Family Friday

[cagoldi]

Feb 8, 2020 7:07:44 GMT -6 guster said:

wedding, I agree with the others. I too would’ve liked to have known about this when it first became a problem, and I am a little surprised the parents called about something like this.
Maybe you could encourage C to choose co-captains to work with. Maybe different ones each recess? He would still be in a leadership position, but many of the other students might feel that they also have a say in how the game is run.

This seems like a good approach.

C sounds as if he wants to feel empowered in the situation, so I agree with trying to empathize but would also tell him because he’s a leader, he needs to be a role model to the others and that means showing consideration and solving problems together.

That’s how we tend to talk to Dude to encourage good behavior and it works for him, generally.

[vino]

Feb 8, 2020 10:38:37 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Feb 8, 2020 7:07:44 GMT -6 guster said:

wedding, I agree with the others. I too would’ve liked to have known about this when it first became a problem, and I am a little surprised the parents called about something like this.
Maybe you could encourage C to choose co-captains to work with. Maybe different ones each recess? He would still be in a leadership position, but many of the other students might feel that they also have a say in how the game is run.

This seems like a good approach.

C sounds as if he wants to feel empowered in the situation, so I agree with trying to empathize but would also tell him because he’s a leader, he needs to be a role model to the others and that means showing consideration and solving problems together.

That’s how we tend to talk to Dude to encourage good behavior and it works for him, generally.

I really like the ‘role model’ angle of this. If one is going to be a leader then they need to be it in a respectful way and that’s on the teachers, TA’s and parents to work together to make it happen.

wedding It’s good that you’re getting perspectives from all angles because my B is almost the opposite of C where he only takes charge where it’s something he knows, and as a parent of him I want to know that the teachers and parents are aware of all perspectives to get to a common ground. The leaders need to lead respectfully and the others, like my B, have to step up and use their voice. I know that Julia will be much like C so I’m locking all of these tips and perspectives in my head for use in 3-4 years.

[trtlcrzy]

That’s frustrating they didn’t notify you of the issue sooner. I hope C starts cooperating and allows the teams to be fairly organized. wedding

Ouch cagoldi!

[wedding]

We spoke to C and he was very defensive and kept saying it’s also his bff and two of the first graders picking teams and never calls anyone names. In further discussion we got him to admit the team selection is so they can win. Which is what you want in say an NBA draft, but maybe not the best at recess. I told him if it’s the other kids doing it or doing it as well, he is the one being called out for it so his best bet is to keep his mouth shut about the teams and fairness. We also went over the baby thing and he denies that too but even if it’s not him saying it, I’m sure he laughs and is complicit by not trying to stop it. I *think* we got through. I didn’t feel right imposing delayed consequences but he is aware that one or all of three things will happen if this behavior continues: no soccer at recess, no extracurricular soccer program that starts in two weeks, and/or no skateboarding for a time period. The skateboarding really raised his brows so we will see.

Thanks again everyone. I’ll keep you posted if the saga continues.

[jewels]

wedding I’m late to this but I wanted to recommend this book What Should Danny Do School Day. it’s like a choose your own adventure but it shows the consequences of the wrong actions.
They literally have this exact scenario in it.

S loves to read the book and will often purposely choose the wrong choice to see what Happens.

I tried to link it but for some reason couldn’t. You can get it on amazon though

[cagoldi]

Feb 8, 2020 16:04:47 GMT -6 jewels said:

wedding I’m late to this but I wanted to recommend this book What Should Danny Do School Day. it’s like a choose your own adventure but it shows the consequences of the wrong actions.
They literally have this exact scenario in it.

S loves to read the book and will often purposely choose the wrong choice to see what Happens.

I tried to link it but for some reason couldn’t. You can get it on amazon though

Dude loves that book, too. Asks for it daily and it does seem helpful. I sold him on it by telling him it’s chrisy01 L’s favorite at first, but then he enjoyed the story once we started reading.

[wedding]

I just ordered it thanks!