Thirsty Thursday

[tgrimes]

trtlcrzy I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope she gets better soon.

[tgrimes]

cagoldi What's the status on your divorce paperwork?

[tallb]

I think masks will be a part of our lives. I have some smart mom friends through work preschool and have been following what they are posting on Facebook. And one shared a YouTube video about studies on masks for all and how other countries that have used them have done much better with transmission, especially since people can be asymptomatic and it takes so long for symptoms to show up. It will be odd, but that is a manageable change I think.

I hope to test out making some and the no sew versions look easy too. Our campus is doing remote learning for summer classes, but not sure what that means for staff coming back.

[jewels]

trtlcrzy, I'm sorry, it must be so tough for her to be alone through all this.

My grandma is 99 and lives alone in an assisted living facility. No one has been able to visit her and she hasn't been able to see her friends (they now bring food up to the rooms) and it must be so lonely. Also, the whole family is supposed to go visit her for her 100th birthday in July and for many months she has said that's the only thing she is holding on for. And now that is obviously up in the air.

[cagoldi]

Apr 2, 2020 14:32:10 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

cagoldi What's the status on your divorce paperwork?

I’m not sure. Everything is on hold until the courts reopen as far as I know.

[flamingo]

I'm sorry trtlcrzy , that is so tough. Falls are the worst in older people, so often it's like a domino effect. Hopefully she will surprise y'all. 

[trtlcrzy]

Apr 2, 2020 14:44:38 GMT -6 jewels said:

trtlcrzy, I'm sorry, it must be so tough for her to be alone through all this.

My grandma is 99 and lives alone in an assisted living facility. No one has been able to visit her and she hasn't been able to see her friends (they now bring food up to the rooms) and it must be so lonely. Also, the whole family is supposed to go visit her for her 100th birthday in July and for many months she has said that's the only thing she is holding on for. And now that is obviously up in the air.

We were supposed to celebrate her birthday this coming weekend. Such a bummer time.

[slenle]

Happy birthday mwhip!!

[slenle]

Apr 2, 2020 11:31:09 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

So I've realized part of my nightly headaches come from clenching my jaw throughout the day (stress-related). When I was 19 I had to have jaw surgery because my jaw locked down and wouldn't open for 6 months. I'm trying to tell myself to get my shit together, because man, this is supposed to be my area of expertise.

I’ve been noticing this too. I’ve actually had some jaw issues for the last 2 months. I’ve gone to the chiro and gotten a mouth guard from the dentist for sleeping. Nothing is helping and I look like a fool trying to take a bit of anything because j can’t open my mouth all the way. Not sure where it came from but i really need to figure it out. And of course, now is not the time to be seeing any sort of doctor if I can help it. Any tips?

[cagoldi]

I’m sorry about her fall and injuries, trtlcrzy. Tough time to have loved ones that are vulnerable and being unable to visit when they are hurt has to be hard on everyone.

[lahdeedah]

Apr 2, 2020 10:37:47 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Apr 2, 2020 10:25:24 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Wondering what the new normal will look like over here too. I'm trying not to get too far ahead of myself with that. I watched Outbreak the other day. I hadn't seen it in years. I laughed so hard because all they had to do was find the host and then they whipped up the antibodies immediately and had enough doses for a whole town and it worked within an hour. So unrealistic.

I actually think cloth masks are going to be on trend. Not joking. I think a bunch of manufacturers will start making them. Disney will have their kids line with Frozen and super hero prints. Designer brands will have fancy ones and everything in between.

Like joelies I'd really like to see some positives come out of all of this in the long run but I'm skeptical. I'm not a germaphobe, but some of the measures to prevent transmission of germs have been a good change I think. And I would love it if more workplaces embraced WFH for those who want it. It certainly has helped the environment and drastically reduced traffic. Time will tell.

Disney already does branded children’s paper masks so I don’t think you’re too far off.

Yep. We have a few from the doc office when I had flu a couple years ago.

[peachsmama]

Apr 2, 2020 14:31:12 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Oh dear Lord. He called me and said that he still owns the house and he gets to decide who comes and goes. Then made vague threats about taking the kids and the house.

Okay Dude.

Glad he's being rational and mature about it........

[lahdeedah]

Apr 2, 2020 11:52:29 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Apr 2, 2020 11:28:11 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

cagoldi, might Tim...just stay in SoCal permanently?

Pete playing games with you and the kids is very fucked up. You absolutely have the right to be pissed. I really thought despite his issues, he'd be better than that. I know it sounds weird, but I'm disappointed and dismayed in him and I don't even know him. Like that's deadbeat dad material right there, dude. Put your big fat feelings aside and be better than that for your children. I hope he has an aha moment and pulls his head out of his ass soon.

He wants to stay permanently, yes. He might have to go back at some point soon just to retrieve his truck and his cat (cat is currently being watched by his dad).

IDK. Tim is not trying to replace Pete but he’s willing to be a dad to them if that’s what the situation requires.

I’m late and this may have already been asked, but how did X take to him? Well, assuming this is the first time they met. I know A and P have been around him already, but wasn’t sure about X.

I am glad you have some decent support day to day now. Pete is being a total douche. Visiting the kids is separate from his issues with you. Be better than that man.

[tgrimes]

Apr 2, 2020 14:49:02 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Apr 2, 2020 14:32:10 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

cagoldi What's the status on your divorce paperwork?

I’m not sure. Everything is on hold until the courts reopen as far as I know.

But is all the paperwork finalized and you’re just waiting on the hearing?

[tgrimes]

jewels That makes me so sad. I hope y’all are still able to celebrate with her in July.

[peachsmama]

I'm sorry trtlcrzy I hope she surprises you guys.

[lahdeedah]

trtlcrzy I’m sorry. Falls are tough and for her to not be able to have a support system right now won’t help much. This sucks.

jewels I’m so sorry. I have been thinking about how alone the olds in nursing homes and assisted living must be, too. I do think being lonely is something that causes them to be depressed most times and this situation sucks for them all. I hope by July you all can be there at a safe distance with masks and what not on for her sake. Hugs.

[cagoldi]

Apr 2, 2020 15:35:47 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Apr 2, 2020 14:49:02 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

I’m not sure. Everything is on hold until the courts reopen as far as I know.

But is all the paperwork finalized and you’re just waiting on the hearing?

I left a voicemail for my attorney this morning asking for an update, so I don’t know at the moment f.

[cagoldi]

Apr 2, 2020 15:34:25 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Apr 2, 2020 11:52:29 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

He wants to stay permanently, yes. He might have to go back at some point soon just to retrieve his truck and his cat (cat is currently being watched by his dad).

IDK. Tim is not trying to replace Pete but he’s willing to be a dad to them if that’s what the situation requires.

I’m late and this may have already been asked, but how did X take to him? Well, assuming this is the first time they met. I know A and P have been around him already, but wasn’t sure about X.

I am glad you have some decent support day to day now. Pete is being a total douche. Visiting the kids is separate from his issues with you. Be better than that man.

X loves him. Dude and Sparky call him Papa, but X calls him Grandpa LOL. Last night X let him snuggle him to sleep. He holds his hand when they walk. They all took to him very well.

X met him on our Vegas trip last November. So they spent several days together and X definitely remembers him. He yelled “Grandpa!” and ran to him when he saw him.

If the kids were feeling weird about his presence, I would not have had him come out. I figured they would like having the love and attention of another trusted adult, and that seems to be accurate so far.

[lahdeedah]

Got most things done I needed to do for today. I few packages came of things I bought over the weekend. I like everything so that was a little bright spot. Not sure when I’ll be wearing any of it, but I guess I have it to look forward to.

Also made my drop off appointment for the taxes tomorrow after work. Guess I’ll bring a change of clothes so I won’t be there in my scrubs. She said I’ll have a little paperwork to fill out so it’s not just dropping off. Anyway I’m glad that will be done soon.

[lahdeedah]

Apr 2, 2020 15:47:19 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Apr 2, 2020 15:34:25 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I’m late and this may have already been asked, but how did X take to him? Well, assuming this is the first time they met. I know A and P have been around him already, but wasn’t sure about X.

I am glad you have some decent support day to day now. Pete is being a total douche. Visiting the kids is separate from his issues with you. Be better than that man.

X loves him. Dude and Sparky call him Papa, but X calls him Grandpa LOL. Last night X let him snuggle him to sleep. He holds his hand when they walk. They all took to him very well.

X met him on our Vegas trip last November. So they spent several days together and X definitely remembers him. He yelled “Grandpa!” and ran to him when he saw him.

If the kids were feeling weird about his presence, I would not have had him come out. I figured they would like having the love and attention of another trusted adult, and that seems to be accurate so far.

I literal LOLed at Grandpa!!😹 Glad the kids are good with his presence.

[guster]

cagoldi, I’m sorry Pete’s being difficult about this. It’s ridiculous. I’m also really glad to hear Tim is there to help and make you happy.
trtlcrzy, I’m sorry. I hope she makes a full recovery.

[flamingo]

Also LOLing at "Grandpa!" cagoldi

[inthekitty]

Apr 2, 2020 15:21:20 GMT -6 slenle said:

Apr 2, 2020 11:31:09 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

So I've realized part of my nightly headaches come from clenching my jaw throughout the day (stress-related). When I was 19 I had to have jaw surgery because my jaw locked down and wouldn't open for 6 months. I'm trying to tell myself to get my shit together, because man, this is supposed to be my area of expertise.

I’ve been noticing this too. I’ve actually had some jaw issues for the last 2 months. I’ve gone to the chiro and gotten a mouth guard from the dentist for sleeping. Nothing is helping and I look like a fool trying to take a bit of anything because j can’t open my mouth all the way. Not sure where it came from but i really need to figure it out. And of course, now is not the time to be seeing any sort of doctor if I can help it. Any tips?

Unfortunately I'm very familiar with it. The condition is called temporomandibular joint disorder (you can just Google TMJ). Mouth guards never helped me but they are good treatment for it. Hot or cold compresses (you can order some on Amazon that are like velcro straps around your head--very attractive), antiinflammatories, OTC pain meds, soft/liquid foods diet can help. On the behavioral/psych side, progressive muscle relaxation techniques are helpful. YouTube has several relaxation exercises where they walk you through it.

It's so easy to tense up and not every realize it until later when you're having a physical response and pain from it. Doing mindfulness exercises to increase awareness can make a big difference and sometimes that alone can eliminate the pain, reduce swelling, and allow the jaw to relax and unlock. It's hard not being able to get care for these kinds of issues now, but this would be the course of tx a doctor would start with so doing these things and see if they're helpful can save you a visit.

[inthekitty]

A minor vent--so I'm sure you've all been bombarded with at least 487,642 emails/texts/alerts/etc regarding various aspects of COVID-19. It's been exhausting to keep up with. I get a load of messages from the kids' school as well as never-ending emails and texts from both of my jobs. A little over a week ago the kids' music teacher emailed and said they could share a video of them singing/playing an instrument on Flipgrid. This was like the 63rd educational/social resource that was new to me that I took time to figure out and the kids put some thought into what they wanted to do, rehearsed, and finally recorded it about a week ago. They keep asking to see if it's online now because they're little narcissists and love to see themselves. Over a week later the teacher still hasn't approved any new submissions. I realize we're all busy with a bunch of crap to do, but don't put stuff like that out there for kids if you're not going to follow through. It's a waste of my time which is precious at this point.

[kim22]

mwhip Happy birthday! 🎈

[chrisy01]

Poof

[lfig]

mwhip happy birthday!!!🎁🎂🎈

chrisy01 oh no! I hope you are in the clear!

[mwhip]

chrisy01 I'm so sorry this is how you will hear. That's awful

[lfig]

Thank god for Amazon! I ordered a few new toys for Sierra to help us get through the days! Today was a blow up water mat. Water on the inside middle. It’s intended for babies for tummy time...but my girl loves water so much I decided to try it. It was a great sensory activity for her and she was in heaven. In a day or two, I will break out then next new thing.