Fabulous Friday

[tallb]

Greetings. Up early for K's 4 month appointment, she's great and 15lb. She said she just read a new study that babies need to drop the swaddle by 4 months regardless of rolling ability (and said k is very close anyways), so that will be fun. She also wants me to bring j in on Monday for a rash that is lingering. My mil hit the road, so I'm trying to work with both girls, hoping we get an early release bc of the holiday🤞

[tgrimes]

lfig I think it's okay to be both, in this situation.

[tgrimes]

I'm so sorry mamabear.

[jewels]

I'm sorry for your loss mamabear

[nam2013]

mamabear I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m not sure what I would do with ds or Dd. If at all possible I think I would go myself first. Maybe you already know, in general, but especially if you do go, avoid the word ‘sleep’. Children can get very frightened about sleep when used in situations like these.

[trtlcrzy]

I’m sorry for your loss mamabear. We have dealt with a lot of loss in my family over the last few years and I almost always bring the girls. I would set expectations before you go if you do bring him.

[lfig]

So sorry for your loss mamabear - big hugs to you and your family

[vino]

mamabear I'm sorry for your loss. As far as taking L, it would depend on the conversations you've had about death up to this point and his maturity around the subject. The viewing is generally a little more casual than the funeral as well.

[peachsmama]

I'm so sorry for your loss mamabear

[klong11]

mamabear, I am so sorry for you and your family's loss.

[cagoldi]

Pretty good, lfig!!! I’d be both, like tgrimes said. It’s kind of exciting watching X try to negotiate those kinds of tasks so I encourage him to do them over the kitchen mat and deal with the ensuing mess afterwards. 🤷‍♀️But soda is such a sticky PITA I wouldn’t mess with that.

Any idea what you’re going to do about the daycare/babysitter situation?

[cagoldi]

I’m sorry about your grandfather, mamabear. I would take L if you don’t think it would be too upsetting for him. Dude could handle it at this age, I think, but it’s highly child-dependent and there’s no right or wrong answer.

[peachsmama]

I did not take my boys to my grandma's funeral. M is like me in that when people are openly grieving- I pull back. He doesnt respond to other people's emotions well. It makes him uncomfortable. J is the opposite and will get emotional if those around him are. I didn't think it would be good for them. And ya'll know my family is bat shit crazy. I didn't know if drama would ensue and didn't want them to see it. My cousins brought their kids and they were loud and disruptive. It was funny though just as service was starting my cousins 3 year old ran out, cousin chased after her and she turned with her arms out and said "I have to get my baby!" Came back a minute later cradling her doll. My grandma would have loved it.

[vino]

Oh it's an open casket, ya that's a no from me. 

You can make a point to take him to the grave, if there is one.  I take B to my Dad's all the time; he asks to go, picks out the flowers, makes sure we have fresh water and scissors to cut the flowers when we are there etc.  

[lfig]

Jan 17, 2020 12:18:34 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Any idea what you’re going to do about the daycare/babysitter situation?

Zero clue...😬

Option 1 - See if MH can change his work schedule to go in super early so he can get off on time to get her and take her to therapy a few days a week. This would be tough though because he would have to go in at 6am to get off on time. And we aren’t supposed to adjust our schedules for personal benefit...if he can find a way to tie it to a need for the agency he can make it fly.

Option 2 - see if the babysitter that has been having Seizures could watch her at her house instead of mine. Where her mom (who works at the school and knows Sierra well) and her sisters (15 year old twins) would be there too.

Option 3 - Put out a plea on FB and ask for help. That’s how we found the last one - not my preferred method but it did turn out good last time.

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 17, 2020 12:40:39 GMT -6 mamabear said:

Thanks all. He was 92, a good long life. I dont think L would misbehave besides maybe getting a little whiny if bored, but I am concerned seeing the body could upset him. Good call @nam on the sleep verbiage, I was planning on saying his body is sleeping and spirit is in heaven, but "sleeping" might freak him out

I kept my kids far away from the caskets.

[jewels]

I'd look into option B lfig since you already know and trust her. That seems like a good plan. Maybe try Option 3 too just to have a backup.

[vino]

joelies Have you survived this week or are you frozen?

[trtlcrzy]

I am watching the first episode of spinning out. Why didn’t you guys warn me it was so emotional. I was not prepared.

[tgrimes]

Jan 17, 2020 14:09:34 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

I am watching the first episode of spinning out. Why didn’t you guys warn me it was so emotional. I was not prepared.

Very emotional.  But soooooo good.

[cagoldi]

vino how’s your mat and nay bag holding up? Mine is starting to get worn on the handles, but I’ve had it four years.

[lahdeedah]

Not sure if I posted in this thread yet today.

Hi!

Work was busy. M and I are home now. MH won’t be home before dinner, so we’ll probably get something on the way from picking up M2.

Also, my heater has not been working since last night. I think we messed it up when we turned the AC on the other night. It’s doing the same thing it did back in November. I haven’t called anyone yet because I’m hoping it magically will start working like the last two times it did this. Good thing the fireplace heats the house pretty good and we have temp control space heaters.

[cagoldi]

IDK why they don’t make this in my size, but it’s unacceptable. I want to match with Sparky.

[flamingo]

I'm sorry mamabear . Glad you were able to visit him one last time. I hope you are feeling better tomorrow.

I do think viewings are more casual (at least the ones I've attended) Maybe it's b/c my family is so spread out but viewings for us are usually a time when everyone is a bit less somber, catching up, etc. We took B to my grandmother's funeral and viewing when he was younger and he did fine. There was an open casket at the viewing, but TBH they kind of weird me out so he and I just avoided it. Maybe he would be more curious now, IDK. 

[vino]

Jan 17, 2020 16:03:53 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

vino how’s your mat and nay bag holding up? Mine is starting to get worn on the handles, but I’ve had it four years.

I actually didn’t end up going with the Matt and Nat, I was looking for a tote for work and couldn’t find one that I loved or in store for me to try on. BUT they just opened a store here in the mall and am in love with these, but I’m between the Leaf and Pebble colours.
mattandnat.com/en_ca/sam-crossbody-bag-pebble

[lahdeedah]

I’m sorry for your loss mamabear

[cagoldi]

Jan 17, 2020 16:44:30 GMT -6 vino said:

Jan 17, 2020 16:03:53 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

vino how’s your mat and nay bag holding up? Mine is starting to get worn on the handles, but I’ve had it four years.

I actually didn’t end up going with the Matt and Nat, I was looking for a tote for work and couldn’t find one that I loved or in store for me to try on. BUT they just opened a store here in the mall and am in love with these, but I’m between the Leaf and Pebble colours.
mattandnat.com/en_ca/sam-crossbody-bag-pebble

Cute!

I like both colors, but would probably do Pebble. It’s close enough to a blush that I think it would function like a neutral with most outfits.

[wedding]

I’m sorry for your loss mamabear. I would not take C to a viewing. He can be very sensitive but you don’t know it right away and find out months later how it scared him. We also aren’t religious so it gets even dicier with explaining what is happening.

[kim22]

mamabear I’m sorry for your loss. My kids have been to 4 wakes/funerals for 3 great-grandparents and a grandma but 3 were cremated and it was just an urn and the other was closed casket. I think it really depends on the kid.

[tgrimes]

wedding did you watch any more episodes of fleabag?