 2 weeks before I deliver/ not past 37 weeks. It’s a recommendation, not a rule though (at this point) so we will see how it changes between now and June. I don’t want to use 2 weeks of FMLA before I deliver though.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 7, 2020 20:24:57 GMT -6
trtlcrzy everyone is wearing masks here, even while jogging on empty streets (that one I really don’t get), so I’m surprised they didn’t already have you wearing one if you work on a hospital. I’m not all that worried about dying of COVID, but I do have a fear of showing symptoms around the time of delivery and being separated from my baby. That possibility scares the heck out of me!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 7, 2020 20:35:23 GMT -6
trtlcrzy everyone is wearing masks here, even while jogging on empty streets (that one I really don’t get), so I’m surprised they didn’t already have you wearing one if you work on a hospital. I’m not all that worried about dying of COVID, but I do have a fear of showing symptoms around the time of delivery and being separated from my baby. That possibility scares the heck out of me! My state has the lowest number of cases and lowest death toll so they’ve been a little slower on the restrictions. I haven’t worked since last Thursday so I’m sure this went into effect over the weekend. |
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Post by magaroni on Apr 7, 2020 21:44:48 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I work in a hospital as well and will be going off around 36.5 weeks so I can self quarantine. I have spoken with my HR department and they said I could request personal leave for that time and that I may be able to collect unemployment since it is due to the virus. I can also either use my PTO or take it without pay. They also said my FMLA won’t start until the baby is born unless my doctor was putting me off work so I would check with HR to see what your options are.
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Post by aries on Apr 8, 2020 8:01:51 GMT -6
sdlaura Thanks for your experience! I wonder how fast this labour will be for you haha, if you are still an hour way it could be cutting it close! Did you like the Hypnobirthing class? I had a book on hold at the library and am kicking myself because I never picked it up before everything shut down haha. I don't even remember when I started counting contractions but they were quite close by the time we went but I don't remember feeling panicked that the baby was coming now or in that so I am sure it was too soon. Plus when they checked me I was only 3cm? I wish I would have just gotten up and left once knowing I was only that far along but the thought of being back in the car sounded horrible. We have moved to a new house now that has a great bathtub and more space so more freedom to labour at home. I am really excited to sit in the tub for as long as needed lol. danib that's awesome if the epidural makes it faster for you! Usually they say it slows stuff down.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 8, 2020 9:25:42 GMT -6
aries I did really like the hypnobirthing class. I didn’t actually care all that much about the actual hypno part - the way the instructor described it though made sense to me - like you know how if you sort of zone out on your drive home from work, you’re suddenly at home and the time passed without you really noticing it? That was the goal of the hypno part - to get into a zone where time seems to move a little faster during labor. And relaxation so you could dilate faster was big. Apparently relaxing your jaw has some connection to dilation? The biggest things DH and I got out of it was that birth can be normal and calm rather than the scenes you always see in movies with the mom punching and cursing at her husband She also went through like every possible birth scenario and all our options and helped us put together birth preferences, which I’ve used with all my births. Stuff like delayed cord clamping, no bath on the hospital for baby, IV in arm instead of hand so it’s easier to move around... So we felt empowered to make more of our own decisions and control better what was happening.
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Post by Radley on Apr 8, 2020 9:25:46 GMT -6
I only have one local friend, she is doing her best to social distance but she is a single mom with four kids who either stay with her mom or ex so there is still quite a bit of “contamination” plus I couldn’t ask her to take off work to watch my kids. I’d feel really bad about that.
I did hypnobabies while I was pregnant with DS2. I wanted to have another med free birth but was terrified after DS1’s birth. There are/were no classes near me so I did the home study. It was kinda expensive but I was able to resell it later so that helped. It helped a lot. It didn’t make it pain free by any means but it helped me settle my mind a lot so I could actually listen to my body instead of just thinking “this hurts” and “I can’t do this” over and over.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 8, 2020 9:34:19 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I work in a hospital as well and will be going off around 36.5 weeks so I can self quarantine. I have spoken with my HR department and they said I could request personal leave for that time and that I may be able to collect unemployment since it is due to the virus. I can also either use my PTO or take it without pay. They also said my FMLA won’t start until the baby is born unless my doctor was putting me off work so I would check with HR to see what your options are. Thanks. The document that I read from work said it would be part of my fmla. I just finished with my OB appt and she said the peak here is supposed to be mid June so I will need to stop working at 37 weeks. It’s fine, luckily I only work part time so I will still get to be with baby the majority of the time. |
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Post by aries on Apr 8, 2020 9:38:43 GMT -6
Thanks sdlaura and Radley! I’m going to check amazon (or other online resources like the online home study if I can recoup costs!) to see what I can find for that book since it seems like a good resource. I feel I am good at checking out and focusing on my body but also having some many people interrupting and talking needs to not happen this time. DH is usually a pretty strong advocate for what I want but I think it freaked him out seeing me in so much pain and he kind of froze. I feel he’s also better prepared this time too. Radley I hope you get a better labour and delivery this time around ❤️ Edit: I thought you said you wanted an epi this time around Radley ugh sorry reading fail I see you actually had a great birth the second time . Regardless I hope all goes well this time around! |
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Post by Radley on Apr 8, 2020 9:57:35 GMT -6
Thanks sdlaura and Radley! I’m going to check amazon (or other online resources like the online home study if I can recoup costs!) to see what I can find for that book since it seems like a good resource. I feel I am good at checking out and focusing on my body but also having some many people interrupting and talking needs to not happen this time. DH is usually a pretty strong advocate for what I want but I think it freaked him out seeing me in so much pain and he kind of froze. I feel he’s also better prepared this time too. Radley I hope you get a better labour and delivery this time around ❤️ Edit: I thought you said you wanted an epi this time around Radley ugh sorry reading fail I see you actually had a great birth the second time . Regardless I hope all goes well this time around! There is a hypnobabies Facebook group, you may be able to find one there! This baby is going to be a c-section. I had surgery on my uterus last June and there is concern that labor would rupture it so I’m having a c-section at 38 weeks! But I had a much easier labor with DS2 than DS1. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 8, 2020 10:26:51 GMT -6
I failed my glucose test so hard. Dang it, now I have to do the 3 hour.
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Post by sdlaura on Apr 8, 2020 10:59:22 GMT -6
Sorry trtlcrzy - I hope you pass the 3-hour and it's not too terrible! |
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Post by danib on Apr 8, 2020 11:49:26 GMT -6
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Post by aries on Apr 8, 2020 12:13:37 GMT -6
Sorry trtlcrzy, that sucks! 🤞 you pass the 3 hr easily. Radley good luck with your csection, that does sound like the safest option this time around! And thanks, there are a lot of groups on Facebook so I requested to join two of the bigger ones 🙂 |
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Post by hangry on Apr 8, 2020 19:51:33 GMT -6
Weeks/Due Date - 37w3d; due April 26 The Good - Full Term! I can have a baby any time. Into a decent routine at home and the kids have actually been good and are helpful with me being able to do less. I am optimistic for us surviving once the baby arrives. And my hospital is still allowing a labor partner. The Bad - I had an awful day 1.5 weeks ago where I was sure I was going into labor as I was having contractions all day long. They never got closer than 5 minutes so I never went to the hospital. We were no where near ready so MH went into overdrive that day getting shit done. And then things returned to “normal” the next day and I’ve only had regular BH since then so I don’t know what happened to my body that day. Today, still have lots of discomforts : pubic symphysis, left SI, rib, right abdominal, lots of Braxton-Hicks, lots of night wakings. Milestones/Appointments - ready to go whenever baby is ready. I would normally not want an early delivery but as Covid numbers keep rising in my city, I just want to get this going ASAP. My OB offered to do a check at my appt last week to see if all those contractions did anything but I declined. Not sure why. And then since I had no real contractions in the next week, I didn’t think it was worth while to get checked this week. Maybe I will ask next week as I’m getting anxious. To Do List - install car seat (and move DS’s seat); wash bouncer seat fabric; and buy Vit D and baby Tylenol (Thanks for the reminder danib!) |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 8, 2020 20:16:38 GMT -6
I made a list of all the things I could think of that we need to get before baby. I did add pads and vit d drops to the list after I took this pic. I still have lots of time to get this but I wanted to do it while I was thinking of it.  |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Apr 10, 2020 20:33:08 GMT -6
I went to target tonight to get last minute Easter stuff and wore a cloth mask. I felt so weird and it was annoying because my glasses kept fogging up. I can’t wait till this is all over with. I have to go to work tomorrow morning and I am not looking forward to it at all. Normally I like to go to work to get a break from my house/family, but with all this stuff going on it’s not so peaceful. I have a feeling it’s going to be a long day.
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