Tiring Tuesday

[tgrimes]

Jan 14, 2020 10:40:47 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Happy Tuesday!

Schoolwork is already kicking my giant ass, tennis elbow is bothering me again, and Pete called me last night to apologize for being a jerk on Sunday.

That’s all I have to report.

At least he apologized. Did he acknowledge the excessive phone usage?

[vino]

Morning all,

I was dead asleep before 10pm last night, I was so tired and needed a good sleep and feel so much better today. I'm at work and between work stuff I'm browsing twin size heated blankets, I think the kids would love it and I could use it to watch tv in the evening and take it to bed with me.

[cagoldi]

Jan 14, 2020 11:13:18 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Jan 14, 2020 10:40:47 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Happy Tuesday!

Schoolwork is already kicking my giant ass, tennis elbow is bothering me again, and Pete called me last night to apologize for being a jerk on Sunday.

That’s all I have to report.

At least he apologized. Did he acknowledge the excessive phone usage?

Nope. He said that could not be further from the truth. That’s why everyone who has ever been at the house and seen him in action has that observation? Okay.

And he’s not sorry for anything he said, just the way he said it.

[vino]

Jan 14, 2020 11:21:50 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Jan 14, 2020 11:13:18 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

At least he apologized. Did he acknowledge the excessive phone usage?

Nope. He said that could not be further from the truth. That’s why everyone who has ever been at the house and seen him in action has that observation? Okay.

And he’s not sorry for anything he said, just the way he said it.

Ugh.  Well then, great he wont have a problem leaving it in the car then.  I mean, if he thinks he isnt using it anyways then why have it physically with you?

[tgrimes]

Jan 14, 2020 11:21:50 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Jan 14, 2020 11:13:18 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

At least he apologized. Did he acknowledge the excessive phone usage?

Nope. He said that could not be further from the truth. That’s why everyone who has ever been at the house and seen him in action has that observation? Okay.

And he’s not sorry for anything he said, just the way he said it.

Oh. Okay.

Send him this.

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 14, 2020 11:21:50 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Jan 14, 2020 11:13:18 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

At least he apologized. Did he acknowledge the excessive phone usage?

Nope. He said that could not be further from the truth. That’s why everyone who has ever been at the house and seen him in action has that observation? Okay.

And he’s not sorry for anything he said, just the way he said it.

That is definitely not an apology. I would have a bowl by the door that he can put his phone and keys in when he gets there then. No need to have it if he’s “not on it” right?

[klong11]

Cadence slept through the night all by herself last night. Clearly threatening to take the tablet away was the key. I also told her if she does it 7 days in a row I'll take her out for ice cream. So a threat and a treat all wrapped in one. I'm just glad I got to sleep.

Kitty zoo update:
Dickens' paw appears to be an actual bone deformity. There is no "fix". He walks on that paw, just with a limp, he runs and plays just fine, so the dr. said for us to just leave it for now. If it becomes an issue, like he starts dragging it or he develops sores or anything on it later in life, then we would look into amputation at that point, but for now, he's good just as he is.

Cobalt, poor guy. He is absolutely miserable. He looks like a cat with mouth only HFM. He has a blister just below his nose that is making him not want to eat. It smells and thus, he tries to smell anything and can only smell that. Apparently these ulcers, from everything I've read, are pretty damn painful. The only meds they gave us were these pills I mix with water and then syringe down his throat to coat his mouth and throat so that he will eat. He won't eat. I was able to get him to drink some broth yesterday evening. The vet called this morning to check on him and I said he is miserable. I also asked if this was contagious to the other cats and if there was some sort of pain medicine he should be getting. She was going to check with the vet and call me back.

So now I'm at work doing nothing. I may watch the newest episode of the Good Doctor if I get a chance.

[vino]

Poor kitty klong11, i googled yesterday after you had posted and it sounds so, so painful for him. I hope that he is able to get some pain meds, I know that gabapenten (sp?) is a good all over pain killer for cats. maybe try the syringe with water every 30 min or so when you're home, I wouldnt worry about him eating now. I've done the water syringe with my two before and they hate it, but it's a necessity. Check that the broth isnt a high salt in case it makes him more thirsty but it hurts to drink for him. Hopefully he feels better soon

[klong11]

Jan 14, 2020 12:10:06 GMT -6 vino said:

Poor kitty klong11 , i googled yesterday after you had posted and it sounds so, so painful for him. I hope that he is able to get some pain meds, I know that gabapenten (sp?) is a good all over pain killer for cats. maybe try the syringe with water every 30 min or so when you're home, I wouldnt worry about him eating now. I've done the water syringe with my two before and they hate it, but it's a necessity. Check that the broth isnt a high salt in case it makes him more thirsty but it hurts to drink for him. Hopefully he feels better soon

It was cat food broth, but I'll check the sodium content. I even tried kitten milk substitute. He put his paw in it and licked it off, like he wanted to drink from the bowl, but couldn't. It makes me sad watching him. I hate when they're sick.

[vino]

Breaks my heart klong11, you're a good cat Mom.

[vino]

lahdeedah Did you listen to the message? Come here and let's discuss...

[flamingo]

I *loved* volunteering in the classroom, it seriously made my week. The teachers were just wonderful with the kids and I loved seeing the routines and how they start their day. I've met some of them through birthday parties but it was fun putting names with faces of others. And B gave me the biggest hug when it was his turn to read, I think he liked having me there. (It may not always be that way so I will soak it up while I can )

[nam2013]

klong11 I’m sorry about the cats.

tgrimes I’m sorry about the vomit, anecdotal but dd’s reflux would react strongly to tomatoes.

[flamingo]

Jan 14, 2020 11:32:57 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Jan 14, 2020 11:21:50 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Nope. He said that could not be further from the truth. That’s why everyone who has ever been at the house and seen him in action has that observation? Okay.

And he’s not sorry for anything he said, just the way he said it.

Oh. Okay.

Send him this.

I like it. And there’s always dick glitter...

[inthekitty]

Hi ladies. I was working for my other job last week and through the weekend. I had to work over the mountain and brave the snowy pass. It went well overall and now I'm back to my regularly scheduled programming.

Sorry Pete continues to be a dick cagoldi.

Hope the kiddos feel better soon tgrimes and mwhip. For us mwhip we use suckers, otter pops, honey tea, sucking on ice chips, Chloroseptic (sp) spray.

klong11 aw, poor kitties.

[inthekitty]

Cass has been saying "Simple, easy, awesome" occasionally and it's been cracking me up. I finally heard it on a commercial last night and realized where she got it from.

We finished watching Pollyanna last night and I was really happy the girls liked it. It was one of my favorites as a child.

I'm currently watching Season 2 of You. Penn Badgley does crazy well. Also watching Barry--I really enjoy it. We're thinking of getting rid of HBO (I'd be fine getting rid of cable but that's my husband's hang up) so I'm trying to binge it.

[tgrimes]

Jan 14, 2020 13:16:35 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Cass has been saying "Simple, easy, awesome" occasionally and it's been cracking me up. I finally heard it on a commercial last night and realized where she got it from.

We finished watching Pollyanna last night and I was really happy the girls liked it. It was one of my favorites as a child.

I'm currently watching Season 2 of You. Penn Badgley does crazy well. Also watching Barry--I really enjoy it. We're thinking of getting rid of HBO (I'd be fine getting rid of cable but that's my husband's hang up) so I'm trying to binge it.

I loved Pollyanna!

[wineallthetime]

My favorite part of this thread is that flamingo used the word dick!

[inthekitty]

Family drama

Months ago I told my mom I was thinking of going to Disney again in the spring and asked if she wanted to go along (she always has). She said yes and I've been researching travel deals off and on since then. I wanted to set the dates and book the hotel so I contacted her about that and suggested the first week of May instead of the second which we had previously discussed. Initially she said that week is much better for her. Great. So I got a quote and called to confirm with her before booking and she said she already gave notice at work for the second week and can't change it. This was super weird, she's never given notice without finalizing dates with me before. Then she mentions my brother is going that week and wants to see if I can get him tickets and book a room for him (um no, he's a grown-ass man and can do it himself, not to mention I covered his tickets and lodging when we went to WDW last year and about 3 days into the trip he was a total dick).

I told her I'd think about other dates and got back to her this morning. I decided not to vacation when she and my brother do because 1) the dates were not as good for my family and 2) I was willing to let bygones be bygones with my brother but since he never contacted me about scheduling the trip it seemed obvious he didn't want to go at the same time as me (but apparently wanted me to get him discount tickets ). I know my mom and was prepared for a response of her being very upset and trying to go to lengths to work something out so we'd be there the same time. Instead her response was "okay" without another word. So while I should be relieved, instead I feel super weird about it and honestly kind of hurt. She treats my brother like he's still 12 yo so even though he was completely out of line on the last trip, I think in her mind poor baby brother was bullied by me and she's cool vacationing with just her baby. So I'm trying to let it go but it still stings now.

We're considering going to Disney at another time, another trip altogether, or waiting to plan a vacation at another date.

[flamingo]

Jan 14, 2020 13:32:10 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

My favorite part of this thread is that flamingo used the word dick!

Lol. I almost put an asterisk in, it took everything I had to type it out.

[wineallthetime]

I caught up on the Bachelor and then watched the movie Instant Family while getting things done. Not too bad!

[wineallthetime]

That sucks, inthekitty!

[flamingo]

That’s a shame inthekitty , I’m sorry. I can understand why you’re irritated and a bit hurt. I’ve seen it in our own extended family and in life, but it seems so often parents consciously or subconsciously go to lengths to protect/enable/include the ‘weak link’, at the risk of hurting the more self-sufficient/Independent child.

wineallthetime We enjoyed Instant Family, too! I thought Rose Byrne and Jason Bateman played really well opposite one another. 

[inthekitty]

Jan 14, 2020 13:43:48 GMT -6 flamingo said:

That’s a shame inthekitty , I’m sorry. I can understand why you’re irritated and a bit hurt. I’ve seen it in our own extended family and in life, but it seems so often parents consciously or subconsciously go to lengths to protect/enable/include the ‘weak link’, at the risk of hurting the more self-sufficient/Independent child.

Yes. It's exactly this. One of my girlfriends has a similar dynamic with her mom and her little sister. It's very frustrating and it really hurt my feelings when my brother was such a dick to me on the last trip and no one called him out on it and defended me and it's bringing up those feelings again. 

[inthekitty]

I also enjoyed Instant Family. I watched it on a plane once and now it's On Demand. I think the girls would like it.

[vino]

inthekitty for a while there in your post i could swear that you were talking about my brother and Mom, it's improved somewhat over the years but still so, so awful. I'm sorry you're going through that.

And I agree with flamingo that it's babying the weakest link, I called my parents out on it when I was about 22 and actually packed my shit and left for a week, it was a huge turning point in our relationship. It's extremely frustrating and am so mindful with raising my kids.

[lahdeedah]

Jan 14, 2020 12:29:09 GMT -6 vino said:

lahdeedah Did you listen to the message? Come here and let's discuss...

Yes. It was someone from HR basically offering me the position. I told her I need to speak with the manager again to clear up a few things about hours and days and I’ll get back with her. So I have to make that phone call.

I really would love just one or two more guaranteed days per week at my current job. I spoke with the lead tech at my current job about this new opportunity and I get the feeling he wants to offer me more. There really isn’t a need for an extra unless someone is off. We have a part-time tech that is 74(!!-yep) that they are waiting to retire, but we really have no clue to when. I know if she does, they will offer that to me in a heartbeat. I don’t want to take this other job just to be there a few months then peace out, but I could honestly use the extra pay for the house projects I want done.

I’m really lost on what to do. I thought I wanted this, but now I’m not so sure. I also hate to have tell him, thanks, but no thanks.

[lahdeedah]

Jan 14, 2020 13:03:26 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Jan 14, 2020 11:32:57 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Oh. Okay.

Send him this.

I like it. And there’s always dick glitter...

😂 To both of these

[vino]

lahdeedah So it's a completely different company than yours, and they want to offer you full time but you want 4 days a week? What are the other benefits of the offer place? flexible work hours? Company culture? do you know anyone that works there that you could chat with?

Also, I know that you are going to call this guy and chat but I would suggest an email follow up, so that whatever he says on the phone call would be in writing as well.

[lahdeedah]

Jan 14, 2020 13:47:17 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Jan 14, 2020 13:43:48 GMT -6 flamingo said:

That’s a shame inthekitty , I’m sorry. I can understand why you’re irritated and a bit hurt. I’ve seen it in our own extended family and in life, but it seems so often parents consciously or subconsciously go to lengths to protect/enable/include the ‘weak link’, at the risk of hurting the more self-sufficient/Independent child.

Yes. It's exactly this. One of my girlfriends has a similar dynamic with her mom and her little sister. It's very frustrating and it really hurt my feelings when my brother was such a dick to me on the last trip and no one called him out on it and defended me and it's bringing up those feelings again. 

I’m sorry. This can be so hard to deal with. Does she always try to include him if she vacations with you?